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Mita

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Mita    2

Mita
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As you all know My Husband and I are going to be divorced soon.

Anyway I never put 2 and 2 together - He has his vehicle for sale and I assumed he was just going to by another one. I have the Chevy Truck and a car in my position. Anyway I just got off the phone with his lawyer and he mentioned to me giving my husband the truck - Hello my car is broken and untill it is repaired I am not giving him the truck. I guess when he said he did not put his car down the lawyer assumed he has no vehicle and therefore was going to order me to give him transportation. Anyway he also told the lawyer that he only makes 10.00 dollars an hour when he makes upwards of 13.00 so there for could not afford maintance and only child support.

Anyway talking with the lawyer we do agree on custody and the house.

I cannot wait for this to be over so I can move on...

I would assume he thinks he is being smart but he is digging himself into a hole.

Sorry just had to vent:faint:

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StrawartS    2

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Bubbame, I'm sorry you're going through this. Please tell me you have your own lawyer! My dad tried to get out of child support too, but my mom's lawyer stuck it to him. He actually showed up in court, representing himself, and said that he would rather go to jail than pay child support! Ok, sorry to vent on your thread, but I hope you have a lawyer!

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Mita    2

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Since we are speaking terms and are acting like friends rather than Foe's I thought everything was on the up and up. I know his Lawyer and told him what was going on. He said he would talk to my husband and hear it from him.

Anyway I decided against using a Lawyer and he did too till his F%$%^^$% family coxed him in to it again. Sorry they just piss me off.

Anyway just going to wait and see where this is going.

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Wheetsin    714

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Is it possible he has to sell is car to make it, financially? $13/hour is not a lot... is he still making the house payment, etc.? Sorry, don't know anything about your situation.

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Mita    2

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Thanks everyone. He has been giving me his check every friday - but the thought of him trying to sell his vehicle to get his hands on the truck is beyond me. I always complained that the truck was a gas hog and the insurance was way to much. Well he can have the almost 300 dollar payment along with full coverage the bank wants on it.

Yes Kelly I feel I being to nice to him but considering that when he is not influenced by his peeps he is pretty easy going. I have prayed and prayed about it and I do not want it to be like War of the Roses.. Bow Wow

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TrishS    3

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Sounds like a lot of work... I hope that everything works out for you. I think you will be the one that is blessed because you are being so nice! Take Care and you will be in my prayers

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It's pretty difficult to have a friendly divorce... unfortunate but true. Hopefully you will both get through this with a little fighting as possible but stick up for yourself and what is fair. My divorce was fairly peaceful but that was mostly due to the fact that I was scared of my ex and agreed to anything that he suggested.

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Mita    2

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Well it's almost noon here and I have not heard anything back from the Lawyer in regards to if he agreed to just do it Cut and Dry. Anyway I will keep filling out the paper work I have and just bide my time. Thank You all for your prayers and thoughts. It was hard yesterday for my 8yr old. He just broke down emotionally and cried. I did everything I could to console him but he is just upset that he daddy though he has changed in how he talks to him is treating us very nicely so why can he not come home? I tried to explain that sometimes it just takes more work than being nice to someone to prove there is a change. I do not talk bad about my STBX and am for him being with his childeren but I cannot change the facts.

It breaks my heart to have to see him so sad:(

I take him to the Dr today - Might be strep again? I will follow up with him on my concern with my son, he just might need to talk to someone other than me.

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mrycrltn    2

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Best of luck to you. Been there and done that. And don't want to go through it again. Hang in there. It does get better.

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