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My husband and I have been married almost 30 years..During those years I never looked at other guys and believe me at 285 pounds they never noticed me either but luckily our sex life has always been amazong.....until now...our sex is better than ever but I cant quit flirting back when guys give me attention...last weekend I al

ost got into a lot of trouble but I stopped it..im scared one day it may go to far...could losing all this weight (115 pds)..be a curse? My best friend said it was typical hormone shift in lap band and that I should get counseling...please tell me I'm not the only one feeling this way..by the way I love my hisband. We have been soul mates since 8th grade and I'm now 47.

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When you lose a lot of weight your hormones do get out crazy. I don't think you are alone. I have not been through this but I'm sure others have. I don't think couseling would be a bad idea maybe getting it all out and processing your feeling with a counselor might help. What does your husband think about all this?

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He doesnt know..I'm afraid of how he will react..i dont want him to be constantly worrying about every man I talk to..I'm hoping this will just pass.

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I have been where your husband is. My husband of 30+ years lost weight and started dressing better and really taking care of himself. Lots of excuses to go to work on his day off, golf or running to the store. I was my same stupid fat little self believing we were soul mates and he would never cheat. Was I wrong!!!!!!!!! I have never felt so degraded or heart sick. He was having an affair with a coworker and was making plans to move in with her. Unknowingly I had ordered gifts for her (taking up money to buy a gift for one of the nurses at work-pick her up a pair of earrings-LOL). It nearly killed me. It has taken 3 years for me to get to the point of being able to take care of myself again. If you love your hsband then think of what you are doing. If you enjoy the attention of other men then show your husband the respect and end your marriage. My husband's excuse was "oh the wellbutrin made me do it" and the doctor backed him up. Hormones or not, medications or not -cheating emotional or physical is wrong! I'm sorry if you think I am being rude-but I lived it and wish it on no one.

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