Anyone afraid of Failing??

[Kate rules 43]

I'm terrified of failing.

[54Shirley 105]

I'm terrified of failing.

Why? Your doing it. Just keep doing what you do, and it will work.

[vickyd 24]

It's normal to be scared of failing because we wouldn't need surgery if we hadn't failed multiple times in the past. The best thing I did was see a therapist before getting banded. He helped me understand why I had been overeating and helped me come up with strategies to deal with some of my issues. By the time I had surgery, I think I really had my head on straight for the first time in years and I was totally committed to doing whatever it takes to make this work. To date, I've lost almost 92 lbs in a little over 7 months so I definitely feel like a success!

[TracyW2 137]

I'm petrified of failing and gaining the weight back. I know somone on here had a quote that has stuck with me: food doesnt taste as good as skinny feels. And it is soooo true!!

[brbm6 6]

I am scared of failing but I am more afraid of dying from obesity problems. Before I have been an all or nothing dieter. This time I am practicing moderation. Maybe that in itself will cause successs. Just because I have one bad day does not mean I can not start fresh the next morning.

[A.C.E of Hearts 0]

Dear Afraid to Fail group,

I guess that's what keeps me from committing to this procedure. I have researched WLS for 9 years now. I have two relatives and three co workers that have had WLS. I have been to probally 5 or 6 seminars. In the beginning my insurance covered it then did not for several years. So I thought the cost was just out of my reach. A year ago my insurance company started covering it again. And another co worker/friend took the step to get the Lap Band. I was so excited for her and jealous. So once again I went to another seminar. But this time book an appointment! Contacted my insurance. Did the 6 month required diet and joined an exercise club. Then my "recent Lap band friend " contacted me... trying to talk me out of THE BAND. Then a co worker that had Gastic by pass tried to convience me to do the Gastic by pass procedure because many people are not satisfied with the Lap band.

I was about to have my last supevised diet visit and my Mother dies in a car accident. Now my head is spinning. Is this another sign I am not supose to do this surgery? I had to take the money I saved to pay for her funeral etc.. She did not have insurance.

So I ask the WLS staff to give me sometime to straighten things out. Then a friend of mine just 4 years older drops with a heart attack. I think now I MUST DO THIS SURGERY. That will be me...

Now I would have to borrow the money to pay what my insurance doesn't cover. But I am afraid to commit! To take the step..AFRAID to FAIL.. And Afraid not to try. A group at my work had found a diet center that gives him pills. They are dropping 15 lbs a month and say they have lots of energy. I am jealous of their weightloss. One reason I wanted the band was to help me keep the weight off. But that's not a guarentee is it?

I AM AFRAID TO FAIL ... I didn't know that until I read this posting topic. *** But if something doesn't change they can print that on my headstone "She was afraid to fail".

Sincerely,

Ace Of Hearts

[sassyfrass 24]

I haven't been banded yet, but failing is a fear of mine also because that's what I have done over and over again my whole life. I just hope that this band (when I finally get it) will help me to REALLY do it right and have a whole new way of thinking. That along with many prayers for the Lord to help me with my food choices.

[54Shirley 105]

I hear that one Larry,,, My husband is the same way. It's got to get done though. So,,, if you can get credit for burning ca;ories threw that... I'll take it.

Shirley.

[sxvidrin 0]

I know how you feel! I had my band done in 2006, lost 60 lbs right out of the gate, then I got lazy! Had my saline removed b/c I couldn't eat my Wendy hamburgers I craved! How stupid! Like I paid for mine out of pocket $14,000! Let me tell you that I'm not rich and don't have $14K just hanging around! But, I'm back on track starting from scratch and am doing my post op diet before I try and go back and get a fill. Just hope I haven't stretched my band and it will still work! Wish me luck! And good luck to you also!

I want this so badly, I start my pre op diet tomorrow and am scheduled for Surgery August 5, I'm just so afraid of failing at it, I don't want to be one of those people! I'm self pay and it's costing $16,000, I've just failed at so many other diets. I'm really excited it's just my nerves as well, thanks for listening to my rant!!

[54Shirley 105]

I know how you feel! I had my band done in 2006, lost 60 lbs right out of the gate, then I got lazy! Had my saline removed b/c I couldn't eat my Wendy hamburgers I craved! How stupid! Like I paid for mine out of pocket $14,000! Let me tell you that I'm not rich and don't have $14K just hanging around! But, I'm back on track starting from scratch and am doing my post op diet before I try and go back and get a fill. Just hope I haven't stretched my band and it will still work! Wish me luck! And good luck to you also!

I was banded 10/32006. My surgeon thought he blew this 4cc band with a fill. I couldn't swallow spit by the time I got home, and he never checked me with Water. So I went back, and he deflated my band. I have tried to get back in to see him, but he wouldn't have anything to do with me, and denied that anything was wrong.

Well we moved up in Northern, Michigan, and I found a surgeon to take care of this. Revision surgery I thought.

I went under fluoroscopy, and was told this band was in excellent shape, so she filled me to my fill line, and I have been chugging along for about 6 months now. I never had to do another pre op diet again. They just inflated the balloon again, and told me liquids for a couple of days, then mushies, then try food. It worked ! So I am glad to be back on track I missed it...

I had a very hard time NOT getting stuck when it was empty. Seems like everything got stuck for me. Now it's a lot easier.

So when were you banded ? It feels good to talk to someone that was banded back then...

Shirley. /sstasevich back then.