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HI everyone!

I will be having my surgery 2 weeks from today. I am 21 years old and am super excited to finally conquer my weight to be healthy starting at a young age! However, I am finding myself being extremely emotional. I am an emotional girl anyway, but everytime I talk to someone about what is going on I end up crying. It isn't "sad" tears, but a mixture of excitement and also worry. I was wondering if anyone else is emotional about it or if I am the only one?

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HI everyone!

I will be having my surgery 2 weeks from today. I am 21 years old and am super excited to finally conquer my weight to be healthy starting at a young age! However, I am finding myself being extremely emotional. I am an emotional girl anyway, but everytime I talk to someone about what is going on I end up crying. It isn't "sad" tears, but a mixture of excitement and also worry. I was wondering if anyone else is emotional about it or if I am the only one?

With the exception of my husband and my mother (who will have to help me afterward) I haven't told anyone about my decision to have it done. I don't want to hear what other people think. This is for ME. And I don't want to be scrutinized and watched and questioned the whole way through. So I don't have any experience with interacting with other people, regarding LB, but I DO know exactly what you mean about it being super emotional.

When my doctor first suggested it, I went home that day with a handful of pamphlets and I cried the whole way. It was a mix of disappointment in myself, excitement at the possibility of change, and hope. Just pure hope. Hope can be a very powerful thing.

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Lightupthesky, Your story is very typical. Please do not allow it to disturb you. So many emotions, I know too what that is like. It is a little fear of the unknown, the "what if it does not work for me", the "this is surgery after all" and mostly, "This is my only or last hope". I sat in my seminar hearing the ends and outs and I cried like a baby while in the seminar, on the way to the car and in the parking lot. When I thought all hope was lost, then there was Lap Band and I knew because of my poor health it was my last hope. Let the emotions come as they will. Do not fight it honey, let it rip. It is real, it is raw and it expresses the feelings we can't. Let it go. I want to give you a big ole hug right now.

As far as not telling anyone, you are right this is your journey. You decide who and when you will tell. A friend I met from another sight never told her children and she has no regret. I told co-workers and man do i ever wish I could take it back. I was amazed at some of the down right ugly comments. I must say they were from women. What a shame that we can not be more encouraging. PLEASE PLEASE post and add me as a friend if you want to talk more. And congrats on the best decision you can make for your health! We are here and we care about your journey.

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Lightupthesky, Your story is very typical. Please do not allow it to disturb you. So many emotions, I know too what that is like. It is a little fear of the unknown, the "what if it does not work for me", the "this is surgery after all" and mostly, "This is my only or last hope". I sat in my seminar hearing the ends and outs and I cried like a baby while in the seminar, on the way to the car and in the parking lot. When I thought all hope was lost, then there was Lap Band and I knew because of my poor health it was my last hope. Let the emotions come as they will. Do not fight it honey, let it rip. It is real, it is raw and it expresses the feelings we can't. Let it go. I want to give you a big ole hug right now.

As far as not telling anyone, you are right this is your journey. You decide who and when you will tell. A friend I met from another sight never told her children and she has no regret. I told co-workers and man do i ever wish I could take it back. I was amazed at some of the down right ugly comments. I must say they were from women. What a shame that we can not be more encouraging. PLEASE PLEASE post and add me as a friend if you want to talk more. And congrats on the best decision you can make for your health! We are here and we care about your journey.

Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. It is great to know that I am not alone and I have so many people as my support sysyem right now. Not only do I have my family and very close family friends, but also people like you. Thank you!

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