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hi all.

i didn't know where to turn so i came here.

We found out less than 10 hours ago that my husbands SA came back with a zero sperm count...zero how can it be zero?! i am a mess. they called my phone while i was at work and i had to leave early for i could not function. i cried for three hours before my husband got home...i didn't know how i was ever going to tell him.He was diagnosed with low testosterone about four years ago and has been doing hormone replacement therapy this whole time. We have been through a lot the last three years with him also having an 'unknown' illness and we got that taken care of about six months ago and decided it was time to ttc. Now i don't know if that will even happen.

he wants a child of his own so badly. i am afraid that this is going to send him into a depression.

two yeasr ago i found out i had pcos and was told that i needed to lose a lot of weight. So i had the lapband and have lost about 80 lbs and have my pcos under control. its like now i dont know what to do..my life has been consumed and focused on having a baby...

i cant stop crying. we go see our obgyn on friday to get a referral and she wants to go over our counts in person. i am not functioning very well right now and feel so overwhelmed and sad.:(

thanks for listening...

trish

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Wow sweetie you have been through alot. It sounds like there is still more ahead of you. I hope you get good new of some sort soon. Stay strong.

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I am so sorry you and your husband are going through this Trish. Stay strong and hope there's some good news in store for the two of you. *hugs*

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I am so sorry to hear your are having such a hard time. In times like these, all I can ever do is remind myself that its meant to be this way right now. In the end it will all work out just stay positive and be the best wife you can be for your hubby.. he's going to need your strength.. your a team.. stay focused, keep fighting!! sometime miracles happen and also dr' can be wrong..some don't take the time.. just do all your research and I wish you the best of luck. :)

"everything happens for a reason"

-Delia

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I know I can't say anything to make you feel better but I just wanted to say I'm sending all good thoughts to you and your husband. I can't imagine how difficult the news must be to hear, on top of the struggles during the last few years. Go to your obgyn and talk about your options. In the meantime, just focus on taking care of yourself so you can be there to support your husband. The wonderful thing about a marriage is that you have each other to share the burdens that life piles on us. Thinking of you!!

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Trish you are in my prayers....my heart goes out to you...I am having the lap band on Monday...I was told that I was to heavy to conceive so I am praying losing weight will help me...just wanted you to know that your story has helped me..I am going to my husband about getting his sperm count checked...thank you for sharing and God bless you!

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