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Nervous about telling friends/family that I want surgery

JaymFran

By JaymFran, in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums

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Cocoabean    430

Cocoabean
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I have another question. How do you enter one of these sweet trackers? I would like to track my success with my journey. Please tell me how to go about it. Thanks everyone!!

Ticker tutorial:

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f17/ticker-tutorial-pictures-41782/

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YUMMYTUMMY    0

YUMMYTUMMY
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I understand what you are saying. I got banded Aug 16th and did not tell a single soul and STILL haven't. I just didn't want to tell anybody, simple as that. I guess I'm a little stubborn and independant that way, I always have been. I come from a large family - 5 brothers - no sisters, and we are all pretty close. I live in a different city than my family so it was a little easier to hide, lol.

I took a cab to the hospital, and took a cab home 6 hours later. Stocked up on everything i needed ahead of time, and never looked back since and have been 100% fine. I really wanted to tell my best friend, but I kinda like the fact that i have my little secret that belongs to ME...it's MY body after all. I am proud of myself...the first time in a while.

Everybody is different, and so is their journey. But I just wanted to give you an example of somebody who did this all on their own and is absolutely fine. I am down 45lbs so far and couldn't be happier. When I have a problem, a question, or need to vent...I come here! There are so many wonderful ppl on here that have "been there, done that" and aren't afraid to answer embarrising questions, or can give you some awesome words of encouragement. Thank you to everyone that has helped me so far!!! :thumbup:

Good Luck on whatever you decide to do, and I look forward to seeing you on here!

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debidecor    0

debidecor
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THANKS FOR YOUR REPLY. I TOTALLY GET WHAT YOU MEAN. BESIDES THERE ARE TOO MANY PEOPLE WHO SWEAR THEIR DEVOTED LOVE, BUT WHO WOULD BE THE FIRST TO SABATOGE YOU THE FIRST DAY YOU FELL OFF THE PROVERBIAL food WAGON.

DO YOU KNOW HOW TO GET ONE OF THOSE TRACKERS. I WOULD LIKE TO SEE ONE ON MY PAGE?:thumbup:

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Cocoabean    430

Cocoabean
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DO YOU KNOW HOW TO GET ONE OF THOSE TRACKERS. I WOULD LIKE TO SEE ONE ON MY PAGE?:thumbup:

See the link on my post just previous to yummytummy's. Ticker Tutorial is the tracker information. :smile2:

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CalicoskiesNC    2

CalicoskiesNC
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I've told everyone near and dear to me. I want their support. I am proud of making this difficult decision to better my health.

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A.C.E of Hearts    0

A.C.E of Hearts
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It's nice to know everyone feels the same way on this subject. I haven't had surgery yet. Waiting for insurance approval. But I feel very private about this decision too. I asked my husband not to tell his family. None of them have ever had weight issues. And my in laws would be frightened by the procedure. And as far as my co workers... I don't want to be watched like a science experiment. "What is she eating... how much weight has she lost... All she had to do is go to the gym and exercise!" I , like many of you - I am looking for a better life. Help out of my obesity state; this jail sentence. That NO ONE can understand unless you have been there. I just found this site and look forward to your support as I take this journey.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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