Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Surgery Tomorrow...Scared



Recommended Posts

Hi Everyone!<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p>

I'm writing for the first time so bear with me. I feel like I know some of you because I've been following this web site for some time now. <o:p></o:p>

<o:p></o:p>

I'm going under the knife first thing tomorrow morning. I'm scared. I'm scared because I have a wonderful husband and new baby boy and they mean everything in the whole world to me.....and if anything were to happen to me....well you know. <o:p></o:p>

<o:p></o:p>

Can I ask for your prayers? I need all of you pre- and post-op's to ask God to let me slide in and out of the surgery without problems. I'll return the favor and keep all you bandsters in my prayers. <o:p></o:p>

<o:p></o:p>

Its before noon now.....so I have about 20 hours to go. Any tips? Anything you want to suggest I do between now and when I leave my house in the morning for the hospital? Maybe I just need some minor encouragement and some pats on the back...<o:p></o:p>

<o:p></o:p>

Anyway.....I'm glad you guys are out there...just a click away....thinking the same thoughts about big buts, flabby arms...jelly bellies....I'm glad not to be alone in this.<o:p></o:p>

<o:p></o:p>

Talk to you soon!<o:p></o:p>

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Like any surgery, it's scary. I got banded 3 weeks ago and am amazed how quickly I've recovered. The first couple of days can be rough (some pain, drowsy, generally feel like crap) but get through those and you're smooth sailing. Let the hubby be there for you and help you through it.

It's the best investment you can make for your hubby, your little boy and YOU. Having you around for the long haul is more important than anything and you're doing something that will help that happen. Best of luck to you and know that you're not alone.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I know exactly how you feel, all I kept thinking about was my daughter and how could I leave her behind if something happened to me, that was my worst fear. What kept me sane was that I knew my doctor did a gazillion of these surgeries and I kept praying to Jesus for strength. I want to be healthy for my family because they deserve it as much as I do. I remember lying on the table right before I got that wonderful cocktail and looking up at the lights and saying "Jesus, I'm in Your hands, Bring me home to my family." He did :)

Your gonna do wonderful, just keep the Faith :)

Hugs and good luck to you.

Eileen

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I just had my surgery on Monday and I was scared like you, especially the night before. I work graveyard, so work was my distraction. I was pretty tearing in the pre-surgery room giving hubby and my boys kisses and hugs. Once the process started of changing, getting IV in, etc., things started to move quickly.

I have my wonderful husband, two small boys and a grown daughter - all I feared leaving if something went wrong.

I sailed through the surgery without any problems! I remember going into the surgery room and feeling like I was being worked on by a pit crew - all of them working in perfect precision, with pleasant and comforting attitudes. Next thing I knew they were waking me up to do a swallow test - very yucky tasting! My surgery took under 1-1/2 hours. Yes, I am uncomfortable now and goofy from the pain meds, but not regretting it one bit.

You will do great. Take your sweet baby for a walk to help get your mind off of things. Best wishes and many prayers for you to have a smooth and speedy surgery and recovery!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Nerves are normal.

If your faith is strong, then you probably believe that if your surgery day is your time to go home with the Lord - then there you will go.

Put your mind on a good recovery. I went to Mexico and made it with only 1 good freak out moment :-) (when the non-English speaking student nurse couldn't find a vein....)

Good luck.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

With any surgery it can be scarey.. But this surgery is great and fast. You are going to do good. Just keep your faith. This is going to be the best thing you do for yourself and your family. You will be around for a long time and be more healthy. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Let us know when you are back and how your doing.

Take Care

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

It is normal to feel this way. I have three year old twins and I myself ws asking the same questions that you are today. Nothing can take away the fear of having the surgery. We all sat there and did the what if game. I was banded aug 22, 2205. I have lost 70 pounds since then. Now I sit there and do the what if I had not gone through with the surgery questions. I would re-do the entire process in a heartbeat if I had to. Just think of the wonderful times that you have ahead of you as a "skinny mom" with your baby. Good Luck to you and please let us know how it went. Tommorow you will be home with your family thinking this was a breeze. :>

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I had urgery yesterday morning. I think the most fear I had was when they put in the IV. It was like that moment you are on a roller coaster and it's about to take off. You think, "Do I really want to do this?" Then they wheeled me away and I remember bitching about the music in the operating room and then I was awake in post op. Weird huh?

I won't lie, there is pain. It may not be as bad as you think it will be. Just think about what comes next. An active life awaits you in the future and I can't wait for that myself! Good luck.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      Four days post surgery. I am sipping as fast as I can and getting NO WHERE near the goal of 60 - 80 grams of protein or the 64 oz of liquids. I just feel FULL. I don't know if it can still be the gas build up (I would think by now that would be gone) but it is a struggle to drink. And so far I have not had the nausea or spasms and don't want to wander into that territory by pushing too hard with liquids. I about passed out today as it was my most "strenuous" day. Went from second story to basement for shower and I was sure I was going to pass out. Looking back on my last few days I have had a total of less than 1000 calories. Am I just not getting enough nourishment in me? Once again a friday where I can't get ahold of the doc until Monday rolls back around so I am hoping maybe someone here has some experience on how to keep energy going. I do have fibromyalgia too and that may be where some added fatigue comes into play. How did you all fair with the goals the week after surgery?
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 1 reply
      1. Phil Penn

        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×