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Paron me while I whine.

I'm at my 1 year anniversary since starting my supervised pre-op diet, and have dropped around 70lbs total (30 pre-surgery/40 post-surgery). However, I haven't lost anything since the first of the year, and have actually put on 8lbs since then.

It's entirely my fault too. After the holidays I got into a bit of a funk, and between that and the horrible weather, didn't get enough excersize in, and began eating badly. I'm still in the funk, and can't seem to get myself out of this cycle.

Next week I have a doctors appointment, and get to explain why i've put on weight. I feel like I went through a lot to get this surgery, and did so well for the first 4 months, but since then have completely lost the will, and motivation to continue with it.

The worst part is that I KNOW what needs to be done, and have the tools to do it. Unfortunately, I also know that it's so much easier to just eat a pint of Ben & Jerry's and sleep for 14 hours.

Bleh.

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Maybe you should see a therapist. I started seeing one about 6 months before surgery and I think it has been my biggest tool for success....and another fill might help....keep us updated

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You're certainly not the first one to have this happen to, so don't beat yourself up or feel ashamed to see the Dr. I would definately talk to a therapist and maybe get on a anti-depressant for a while...sometimes it's needed and can get you outta the funk you're in. Look for a support group in your area...even if you have to drag yourself there you will be surprised how much it can help. You're right..you have the tools and you can make it happen..sometimes we just need a little help.

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If this were easy, we'd all be wearing a pair of size 2 skinny jeans...I'm glad you have your appointment next week. I'm thinking that your doctor will give you a fill. With the fill and liquids for a days or two, it will be easier to get back on track. Just make sure you don't cancel that appointment. So many people are afraid to talk to their doctor when they struggle, but that's why they are there and they've seen it all before.

Let us know how you are doing. We all want to see you succeed.

Cindy

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Have you considered giving yourself permission to stay at the weight you are for a while? I have only lost 50 pounds but I am having some issues accepting it. Maybe if you took a break from trying to lose and just worked on accepting yourself as you are now with the intention to lose more later if you chose to. Could you be content where you are now and feel pressured by others to lose more? This might not be the case but I thought I might mention it. Because I am thinking I might not lose as much as I originally planned. Now when someone asks how much more I plan to lose, I say somewhere between 7 and 17 more pounds. Now I am planning to let my body tell me when to stop not my scales, not my preconceived plans, and not other peoples ideas of what I should weigh.

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look at the positive side of this, you are definitely aware that you need to do something and that you know this is only a temporary setback. but you do need to either talk to someone or start doing exercise, i think this is the best way to go about it......you'll definitely feel the difference. whichever way i wish you the best of luck!!! hang in there, Godbless:smile2:

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