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What is the most important reason you are losing weight?  

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  1. 1. What is the most important reason you are losing weight?

    • I want to be healthy
      41
    • I want to look good
      19
    • I want to be comfortable in tight places (planes, booths, rides)
      6
    • I'm ashamed of myself for being fat
      10


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I want to look good again on the outside... I feel good on the inside... but on the outside I don't look like it....

I want to catch the eye of someone.. just because you want to flirt to feel good sometimes...

But having the right body that you want, whatever the size, makes you act different in front of people...

I favor the long skirts and big sweaters.. I want to wear the short skirts, long boots and form fitting shirts... for confidence... I want people to hear what I say, not wonder why I weigh more than I really should.

I want to lose weight because I want to conquer this demon.. I want to be in control of what I look like, not the carbs in the cabinent....

I want to do this for me... for my confidence... for my ego... for my self esteem.....

I can totally relate to all the things I left in. Although I am happily married, I would like to know that I am still attractive to the opposite sex.

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It is just one piece of my mid-life crisis ! :tt1:

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It is just one piece of my mid-life crisis ! :tt1:

I should have included that as an option. It is exactly what spurred me on in the beginning.

At 30 I bought a sports car.

At 35 I bought a home gym.

At 40 I bought a new house.

At 45 I'm buying a lapband.

At 50 I will probably by a cemetery plot. :eek:

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I first interpreted the subject of this poll as "How are you losing weight?", which I thought was kind of obvious on a Lap Band Forum. :)

Judging from the range of answers, I think it's safe to say this is a complicated answer to a simple question. For me it really boils down to I simply wanted to FEEL better, which really touches on all of the options given, and several that werent.

I was tired of looking like crap in photos. I was tired of breaking into a sweat just from walking around the office. I was tired of various aches and pains related from carrying around so much weight. I was tired of feeling painfully self conscious.

And I know I made the right choice, if for any other reason than as I was writing this a coworker walked into my office and said "I know I'm not supposed to ask this, but how much weight have you lost? You look FANTASTIC!"

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I didn't vote for any, although I guess I could say it was for my health. The main reason I got the lap band to lose weight is so that we can pursue our dreams of having children. We will need to use donor eggs or embryos, and in order to reduce the risk during pregnancy caused by my weight, I need to lose about 100 pounds.

So while the looking good, fitting better in seats, better overall health are all bonus, trying to have a baby is the main reason.

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I am losing my weight because I want to go one day, heck, one hour, without pain. I have degenerative disk disease and my low back and neck cause constant pain. The orthopedic surgeon said at this point nothing will help except losing weight (barring surgery, which they don't like to do on overweight individuals). When my back is at its worst, my husband has to help me in and out of bed, get me dressed, help me shower - basically he has to help me with everything. I'm tired of feeling like a burden to him. I am 26 years old and feel like I'm 80. I will lose this weight so I can lead a healthy, normal and active life.

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You know what? I can admit it. I am vain. I am doing this because I want to be pretty. That's the long and short of it. I don't want my daughter to feel like she has the fat mom. I want my husband's friends to think he has a good looking wife. And I want to feel attractive. I'm lucky that I have no health problems (yet). Yes, I recognize that by staying the size I am I very very likely would develop them, but I don't have any now. So the reason for me comes down to looks. Not the best or altruistic reason perhaps, but the honest one.

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Health-

I was 38 years old and heading for death. Lap Band saved my life. Sure I wanted to be thin. Look good. Walk a mile without being out of breath. My truth is Lap Band saved my life

Michelle

284/174/150

highest/current/goal

Banded 3/12/209

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Westonrose,

Wow you are there. We have same starting weights and you are where I want to be one year post-op.

That is so great:smile2:

I've been fighting this weight for 20 years since my 3rd child.

Health is my main concern. I am a runner and I had to quit because of gout. Also I worried about diabetes beause my Uncle has lost part of his leg to it.

With your success and the others I read about I know that I will win this time and make it to normal weight.

Congratulations and good journey,

Maggie

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I want to look good. I am fairly healthy for my weight, so that has never been an issue for me. I just want to look good when I get dressed in the morning and not be the heaviest girl in my group of friends. :blink: Oh yeah and I want to have kids soon, so this will probably be good for that, too. :biggrin:

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I voted for "healthy," but would be lying if I said that looking good weren't also an enormous motivator.

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My answer was the one about fitting in spaces. I really want to get healthy, but I think if my feet didn't hurt (that might be health, I guess) and I didn't have to worry about space, I doubt I would have made this decision at this time. I wouldn't have even researched it.

Now that I have done the research and made this decision, I'm glad I did for many, many reasons. I don't want to have to worry if I fit in the booth, if the seatbelt won't fit on the airplane, if the chair will support my weight, if I can walk through the restaurant/store without knocking something over, if I can walk down the aisle of an airplane without giving someone a concussion... You get the idea. If I were smaller, I don't know that I would change my life entirely to make myself more healthy.

Regardless, I'm super glad I am!

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Id be lying if I didn't say all of the above. I would love to go into ordinary clothing stores and buy a cute outfit, ride the roller coasters with my nephews, not feel obligated to buy two seats on a airplane, feel confident and sexy, and really just enjoy the things I couldn't before but I have been having a lot of health issues recently so that would be my main reason for sure.

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