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Cattoy, Thanks for the response! I can relax now that I know I'm not a perv!!! :huh2: I don't know if age has anything to do with it, but I have noticed more of an openness and awareness to sensuality in general in myself as I have reached and passed the 40 y/o mark. Hormones may have something to do with that. Who knows for sure, but like I said in an earlier post, I wouldn't want to go back!

Cattoy, I have a question for you that I am curious about. I have a good marriage of 18 years with 4 children who so far indicate they will be upstanding contributing members of society : ) My question is, How common is it for women to think about/fantasize about being with another female? I haven't so much as held hands with another human for the past 18 years, but find I am very curious about what it would be like to experience the touch and feel of another woman. I just wonder if that fantasy is very common and how many women actually act on that desire. Thanks for you willingness to answers these questions for us. If anyone else wants to contribute, please feel free!

Lil Mama, I admire your courage to post your situation. I can assure you, your not the only person experiencing this temptation. Most people wouldn't slow down enough to consider the wisdom others might share. You are very smart to have reached out for support! I agree with the advice of the others. As hard as it is, before this goes any further, you need to turn and run away as fast as you can! If you don't, it will be support you need for a different reason before long...a suffering marriage. If your husband is indeed a good man, you need to hold on to him tightly. They are a rare breed! I wouldn't suggest confessing all to him, but it might not be a bad idea to let him know you feel vunerable right now and allow him to stroke you emotionally instead of someone else. Just an idea that has helped me in the past.

Since last night was the first time I had read on this particular thread, I've thought some more about it. I appreciate a previous post about the addictive discussion in a support meeting. No doubt that most of us who are large or have been large have the tendency to be addicted to food, so it makes perfect sense that we would transfer our addiction somewhere else. We just have to make sure we stay healthy in the adjustment to new ones, away from food. Now I understand more why I went crazy riding a bicycle all the time this past summer! My husband sure appreciated this thread last night!:confused_smile:

I'm so glad to know I'm not loosing my mind or some evil person. I am feeling all the same things you ladies are discussing! I am nearly 2 years post op. I would never want to return to where I came from!

Greetings to all! It has been a while since I've been in here. I'm glad to see people are still posting on a regular basis from March 07. My weight has remained the same for some time. I have actually gained a little but purchaced a bike several weeks ago and have been riding almost daily. I'm finding bike riding easy on my joints but challenging enough to give me a good workout. I hope my weight loss will pick back up if I keep up the exercise. Summer is passing quickly and school will be starting before we know it. I hope to keep this exercise habit going! Surgery 3-23-07 Initial Weight 225 Present Weight 275 Total Lost 50 pounds

I had a complete unfill after having some major problems with reflux and I felt like a different person! It was a necessity in my case. I had gotten to where I couldn't hardly keep anything down. I go to have a refill next week. By the way it had been 6 months since my last fill. I got my stomach irritated with some reflux causing foods. I have not had any problems since the unfill, I just don't need to be able to eat so freely. I am still less than a year out of surgery.

Ireta, It looks like to me you are right on track. My physician has told me that 1 - 2 pounds a week is good. Remember weight loss with the band is supposed to be slow and gradual. I understand how you feel though. I had my band placed around the same time you did and have lost around 30 pounds. I'm encouraged knowing I will have restriction 5 or 10 years from now. Many individuals who've had bypass may loose a ton of weight quickly in the first year but by their 2nd year post op already start gaining weight back. Many can't maintain their restriction. Focus on one eating behavior you can adjust or change. I know I need to quit going by the shaved ice stand. There are 10,000 calories in one of those sweet little treats I bet! I love them! Don't neglect to celebrate what you have accoplished to this point! I'm preaching to myself too!

Hey Sugarbear! It has been a while since I have posted. I read here everyday though. I bet there are tons of folks like me. I am trucking along slowly with the weight loss. I must admit I could be more strict with myself. I am eating significantly less than before the band though. I find myself getting the muchies at night some. I am more of a night owl. Do you have any specific area that you struggle with? My next appt. is July 30th. So far I have only had one fill. It still seems to be working well. I know I am very lucky to have found good restriciton so soon. I could probably let them put a little more in but I like having a little room. I don't want to be too tight. We will see when my appointment day comes. Looks like your weight loss is steady too. Good Job! I'm thankful for my band and don't have any regrets!

Cowgirldreams, 3 fills huh? It sure would seem that you should have restriction by now. Your doing the right thing having the barium swallow. That should give you some good information. Hang in there and just take it one day at a time. I just read your post and wanted to encourage you a bit. Either the fills will start working or the problem will be found and fixed. Don't give up hope.

I am scheduled for surgery this Friday, 3/23 and have had a hard time with the liquid diet as well. The first day was torture! I've had a really big problem with the slim fast! It's like liquid concrete to me. I am trying to maintain a healthy caloric intake but I'm a little concerned about what I'm going to do for protein during the post up liquid phase. I am even taking Benefiber! :speechles I know this will all be worth it though, when 6 months from now I'm at a healthy weight! :clap2:

Stepahnee, While it absolutely true, when you decrease your consumption your out put decreases as well, I wanted to share a brief story with you. I decided once to do the Slim fast protein shakes. I was drinking water and following the diet outline. I, like you, found myself having not evacuated for several days. I considered my intake was down but unfortunately found myself in quite a mess within a week. Let's just say when my body decided it was time to void, and the momentum of that was rolling full steam ahead, and there was nothing that could be done to stop it.....I thought I was going to have to SCREAM for my husband to rush me to the hosital.:eek I'm an RN who worked the ER for years. I had horrible visions of being taken to the emergency room, telling the doctor, "I've got a corn cob stuck up my rear"! And the bad part is I wouldn't have been lying! It was terrible! I think some of the liquid diet items may have fillers in them that sit, and sit, and sit, and sit in the intestines until walah! Our bodies are very different so what happended to me might not happen to you at all. I just know in the future, when I have to do the liquid diet, I will take a mild softner/laxitive every few days. Just another tid bit to consider. Best of luck with your band.

I contacted Dr. Sanchez's office and received an email back recommending Dr. Zapata. I guess he is in with Dr. Sanchez. Does anyone have any information on this surgeon? I am trying to narrow down my search to about 3 physicians so I can do some deeper research on their individual practices. Any suggestions for good surgeons in Mexico would be greatly appreciated.