I have been dealing with a whole new issue now that I am well on my way to goal of being at 145lbs. I used to weigh 240. That was just last March. Now i weigh 177. I am not at goal yet but I am starting to feel like this will happen. When I was heavier I kept my urges to myself because I felt gross and not at all sexy. Now I feel a LOT sexier and I am wanting sex a lot. I feel like a pervert. My husband is thrilled but sometimes I feel like hes thinking "Does this girl wanna screw all day long?" I really dont but I am wanting to do it more than 1 time a day. I have also been fantasizing about other men, and having my husband watch. We even rented a video that had a girl giving 3 men head at once. He told me he liked that. I realize that these feelings come from not feeling wanted for so long. Its kind of scarry. I know my husband doesnt want to actually go through with the sexy thoughts and fantasies. He told me so. Not that I would want to really go for that. I am happy with my current sex life. I just feel like I have woken up a sleeping sex pervert(Me):biggrin: Has anyone else had this issue?

Man I gotta tell ya that I am afraid that will happen to me. In fact it may be my biggest fear, aside from wanting to eat and cant. I think part of the reason I got fat in the first place was to help me stay true to my husband of 12 years. I think my sex pervert is hibernating but will emerge again as soon as I lose this weight again. I had always had problems being overly sexual before I got pretty heavy. Don't have the answers sweets, but I understand your issues. :biggrin:

I have had a similar thing happen to me in the past when I dropped like 40 pounds. I felt like a sex fiend and couldn't get enough. I think thinner people produce more testosterone and less estrogen. Not to worry nothing weird is going to happen to your body but I did read an article about that and they say that women who are heavier have more estrogen and less testosterone due to the fat cells or something like that. Anyway, don't worry, you aren't a sex addict you just have a little more testosterone now that you've lost a few pounds. BTW my husband said that during that time period, he felt like he had to beat me off with a stick LOL.

I even told my husband that I would try new things besides my vibrators. I offered to get a strap on.(a small one). He wants to try it. I also told him I wouldnt mind kissing another womans boobs. I have never been bi sexual but titties are no big deal to me. He was of course into that thought. But when I mentioned I want to perform oral for another guy or he says if some other dude was making me happy he couldnt deal with that. How come men are all down for the wife with another woman but not another guy. And how do you know if the other person is disease free. THAT would really scare me.

I hear you on the jealous husband thing too. Most men beg to see you do these things, but not all, and not mine unfortuantely.

My sexual appetite has DEFINATELY increased. My husband has all kinds of pet names for me now....... A tart, a shameless hussy, a schlut, etc. All in good fun of course, but the change is remarkable. He's loving it, but there are times when he just throws his hands up and says, "I'm tired. NO!" I pout, and usually end up getting my way. I fantasize about other men, but I'm to much of a chicken to actually try and initiate anything. It's not my style. But our marriage has definately gotten a shot in the arm. We are enjoying eachother immensely, and having the time of our lives. We feel 25 again!! I'm buying lingerie again. I'm joining him naked in the hot tub. I'm adding sexy clothes to my wardrobe. I dyed my hair blonde. I'm willing to experiement with new "toys". My son just moved out of the house two weeks ago. My God!!! We're trying out every room in the house. Just sit back and enjoy it. I think after the years of "dry spell" we've all suffered, we deserve it! Right?

I am enjoying it! I am glad too here Iam not alone. Ieven let him shave me down there 3 days ago, then we watched porn all night. I have turned into a perv thats for sure. Congrats on getting your house privacy back. I love not worring who home.

I can agree on my sex drive going way up but I am at my final stage in my weight loss, I am at 152 and I have already had cosmetic surgery but I am still where I can't walk around naked because I feel unconfortable, I also would love to were sexy cloths but I can't for some reason. I feel like my legs look ugly and my upper thighs are loose, my boyfriend tells me its all mental and that I have a great body to show it but I just can't.

Bunkey you sound like a great woman and your husband is lucky to have you. If he cant accept your fantasies then thats his problem. I for one would let my wife sleep with another guy in front of me because thats what she wants. I am not jealous and if it makes her happy it would make me happy. He will come around....HAHA. Yo rock congrats!!!

Thank you ksill18. I was permiscuous(sp?) before I married and havent always been an angel. But the fat kept me safe. Now men are looking and I like it(mostly) except from the ugly ones. I do have some standards. I love attention and I guess this is a way to get some so to speak. Even if its just talk and fantasy.

nothing wrong with that. enjoy it and enjoy life because its short and you only get one!!!

I apploud you for you great confidence that what I think I lack.

I have been dealing with a whole new issue now that I am well on my way to goal of being at 145lbs. I used to weigh 240. That was just last March. Now i weigh 177. I am not at goal yet but I am starting to feel like this will happen. When I was heavier I kept my urges to myself because I felt gross and not at all sexy. Now I feel a LOT sexier and I am wanting sex a lot. I feel like a pervert. My husband is thrilled but sometimes I feel like hes thinking "Does this girl wanna screw all day long?" I really dont but I am wanting to do it more than 1 time a day. I have also been fantasizing about other men, and having my husband watch. We even rented a video that had a girl giving 3 men head at once. He told me he liked that. I realize that these feelings come from not feeling wanted for so long. Its kind of scarry. I know my husband doesnt want to actually go through with the sexy thoughts and fantasies. He told me so. Not that I would want to really go for that. I am happy with my current sex life. I just feel like I have woken up a sleeping sex pervert(Me):sad_smile: Has anyone else had this issue?

I'm certainly no psychologist, but I think everybody understands how important a better self-image is to sexuality (especially with women). So....whatever makes you two kids happy.....cool. But be careful that you don't change too much, or too rapidly. After all, your husband probably thought you were sexy even at your highest weight...so try to express how important and attractive he is to you.

BTW, fantasies?? Whatever you're into. The great thing about that is that nobody need know what (or who) you're thinking about in the act...:rolleyes2:

I am feeling your pain! I am down 10 lbs post op and I am getting hit on again and I too am feeling pretty perverted! I too was a promiscuous little vixen before I got married :eek:

I am seeing a fantastic shrink and I know that I have addictions, food, SEX and ALCOHOL. I have to be extremely careful with this transition from being a food addict because I can easily become addicted to sex and booze, which could bring on the promiscuous attitude ie: potential affairs or a full blown alcoholic.

Everything you said about hiding behind the weight is so dead on with me. It is my "fat suit" that I hide behind.

Do some research on addictive personalities and identify your situation so you don't get into trouble :eek: in the mean time have fun :thumbup:

I have the opposite problem. I am 6 months post op and am down a little over 80lbs so I am def feeling better about myself and my appearance but my sex drive has gone WAY down. Its starting to make my hubby crazy. I mean, he still gets some once a week, twice if he's lucky but no where nearly as much as before. I don't get it...... Am I BROKEN?!? :thumbup:

Hormones are stored in fat cells. The more fat, the more hormones. When you burn fat, the hormones are left and become out of balance. It takes a while for all to restabilize. It will happen, it just takes time.