NewBeginnings2018

Hi Sunflower. I'm not sure about doctors in this area who will see patients who have been banded elsewhere, but there are a TON of places in the area that do banding. It's probably worth some calls to check into things. There is Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center, Brigham and Womens, Lahey Clinic, NE Medical Center. Those are just a few off the top of my head. Best of luck with your search and welcome to Boston! Chris

Deb I have a 1:30 appt w/Dr Jones on the 29th!!! Looks like we will be able to meet! I am so excited!! If you're still losing with no fill - good for you! Especially if you're feeling restriction. Go with it!

Oh roxy that is hysterical! Guess we all better plan our answers ahead of time so we're ready in case we're asked!! Top of my list - shark attack.

I'm glad you posted harlito! I was sure that the single men out there felt similar to us girls. It's great to get the guys perspective as I'm sure you love reading ours. JDru I think we've all had those friendships! Sometimes they serve their purpose, but it's tough because I think it's inevidible that one person will eventually want more. Good for you for being strong enough to stop the messing around part. You do deserve more, especially if you want more! KrisitB - I understand what you mean and also partly got my band at this juncture because there is so much more I want out of life and I know this is the first step towards that. I know that being "normal" size won't solve all my problems, or make it so that I'll find my soul mate. Instead I'm looking to make peace with myself and get over this "thing" that has plagued me since I was 5 years old.

Karen - yes he does sound like a keeper! Missy - all of my friends are married as well, and now starting to have kids. We are still great friends, but it's hard to get out these days. Ocassionaly I'll find myself getting a little jealous of my married friends, but then there are other times I love being single. I think the hardest part is that they just don't understand what it's like to be single. They've all been with their husbands since high school or college. If you haven't been a single adult, you just don't get the challenges of it and you don't understand how different it is from when you were 20 years old. I'm curious to see if/how my dating life changes as I lose weight. I think I put a lot of blame on being overweight, and I will no longer be able to do that. Yet one more demon to face! haha

Hi everyone! Hope you all enjoyed your weekends! Monday is back to work - ugh! Pat - I LOVE the tree! It's beautiful. Eileen - I'm feeling great thanks! I get my first fill the Wed after Thanksgiving. I can't wait!!! Welcome back Darcy! Glad you had fun!

Hey Dez! Great to hear from you. Glad the scale has started to move for you again. It gets frustrating when it doesn't, that's for sure! I'm feeling good and looking forward to my first fill. I get that fill the Wed after Thanksgiving - perfect timing if you ask me. Late enough that I'll be able to enjoy a bit of stuffing at thanksgiving, but early enough to get me through the Holidays! Sherry and I started taking country line dancing classes together on Tuesday nights. It's a lot of fun and good exercise. I've got to get that exercise piece in gear! I'm game for meeting up! Who else is interested??

aaamom - congrats on your tummy tuck! Glad your feeling better! I can't wait to see some pics of that little middle! dreaminbig - welcome home and congrats on your new band!! Can't believe that mix up! I would have been pissed too if I was the doc, but it wasn't your fault. They've had some changeover in personnel there - and I'm sure some heads rolled for that one! Keep us updated on your progress.

Welcome pinksoprano! A local girl! There have got to be some single bandster men out there. What are some issues you have dealt with, or future concerns?

BPM - it's not a matter of being uncomfortable, just about the right timing. Missy - I understand what you mean. I have seen other posts about newly slender bandsters dating guys who tell them they would never date an overweight woman. Ouch! I think we all want someone who is going to accept us for who we are, even at our heaviest. I also think guys want the same. Susan - I have been casually dating someone for a little over a month and haven't told him. As of now I'm taking the road you mentioned - not telling unless we get more serious. Once things get physical it will be harder to keep a secret. Kind of hard to ignore the red scars on my belly.

Awww Mandy - what a cute kitty! Congrats on the new addition to your family!

I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded. I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman. I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off! Chris :cocktail:

Hope everything went well Pahvarti. Let us know how you're doing when you get the chance!

Douglas - I completely agree that Richard Harris was a much, much better Dumbeldore. The new actor is not calm and collected and angers too easily. Truthfully he almost ruins the movies for me. Wheetsin - the curtain was a pretty interesting phenomenen in book 5. I'm not sure if it holds any greater signficance, but you never know. I am going to start re-reading the sixth book. It was not my favorite by any means, but I liked the fact that it gave us some history on Voldemort and tied up a few loose ends. I read through it so fast the first time, I wonder if I'll pick up on anything new this time.

Cassandra - I was banded on Monday, stayed at my parents house Tuesday night, and then was home on Wednesday and did just fine (I live alone). I was just slow getting up and down.

By this time you're banded dreaminbig! Congratulations!!!!

Oh wow Dianne! I feel your pain! I had a reduction about 13 years ago, and was probably around the same size as you are now. It was never fun trying to find a bra or simple things like dresses and bathing suits. Ugh! Let me know how it goes at Nordstroms. So Sherry and I went to line dancing tonight. It was a lot of fun! We've got some new moves. WATCH OUT! lol

Hi everyone! Glad to see everyone is doing well and tooting along. lmao. I have had the busiest couple of weeks in creation but I wanted to make sure that I popped into say hi! Eileen - glad to see you're back is feeling better. Cindy - sorry to see yours is hurting! Darcy - have fun quilting! Mandy & Patty - good luck with the IEP's. I will keep you in my thoughts! Kat - how is your DH doing these days? Betty - I would have DIED if I ever tooted in my bosses office. I'm so private about that kind of stuff! lol Cassandra - good luck!! I was just banded on Oct 2nd and it has been great so far! Diane - not to be nosy, but what size/kind of bra are you looking for? I wear a bra from Lane Bryant called "The Balconette". It lifts without smooshing the ladies together in the middle. I had Sherry try them and now she is addicted too. lol. They start at a 36C I believe. And did I mention that it lifts??!! So I had a few Melontini's this weekend and OMG I'm in love! lol. They were soooo yummy. Hopefully my 3+ hours of dancing helped me work off the drinks. My legs are still sore! Hopefully they'll feel better for my line dancing with Sherry tomorrow night! Well off to do some dishes. Yuck!

Dez sorry to hear you've been having a rough time. Angie is gone, sniff sniff, but still here with us in spirit. I would call the office and talk to someone. I'm no expert, but if you're having trouble getting more than 4 bites down then you may need a slight unfill. Please give them a call and let us know what they say. Hey Rainbow -- how are you??!! I hope all is well. Nana - how are things going with the process? Where are you at? Sherry - you know I love ya babe! Keep up the good work!! So I just finished my first full week of mushies. Life is good. lol. I've been able to stick to a 1200 +/- diet, but my scale did not move this week. I know it's totally normal so I'm trying not to fuss over it. I did have a bit of chocolate today and yesterday. Grrrr... I've still been sticking within my calories, but I wish I was stronger and could have said no. Baby steps I guess. lol. I would love to shake these last two pounds so I can make it into the 240's. Hopefully I'll get there this week! Sherry and I are going to start taking a Country Line Dance class together on Tuesday nights starting next week. It should be a blast and will be a good 1 1/2 - 2 hrs of exercise. We then promised each other we'd at least do one more night of exercise each week. Baby steps with the exercise too. lol. Well I hope everyone is doing well!

Oh I love, love, love Harry Potter! I have some theories on Dumbeldore. I think that he knew that Harry had to face Voldemort while he was still under the protection of his mother's love, which will only last until he's 17, and that this would not happen while Dumbledore was around. So he and Snape developed a plan where Snape would "kill" Dumbeldore, but first Dumbeldore created his own horcrux, which I believe to be Fawkes. I've been to a couple book release parties as well. There will be one more left so make sure you get there Douglas. They are a hoot!

Hi everyone!! It has only been a few days since I've visted LBT, but man it seems like I've missed so much!! Hope everyone is doing well and enjoyed their weekend. Where-o-where did it go? lol. So today I marched in a Halloween parade with my 2 year old neice. She was so cute! I will post a pic once I get them on my computer. I was a bat, and she was Cinderella. It was a great way to get in some exercise too. Speaking of exercise....Sherry and I are going to start taking Country Line Dancing lessons together once a week. How fun! I've taken a couple classes in the past, and it's a great workout. I'm all about the work outs that are fun. So this was my first full week of mushies. It was wonderful! lol. My weight fluctuated a lot over the week, but this morning when I weighed in I was the same. That is fine with me, especially considering I have my TOM anyway. I figured mushies would stall things a bit, so I'm not concerned. I need to take it easy though. I overdid it yesterday moving around a bunch of clothes. I was a little sore this morning when I woke up. Well I think I'm going to head to bed early tonight. I'm wiped! Talk to you all soon!

Congrats on your success swirligirl! Keep up the good work!

Hi there! Hope everyone is doing well! Things are good here. My incision is healing up pretty well. Still have some scabbing where he re-opened but no infection so I'm happy. I feel great, and have been trying to stick to a 1200 calorie diet on mushies. I've done pretty well. Some days I'm a little more but overall I think it's a huge victory. I got my TOM today, and I had such a hard time eating. I had two slices of thin sliced deli roast beef for breakfast, some cheese and crackers for lunch, and two meatballs for dinner. Oh, and a glass of wine at a party I went to tonight. I feel a little tipsy. lol. Good thing I didn't drive. lol. How is everyone else doing? Dez I'm sorry to hear you've had a hard time eating. Has it gotten any better? Well I think it's time to go sleep off my glass of wine. I'm such a bad girl!! lol

Oh Mandy, I am so sorry to hear about furbaby! Losing a pet is so tough! I'll be thinking of you and sending my positive energy your way. Eileen - so sorry to hear things aren't feeling any better. You are right to press on if you think something else is going on. You have to be your own advocate. Hi everyone else!!! I hate being back at work. I don't have as much time to post anymore. lol. Hope you're all doing well!

Good luck aamom! You'll do great!! I'll be thinking of you!