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I think you took my quote out of context. Here is what I said: "Did starting therapy in October help prepare me for life after the surgery the following June? For me the answer is yes because I struggle with head hunger much less after acquiring tools to change my thinking AND expectations after having the lapband placed." I did not say that the band changed my expectations, I said that starting therapy 8 months before having surgery help to change my thinking and expectations. I apologize if that was not clear to you as written. I chose an obesity therapist. As it turned out she had been obese and successfully lost and kept off her excess weight for several years. She is also well versed in several WLS. She help me recognize the more subtle "triggers" that caused me to eat when I wasn't physically hungry. Some triggers were obvious to me, she really helped with the ones that weren't. We also discussed what the band is (i.e., a tool not a magic bullet) and how it worked; and what I believed it would do, as well as what it really does. To be quite honest, after having the surgery there was a part of me that remained in "fantasy land" ... for about a month. After all the discussion we'd had, I still thought that I would feel something after my first fill. When I looked back at that I laughed at myself. Once I was back in the "real world" (after that first fill "reality check") I was able to be patient and not use food the ease my frustration over how long it was taking me to get to the "green zone" or "sweet spot". I was a slow loser from the start. I have had back surgery, I have spinal stenosis and degenerative disk disease, so pain had been a part of my everyday life. But eventually I was able to make walking every morning a part of my daily regimen. At my high point I was walking 3 miles every morning before going to work. Due to some respiratory problems earlier this year I've had to start again, one mile at a time ... I'm old, what can I say. LOL The difference is that I don't give up and grab a bowl of ice cream to soothe me. Instead I get up and go for a walk. I hope this answered your question .... no, it was not a "stuck episode" that changed my thinking. All the best to you on your journey. ~Fran

Stress and the band ... ahhh yes, when I am stressed my band locks up tighter than a drum! And of course my history is that when I am stressed I eat, but not since being banded. Try as I might, when I am stressed food cannot get through so I have to work through my stress, do breathing exercises, get a massage, or whatever it takes to release the stress so that I can eat again. Been there, done that ... hated it! Good luck. :/ ~Fran

You're right, "no one would advocate a patient waiting for heart surgery just to prove that they are serious about changing their lifestyle". But believe me, you are talking apples and oranges. You say "I know that I will feel better and be healthier after this surgery." No, you won't. Sorry, that's not the way the lapband works. You will feel better and healthier after YOU USE THE BAND TO HELP YOU CHANGE THE WAY YOU FEEL, THINK, AND ACT, when it comes to food. I cannot stress enough how the band is just a tiny element (that can make a BIG difference) of this weight loss journey. Please, please, please do more reading about the band and what it REALLY does. Also, on the "Lapband and Pregnancy" forum on this site (scroll down you'll see it) there is a woman that is documenting her pregnancy -- her second pregnancy, but first with the band -- because she gained so much weight with her first child and doesn't want to go through that again. She may have some first hand experience that will help you. She had her first child at 36 and is now 40 or 41 and pregnant with her second. I am not responding to your post to be argumentative. I, like the others that have replied, already have the lapband and we know what actually happens once it is placed. I am baffled that your doctor told you that pregnancy 6 months post-band would be a good thing. Maybe you are getting lapband w/plication or something like that? I hear the weight loss is faster with the "extras". What I do know is that you sound like a smart woman, and you can only get smarter if you take the time to learn about the band from bandsters. Yes, everyone's journey is different, but there are some things that we all have in common, things that we all go through after having the band placed. Although doctors would like you to have a greater understanding of the band before you have the surgery, some people are, as they say, "from Missouri, the show me state". These people aren't going to learn how the band REALLY works until they have it placed. I don't know if you are "from Missouri", but if getting the band is the only way you will "get it", then I agree with you "Why the Wait". You are not alone. Most of us were anxious, and like myself, some of us had to wait due to insurance requirements. I started therapy before I even went to my doc, hoping to be better prepared. Did starting therapy in October help prepare me for life after the surgery the following June? For me the answer is yes because I struggle with head hunger much less after acquiring tools to change my thinking AND expectations after having the lapband placed. Again, I wish you only the best of success on your journey. ~Fran

Audrey, I don't want to be the bearer of bad news but ... unless you are one of the truly lucky ones, you won't have had enough fills to even know you have the band in 6 months. You can probably get the surgery sooner if you change doctors (provided your insurance doesn't make you wait and you can get all the tests done in a few weeks). But once you have the band it is a process to get to the "green zone" or "sweet spot". Took me 8 or 9 months to get there. I would suggest that you read on this site about pregnancy and the band. I believe there's a forum for it. I saw 4 docs before I found one that would take my insurance. The first doc said I could have the surgery in a couple of weeks ... but ... he wasn't on my insurance so I had to keep looking. You may have heard over and over again that "the lapband is not a magic bullet" ugggghhh ... many get tired of reading/hearing that. Bottom line, it's true, trust me. I honestly wish you the very best. I hope things work out to your satisfaction. I also hope that you will read everything you can get your hands on about the band - knowlege IS power - that is never more true than when it comes to the band. ~Fran

Hi Mini, Sorry to hear you didn't get exactly what you paid for ... or maybe you did and your doc isn't explaining it right. Are you in the U.S.? Do you have an article by Dr. Paul Burton. I ask because what you say he is suggesting doesn't sound like it's good for your esophagus. I have the Lapband, which creates a pouch but also puts pressure on my vagus nerve which inhibits the hormone grehlin (sp?), this tamps down the hunger. As everyone has said, there is nothing to stop head hunger but you, you learning the reasons for eating when not hungry and getting the tools to help you stop. All the best to you on your journey. You will find plenty of support on this site. ~Fran

You might want to read some self help books about body image. I would think it better to get a handle on this sooner rather than later ... this can be a complicated issue. Therapy might help but you might be the kind of person that can do a little reading about the body image phenomenon and get a handle on it. I remember one morning after taking my walk and stopping at the grocery store, I stopped in to visit my best friend. She looked at me and said "Why are you still wearing that running suit? It's much too big for you and you look ridiculous." If not that we have been best friend's since kindergarten, I might have been offended. But, what I realized was that I hadn't taken an honest look at myself and accepted how much weight I'd lost. After that, you couldn't keep me out of the stores buying new clothes! I still need to lose several pounds, and ... my doc took all my fluid out last week, ughhhh. But, once I start to refill (and even before), I am going to keep working toward getting all my excess weight off. It's scary sometimes, but WE CAN DO THIS. Start shopping for your "real" size, I think you'll get the hang of it. All the best to you and congratulations on your success! ~Fran

Thanks for the suggestions. I am seriously considering cutting my carbs to the bare minimum during this time. In the past I have had problems doing this because my blood sugar gets too low, but I want to give it a try just the same. At any rate I will watch and log my food ... gotta keep me honest. LOL ~Fran

One more thing .... my surgeon is a very different kind of doctor. Yesterday when we were talking about refilling me he asked if I had the same insurance and which one it was. I told him and he said, "oh, ok ... well, if they don't want to pay for the refills don't worry about it, I will do them anyway for free". I was pleasantly shocked! But then, he's the same guy that, once he changed offices after my surgery (starting with my 3rd fill, I think), that didn't accept a co-pay for my fills. I said "thanks" and completed my fills without paying a dime. Who knew? Here's to a great 2012! ~F

Thanks to all for your responses. While it doesn't sound like the road ahead will be easy, at least I know what to expect and I can choose to do the right thing or sabotage all the work I have done. I think I will skip the sabotage. It would be really nice if all of my health problems got better at the same time (i.e., lung problems, sleep apnea problems, chronic exhaustion AND lapband issues) and I can start a new healthier life in 2012. The only problem I will have left is whether or not my firm closes due to extensive financial woes. The job part is the "least" of my problems because without my health, who needs a job? LOL All the best to us all!

Thanks Shelley ... I will do my best to stay on track.

I saw my surgeon today for the first time in almost 2 years. My band has been tight for a long time and I was throwing up much too often. I thought he would only remove a small amount but apparently he felt I should take it all out and have an upper GI before refilling. He wants to make sure there's been no slippage. I can't argue with that, but I'm scared to death of putting weight back on. Here's my question: How many have been successfully re-filled? By that I mean that when the doc put the Fluid back in everything worked just as it had before or better? Thanks in advance for your input. ~Fran

I am a slow loser and I am currently experiencing some very traumatic health problems related to my lungs and my ability to breathe out (asthma) and in (restrictive lung defect). These problems have set me back a bit, with all the drugs I am on (steroids... ugghhhh). Still, I do not regret my choice to get the lapband. I really, really, really (did I say "really"? have to change my eating drastically. I have been reading a lot about nutrition and how foods are processed in the body. Low carb works great for me except ... my blood sugar drops like a rock sometimes causing other problems. Before lapband I was diabetic, but stopped taking metformin after about 3 months. My numbers are consistently good and my endo says my AC1 is non-diabetic. But, even when I was on meds I often had problems with low blood sugar. So, I have to be extra careful with what I eat. Due to my breathing problems I am tired ALL the time and the last thing I want to think about is what I am going to eat and when. Yeah, it's no party, but hey ... I have my good days, and that's when I SHOP! LOL Hang in there. This may not be what you expected and I totally understand your anger and frustration, but you can make this work for you ... you really can. I can't breathe, but I still get up at 5 to walk 2-3 miles ... sometimes I can only do 1 mile because my lungs demand that I stop, but I won't give up ... ever! All the best to you. Rant whenever you need to ... we are here for you. ~Fran

Whether or not your insurance covers lapband depends on the coverage your employer has chosen. I have BCBS in CA and mine was covered. It is likely that yours is too. Give them a call and ask. Also take a look at their website, it will tell you all the prerequisites. All the best to you on your journey. ~F

All of you are an inspiration to me! I'm not about to give up! Your support and prayers mean the world to me. Yesterday was not one of my better days ... I made it to church but I couldn't seem to get moving afterward. Finally I gave in and spent the afternoon resting. I have 3 doc appointments today. The first is this morning with my ortho. His office is in the Marina so I am leaving home early to walk at the park near his office. Wish me luck! @elcee ... Not a past life ... more like something I did in my "misguided youth". LOL! This is the park in the Marina. Hope I did this right and you can see it ...