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Honestly, I hope so. Thank you for being so honest and bringing this up. I was not always overweight and now that I have been on both sides of the coin I have noticed how differently people that I know and don't know treat me. It has also affected my confidence at work and in making friends or even enjoying hobbies and life the way I used to. I do think that it (the surgery) will help a lot, therapy is great and I have done a lot of it, but I have yet to rebuild my confidence with it and I do think seeing my body physically change will make that difference, I know others will not agree, but we are all different people with different perspectives and we may share similar experiences, but we do not all process them the same.

Thank you! I currently am in therapy and my therapist wanted to know if some emotional issues were resolved after wls. I mentioned to her that I would feel confident again giving me the confidence to leave a situation I’m in and she wondered if others felt the same way

For those of you that were dealing with some emotional trauma or issues that you were dealing with, did losing the physical weight help you lose the emotional weight you were carrying. For example, I don’t feel confident like I use to before I gained weight and I feel once I lose weight I will feel confident again and those thoughts of being unworthy will dissipate. Did anyone’s emotional issues go away after the weight came off?

Thank you! I currently am in therapy and my therapist wanted to know if some emotional issues were resolved after wls. I mentioned to her that I would feel confident again giving me the confidence to leave a situation I’m in and she wondered if others felt the same way

I am 1 yr out September 27th, 22. So far I have lost 140 pounds, I can't believe just year ago I weigh 380 lbs and now I feel like a total new person. Feeling thankful for this tool!

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I use the lose it app, you can create recipes and let it do the calculations for you.

My surgery is Monday….I’m getting nervous!!!

Hello,
I just received my VSG surgery date of 9/25. Any other buddies in September?

Hello,
I just received my VSG surgery date of 9/25. Any other buddies in September?

Congratulations!

Congrats!!!! Your journey begins!

It’s a great feeling right? Congrats!

I finally got approved today for the surgery!!! I’m so excited!

I finally got approved today for the surgery!!! I’m so excited!

I finally got approved today for the surgery!!! I’m so excited!

Hello, I haven’t gotten my surgery date yet but I am battling depression as well. I started talking to a therapist about a month ago and it has drastically helped me to see the distorted thinking than I’m doing to beat myself up all the time. When I do that it makes me feel sad or unworthy then I use food to cope with those feelings. I am learning when I’m faced with a difficult situation to slow my thoughts down and to think about why I’m REALLY feeling the way I’m feeling. My therapist described it as if we are pulling weeds from the garden, we usually figure out the surfuace problem and pull those weeds but it’s hard to figure out the root of the problems because they are so deeply embedded within you. Talking to my therapist has just helped me to shift my thinking from thinking I will be alone if I do t lose weight or no one will like me if I don’t lose weight, to someone will like me just the way I am however I’m on this weight loss journey for my health and family. I was against therapy at first but I am so glad that I took that plunge before surgery to sort out issues and can’t wait to continue it after.

Drop him like you dropped this weight girl. You are on the path to starting a new life !!! Embrace that in every way. You’re getting healthy physically now comes mental healing 💞💞

I am 39 years old and have been in a relationship with a narcissistic 50 year old who doesn’t work because he chooses to, for 7 years. He does always have dinner ready and the house clean when I get home from work. Our relationship isn’t on the best of terms and when we argue he calls me fat all the time. He feels like he’s right all the time, he puts others down, blames me for everything etc. This year my company switched insurances and now the surgery is covered!!! I’m so excited. But, I have a feeling this relationship will go from bad to worse when i lose the weight. He said he would be supportive but I don’t know. I’m to my wits end almost and thinking of kicking him out of my home that I own. He’s verbally abusive to me and does it in front of my kids, one of which is his. I don’t know if it’s my low self esteem that won’t let me do it or what!! I’m just afraid things will get worse for me after the surgery.

All of you are right. But why is is so hard to just DO IT!! I feel like some days i've had the courage to tell him to get out, but then i don't. I don't know if it's cause i feel bad for him or what....I just don't know. thank you guys for listening as i feel i can't talk to anyone about this. It's embarrassing that I won't do anything about it.

You are beautiful inside and out. I know how it feels to be emotional abuse by someone you're with that **** hurt. It's not good mentally, all I can say if he is going to "support you" through this journey take it for now and once you are healed let it be about you and those babies cause he's not worth it.

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I am 39 years old and have been in a relationship with a narcissistic 50 year old who doesn’t work because he chooses to, for 7 years. He does always have dinner ready and the house clean when I get home from work. Our relationship isn’t on the best of terms and when we argue he calls me fat all the time. He feels like he’s right all the time, he puts others down, blames me for everything etc. This year my company switched insurances and now the surgery is covered!!! I’m so excited. But, I have a feeling this relationship will go from bad to worse when i lose the weight. He said he would be supportive but I don’t know. I’m to my wits end almost and thinking of kicking him out of my home that I own. He’s verbally abusive to me and does it in front of my kids, one of which is his. I don’t know if it’s my low self esteem that won’t let me do it or what!! I’m just afraid things will get worse for me after the surgery.

@cut.the.vs My appointment went well. They went over everything with me and suggested the sleeve for me. I have to do one visit a month for four months with the dietitian. They said if I miss any appointments then everything starts all over. I have my Psych evaluation next month, I already have my gallbladder removed which they said is good. I don’t have to do a sleep study as of right now since I don’t have sleep apnea, they said they may make me do that but as of right now I don’t. They also advised me I will 30 days prior to my surgery and 30 days after I will need to stop my oral contraceptive due to blood clot risk or I could switch to the IUD which is what I’m going to do. I had my appointment for that today and should get that inserted in about two to three weeks. My dietitian also wants me to read a book called Intuitive Eating which I have started and it’s very interesting. I suggest reading that.

@cut.the.vs My consultation is on the 30th as well. Maybe we will have our surgeries around the same time!

@cut.the.vs My appointment went well. They went over everything with me and suggested the sleeve for me. I have to do one visit a month for four months with the dietitian. They said if I miss any appointments then everything starts all over. I have my Psych evaluation next month, I already have my gallbladder removed which they said is good. I don’t have to do a sleep study as of right now since I don’t have sleep apnea, they said they may make me do that but as of right now I don’t. They also advised me I will 30 days prior to my surgery and 30 days after I will need to stop my oral contraceptive due to blood clot risk or I could switch to the IUD which is what I’m going to do. I had my appointment for that today and should get that inserted in about two to three weeks. My dietitian also wants me to read a book called Intuitive Eating which I have started and it’s very interesting. I suggest reading that.

Great thank you all!