Hollie519

WOW! I can't believe he would say that to you. My boyfriend told me he feels like Shallow Hal because when he looks at my before pictures, he doesn't remember me looking like that. They shouldn't see you on the outside like that. He should see you for you. No offense but I would be done if someone said that to me. Thats bull shit! Just like a girl who sits next to me at work. She says her and her husband see each other as exactly what they looked like when they met in high school. Thats true love. No man should ever belittle who you are because of what you look like. Maybe you guys have that kind of relationship but I wouldn't ever want that. My boyfriend has always looked better than I. Before my surgery he gained about 40 pounds. Since my surgery he has lost about 20. Either way, I love the way he looks all the same. Muscles, fat, harry, bald. I have no preference.

HAHA that is funny. Mine knows by the look on my face not to follow me into the bathroom. He can also tell when i try to burp and there is no burp but another like gargling sound and I think by how fast I move for the bathroom is a clue too.

Congrats! Be careful though. Don't let that trick you into thinking cheating every once in a while is ok. If you think that, than you will cheat more and get into a downward spiral. I have been guilty of that :/ Otherwidse keep up the good work!

By the way, it also depends on you. You may find yourself at a point where you know you were staying with him for the wrong reasons. A lot of heavy people cling to the first person who cares. This is a possibility. I know there were several times growing up had my mom been thin, she would have left my dad. Don't get too excited though. I went through that phase but it was only because I wondered what skinny life was like. I'm cool now and can experience it with my boyfriend. He isn't as bothered by guys hitting on me because he knows my self esteem just wants to be flattered and I am not taking the bait. So it depends on you. If you've had thoughts about leaving him before, than they will just come at you X 10 now. If you haven't you may get second thoughts but see a counselor. This way you can have your thoughts sorted out.

I have a boyfriend who had the same fear. We have been together for almost 4 years. He knows that i used breathe confidence before even having the surgery. For me to be thin, would destroy our relationship. Well it didn't. I think he actually even understands me more now than he did before. He understand the way i feel about myself and my body. Honestly, I just told him, Babe I want to be happy about myself. i don't want to feel like people are staring at me because I am ugly. I want to have the confidence to be all I can be. You have loved me at my worst and for that I will keep you. I know you love me for me. I just want my outside to match my inside. I mean you guys are married, so you might want to word it a little different. I just told him to have faith and trust in me. Keeping you unhealthy is the way that he is securing himself that you won't leave. Not to say that more people don't want you, but its his insecurity that causes him to be this way. As long as you get him through it until you have the surgery, he will be happy with the way you are reacting to the results. You will be a more happy person in general. Believe me its the best for both of you. Let me know how he takes it.

Wow that is really cool. I wish I had some pictures. My surgeon discovered how to do a laproscopic removal of the gallbladder through the vagina. Do you think that would have been less painful? I have no clue about gallbladder removal. lol

Perfect question. LOL its that time for me and I am tight. Its because of the way your water fluxuates when its that time. So its the same as getting bloated. I am actually curious know if i took a midol would it make me less tight.

Ok thanks for that but I have been banded for over 11 months. I am very aware of what getting sick is like. I know bodies fluxuate differently at different times of the day. I know certain things won't always go down depending on the day. Listen to her words. After the first bite she knew she would be sick. That means she took too big of a bite or didn't chew enough. I think I have had enough personal experience to know the difference. I'm not trying to be a know it all and am always open to suggestion but I believe I know what I am talking about. There is no certain food I avoid at all. Not even beef jerky. I have great restriction and can handle most things. If I don't chew well enough, I get sick. Plain and simple.

Ok so first thing, no certain food should be off limits because oh having trouble getting it down. You should feel restrictions but you shouldn't find yourself looking for the easiest thing to get down. It's about little little bites and chewing until your jaw is sore. I know its really hard because your eyes are WAY bigger than the hole in your stomach. I didn't realize how important it was to eat slow and small bites and chew. Don't be surprised if the bites you took out of your food looks like you didn't eat enough. Don't look, listen. Listen to your stomach. That will save you many trips to the bathroom. I'm glad that I am starting to forget what insides of people's toilets look like. :] hope that helps

Plus cheese makes me kind of constipated now that I am eating 3 seperate meals in one day that I would have eaten in one meal before.

I don't cut my calories. I just use them in different ways. I get all the nutrients I need. i pay a lot of attention to calories for my own sake. It is possible to eat around your band like they say. If i allow myself a certain amount of calories a day, than i make sure I don't eat around my band. I am 11 months post op so my body is a lot different from yours by now. When it comes time, you will have to count something. What you choose to count is your decision. I count calories. On days that I exercise I eat more. On days that I don't get a chance, I eat less. But i have learned by now how to read my body. I'm pretty sure it hasn't gone into starvation mode in months. I just makes sure I don't eat more than 400 calories in one sitting. That is a personal choice.

I don't often like to eat eggs either. For some reason I just can't chew them enough no matter what. I used to LOVE hard boiled eggs and I find those are even worse than scrambled. My dad makes the best omletes too so I was bummed. Before having the band, I find salsa better for flavor than cheese and you can get less calories. You don't always have to eat breakfast food for breakfast. Most breakfast things are high in sugars and carbs or fat.

I agree with the above! If you gained the weight back with the bypass, no way in hell will the lap band work for you. UNLESS, you get a huge change of heart and a giant burst of will power. The lap band is harder than the bypass, no offense. My boss has the bypass and she will even tell you that she has had it way easier than myself and she is 30 and I am 18. The bypass takes the weight off and than you have to change your eating habbits to keep it off. There are ways to eat around the band. Friends I know who have had the bypass say its like starving your body without starving yourself. I know if i could eat the way my boss does, I would have gained my weight back as well. Junk food for me is like crack. I can't just have a taste. So I stay away from it period. If you can do that, than you should have the lap band. i have heard of peope getting both but I never did hear the ending results. You need to focus more on your mind set and stop looking for a surgery to do it for you. Get your ducks in a row and than consider having lap band.

What a mile stone! Scream it from the mountain tops! 10 more pounds and you can be out of a carseat. lol

A vicotry is not as sweet if not earned :] Plus I'm sure most of us could use the endorphines from the exercise lol

I also avoid taking shots because when you burp, some comes up with it. Oh man, i have never gotten so sick from drinking in my life. The taste of the alcohol coming back up was horrible. Lets just say, my next shot won't be until i'm 21 hehe :]

I used to be so offended when people considered the band the easy way out as well. I have learned to let it go because the anger does nothing but hurt me. Honestly, if people ask you, you can explain to them that if you ate whatever you wanted, it would be the exact same as not having the band at all. All I know, is my boss had the bypass and she doesn't do anything for exercise and eats fast food and candy all day. She lost the weight anyway. If I ever ate half the crap that she ate, i would have gained it all back and than some. the band is a tool not a quick fix. People who think that are just ignorant to what the lap band even is.

I have 6 pounds left to lose in 25 days. I can not believe that soon, i will be able to say, My name is Hollie and i have lost 100 pounds. Holy shit! Excuse my language but I think something like that deserves it. Career here I come! By Halloween, I will hopefully be trying to lose my last 10-15 pounds. :] Than if I need it, Tummy tuck for christmas :/

Mine never mentioned alcohol. I am young, so I could be different. I drink hard alcohol when I do drink. i make a low calorie mixed drink and it keeps me chillin all night. Just one, your stomach will be so small and your food intake so much less. I saw no beer because of carbination. I didn't drink until about 4 months post op though. and i heal even faster. I'd wait at least 6. I have had absolutely no trouble with it either. No irritation or throwing up. Nothing. But everybody is differnt. You should contact the surgeon you will have and they should let you know.

Wow thats bull shit lessme! You should see if you can get into a fill center.

Hey get those other people out of your head. My full blood sister can eat 12 peanut butter and jelly sandwiches and lose 3 pounds. Its just the way the world is. I am thankful I was fat first or I would probably have been a stuck up bitch. Everything happens for a reason. Stop letting your head get in the way and listen to your heart. If it's meant to be you will know. I always know when something is the right thing to do because I am hesitant. Making excuses is your sub-conceince taking the easy way out. The hard thing to do, is usually always the right thing to do. Make yourself a pros and cons list and than ask your heart what it is that you want. :] It'll come to you.

oh you will be able too. I also did a radio interview with KPS that is on their website if you search gastric banding.

the article is also about him. it should be coming out on the 21st. Dr Horgan is amazing huh? The waiting room always sucks but I've never met a doctor who cared so much.

OK I catch your drift. It sounds to me like you just need a fill. Sometimes it also helps to cut down on carbs. I don't and I'm fine but my mom has a big problem when she has sugar or starch she gets so hungry super fast. She doesn't have a band but that could be your body type. If you aren't having trouble with food at all and aren't feeling restriction get a fill. CAll your doctor today because waiting could break you and we wouldn't want that :] Let me know how it goes.

NO NO NO! You probably need another fill. Because of the swelling from irritation, you probably just can't take all of it at once. If you are hungry now, than its time for fill. You have to give your stomach time between fills to get used to it. If you find yourself hungry that soon, than you need a fill. Do you have trouble passing food? Do you drink any liquids with your meals?