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DON'T GET DISCOURAGED! my hubby has been going through the motions since Oct 2018 and finally he has a surgery date 11 months later after countless of those needed specialists sign-offs, A1C issues, and an unrelated crappy prostate diagnosis... he's been through a LOT of BS to get to this point so stick with it and stay positive!

I did not have any real support. My mother, who is my only real family, was 20000% against it and my coworkers were like "oh, okay" when I told them. lol. I've found that I don't actually need anyone else because I am accountable only to myself. It's nice talking online to people that have had it, too. But in "real life"... I'm my own cast.

Hi, and welcome! Glad you are here!
I think your "cold feet" are super, super normal. Who wouln't be somewhat scared of changing up their insides? This isn't an easy thing to wrap ones head around, no matter how long you have worked toward it, and the reality of getting that approval is both exciting and downright scarey.
Having some nerves or doubts at points along the way isn't in itself an indicator of not being "fit" or ready for surgery. (I think you would find it really difficult to find many here that didn't have these same questions/ fears at some points both before and after surgery.)
As far as going through with it, only you can really know if you should or not.
Here are some things to consider in deciding:
1. You mentioned that you are afraid of the lifelong changes you will have to make because "if you could do them you would have done them already".
Every single person who has ever had weightloss surgery for obesity has had the surgery for this VERY reason. They chose surgery, as a last resort, because they COULD NOT make those (lasting/enough) changes on their own without the tools the surgery brings. You are in good company on that one for sure. This does not mean you would be a "failure" in changing after surgery.
2. If you choose not to have the surgery, ask yourself the following.
What will change? What will stay the same? What will improve? What may get worse?
Are you Ok with those outcomes?
3. Your story is your own. You are not your Mother, your Husband or anyone else. (Including me!) What happens to one person may never be a part of your own journey. (Though I totally get wanting to hear experiences.) Stories about other people's experiences are useful in lots of ways, but at the end of the day, they are still just other people's stories and I think a decision this big should be made independent of them. Make your decision based on what you know best as it applies to you. Lay out the facts you know about your situation and make your best choice.
Whatever your decision, I hope you find peace in it, and I hope you find faith in yourself there too.
Trust yourself. 💙
(((Hugs)))

Arrived at the hospital ~5:30am for a 7am surgery signed in filled out remaining paperwork.
Taken to the preop area, urine sample collected (pregnancy testing), changed into hospital gowns then weight, temp, blood pressure etc. testing.
Layed on bed while IV line was placed, asked to confirm personal info (name, date of birth, reason for visit -to make sure patient is aware of procedure)
Lactated Ringers began (IV fluids), Surgeon stopped by to go over the plan answer questions (very calming) next Anesthesiologist stops by and asked confirmation questions (name, date of birth, reason for visit -to make sure patient is aware of procedure) tell you the type of anesthesia answer questions.
VSG:
Versed Fentanyl given while being wheeled back to OR. I arrived to cheering and applause from surgical staff. Greeted everyone with fairytale princess waves. Transfered from bed to OR table. While monitoring devices were placed i drifted to sleep.
RNY conversion:
Wheeled back to OR, with jokes and laughter, where i was introduced to every member of the team (by name and position) who would work with me. Greeted by everyone with hand shakes or waves. Transfered to OR table.
Versed Fentanyl given while friendly chatter and banter ensued. Monitoring devices placed, i asked Anesthesiologist how long until i feel asleep, he told me to count to 100. Oxygen mask placed, i only remember counting to 8. Fell asleep immediately.
Both surgeries:
In and out of lucidity while in recovery area. Not fully awake until i reached my room ~1-2 hrs after surgery ended.

DON'T GET DISCOURAGED! my hubby has been going through the motions since Oct 2018 and finally he has a surgery date 11 months later after countless of those needed specialists sign-offs, A1C issues, and an unrelated crappy prostate diagnosis... he's been through a LOT of BS to get to this point so stick with it and stay positive!

DON'T GET DISCOURAGED! my hubby has been going through the motions since Oct 2018 and finally he has a surgery date 11 months later after countless of those needed specialists sign-offs, A1C issues, and an unrelated crappy prostate diagnosis... he's been through a LOT of BS to get to this point so stick with it and stay positive!

Thanks all! I got the call at the end of last week that I was APPROVED! Surgery is scheduled for the 28th but I now have a small cold that I hope doesn't derail things

I just experienced a similar set back because of someone’s lack of attention on getting my paperwork in...I went through the months of appointments and had my endoscopy and was told I’d be having surgery mid June early July at the latest...long story short that didn’t happen and I felt very discouraged but I am happy to say that next week is my pre op and Sept 3rd is my scheduled surgery date...keep your chin up, it will happen, it’s just beyond anxious feeling when the ball is in their court and your waiting and counting on several other hands to complete your paperwork and it’s hard not knowing and not having control...good luck!

I started my clear liquid diet this morning. Finally having to start the diet is really making it set in that I have surgery on Monday!
This whole journey started with my PCM sending a referral to the surgeon in late Feb. Now suddenly here I am. I'm so excited and so nervous all at the same time. I'm mostly nervous because I am having my surgery while my hubby is still deployed. Timing wise with my daughters gymnastics meet schedule this is just when it needed to be. Now rather than in Jan or Feb.
My mom will be staying with me but, she is legally blind so it should be interesting (my dad will be transportation). My daughter will be staying at a team-mates house for about a week so her practice schedule isn't interrupted since her first meet is on the 7th. I even dropped off my fur baby this morning at the kennel just because he is 15 and I'm not sure he could get right care at home. All of these preparations are just slamming into me like OMG. I can't remember how much Protein. I can't remember all the Vitamins I can't remember jack so I'm searching through all of my documents to remember.
Anyone else feeling so all over the place like I am right now?

Hey lady! I feel & join you in your EXCITEMENT! I have a conference call with my dietitian on Monday (she wants to see my journal and help me with my first stage of the pre-op diet). I meet my supervisor and a few co-workers on Wednesday to go over my 3 week backup plan. Not telling them what my surgery is - don't need any judgment from work : ( Started all my Vitamins a month in a half ago so that's down packed now. Just a little nervous from reading the posts of the sleevers who crossed over in the last two-three weeks regarding the gas pain : ( NEVERTHELESS - WE WILL BE VICTORIOUS! What time is your surgery Monday? Will definitely lift you up in prayer and know your surgery will be a total success! This time next year we all will be posting AMAZING transformation photos!!!!

(my first post). CONGRATS!

(my first post). CONGRATS!

Beautiful words I heard today come from my surgeons mouth, "Are you ready for this?" #LoveHIm We discussed the surgery, time off from work as well as recovery time and most importantly the success of the Roux en Y. We also discussed the success of the Roux en y after being banded along with the time I will need to be off from work (possibly 2 wks but said if I want to go back before then I could). Also I am truly grateful that I have a surgeon, nurses and dietitian that truly understand the struggle of weight loss. Just him explaining to me why people struggle with weight loss and he totally hit the nail on the head about it at least in my circumstance! So now my worries are: will the insurance company approve the date and surgery. Trying to have it before the end of 2019 d/t we have met our deductible already for this year. 😂
ps. LOLOLOL so excited!

congrats on your surgery. my immediate thought on your post was ....one day after surgery she's on-line?! sounds like SUCCESS to me!!! congrats.

DON'T GET DISCOURAGED! my hubby has been going through the motions since Oct 2018 and finally he has a surgery date 11 months later after countless of those needed specialists sign-offs, A1C issues, and an unrelated crappy prostate diagnosis... he's been through a LOT of BS to get to this point so stick with it and stay positive!

DON'T GET DISCOURAGED! my hubby has been going through the motions since Oct 2018 and finally he has a surgery date 11 months later after countless of those needed specialists sign-offs, A1C issues, and an unrelated crappy prostate diagnosis... he's been through a LOT of BS to get to this point so stick with it and stay positive!

So had my sleeve yesterday afternoon. I totally expect to have pain but is it normal for every tiny baby sip to hurt like hell once it hit? Even my pain meds hurt 😭
how long does this last?

It has been 7 years since I had the Sleeve. I was 275 prior to the surgery. My goal was 200. My lowest was about 194. I am 200 today.
First pic is pre-surgery. Second Pic was last week in my kilt. I Wass 52 when I had my surgery. I am 59 now.

I love a man in a kilt! Great job, you look fantastic!

The pre-approval stuff is brutal and very discouraging. Use the time wisely - learn all you can, collect recipes that are bari-friendly, find out which of your favorite restaurants will allow you to order lunch-sized or senior meals after surgery, etc. Check out local places where you can find inexpensive transition-size clothes (Goodwill, resale shops, thrift stores, etc.) This will keep your process moving forward even if the insurance is dragging. Best of Luck!

DON'T GET DISCOURAGED! my hubby has been going through the motions since Oct 2018 and finally he has a surgery date 11 months later after countless of those needed specialists sign-offs, A1C issues, and an unrelated crappy prostate diagnosis... he's been through a LOT of BS to get to this point so stick with it and stay positive!

I started this process back in March. My insurance required 3 months of a supervised diet with my primary and she was a total pain in my ass, she rescheduled two of my appointments then took forever to get paperwork to my surgeons office despite me asking her to send it to my surgeon at the conclusion of my final appointment. Then the surgeons office had someone, who is "no longer there", that misplaced more of my paperwork so they had to request that stuff again too. Everywhere I looked the typical turn around time for approval with my insurance is about 3 working days, it's been a week and they're still reviewing it. They say it could take 15-30 days but I can feel free to call every day while waiting but the approval (or denial) letter would come via snail mail. I'm just starting to feel so discouraged. with this whole process.

I can tell you what a difference the sleeve surgery has made for me at 54 years old in the last 8 months. I no longer have sleep Apnea, Gerd, Acid Reflux, or High Blood Pressure. I've gotten rid of all of those comorbidities. I feel so much better and more confident. Good luck on your WLS journey.

My husband and I had VSG on 7/9 along with a hiatal hernia repair for me. We had our 1 month post op weigh in Friday. Before we had this surgery we made a pact that if we were spending all the money to do this we were not going to do the minimum we were DOING IT “like a boss”. Following the plan, working the program, working our asses off in the gym, and leaning on each other for support when we need it.

The first couple weeks of surgery are HARD, mentally more so than physically. But physically sometimes it sucks too, you will have side pain sometimes, you’ll be nauseated sometimes you’ll throw up sometimes. But it’s all so worth it. Mentally your mind is racing what have I done to myself? This liquid diet sucks! Since when are there so many food commercials? You sometimes have mental cravings so strong that make you feel so desperate you might even cry. And in that low dark place you will long for the comfort of food, but food cannot comfort you anymore. It’s almost like a grieving process and it SUCKS but it gets better. Eventually if you keep saying NO ! Those cravings fade away. I’m not saying I don’t have any cravings anymore but they are few and far between and easily dismissible. I also consider myself “lucky” to have a picky pouch, if I eat a bite of something something that’s even the least bit fatty or greasy it’s coming back and I’m cool with that because it definitely makes me have zero interest in those types of things. Me, my eggs, deli turkey, turkey pepperoni, shredded chicken, string cheese, and PB 2 have become pretty good pals. For the first time in my life I eat to live instead of living to eat.

We went through every step of this together from the consultations to the pre-op requirements to surgery and continue to fight this DAILY battle as a team. This surgery has already changed our life in so many ways and i have no doubt that it will continue to have such a positive impact. This surgery has changed the two of us, it has changed our marriage, our relationships with others and our lives as a whole. It’s been a wild fast ride. Neither of us have one ounce of regret this is absolutely the best decision we’ve ever made. We push each other every day and I can’t imagine having gone through this alone without that support.

Surgery Day 7/9/19 - 340 & 290 lbs
Friday 8/9/19 - 272 & 241 lbs
Total loss since surgery- 68 & 49 lbs
Loss as a couple - 117lbs

This was my very concern. I was advised to just take my metformin. I was on that, plus glimperide and 72 units of lantus at night. It is best to discuss this with his endocrinologist.
I Am now on an occasional glimperide or 25 units of lantus at night, depending on my bs numbers. Hopefully as I continue to lose I will not need anything anymore. I'm almost 6 months post-op and almost halfway to my Dr's goal. Good luck!