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Okay, I know the title sounds sorta' childish... but it is really really bothering me.
I was NEVER made fun of when I was fat. Ever. No one ever commented on my appearance.
But for the FOURTH time in two weeks, random internet assholes have made fun of how I look. This morning I woke up to some girl commenting on a totally unrelated post I made that "weight loss and anorexia is bad for the skin and I look old af" and the other day some guy said it "looks like I don't have any face left".
Like really cruel, eff'd up comments about my weight and my slim face. I don't engage; I just delete my comment and the entire thread. But it's really starting to hurt my feelings. I am finally happy and healthy but now I get mercilessly mocked for being a normal weight?? I don't understand. Even my mom has been saying things about how thin I am and how thin my face looks and it bothers me. My boss even makes comments about how I am thin and how she doesn't understand why I don't gain any weight because she does see me eat pizza and stuff sometimes.
My doctors all say I am a healthy weight and my labs are fine. I feel like I look fine. I do feel like my face is a tiny bit too skinny, but I can't help where the weight came off. I am certainly not anorexic. I know I shouldn't let the comments of strangers (or anyone) bother me, but it really does. This is definitely NOT something I expected to have happen. I'm just feeling really down this morning... I think because the last month or so in particular I've been getting a lot of negative feedback from all over the place about how I look. I'm not here to please anyone with my appearance, but I wish people would just mind their own business. I know it's the internet and trolls exist but this is totally unexpected ****. I feel like I could cry.

From your side banner your weight seems in healthy range on the BMI scale. But if you are feeling unwell then that’s something else.
Have you had your gallbladder checked out? You might need a HIDA scan with CCK and also check the bile ducts you could have bile reflux from the gallbladder. Rapid weight loss leads to gallbladder surgery for a large percentage of people. I had mine out during my surgery due to chronic inflammation.
I haven’t considered my weight too low yet, I’m still within BMI range for my height of 5’ though I did go past my goal. I probably shouldn’t go further. Some parts of me are just bony and we’re before losing weight. I’m not worried about it at the moment unless it effects my chronic illness. I feel like I eat as much as I can.
I Do still have issues and know how it’s a pain dealing with doctors. I had been told some months back now, that I had stricture, Schatzki’s ring, sliding hiatal hernia. My surgeon did one balloon dilation but it was so narrowed it likely needed several. But I made the mistake of having my gastroenterologist do my second endoscopy since I was told I needed a colonoscopy which I regretted afterwards. I won’t get into why.
i kept telling the dr I’ve been having such intense pain and spasms under my ribs on the left side where the remnant stomach is. I had history of ulcers there. I’m having a double balloon enteroscopy June 10th. It was postponed we’ll actually canceled since I discussed it with my surgeon in February, didn’t see the special gastroenterologist until March and couldn’t schedule the test until April and then it got canceled ... that wasn’t even the only medical test to be canceled indefinitely.
had to try to edit myself I write too much and I realize, I’m sorry I’m no help. It can be hard to pinpoint what the problem might be. The surgeon needs to know in case they need to run any tests. Try increasing your Protein intake. Mixing plain Fage Greek yogurt (Or TwoGood yogurt) with PEScience select Protein Powder tastes really good.

protein I use: http://rwrd.io/c6uus2e

Yup. At 9-12 months, I could not keep weight on, no matter how much I ate. I was literally stuffing myself. And now at 15 months out, I have started to gain. Others Feb 2019 ers have also started to experience this. I would say, "enjoy the ride while you can," When the honeymoon is over, it is over. Now I am going back to the basics to get those 7 pounds back off, and it is not easier the 2nd time around.

How about trying some of the higher calorie Ensure drinks? So you can increase your calories, but still get lots of nutirients?

I lost around 215-220 lbs (I originally lost 235 lbs - I gained 15-20 lbs during year 3 post-op). I'm still drinking one Protein Shake a day, but that's because we discovered early on that I malabsorb Protein (I may have malabsorbed it even before surgery, but we never did a baseline on protein, so we'll never know). I have to have at least 100 grams of protein a day or my prealbumin levels tank, so having a protein shake every day helps me get there. Otherwise, most patients only need 60-80 grams of protein a day, so you can usually get there just through food alone once you're a few months out.
I've been eating normally for a long time. I can maintain my weight if I average around 1700 calories a day - so that's not much less than a woman my age and activity level who's never had weight loss surgery (of course, i was not eating that much when I was in weight loss phase)

Good morning everyone my name is kali. I am getting gastric bypass on june 30. My situation a little bit different from everyone on here I've been diagnosed with gastroparesis it's a serious condition where I cannot keep anything down my stomach does not digest food correctly. I'm getting gastric bypass to treat the gastroparesis but also for weight loss my gerd and to help with my PCOS also. I'm nervous about going to surgery I know I'll be fine I know it's going to be a struggle afterwards I am starting to do the pre-op diet now so I can prepare myself before the surgery so my body to get used to everything if any of you have any meal preps or meals choose and what I can eat i would really appreciate it I would also like to hear your stories and how it helps you and what was the worst part of it thank you hope to hear from you
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salad ... then Halotop (which is now too sweet for my palate)

Thank you for all the amazing advice!! I love hearing it all no matter how tough or real it may be!I
1 - I'm going to try this! I think its a great idea and it will keep me in check. I tend to get caught up in my life and with whats going on that I forget about certain priorities and reasons why I am doing something. I'm going to add @GreenTealael advice on a sticky too and put it on my fridge!
2 - I needed to hear this!
4 & 5 - The not going to places where you are tempted is something I need to follow! It sounds like such an obvious thing to do but you know, i never thought about that lol.
For the other sentences of yours from #'s 4 & 5 I highlighted (sorry if it sounds confusing, Im not good at explaining):
I think this starts with how I became so morbidly obese. I haven't found anyone on here with a similar struggle so anyone reading this feel free to chime in but my reason for obesity wasn't sugar, junk food, fried foods, or Snacks. There was never soda in the house growing up, there was bread but I personally don't like anything doughy or bread like (besides tortillas here and here), all food was made with barely any oil and when meat was fatty, the oils would be scooped out while cooking. There was no bottled juice in the house, only homemade, and there were no snacks. If I was hungry my dad would say "makes some eggs".......... that was my snack. Overeating and eating super late was what got me morbidly obese . No, i wasn't overeating a salad (although at times I would) but I was overeating chicken, pork, red meat, fish, and rice... lots and lots of overeating because that's just how i was raised. Since I was a kid my dad and family would serve me huge portions because that was their norm. I remember being a 10 yr old getting served this humongous bowl of beef Soup with lots of veggies, chunks of meat and a big side of white rice. You would think that would be the only meal for the day, but no it was just breakfast. lunch was always late and it was just as big and dinner was eaten even later and it would be something like chicken stew with a mountain of white rice, boiled potatoes, salad, and usually a homemade dressing.
The most common thing on here that i read all the time is that many folks struggle with unhealthy food, including sweets, soda, fast food, bread, and Pasta cravings. I cant say this is the case with me. I didnt eat that slice of cake yesterday out of temptation, I ate it because i was really hungry. The cake that I had planned to eat this Saturday wasn't because I'm cake obsessed, it was because its my bf's birthday. I need to learn to be ok with not indulging in every celebration like @GreenTealael has pointed out ... which is something I 100% believe i can do! I feel that my true struggle is in my everyday meal prep and eating.
The overeating has now stopped because of the surgery, but how do I change the mentality that what I am making is in fact not good in the long run or too heavy? Or is it good? I was taught to believe that what I have been eating my whole life is healthy. I can recognize that the potatoes, and rice are not the best choices but its hard for me to recognize that the Soups, stews, and other dishes I have been eating my whole life and continue to make in my meal prep cant stay in my everyday diet even though I make it even healthier than before. Should I be doing the "very clean, very light, super nutrient dense foods" like salads with some kind of meat everyday until I get to my goal, then have my regular dishes that I consider healthy when I'm in maintenance?
Side Comment/Personal Note: Sometimes I think about how weird obesity is. My biological mother, and her family were all overweight and morbidly obese. Their diet consisted of junk food, Armenian food, and fatty American food. I never had any influence at all by her or her side of the family because I just never saw them. After my folks divorced when I was four, I think I saw my mom twice more (her choice) and that's it. Over the years I heard she became morbidly obese. Her and a lot of her family members passed away because of obesity. I know genes play a large role too but it still blows my mind how the weight problem followed me even though I didn't grow up on her diet. I was on the same diet as my dads family and they are all skinny and fit and I'm a giant ball...
Anyways as far as the "Embrace boring. I'd eat the same little Breakfast over and over, the same kind of lunch over and over." I agree and this is something im currently working on with my nutritionist. She tells me "meals don't have to be this amazing, glamorous thing." "Sometimes they need to serve their purpose which is give you Protein and nutrients and nothing more." This is something else thats taking me a while to learn because " Un Peruano no come para vivir, vive para comer" which basically translates to a Peruvian doesn't eat to live, we live to eat. Yeah it sounds pretty crazy but its true. Breaking habits of a culture that focuses on food more than any other aspect of their culture is extremely hard and sometimes I wish I could trade the junk food and sweet crave problem a lot of other people have for this problem.
@FluffyChix You've done so well at losing and staying very strict its amazing and I hope one day I experience that very same feeling you have when looking at your body!

I had to think about this and your cake post for a while before answering. I can't possibly top @GreenTealael's sage advice. It was awesome!
We all have to find our way through this with rules that make sense to us and that we're able to live with and sustain, rather than to rebel against. And what works for me, might not work for any other person. Same for you.
These couple of things really helped me get real with myself and my behaviors/choices/relationship with food.< /span>
1. Know my WHY. I had to literally write it out and I taped it to the top of my puter, and to my pantry, fridge, and bathroom mirror. I reminded myself every day about WHY, just WHY I chose to change my life in such a dramatic way: RNY surgery.
2. Commit every day for one day and one day only. Cuz I can endure ANYTHING for one day. I will let the string of one days behind me, add up as they do when you only commit to today. Don't worry about what you will do tomorrow.
3. I knew at my weight (287lbs starting) that if I did not break the bond that food had on me and break my focus on it, I would not get to goal. I would end up rationalizing my behavior and eating crappy off-plan super indulgent food. So during WLM I broke up with: food magazines, food tv, youtube food vids other than the what i eat in a day ones, commercials. I closed my eyes and muted the tv everytime a food commercial came on.
4. I did not go where I was tempted. I only went to Cheesecake Factory one time-for a mandatory friends birthday. I had coffee and one bite of sugar free plain cheese cake. Cuz it was about the celebration and friendship. I'd decided beforehand that I would not cheat, and that it wasn't worth wasting the opportunity to lose and get to goal. I broke up with the kinds of heavy, beautiful, calorie dense, delicious foods I see you posting a lot of and turned instead to very clean, very light, super nutrient dense foods with fresh flavors and crisp fresh taste.
5. Embrace boring. The less you interact with food, the better. I'd eat the same little Breakfast over and over, the same kind of lunch over and over and plain grilled or pan sauteed chicken, turkey, fish, or shrimp with steamed veg, no butter or oil, and avo/tom salad. And it worked. For the first time ever, I made goal. Not only that, but I made all 3 goals. This morning I'm at 130.2lbs and yesterday was my 2 year surgiversary.
I'm in maintenance now and have more endulgences, but I STILL don't eat nor interact with food the way I did when I was a regular at the Obesity Ball. We are known by our actions and the company we keep. So I still choose to avoid certain trigger restaurants with calorie laden foods: Cracker Barrel, Cheesecake Factory, Chuy's Tex Mex, any Asian Place on the face of the earth. Avoidance and abstinence are FOR ME, the only ways I control my food addiction/enmeshment.
What's the payout? I get to live in a 130lb body, feel great in my clothes and with confidence in my relationships with family, friends, and strangers. I get to run. I get to do physical things outside in appropriate clothes. It's worth any bite of cake in the world. No cake tastes better than this feeling of freedom of bondage to the foods that made me morbidly obese, that I tried to kill myself with--death by slow bleed.

I wonder if its culturally a NY thing? (Katz deli pictured)

If you try it, have it sliced very thin and by preference I always cook and eat it hot

So I’m in the pre op phase and as I get closer to getting my surgery date .... I’m becoming increasingly excited about losing weight and being slim again!! I feel kinda bad about being so excited... my reason for getting the surgery is not purely weight-loss. I have type 2 diabetes that is under control but I’m sick of taking medication, also inner cranial hypertension. I’m 5”3 and 200 pounds with a BMI of 34.5 ... so I know I won’t be losing more then 100 pounds at most. Yet and still .. all I can think about is getting back to my high school weight ... so am I a horrible person ?

Whats really neat is when people who dont know you or that you have surgery make comments on your small size. I was trying out a bicycle and the guy in the store was holding it for me. "You won't fall, I've held much bigger people than you. You're little." !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My “6 month” check in was scheduled for mid-March, but was canceled due to COVID-19. My weight loss had stalled at about 50% of my excess weight and I was feeling really down about it. I started Noom about 5 weeks ago and have slowly lost 10 more lbs. Too slowly. Now I’m ratcheting up my exercise with HIIT and body strength training on the Peloton app. Free for 90 days.

I know EXACTLY how you feel. That’s how I felt when my surgery got postponed too. But the good news is you’ve been approved, so it will happen:) And sure you may have slipped a little with diet, but you can jump right back into it! And you’ve done a lot of good changes, especially quitting smoking. You’re going to do great come surgery time:) Best of luck!

It's a new day where I am now. I am sitting in front of my computer sipping on my morning protein-coffee while reading comments here.
Thank you all for the kind responses.. I am happy that I came back to the forums. ♥
I am getting myself back on track today.

Ya, I think you may be adding unnecessary worry on your plate, lol! (But it get it, change and the unknown can be anxiety-inducing).
Stay the course, keep your eye on the prize and do the honest best you can do...its totally worth it. ❤️
Complications may or not be in your future, but I figure its better to leave the worry on those if they actually happen.

You didn't state your starting weight, but regardless, it's pretty normal. And like the posters said above, its mostly Water weight.
Excited for you for starting this...it really is a game changer.
Good Luck!

Interestingly enough some people never seem to lose that feeling of hunger. Nobody will ever know if these patients never lost physical hunger at least temporarily in the first place or if they're confusing "head hunger" with "physical hunger". There is no test that can differentiate between the two.
Acid reflux is the devil. Bile reflux is the devil's big fat mother. I got two revisions because of these issues, both times associated with hiatoplastic because of hiatus hernia.
My second revision was on 26th February and this time eating is more "problematic" so to say. The MGB seems to be more "forgiving" than the long limb RNY in some way. Or maybe I just don't remember several issue I had in the first months after MGB, not sure.
In general dense foods tend to give me stomach ache and sometimes sit in the stomach like a brick and I hate this feeling so I understand not wanting to eat heavy/dense foods.
It's always hard to tell via internet. Regarding the vomiting after dense food it might be that you're eating too fast or too much or don't chew well enough or a combination of this. However, this is something only you can tell. Maybe you could try a denser food, chew the heck out of it, stop after a few bites or set a timer to e. g. 20 min and take your time.
Regarding the reflux you could play around with different foods. I'm sensitive to e. g. dairy, dry red wine and in general very fatty foods, with nuts and nut based foods being an exception. The combination of high Protein and fat is the worst regarding my stomach issues. It also can help having a time span of about 2 h between last meal and going to bed.
However, if your reflux is that bad you might consider revision to RNY anyway regardless of weight.

it's not that unusual for GERD to start up a couple of years after VSG. And it's also not unusual for people to have revisions a few years after the original surgery.

Yes 1500 is what you'd eat too maintain your weight not to lose weight..

I eat 1500 calories a day. I did go to my surgeon as my comment states. Acid started a few months ago. Thanks for your condescending and rude comments. I cannot change eating habits if what I eat makes me sick. I’m looking for feedback from others who have encountered the problem not tell me I need an overeating group without understanding the physical issues.

My doctor said to eat very slowly because it takes about 20 minutes of your stomach being stretched to give the signal to your brain that you've eaten enough and retain that feeling of fullness for a few hours. I got an RNY but I imagine the same is true about a sleeve. It's all about tricking your brain that you are full after a half cup of food.

many surgeons put patients on a PPI for the first 3-6 months - are you on one? If not, you might want to let them know what's going on. Feeling like that would be miserable!
also, some people develop lactose intolerance - at least temporarily - after surgery. Can you eat other things?

depends on the program. Ours had us on purees as soon as we left the hospital. BUT....if it's bothering the OP, then yes - she should probably go back to liquids for the time being.

My nutritionist told me that if any time, I felt uncomfortable or that food was disagreeing with me, to go back to the previous phase for a week or 2 and then try again later. Sounds like maybe you should stick to thick liquids for another week while your body continues to heal?
Best of luck to you!!