So I’m in the pre op phase and as I get closer to getting my surgery date .... I’m becoming increasingly excited about losing weight and being slim again!! I feel kinda bad about being so excited... my reason for getting the surgery is not purely weight-loss. I have type 2 diabetes that is under control but I’m sick of taking medication, also inner cranial hypertension. I’m 5”3 and 200 pounds with a BMI of 34.5 ... so I know I won’t be losing more then 100 pounds at most. Yet and still .. all I can think about is getting back to my high school weight ... so am I a horrible person ?

Of course you aren't a horrible person! You care enough about your health that you will be undergoing WLS. If you mean are you horrible for worrying about whether or not you'll reach your high school weight, well, that's not horrible either, but I think you'll find after your surgery that you won't obsess about your final weight, especially since you won't have to lose much until you feel much better, and your diabetes should ease up dramatically!

After your surgery you'll have other things to worry about, like all the cute new clothes you'll have to buy!

Edited February 4, 20206 yr by JRT Mom

Weight loss isn't necessarly all about health, its about how we look and feel too. Know that sometimes a low high school weight isn't achievable for some (a lot?) of people. At that age people haven't fully developed and their weight is that of a teenager not an adult.

For instance I kind of get a feeling your goal weight is 100lb or perhaps less. At your height 100lb gives a BMI of 17.7 which is actually underweight, so a goal weight less than 100lb would put you more underweight.

I am in the pre-op phase as well. I want to lose weight to be healthy, where I can do things that I couldn't before and be able to have children that I can keep up with, etc. However, I think we are all a bit vain to some extent and really want our bodies to look good, too! I can't wait to be able to wear cute clothes, walk by a full-sized mirror and check myself out instead of hurrying by so I don't have to see it anymore.

So, no, I don't think you're a horrible person and you're definitely not alone in those feelings!

Hell no you have a goal to get healthy! Get to the high school weight and healthy = This is you life do with it what you want

Of course not, why not think of yourself thin and healthy?

@hop_scotch oh no my goal is 135-140!!! I’ve never been a 100 pounds in high school lol. Would like to lose about 65-70 pounds or so.

Heck no you're not a horrible person. Feeling better about the way you look is a nice side effect to the health benefits of losing the weight. Remember, "healthy" includes your mental status too! Good luck on your journey!

I had zero health issues from my weight, so my motivation was 90% vanity. I certainly don't think I am a horrible person.