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I didn't understand why some people didn't want there families to know they had WLS . I do now! Last night at a family get together everyone is around the counter getting there pizza and whatnot. I grabbed a tiny piece of french bread and took out the middle thats wonderfully soft. Everyone said you cant eat that. I said ohh yes i can. Then my sis said dont you dare eat that. I shoved the whole thing in my mouth it was great! I should of put "i cant believe its not butter spray on it". In that moment my eyes are opened to all the judement you get. People who know you had something to help u lose weight watch you. Everything i put in my mouth there judging me thinking im not taking this weight loss seriously. Its annoying! They all make me want to hide in the bathroom and pig out! I didnt but wanted too. Lol.

I didn't understand why some people didn't want there families to know they had WLS . I do now! Last night at a family get together everyone is around the counter getting there pizza and whatnot. I grabbed a tiny piece of french bread and took out the middle thats wonderfully soft. Everyone said you cant eat that. I said ohh yes i can. Then my sis said dont you dare eat that. I shoved the whole thing in my mouth it was great! I should of put "i cant believe its not butter spray on it". In that moment my eyes are opened to all the judement you get. People who know you had something to help u lose weight watch you. Everything i put in my mouth there judging me thinking im not taking this weight loss seriously. Its annoying! They all make me want to hide in the bathroom and pig out! I didnt but wanted too. Lol.

I didn't understand why some people didn't want there families to know they had WLS . I do now! Last night at a family get together everyone is around the counter getting there pizza and whatnot. I grabbed a tiny piece of french bread and took out the middle thats wonderfully soft. Everyone said you cant eat that. I said ohh yes i can. Then my sis said dont you dare eat that. I shoved the whole thing in my mouth it was great! I should of put "i cant believe its not butter spray on it". In that moment my eyes are opened to all the judement you get. People who know you had something to help u lose weight watch you. Everything i put in my mouth there judging me thinking im not taking this weight loss seriously. Its annoying! They all make me want to hide in the bathroom and pig out! I didnt but wanted too. Lol.

So, I've graduated to soft-foods. Has anyone had the sense of eating, being full, and simultaneously feeling hunger pangs (not head hunger, actual hunger pangs?) It feels like I have a pouch which is working, and then a stomach below it, which is whining and raising holy hell at the same time. What's this about? Geesh.

I feel the same regret but starting focusing on becoming a new me hasnt changed my attitude much yet. (I dress better now tho, i actually where jewelry and put makeup on now that my face is thinner).I feel as if my happiness was taken from me. My happiness to food , my comfort my joy to food i havent been able to replace it with a hobbie or anything to help me feel whole again. My family was centered around food and feel like i always have a scowl on my face. I know i already had the surgery so theres nothing i can do about that now . The past is in the past and i have to move forward. Im hoping my negative attitude goes away in time but for now all ican do is stay on the path i picked. Many people recommend therapy or meds i know my therapist didnt want me to do the surgery so i kinda have to stick it to her when im 50pounds down then ill go see her. Haha. I cant go now she'll say i told u so. All we can do is look at tomorrow and focus on our future

Im what you call a debbie downer! I had my surgery may31st and regret every day i wish i wouldnt of done it. I didnt do all the research i should of just listened to the docters counceling class. Major mistake wish i would have never done this. Maybe it will change when im thin and wearing fun pretty clothes and feel sexy again but for now my attitude is it sucks!!

I was the stallingest staller who stalled. I stuck with my program and it did come off, just at a snails pace some months. I never had a big drop after a stall, it was usually 1 maybe 2 pounds. Everyone is different.
My statistics next to my name are a little misleading. I have lost 91 pounds, however that is from my highest weight 5 months prior to surgery. I lost weight while I was qualifying for surgery and had surgery at 204 pounds. I’ve lost a total of 69 pounds in 11 months, 16 of that alone has been over the past 2 months. I dug deep and got very serious about exercise the past few months.
Here is a graph of my loss that might help, I have posted it before, it is from a month ago. My surgery was on 8/13 this ends on 6/3. I only entered data when I lost weight and omitted 1-2 lb fluctuations to stay sane.
There is a thread called, embrace the stall on this board that is helpful.

I feel the same regret but starting focusing on becoming a new me hasnt changed my attitude much yet. (I dress better now tho, i actually where jewelry and put makeup on now that my face is thinner).I feel as if my happiness was taken from me. My happiness to food , my comfort my joy to food i havent been able to replace it with a hobbie or anything to help me feel whole again. My family was centered around food and feel like i always have a scowl on my face. I know i already had the surgery so theres nothing i can do about that now . The past is in the past and i have to move forward. Im hoping my negative attitude goes away in time but for now all ican do is stay on the path i picked. Many people recommend therapy or meds i know my therapist didnt want me to do the surgery so i kinda have to stick it to her when im 50pounds down then ill go see her. Haha. I cant go now she'll say i told u so. All we can do is look at tomorrow and focus on our future

never been asked. It was all my Doctor's idea, and I really felt robbed of my fertility. Took time and consoling and a therapy period to finally come to terms with this loss Why didn't we extend our family by adoption? Never was all that financially stable and I felt it was my fault for being so compliant, once again , to a man, doctor or not. I had and probably Will always have a poor emotional self-image. I felt I was being punished for having 3 children and deserved no better. It has taken years and years, but I don't weep about it as much as I once did.

Felt exactly the same way about another surgery, my tubal ligation. I wished for more children , I had been an only child, oh it sounds in theory a wonderful situation, but I can assure you it is not. I had difficulty delivering my Son the Tomkitten , my OB threatened if I attempted a 4th childnirth, it would be a Poro section. This means a Caesarean and immediate hysterectomy, I was scared into consent for a tubal ligation. My doctor claimed he spoke to my Late husband, who refused a vasectomy, so it would be up to me if I wanted to retain my uterus or risk dying attempting another childbirth. So feeling " backed to the wall" I signed consent papers. But was it truly my choice? No it was NOT and I found out much later that my Late Husband had

Talk your way through it. Be very specific and honest with yourself. Keep asking yourself why.... why are you feeling regret? When you have an answer again ask why you think that. Keep repeating this until you have gotten to the root cause. This forum has been great for me to express my thoughts through the process. I was prepared to be an emotional wreck post surgery particularly while still in liquid/mush/softs, I prepared for the worst but hoped for the best. So far its been a breeze. When you have dropped 50lbs you WILL feel better about yourself.

On my plan, i could have ground meats just before the solid food stage at week 6, I believe. Lettuce wasn't allowed until after week 9 due to the roughage part of it. I'm at 3 months out, off restriction and I still have issues with raw veggies, but it's getting better.

Think in terms of textures.
1.water, Clear Liquids, etc. 2. Mushy, pureed - applesauce, pudding, smoothie, yogurt. 3. Flaky fish - soft cooked vegetables, eggs, saute greens, soft fruit 4. Shrimp, lobster, scallops, AL dented vegetables. 5.Chicken, turkey, duck, etc - dark meat or white with sauce. 6. Steak, swordfish, - raw vegetables, apples, raw cabbage
Stages are not weeks, but tolerating textures. Progress when you can don't rush it.
If you are chewing and chewing and thinking - I don't know if this feels right or will go down - spit it out! Spit it out!

The cravings can get super intense. I've found myself craving things I haven't had in years and years. I go in for major distractions when they get bad. Go for a walk, read a book, do some writing. I've had to seriously talk myself into closing the fridge and walking away from the pantry. I've been doing my best to keep danger foods out of the house, but with a husband and two wee-lings, I'm not always successful, and I swear those damn goldfish crackers call my name.

And a lot of my problems are similar to AZhiker, don't have diabetes, high blood pressure but still have to watch it so my thoracic aorta aneurysm doesn't explode, I this far have retained my uterus, offered it up to my last gynecologist, nasty critter not only. declined harvesting it, he insulted me for asking, did haVE PCOS, PROBABLY THAT EXPLAINS only 3 children in 10 years when I was trying So Hard. I was an only child, sounds lovely in theory, in real life not so much. Have had joints removed because of degenerative arthritis which started at 25, some replaced ( knees) some lost forever. Most of my grip strength is gone from my right thumb. Imagine having to ask your son to constantly open Water bottles, use can openers, pick things up, because now my shoulders are shot, too many times having to beat the stain of pushing to get,up from seated positions. And I stood it well into my 70s, cried a lot from pain, embarrasment, you WANT to do things for yourself but you JUST CAN'T. anymore. Even if I NEVER fully heal, I still have a better quality of life than I did before. And I am a cock- eyed optimist, I still believe in future healing for me!

It seems to be common for some of us to have buyers remorse/regret. It may be surgery complications, struggling with first stages, having to give up old coping skills/behaviors and for others it’s a moment of what did I do, and I can’t go back. Knowing what you are getting into with surgery would have been helpful.
I have no regret. I knew exactly why I was doing this. I knew there is pain with any type of surgery, I understood the risks and the work I had to do.
Is bariatric surgery hard? Is losing weight on your own hard? Is struggling with obesity hard? Hell ya. Hang in there, these feeling usually pass with time.
For me, one of the best gifts out of surgery was overcoming WHY, I was obese. It forced me to deal with past issues and stress/emotional eating. Changing behaviors was hard but worth it. I’m happier, healthier and having adventures in life.

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Losing weight is not the real issue - we have all gotten real good at that. I bet I've lost well over 1,000 pounds......BUT...... like you said - it all comes back. This yo-yo stuff over the years will completely mess up your metabolism and the neuro/communication links between your stomach and brain. i believe the damage becomes irreversible at some point and WLS becomes the only option left. I also believed I should give it yet another chance "on my own" until my PCP talked some sense into me, "If you could have done it on your own, you would have by now." She was so right. WLS is certainly not easy and the weight loss will not be maintained without a complete lifestyle/eating makeover, but WLS gives us a tool and buys us time to get the changes in place so we can finally be successful at this.
I've read so many articles about the physiology of obesity, and it is complex issue with genetic, hormonal, environmental, childhood trauma, and even gut biome components. Losing weight is only one part of the equation - the smallest one, I think. The body puts all its resources together to regain, which has little to do with will power. It is a physiological response to set points that get lower and lower the more times we diet and put ourselves into caloric deficits. A really good book on the topic is "The Obesity Code" by Jason Fung. I feel incredibly blessed to have been able to have WLS (which hijacks the weigh gain roller coaster) and finally get my body and life back into a healthy balance.

Im 32, my mother says that to me as well that i will be glad i did this younger than her age. Surgery takes a toll she says. My biggest regret is because my 2 kids are under 5 and its a struggle takimg care of them and eatting good. Ive done the hcg diet twice in my life and lost 45pounds each time in 45 days. So i feel like i could of done the weightloss on my own without the surgery. My problem was getting upset in my relationship and life and eatting my feelings and gaining all that back. This sleeve i didnt do the research very much so losing and constantly stalling maked me regret alot. But at least my kids will grow up with a thin sexy mom rather than a fat ass one lol eventually!

I didnt have my eyes blurry sfter surgery but My toes tingled for 2 weeks after sleeve surgery. It was hard to sleep and i wanted to hit my foot on a rock to stop the tingling. It eventually stopped. Thank god!
Iam a month out now and i still regret every day i got this stupid surgery. Ive lost 27pounds but feel like its going slower than i thought cause in the past on the hcg diet i was losing a pound a day so frusterating. Its my fault for not doing enough research on this.
Dumping i had alot in the beginning but that did get better. First week it happened everyday. 2nt and 3rd week only when my body wasnt ready for certain foods and 4th week i actually am constipated alot and wondering what i should eat that will make me go. Hehe so gross sorry to talk about.
Things will get better in some sence of it all. Hopefully in a year we will be thankful we did this ****..

You look so young! You are experiencing the down side of surgery right now. But what you don't realize is that you are avoiding the downside of a life of obesity 30-40 more years down the road. Once you can't walk because of early arthritis brought on by decades of obesity, and you develop sleep apnea, high blood pressure, diabetes, fatty liver, and asthma, and start having joint replacements at an early age, you will wish (like many of us older folks) that you had done it much sooner. If I could have avoided 50 years of obesity and all the related health issues, I would certainly have done so. I am so sorry I waited until my life was literally slipping away from me. I regret all the lost years and all the things I would have loved to have done if only I had been thinner and without the pain of arthritis. You are going to have a full, active life, able to do anything you want! That is a wonderful gift to give yourself!
PS: Add in the polycystic ovary disease, infertility problems, and for me, an early hysterectomy due to endometrial hyperplasia secondary to obesity!

I didnt have my eyes blurry sfter surgery but My toes tingled for 2 weeks after sleeve surgery. It was hard to sleep and i wanted to hit my foot on a rock to stop the tingling. It eventually stopped. Thank god!
Iam a month out now and i still regret every day i got this stupid surgery. Ive lost 27pounds but feel like its going slower than i thought cause in the past on the hcg diet i was losing a pound a day so frusterating. Its my fault for not doing enough research on this.
Dumping i had alot in the beginning but that did get better. First week it happened everyday. 2nt and 3rd week only when my body wasnt ready for certain foods and 4th week i actually am constipated alot and wondering what i should eat that will make me go. Hehe so gross sorry to talk about.
Things will get better in some sence of it all. Hopefully in a year we will be thankful we did this ****..

I'm going to be honest and tell you I felt the exact same way. I regretted my surgery so bad the first week. After one month when I felt better and was put of pain and I could eat, I never looked back. The first month is just awful! I promise you will change your mind and come to be thrilled with your decision. Try and give it time. Best wishes to you!

So i went rogue on my diet and feel so much better now. I am 4 weeks post op sleeve and have lost 25pounds. Thought it would have been more but thats my bad for not excerciseing everyday i assume. Anyways i added 1 tbs of Peanut Butter a day and lick it off a spoon slowly it has actually made me have energy to move i normally feel so weak and it gives me what i need to take my kids to the park. Having just Protein gives me the low blood sugar feeling so peanut butter saves the day for me!

So i went rogue on my diet and feel so much better now. I am 4 weeks post op sleeve and have lost 25pounds. Thought it would have been more but thats my bad for not excerciseing everyday i assume. Anyways i added 1 tbs of Peanut Butter a day and lick it off a spoon slowly it has actually made me have energy to move i normally feel so weak and it gives me what i need to take my kids to the park. Having just Protein gives me the low blood sugar feeling so peanut butter saves the day for me!

Hiiiiii! It’s me again. I have been seriously slacking on this forum. Let’s see... where to start to catch you up! It was 2 months for me this past wed (June 25th) from my sleeve surgery. I cut my hair off! It’s starting to shed badly now so the really long hair was more of a pain then anything. I figured a short edgy hairdo would help make my hair look fuller. I def like it! My progress?..... I would say on the veryyyyy slow side. It’s frustrating but I trust my body and will listen to my dr who tells me it’s completely normal to stall. He said I’ve actually lost more (overall) then he expected at my 6wk checkup. I’ve been at 197 for 2 wks now. I get my 64ounces of Fluid in no problem, between 70-90g Protein a day and Usually keep my carbs between 40-50g a day. Depends on what I did for exercise that day. If I hit the gym and then walked 3-4 miles that day I will be on the higher side for everything as my nut and surgeon requested. I’m pretty much eating all normal food now. For the most part, everything I try seems to not give me issues but I learned the hard way my tummy does not like steamed broccoli. First time I had severe foamies/vomiting from anything was when I ate that 2 wks ago. However, Ever since that little episode with the broccoli, my stomach has been giving me all sorts of issues. At first I thought it was just from irritating my new stomach but now I’m pretty sure it’s something else. I started getting these horrendous stomach cramps on and off. They come on suddenly and leave me pretty much incapacitated until it just suddenly stops. Then I’m fine. They happen at anytime randomly so it’s not just when I eat. Then, about 4 nights ago, I got a terrible attack. The worst thing ever. I just finished some almonds (which I’ve eaten many times before and tolerated just fine) and got such a bad stabbing pain right in the center of my rib cage below the breast bones. Then got really nauseous and had awful diarrhea. I thought maybe this is a “dumping” episode I hear about but the diarrhea is still happening now and it’s 4 days later. I’m keeping up on my fluids but I feel like something isn’t quite right now. I definitely need to call my dr but keep putting it off. I’m sure this isn’t helping with my stall either. The past few days I’m not wanting to eat much either. I’m hoping it’s not my gallbladder but who knows. I’ll keep you guys posted when I get checked out! Progress pic below too!