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Check for insurance coverage of WLS➡
Primary physician ➡
Get a referral to Bariatric surgeon ➡
Decide if its right for you ➡
Eat at favorite restaurant ➡
Begin required diet/testing ➡
Wonder if you can just do it "naturally"➡
Tell family/friends ➡
Hear horror stories ➡
Eat at your second favorite restaurant ➡
Gain 5lbs & decide it's time to get serious ➡
Complete all prerequisites ➡
Wait for insurance approval & receive it ➡
Schedule surgery ➡
Wonder if you should just do it "naturally" ➡
Decide to do it anyway ➡
Start and finish some form of pre-op diet ➡
Have surgery ➡
*The rest is up to you*
Good Luck 🌈

So I went back to find this post I made YEARSSSSSSS AGO and a reply i made a couple of years later. This is when i still had my Lapband (didn't come out till March 2017). Since then I got divorced and remarried.... Band removal and Sleeve revision (aug. 28, 2019).
Posted April 25, 2013
I have not always needed you.... and one time in my life.. i was a "normal" person. Size 0-3... weigh a whopping 100lbs. Back in my single day... then one day you meet a wonderful guy and you fall in love... ahhh things are great. You get married and have a beautiful son. and life is good.... but then you notice that you’re not happy as you use to be. some days are worse than others... you find the strength to get up every day and go to work and live a "normal" life. Things are good at home... but something is missing... that spark, that feeling you use to get when you and your spouse were together intimately .. and you notice that those time has gotten further and further apart. and you think, what is going on? and one day the reason is staring you right in the face... the mirror... but in that mirror is someone else... surely, it's not me... I don't look like that... that's a ugly fat girl... i'm not ugly and i for damn sure am not fat. Can't be... i told my self-years ago i would NEVER like myself look like... those people... but then you look closer... and closer and there. i know those eyes.... those are my eyes... but why do they look so sad. I have happy eyes. and i see, i see the real me. the one others have been seeing for years.... how did i not see this... how did i let myself get like this ... how did i become that girl that now had to shop at the plus-size store... when just yesterday i was a size 3... How did i become the girl the skinny girls are not looking at and saying... i'll never let myself look like HER... and i'm the HER. this feeling takes the very last shred of self-confidence and stomps it into the dirt and spits on it. and you think...i am ugly i am fat i am unworthy of love.... unworthy of feeling good. and you start to eat... more and more and everything keeps getting worse. you stop taking care of yourself, stop dressing up stop wearing make-up and fixing your hair.... stop putting forth the effort at all... You are now sitting in a deep dark cave, alone and no one or nothing can show you the light....
But one day... you open your eyes expecting to see nothing... complete darkness and there it is... a speck of light.... it's tiny, but just right there in front of you. and you squint to see it.... making sure it's really there. that speck was my friend Paula... she had lb surgery and every day we talked and every day my light grow brighter.... I went to the doctor and did all the tests... did it all and the news that i was approved... OH ... JOy. I looked in the mirror and saw a glimmer of hope. But as the days grew closer... I started to think... WHAT IF... what if i die on the table, what if i fail at this too, what if i stayed fat forever... Then i saw this site...trolled for a long while. I didn't want to sign because, well what if someone knew me... the horror... Then i saw all the successive people... the beautiful woman and handsome men that in their before pictures looked so sad... sad like me. Then i saw the after pictures. and all the happy smiling faces... people who were bigger than me... now wearing size 6 jeans (lellow)... and i thought, i can do this i can get my life back.... I will be happy again. so on November 10, 2009... i awoke... was re-born. and i did do it... i lost 80lbs... it took me longer than most, but i don't care. I have donated all the 12-14-16 & 18 and moved into my own size 6... On Feb 15, 2012.... after a long hard fight.... i won and awarded myself a tummy tuck... i deserved it. I earned it....
so to my band... thank you... for sticking with me and always keeping me on track.
and too all you out there thinking about doing this.....search within yourself and be happy again... whichever way you choose.....
blessings.....
Posted March 31, 2015
Ak.... congrats on deciding to make a change in your life.
I re-read my post and im terrible in grammar... lol.... but it made me cry a little... to think back at how sad i really was. And to admit, i have started feeling that way again.... Not that i am "fat" by normal standards, im still a size 8. But i have put back 20 and feel defeated somewhat. Scared... too. Scared of the unknown, of the what if's.... What if i can't get my ass back in gear and do what i know i can. Depressed because i have no support at home with my husband. Who just yesterday said that my LB was a "hobby"... can you believe that... A Hobby... He hates that im no longer "fat"... he said.... your not fat, you're thick.... where other men will tell me im Hot, beautiful, sexy... not him... im thick. We went through a time where sex was great... 2-3 times a week... which was a vast improvement from 1-2 a YEAR... We are now back at 1-2 a month.... if im lucky.
February 14, 2020
Well, I did lose that 20 i put back and in fact did lose another 10... I soon after i decided that there was a lot more to the reason i was so unhappy. My ex was still very verbally abusive and very unsupportive. He still hated my weight loss. Still was not being intimate with me... and it got back down to 1-2 a year. Found out that he was in fact sleeping with another woman (he never admitted it). I talked with him and begged him to do counseling... he said no, that there was nothing wrong with him. So I sat down on the couch and said, if things don't change, i'm filing for divorce. Of course, he didn't believe me... but i pulled up my big girl "thongs" (hehe) and filed.... After he realized i was standing my ground, now he wanted counseling.... NOPE.. too late i was done and completly checked out. The marriage ended after 26 years. The day i said i was filing... it was like a thousand tons had been lifted. I started dating and found that men (and women) wanted me. I felt so good about myself. I even posted a profile on Match... and yes that is where i found Tim. I sware he is the last of a dying breed..... perfect gentleman, so kind and loving and giving.... has excepted me for me... He loves me thin, thick (gained 30lbs after band removal) and loves me now.... Thin again. He tells and shows me every day how much he appreciates me.... and it's such a wonderful feeling. So as of today, i'm 51 years old, still 5'2", CW 133.4, Current size 4.... Sleeve done Aug 28, 2019. So im 25 weeks PO. Got married on September 26, 2019..... I am the happiest i have ever been..... Loving me

How am I just seeing this thread now!? Im loving all these viewssss ❤️

Beautiful day! I even caught a rainbow 😃

First time visiting the beautiful California Dutch town of Solvang. The food there is amazing! Tried an ebelskiver for the first time and they’re delicious so I bought a cast Iron ebelskiver pan that will be great for various egg recipes.

First time visiting the beautiful California Dutch town of Solvang. The food there is amazing! Tried an ebelskiver for the first time and they’re delicious so I bought a cast Iron ebelskiver pan that will be great for various egg recipes.

I like how you put the vest over a thin, long sleeve turtle neck. See, I would not have bought the vest because of my awful bat wings 😔 Now seeing it like this I would definitely buy it.

Had my first appointment today with the surgeon. She was great! I was able to ask questions, and tell her about where I'm coming from/why I'm pursuing this opportunity all that. Gave me things to start thinking about in preparation.
She said she'd recommend the bypass instead of the sleeve, which is what I was going for. Doesn't see any medical problems that cause her concern.
Asking about a timeline what to expect, anddddddd she said that within the next 4 months I should be able to meet the requirements! I need to lose another 25 pounds to meet the weight for ideal safety. I've lost 12 pounds in the last 3 weeks. Super excited!! After I get that last 25 off, I have to do blood work and get cleared by the phychiatrist.

Don't chase the full feeling. This was a learning opp for you. The fullness in your chest is cuz of the pressure of your pouch and it may have backed up into your esophagus. Early out you CAN really injure yourself this way and bust a staple. Big time lean and big time Billy Bad Ass problem if you do that.
Eat ONLY to your prescription and follow your doc's plan. If necessary ask the doc or RD HOW MUCH VOLUME you should be eating at one meal. Have 6-8 mini meals.
At this time, I think I had 1/8c-1/4c volume limit? That is essentially a half to 1 egg.

Clipping my toenails and breathing at the same time 🤣 Which I can actually do now!

I've got it over a silk button up today, and it looks pretty nice. I'll upload a pic in a few.
I go back and forth about sleeveless tops because of my arm skin, but I've come to the conclusion that nobody cares about it as much as I do. Tank tops are absolutely wonderful in the summer, so I wear the hell out of them then.
I think we should all wear what we are comfortable in, but be kind to yourself ❤️

Happy Monday !

I’ve been lurking here daily, decided to join in. Not a fabulous outfit, but super comfy. The big deal for me is this top is a size MEDIUM! Old Navy, and got it off the clearance rack for $5.99. Size 14 jeans. I haven’t seen these sizes on myself since high school!

I like how you put the vest over a thin, long sleeve turtle neck. See, I would not have bought the vest because of my awful bat wings 😔 Now seeing it like this I would definitely buy it.

I like how you put the vest over a thin, long sleeve turtle neck. See, I would not have bought the vest because of my awful bat wings 😔 Now seeing it like this I would definitely buy it.

Well I finally got approved after Cigna denied initially! I am sooo excited and nervous at the same time. I call tomorrow to get scheduled and if all goes well I will have my surgery February 24th! I went and bought my stuff to start my 2 week liquid PRE-OP diet tomorrow! I am literally eating everything this weekend I can knowing it will be a long time until I eat again and hopefully never a lot! I am grateful for this forum. I feel so much more educated than I would have been had I not been able to read everyone's experience. I will keep you updated going forward. It has been a little over 2 weeks since they denied and since then my physicians office did an appeal and a peer to peer, so I am thankful! I started the process in November(actually thought about it for a year)

WOW, i am close to one year in and i started this journey at 306lbs and i am 191lbs. I started at a clothing size of 22 and now i am a size12. Wow wow wow!!!!! All heath issues resolved as well.

LOVE these looks.

Omg, if I ever win the lottery, I’m hiring you as my personal stylist.

Sooooo no big surprises as to what my posted OOTD will be today now, is there? 🤣🤣

Such a cute outfit! I LOVE coveralls and especially corduroys 😊

I like how you put the vest over a thin, long sleeve turtle neck. See, I would not have bought the vest because of my awful bat wings 😔 Now seeing it like this I would definitely buy it.

Finally!

Ahahahahaha

I've never shown my face on here before y'all. But there has never been a reason like today's ....

Feels good to shop at Old Navy

I found these 3 pieces at the thrift store today. I really love the vest.
The 2nd pic is today’s outfit. Very simple, oversized sweater and leggings. The sweater wasn’t always oversized, 😂, but it’s still super comfy.