GradyCat

I'm sitting here this morning reminiscing and I can remember three times in my life when men, two of them my boyfriends at the time and the third one my boss, told me I was "big" and needed to lose weight. At that time I weighed about 160 which I would kill (not literally) to weigh now. I wasn't fat then. I was just on the bigger side but nice and curvy.
As I am sitting here drinking my coffee, I am realizing that I've NEVER told anyone they were fat or suggested that they need to lose weight. It's not my job. They have mirrors. They know if they're big. It's their business.
So I wonder why some people think it's okay to tell other people about their weight. And I really would have thought it would have been women to point out being fat, but in my case it was men.
It made me come to this thread to ask you if anyone's ever told you you're fat or suggested you lose weight? Oh wait, I just remembered another one, again a man, a co-worker who told me "You know you're getting kind of big, right? You need to lose some weight."
So how many times have you been told you're fat?

I'm sitting here this morning reminiscing and I can remember three times in my life when men, two of them my boyfriends at the time and the third one my boss, told me I was "big" and needed to lose weight. At that time I weighed about 160 which I would kill (not literally) to weigh now. I wasn't fat then. I was just on the bigger side but nice and curvy.
As I am sitting here drinking my coffee, I am realizing that I've NEVER told anyone they were fat or suggested that they need to lose weight. It's not my job. They have mirrors. They know if they're big. It's their business.
So I wonder why some people think it's okay to tell other people about their weight. And I really would have thought it would have been women to point out being fat, but in my case it was men.
It made me come to this thread to ask you if anyone's ever told you you're fat or suggested you lose weight? Oh wait, I just remembered another one, again a man, a co-worker who told me "You know you're getting kind of big, right? You need to lose some weight."
So how many times have you been told you're fat?

I'm sitting here this morning reminiscing and I can remember three times in my life when men, two of them my boyfriends at the time and the third one my boss, told me I was "big" and needed to lose weight. At that time I weighed about 160 which I would kill (not literally) to weigh now. I wasn't fat then. I was just on the bigger side but nice and curvy.
As I am sitting here drinking my coffee, I am realizing that I've NEVER told anyone they were fat or suggested that they need to lose weight. It's not my job. They have mirrors. They know if they're big. It's their business.
So I wonder why some people think it's okay to tell other people about their weight. And I really would have thought it would have been women to point out being fat, but in my case it was men.
It made me come to this thread to ask you if anyone's ever told you you're fat or suggested you lose weight? Oh wait, I just remembered another one, again a man, a co-worker who told me "You know you're getting kind of big, right? You need to lose some weight."
So how many times have you been told you're fat?

I decided after a trip when I felt too big for the airline seat and was breathless walking through the terminal.

Fat shaming happens in almost all cultures. Some culture more than others. I grew up in India and even normal BMI back then, I was called fat 🤷🏻‍♀️ (I am short so even little bit of weight and it would show up). Mom faced similar trajectory too. She was always called chubby even when she weighed 47 kilos at 5'0. Again normal BMI 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️
For Indian culture I suppose anything more than 19 or 20 of BMI and your chubby/fat 🤦🏻‍♀️ Plus the first thing family (close and extended) would comment is on your weight no matter where you go. Happened a lot to me growing up. And after PCOS, I blew up and comments everytime I visited India were around my weight than my achievements 🤷🏻‍♀️ Similar weight culture can be found in other Asian countries too.
And Yeh, some people can slid it off but it's difficult to do so when you're only judged constantly based on your weight all your life than your success in life. Aka life took a deep blow and dive over chronic piled on years of criticism. It affected mental health dramatically and results have been disastrous. Still trying to climb up through the rabbit hole. Hopefully after WLS, life will take a different turn.
So yeh, criticism/suggestions from parents or siblings or even your doctor doesn't bother much, but constant weight related remarks from every tom d**k and Harry does pile up. It's easy to say ignore and move on but quite difficult to practice.
Though truly, best practice is to ignore and do your thing that is best for your health.
Social media also has this "If one is fat, what else are they supposed to be called?" Or that "calling out fat people will help them lose weight 🤦🏻‍♀️" All that is nothing but a way to mock fat people and take out their frustrations on others.

It is NEVER ok to tell someone you're fat ever and if they do they clearly have no boundaries whatsoever i am sorry if this is happening to you it's not right and it's not fair its not even ok to tell ourselves we are fat its shameful and degrading , i am real sorry you're going through this no one deserves such shame based language based hurt , i hope you can put these people out of your life they don't deserve someone like you in theirs , have a great day and remember you're special in you own way regardless of what others think of you...period. ☺️

No adults have told me I'm fat, but they did bump into walls, poles, miss steps, etc. because they were staring at me. I rather stood out, crowds parted for me to walk through. Now I have to push through like everyone else.
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at 160 lbs, you were only six lbs overweight (I'm also 5'6", and our normal BMI range goes up to 154 lbs). I doubt you even looked that "curvy" at that weight! So I'm surprised anyone would have even said anything - sheesh! They must have liked rail-thin women!
my mother was always very appearance conscious. And most of my childhood I was on the high end of my normal BMI or slightly overweight. The way she went on and on about it, you'd have thought I weighed 400 lbs. I honestly think her obsession with my weight was a big factor in my lifetime of yo-yo dieting. I look back at pictures of myself in high school and college, where my weight bounced around between 155 and 170. Yes - I was technically overweight, but I looked fine. Sheesh.

so anyway, yep - heard it from my mother since practically the day I was born. And of course, once I was an adult and started gaining weight (it got really bad once I hit my 30s), I heard it from other people, too. Do they think I didn't know it? Again - sheesh.

ive personally never had a problem with people telling me i am fat. I knew it so it was no surprise and did not hurt my feelings or anything. and with friends we always joke about it and i find it hilarious. Tho i know not everyone is like me with the way i think.

Oh my god. I wish I could count on two hands how many times people have felt they could comment on my weight or size. Coworkers, innumerable family members, strangers. Honestly, it's dozens if not hundreds of times. Because you know, I didn't notice all the fat on my body without them telling me.

It depends on what the results say and whether or not they'd impact your surgery in any way. Mostly it won't just pop up in your bariatric surgeon's screen but he/she can see most records from any and all of your doctors and labs in the system, so you should know that if for some reason you're trying to hide the results.

First focus on the great success that you've had. You've done well. Next, think about how this is going to be for YOU (while I realize it effects your kids too and you said you want to do this for your kids, do it for YOU!). Now, get back to the basics like right when you had the surgery, counting calories, Protein, and macros, drinking your Water, not drinking while eating, etc. It'll jump-start you back to losing again.

I average 1100 calories.day

So I had been taking the medication (Omeprazole/Prilosec) for 5+ years. About a month before the sleeve surgery I was required to stop taking it for 2 weeks in order to take an H-Pylori test. I stopped cold turkey and never took it again either before or after surgery. I had an endoscopy 18 months after WLS, I can't remember why, and my surgeon showed my evidence of GERD anymore. I never restarted taking it.

I had the sleeve and my GERD and acid reflux actually went away. I had it before surgery but not after. Just FYI. Also, you could just opt to do the bypass instead of the sleeve.

I wish I could divorce Cookies. Seriously, they're mean to me. They make me break out in fat. 😀 My stomach post-sleeve can't stand potatoes or Pasta more than a spoonful or fork full.

Good luck with your upcoming revision. I gained back 50% of my weight during COVID, but have recently lost it back again. I still struggle with eating due to boredom or stress.

That's just a week away! Good luck on your WLS journey.

You're getting closer and closer. Good luck on your WLS journey.

Getting to ONEderland is a big deal. Enjoy the feeling! Congratulations and wishing you much success on your continued WLS journey.

I wish I could divorce Cookies. Seriously, they're mean to me. They make me break out in fat. 😀 My stomach post-sleeve can't stand potatoes or Pasta more than a spoonful or fork full.

I drink GNC premade Lean shakes, 25 g Protein, gluten and lactose free. I am lactose intolerant now post WLS but I'm not sure if the surgery did it or old age caused it.

First, I'm sorry for your loss. Second, it happens. It happened to me. I gained close to 30 pounds back during COVID, but the good news is that the WLS still works and I was able to successfully lost that 30 pounds back just recently. It's possible. You can do it. Take care of yourself and get back to the basics and you'll be successful.

I didn't tell my family or anyone for just that reason. I don't want to hear the negativity and judgment. Only my husband knows.

First, I'm sorry for your loss. Second, it happens. It happened to me. I gained close to 30 pounds back during COVID, but the good news is that the WLS still works and I was able to successfully lost that 30 pounds back just recently. It's possible. You can do it. Take care of yourself and get back to the basics and you'll be successful.