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Sheribear68

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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from Neller in I Want To See Before & After Pics! (Cont'd)   
    Okay so I have no “after” because I’m slightly more than halfway to goal, so right now I’ll post “before” and “halfway there” pics.

    I still have about 40-ish pounds left to lose.

    The first set of pics are from the holidays when I was weighing between 250-255.

    This last set was from a couple of weeks ago on my 4 month surgiversary when I was weighing 189.
    Lol, I’m currently at 184 today.




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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from Nermada in OOTD   
    Birthday dinner out.


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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from Nermada in OOTD   
    Goat yoga.

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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from Nermada in OOTD   
    At the art exhibit

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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from Nermada in OOTD   
    Because day 2 billion in a row waking up at 5am for work warranted a cute outfit.

    Size MEDIUM Ann Taylor dress I picked up for $14 at the consignment store


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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from Emma809 in OOTD   
    Omg I love the whole look.
    Gotta know where you got the leggings
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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from Dubai2020 in Stomach "growling"   
    I am 5 days post-op and experiencing the same.
    My digestive tract is NOISY. I always suffered acid reflux before, but this is like the acid release with no reflux. I’m not due for my 2 week follow up til next week and I’m going to bring it up with my Doc.
    Usually some crampy-epigastric pain follows the worst of the growling, but I’ve taken acid reducers and they don’t seem to affect the noise.
    I also take 40mg pantoprazole once daily. 🤷‍♀️
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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from Everythinganna in February 2019 weight loss buds   
    Wow guys. These posts really resonate with me:

    I gained 110 pounds when I was pregnant with my daughter (2nd child) and the abuse I took from their father still haunts me.
    That’s the baby that changed my whole metabolism and all I got from him was quiet disappoint and criticism In the weight gain and subsequent PPD.
    By the time she was 3, I found out that their father was having an active affair with one of my coworkers and that basically everything I had been struggling with had been used against me and that the 2 of them were plotting to try to get custody of the kids.
    They were actually using my new-found Morbid Obesity as a weapon against me to “prove” that I didn’t have the self-control necessary to raise 2 kids under the age of 6 as a single mom.

    I fought sooooo hard that year and in years after, trying to fix what was “broken” in me only to fail over and over and over again.
    Thankfully I had enough of a career and enough self-esteem to survive that onslaught and make it through. Those were several tough years where I was reminded painfully over and over that I wasn’t good enough-or desireable enough, smart enough, or like able enough to be considered a “good” parent and I was reminded on a monthly basis that it was going to be a a WAR of 2 vs 1.

    I somehow persevered and got those kids raised. I spent over 13 years single and afraid to even think about having a life of my own.

    I survived breast cancer as a single working mom. At that point, my biggest fear was dying before I could finish raising those kids— aged 16 and 12 when I was diagnosed.
    The kids dad stopped paying child support after our first year divorced and I was afraid to even take him to court bc I didn’t feel worthy enough to raise my kids as a MO single mom in her mid-30s.
    When I think of the years lost due to my feelings of inferiority, it almost makes me sick.

    I wasted almost 13 years of my life feeling like a sub-par human and thankfully my current husband saw me— the true me— underneath all of that baggage. He loved me— plus sized and all— in spite of me not loving myself.

    It took that brave and kind man’s love to realize that I could be so much more than the reality that I was currently living.
    With his love and respect and complete acceptance, I was able to start this journey that has led to where I am now.
    Ironically, my ex is a mere shadow of the man he once was— he won’t call or reach out to his kids and I’ve heard that he and that woman live a very small and petty existence where neither of them are fulfilled or even remotely happy.

    If I were a better person, I would feel pity for them, but I must honestly admit that I do derive some satisfaction from their misery.

    At the end of the day though, my best revenge is to live my best life as happily as possible, and I plan on doing that every. Single. Day.

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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from DaisyChainOz in February 2019 weight loss buds   
    Congrats everyone for hitting their 1 year post-op milestones and thanks everyone for sharing your journey.

    I had a fabulous weekend, and I’m fluctuating between 134-137 right now, which is all I could’ve ever hoped for and more.
    Included are a couple of pics that a year ago would’ve had me floored to see.

    Thursday night hubs and I treated ourselves to a thunder game (yes, that’s a glass of white wine and it was my splurge day) and the next is from Sunday when we went to a new park in town.
    The weather was in the 70’s and I overdressed out of fear of getting out and about and being cold.
    Lol, need to figure out how to dress for the spring and summer months coming ahead, which will honestly require a new wardrobe.




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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from DaisyChainOz in February 2019 weight loss buds   
    Oh and here’s a pic from yesterday.
    Feeling strong and accomplished and I refuse to feel one bit apologetic or guilty about it.

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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from november11 in February 2019 weight loss buds   
    Strange indeed.
    I am now the skinniest girl at work, my circle of friends, and my family and it’s a bit mind-blowing.

    Now when I go out in public, nobody knows that I’m actually a fat girl trapped in a skinny girls body.
    They can’t understand that I know their pain, their shame, their mental battles. It’s kind of like once I got >2 years out of chemo and I didn’t look like a cancer patient anymore.
    I will always be a cancer patient, but I no longer look the part so people dealing with cancer of their own tell me as a health-care provider “well you can’t understand what I’m going through...”.
    Um...yes. Yes I most definitely can.

    It’s the same now, and honestly it’s even weirder for me bc I was MO for most of the last 22 years and it was so much part of my identity that there are aspects I probably won’t live long enough to get over.

    I’m sensing in your post here, AZhiker that you’re feeling a bit “lost” as to which group you can relate to. Our previous acquaintances can’t relate to us like they did before and new people we meet never knew our previous struggles.
    I can relate completely to this feeling of “where do I belong now?” And this is why forums like this and support groups are absolutely vital for our continued growth and mental health.

    Of of y’all in this February group are near and dear to me as we were all starting about the same time and went through this together. I will be forever grateful for the last years worth of humor,frustration,fears,setbacks and triumphs that we’ve shared.
    As we move into year 2, there will be new challenges and I’m looking forward to navigating those together.
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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from healthymindNbody in PLEASE HELP the skeptic in me. Doesn't starving = eventual weight gain??   
    5’7”, female, 51YO, 13 months post VGS.
    HW: 262
    SW: 246
    GW: 155
    CW: 134-137

    MANY of us who are WLS all start in different places and have had different routes getting there.
    I personally think that the human body is a wonderful and mysteriously frustrating thing.
    As an adult, spent many years “normal” or slightly “under normal” body weight. It was only when I hit my late 20’s that I became MO. And stayed there for 22 years.

    When I had WLS, I had to maintain my BMI (which was hovering right at 40) for 8 months so I could stay qualified. I’d love to see insurance companies lower that number to 35, because I could’ve been practicing healthier habits in the months leading up to WLS rather than INTENTIONALLY trying to keep my weight >252.

    My point here is that I hit a “normal” BMI fairly rapidly-within 8 months of WLS- and I’m now struggling to keep my weight over 135. I feel like most of that was because I had a lower-than-typical SW, and that my body “remembers” being a skinny girl as a teen and young adult and therefore when I got my resetting from WLS, my body adjusted beautifully.
    I’ve lost >110 pounds from my surgery date, which is way over 100% EBF.
    I’m not a super-hero, I just happened to be a girl who (mostly) followed what her team recommended, worked out, and did my homework daily,weekly, and monthly to get and stay on track.

    Honestly it take me getting creative some days and I still struggle trying to get in >1000 calories sometimes bc I refuse to eat crap.
    Other than dealing with a weird Tomato and Kimchi craving right now, I’m not feeling deprived at all.
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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from MIZ60 in The Maintenance Thread   
    Okay so I want to urge caution and patience here.

    I too got freaked out a few weeks ago with my continued loss and then I finally realized that should embrace it
    I mean, I’ve been fighting a war with my body for over 2 decades and I’m sick and tired of it.

    So for 20+ years I couldn’t lose enough and now I’m gonna stress bc I had WLS and I’m losing “too much??”
    Nah, instead I’m just gonna relax and see where this ride stops.
    I talked to my NUT last month and she reassured me that my body won’t let me die, and I just had my 1 year labs done and they are BEAUTIFUL!
    I have zero deficiencies and personally I feel better than I’ve ever felt before.

    I now that I’ve spent almost 2 months Give yourself time and TLC before doing something radical and fighting against your body.
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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from november11 in February 2019 weight loss buds   
    Okay so I had a moment like this today at the Pilates studio.
    An instructor I hadn’t had in awhile was back at our location and she made a comment to me after class about how fantastic I looked and how strong I had become.
    Another gal in class piped up saying she was noticing the same thing about me and then it turned into a discussion on how much I’d lost since joining the studio last March.
    So I told them all that I’ve lost 120+ pounds since January 2019, and there was a part of me that wanted to add, “but it was bc of WLS, so please don’t look at me with awe and admiration,”

    Then I mentally took a step back and realized that
    1. I didn’t owe anyone an explanation of how each of those pounds came off, and
    2. I am amazing and awesome for sticking to my program like I’ve done for the last year.
    I could’ve “settled” for losing 50,60,70, etc pounds, but at the end of the day I pushed myself beyond anything I ever thought I could’ve.
    And you know what? I am actually very strong and dedicated to this lifestyle.

    Yes the compliments sometimes can make us feel guilty and awkward, but I challenge each and every one of you guys to give yourself credit for the incredibly brave and wise decision to have WLS in the first place.
    This choice isn’t the easy way out. There’s so much involved in it that will be with us forever and we chose forever altering our digestive tracts to get back our health. There are many people out there who will -for a multitude of reasons-never make our very difficult choice.
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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from november11 in February 2019 weight loss buds   
    Strange indeed.
    I am now the skinniest girl at work, my circle of friends, and my family and it’s a bit mind-blowing.

    Now when I go out in public, nobody knows that I’m actually a fat girl trapped in a skinny girls body.
    They can’t understand that I know their pain, their shame, their mental battles. It’s kind of like once I got >2 years out of chemo and I didn’t look like a cancer patient anymore.
    I will always be a cancer patient, but I no longer look the part so people dealing with cancer of their own tell me as a health-care provider “well you can’t understand what I’m going through...”.
    Um...yes. Yes I most definitely can.

    It’s the same now, and honestly it’s even weirder for me bc I was MO for most of the last 22 years and it was so much part of my identity that there are aspects I probably won’t live long enough to get over.

    I’m sensing in your post here, AZhiker that you’re feeling a bit “lost” as to which group you can relate to. Our previous acquaintances can’t relate to us like they did before and new people we meet never knew our previous struggles.
    I can relate completely to this feeling of “where do I belong now?” And this is why forums like this and support groups are absolutely vital for our continued growth and mental health.

    Of of y’all in this February group are near and dear to me as we were all starting about the same time and went through this together. I will be forever grateful for the last years worth of humor,frustration,fears,setbacks and triumphs that we’ve shared.
    As we move into year 2, there will be new challenges and I’m looking forward to navigating those together.
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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from Everythinganna in February 2019 weight loss buds   
    Wow guys. These posts really resonate with me:

    I gained 110 pounds when I was pregnant with my daughter (2nd child) and the abuse I took from their father still haunts me.
    That’s the baby that changed my whole metabolism and all I got from him was quiet disappoint and criticism In the weight gain and subsequent PPD.
    By the time she was 3, I found out that their father was having an active affair with one of my coworkers and that basically everything I had been struggling with had been used against me and that the 2 of them were plotting to try to get custody of the kids.
    They were actually using my new-found Morbid Obesity as a weapon against me to “prove” that I didn’t have the self-control necessary to raise 2 kids under the age of 6 as a single mom.

    I fought sooooo hard that year and in years after, trying to fix what was “broken” in me only to fail over and over and over again.
    Thankfully I had enough of a career and enough self-esteem to survive that onslaught and make it through. Those were several tough years where I was reminded painfully over and over that I wasn’t good enough-or desireable enough, smart enough, or like able enough to be considered a “good” parent and I was reminded on a monthly basis that it was going to be a a WAR of 2 vs 1.

    I somehow persevered and got those kids raised. I spent over 13 years single and afraid to even think about having a life of my own.

    I survived breast cancer as a single working mom. At that point, my biggest fear was dying before I could finish raising those kids— aged 16 and 12 when I was diagnosed.
    The kids dad stopped paying child support after our first year divorced and I was afraid to even take him to court bc I didn’t feel worthy enough to raise my kids as a MO single mom in her mid-30s.
    When I think of the years lost due to my feelings of inferiority, it almost makes me sick.

    I wasted almost 13 years of my life feeling like a sub-par human and thankfully my current husband saw me— the true me— underneath all of that baggage. He loved me— plus sized and all— in spite of me not loving myself.

    It took that brave and kind man’s love to realize that I could be so much more than the reality that I was currently living.
    With his love and respect and complete acceptance, I was able to start this journey that has led to where I am now.
    Ironically, my ex is a mere shadow of the man he once was— he won’t call or reach out to his kids and I’ve heard that he and that woman live a very small and petty existence where neither of them are fulfilled or even remotely happy.

    If I were a better person, I would feel pity for them, but I must honestly admit that I do derive some satisfaction from their misery.

    At the end of the day though, my best revenge is to live my best life as happily as possible, and I plan on doing that every. Single. Day.

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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from MIZ60 in The Maintenance Thread   
    Okay so I want to urge caution and patience here.

    I too got freaked out a few weeks ago with my continued loss and then I finally realized that should embrace it
    I mean, I’ve been fighting a war with my body for over 2 decades and I’m sick and tired of it.

    So for 20+ years I couldn’t lose enough and now I’m gonna stress bc I had WLS and I’m losing “too much??”
    Nah, instead I’m just gonna relax and see where this ride stops.
    I talked to my NUT last month and she reassured me that my body won’t let me die, and I just had my 1 year labs done and they are BEAUTIFUL!
    I have zero deficiencies and personally I feel better than I’ve ever felt before.

    I now that I’ve spent almost 2 months Give yourself time and TLC before doing something radical and fighting against your body.
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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from november11 in overeating after gastric sleeve   
    I am so thankful for the clinic psychologist at the place I had my surgery.

    His lesson that he hammers every time he gets the chance is that WLS has 3 major traps:

    Trap #1: you will initially lose weight NO MATTER WHAT. You can have the worst habits and diet ever and still lose weight. This is a bad trap as there isn’t negative feedback for unhealthy behaviors.

    Trap #2: because of the reduced size of your new digestive tract, you can eat small portions of metabolically disruptive foods (carb-laden and devoid of protein) and be “okay” because it’s only a few bites. Nope,nope,nope! Even in teensy amounts, foods that promote insulin resistance are only going to put you right back into a bad metabolic state over time. Best to avoid them (or save them only for very special occasions) altogether.

    Trap #3: You don’t stop becoming a “fat” person just because you lost a bunch of weight.
    It’s kind of like being a smoker or an alcoholic. Just because you’re not actively smoking or drinking, it doesn’t mean you can magically pick up smoking or drinking again and not expect difficult consequences. Fat brains stay fat brains for life and we need to be ever-diligent to not fall into any of the “fat” behaviors that got us needing WLS in the first place.

    I actually wrote all of these traps down after my sessions with him and I keep them taped to a cork board in my bedroom. I see them every day and try my best each day to keep those lessons close to heart.
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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from Lizzziee in My Plastic Surgery Thread   
    Love these updates!

    The first place I’m getting plastics done will be face/neck.
    Never realized how “old” losing >100 pounds would make me look.

    Then maybe— maybe this time next year I’ll think about other parts of my bod (I’m looking at you, thighs)
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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from Everythinganna in February 2019 weight loss buds   
    Wow guys. These posts really resonate with me:

    I gained 110 pounds when I was pregnant with my daughter (2nd child) and the abuse I took from their father still haunts me.
    That’s the baby that changed my whole metabolism and all I got from him was quiet disappoint and criticism In the weight gain and subsequent PPD.
    By the time she was 3, I found out that their father was having an active affair with one of my coworkers and that basically everything I had been struggling with had been used against me and that the 2 of them were plotting to try to get custody of the kids.
    They were actually using my new-found Morbid Obesity as a weapon against me to “prove” that I didn’t have the self-control necessary to raise 2 kids under the age of 6 as a single mom.

    I fought sooooo hard that year and in years after, trying to fix what was “broken” in me only to fail over and over and over again.
    Thankfully I had enough of a career and enough self-esteem to survive that onslaught and make it through. Those were several tough years where I was reminded painfully over and over that I wasn’t good enough-or desireable enough, smart enough, or like able enough to be considered a “good” parent and I was reminded on a monthly basis that it was going to be a a WAR of 2 vs 1.

    I somehow persevered and got those kids raised. I spent over 13 years single and afraid to even think about having a life of my own.

    I survived breast cancer as a single working mom. At that point, my biggest fear was dying before I could finish raising those kids— aged 16 and 12 when I was diagnosed.
    The kids dad stopped paying child support after our first year divorced and I was afraid to even take him to court bc I didn’t feel worthy enough to raise my kids as a MO single mom in her mid-30s.
    When I think of the years lost due to my feelings of inferiority, it almost makes me sick.

    I wasted almost 13 years of my life feeling like a sub-par human and thankfully my current husband saw me— the true me— underneath all of that baggage. He loved me— plus sized and all— in spite of me not loving myself.

    It took that brave and kind man’s love to realize that I could be so much more than the reality that I was currently living.
    With his love and respect and complete acceptance, I was able to start this journey that has led to where I am now.
    Ironically, my ex is a mere shadow of the man he once was— he won’t call or reach out to his kids and I’ve heard that he and that woman live a very small and petty existence where neither of them are fulfilled or even remotely happy.

    If I were a better person, I would feel pity for them, but I must honestly admit that I do derive some satisfaction from their misery.

    At the end of the day though, my best revenge is to live my best life as happily as possible, and I plan on doing that every. Single. Day.

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    Sheribear68 reacted to Snapcase- in OOTD   
    So it’s been a while. Casual dining outfit portrait. Let me know what you think! Still single ladies hahaha

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    Sheribear68 reacted to froufrou in February 2019 weight loss buds   
    Anna, I'm so sorry you have had that verbal abuse! It's disgusting. 'fat shaming' seems to be the last 'acceptable' kind of discrimination out there and I cannot wait until it stops. You look absolutely beautiful - and happy. I'm so glad that things are much better for you now with your health.
    I was also terrorised by an ex-wife. My husband and his first wife (married only because she got pregnant) were only together for 9 months after their daughter was born, and then she walked out on them - went to live with another man and left my husband to raise his daughter on his own. I came along 6 years later and that was it... license for her to call every day and harass us. Get to us through her daughter by questioning her over everything that happened in our house and then call my husband to complain - it got to the point where my step-daughter would just lie about things because she realised that her mum gave her attention when she told some juicy story.
    My husband would be so traumatised by it all (he had panic attacks) that he would beg me to just go along with it all and not rock the boat, so I was silenced too. It was just a horrible horrible time and all while I was in a new country away from any family and friends. Ugh! She would call and swear down the phone and call me fat. This went on until my step-daughter was no longer receiving child support from us. The day she turned 18 the calls stopped. I really, really understand what you are going through. Are your step-children grown and out of the house now? The day that there are no longer any ties and reason to communicate is just THE BEST.
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    Sheribear68 reacted to Everythinganna in February 2019 weight loss buds   
    Wow wow wow! Everyone! Wow!!!
    It was an awesome year, amazing results for everybody! I get lost in the negative and forget to Celebrate the positive. Body dysmorphia? I don’t know but I’m so happy to read from you guys because everybody is so positive and I have zero regrets about doing this surgery.
    The surgery resolved all of my hip and ankle pain, abdominal pain I was having from scar tissue, and a “TMI“ issue I was having as well! Also, I have never had good self-esteem but I do now.... better. Probably best to say “better”. I think I look beautiful but I still have my insecurities just like everyone else.
    My husband’s ex-wife taunted me for 13 years. 13 years of being called FAT, fat b****, huge, “waitress from Mel’s diner”... whatever that means, among many other appearance-related insults that were constantly flung at me. She would text me, email me, approach me in public... anything she could do to rattle me about my weight. She started harassing me and my kids again this past week (yes, I called the police) and previously had reached out to me through a text message (she uses my stepsons cell phone and pretends to be him to engage me in conversations which is how this one from a couple of months started, below), and... (I won’t say that this is all about the weight loss surgery) BUT it was such an amazing feeling NOT TO CARE. She has not seen me in over a year and assumes I still look the same.
    She can never BULLY me about my weight again. I’d like to say that didn’t play a part in making me feel like **** or didn’t motivate me to make change. It’s sad that adults over the age of 40 have to stoop to that kind of level. I just usually don’t respond or if I do, I try to be positive and rise above it.
    I’m sure I’m not alone in knowing what it’s like to have someone constantly verbally tell you how fat/ugly you are. Even if it’s somebody’s opinion whom you do not respect. My ex-husband also used to tell me I was fat and I would take diet pills to try to stay within his ideal range. His coworkers started calling him Cheeto at one point because he was telling them how he told me not to eat Cheetos. I weighed 115 pounds at the time and had given birth to his twins less than a year before. The guys he worked with ultimately started teasing him because he was being verbally abusive to me and THEY thought I was attractive. He even wrote me a letter about a year ago and said that I had passed my “fat gene” on to our daughter. I’ve had a lifetime of beating myself up over this. Even my Mom would tell me that I needed to “tone up”. I just look back and think - I’ve lost 30 years worrying about my weight!?!
    So, this has been so much more than losing 60+ pounds for me. Now I have started watching my calories and walking. I am fluctuating back and forth 3-4 pounds now as the restriction has decreased. It’s a small effort, and just a start after months of not having it under control and not really watching or staying on plan.
    Regardless, I feel great. I took this picture a few days ago and I know I’m healthy now and no regrets...
    Thank you to everyone here who has supported me and lifted me up through this process. Each and every person who has made any comment or contribution here is important to me. Whether we talked directly or not, all of the input was so greatly appreciated and continued to motivate me to stay positive. I’m so happy that everyone has had success!
    Group FEB ‘19 is the best!


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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from AZhiker in February 2019 weight loss buds   
    Not gonna lie... maintenance scares the heck out of me.
    Also, I’ve got people telling me all of the time that I’m too skinny and “can stop at anytime, ok” and I’ve started learning how to tune that all out.
    I’m really not used to being the skinny girl in the room. Heck, just typing that out felt weird, but it’s the truth now.
    There are days when I log everything and days when I don’t even think about it.

    Anymore, my focus is on becoming stronger and losing some fat%, and trying to gain some muscle. Even a month ago I was freaked out by weighing under 140 pounds and now it’s like “meh, this is normal now and I have tons of energy and feel fabulous.”

    I’m to the point now that if I lose more it won’t freak me out too much, but I’m not actively intending to lose. I figure my calories will eventually climb up so I’m not gonna panic.
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    Sheribear68 got a reaction from Lizzziee in My Plastic Surgery Thread   
    Love these updates!

    The first place I’m getting plastics done will be face/neck.
    Never realized how “old” losing >100 pounds would make me look.

    Then maybe— maybe this time next year I’ll think about other parts of my bod (I’m looking at you, thighs)
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