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@amanda-xo, you state you don't have supporters; have you told many people that you are having the surgery? For me, personally, I told 4 people - My BF (he lives with me), my mother, my boss, and one of my closest friends. I told my boss and friend because they are supportive and understanding and I knew they wouldn't look at me different "tomorrow". My BF and mother have been on this train with me since the idea first came to fruition. They have been my rocks and still are. They don't criticize me if I do something wrong and they don't correct me. They are there to allow me to make my choices, mistakes and hold my hand if needed. I'll add when I made the decision to have surgery, it was after years of failing at every option out there. Aside from finding someone in your inner circle to confide and trust in, reach out to local support groups for that one on one, and don't forget you have a wide web of support here.

For me, when this happened it was usually the texture or temperature of what I was eating / drinking; drinking especially. I am 6 weeks post op and my body reacts differently nearly every day / week to the temperature of my liquids.. some days it has to be ice cold, others piping hot or even room temperature. This is all going to be trial an error as you move forward with your new pouch. And as @Danny Paul mentioned it could be how fast your ingesting what you eat. Take your time, download a meal timer to your phone and use it to time your chews and food in between. Remember just take your time. Lastly, are you on a PPI? I was on Prilosec for the first month to help with GERD. This could also be the case. If things don't get better, don't be afraid to reach out to your surgical team.

walk, walk and walk more... I also had my BF rub my back softly which helped the gas escape. And definitely listen to @Matt Z - Use the spirometer - it was a life saver

My initial thoughts on this was private, only a select few in that inner circle. As my weight loss progresses no one has asked what I'm doing different, although can clearly be seen that my portions have greatly reduced. Now, I feel I could change my mind and share my experiences. But, who knows until it happens. As for sharing on social media, not a chance. If I post updated pictures, so be it. But I'm not going to outright share my "story" with the world.

The white one covers the entire torso. I bought this after wls The black corset I have in black and nude and is just a little shorter in the waist. I've had this for quite a while.. I can't honestly tell you which I like better... I alter day to day.

I should also mention that my goal is more than 60g of protein... so I try to hit that first, and the rest fall in line.

This is currently my macros for 6 weeks post op. My daily calories alternate between 600-700. I should mention my macros are approved by my surgical team.

I would suggest contacting your surgeon. It could be an infection or something as simple as the latest cold / flu infecting most.

At each of my psych appointments including my NUT appointments I am asked about my support team. Maybe it's me, but I've been honest from the get go. My partner is my #1 support, he is the one I went to when I started to be serious about this journey. And when I finally decided he and I spoke of the after effects, changes, challenges, etc. And we would have to endure. If we hadn't been open and honest from the start, my success wouldn't be there. Because my food triggers were stress in the house, having his support was important to me. Now, I also know that success is all within me, but having people support and motivate you make it all the easier.

Going out to dinner has not at all been hindered for me since WLS. My BF and I used to share meals in the early stages of our relationship and somewhere we changed and started ordering our own. For us, it's like we're back to "dating" again and we once again share meals. It works out great because he has 3/4 of a meal while myself just 1/4 sometimes even much less. We also take advantage of discounts from Groupon and coupons very often making eating out much more affordable. Eating out should've be a chore or a disappointment. Look at the positives, the portion sizes are almost always enough for two - three meals and now you're actually getting your monies worth and not gaining the extra weight for it.

I think you answered your own question, "He has always told me he liked heavy women and when we are out together he doesn’t hide when he stares at other women" You're changing your body type for yourself and for health reasons. This is the new you. I think the two of you need counseling to find out if the "attraction" is still there. Sadly as @Matt Z stated "WLS is also known as the divorce surgery " - If this is a road you perhaps don't want to go down, it's better to seek counseling now then when it's too far gone. Be proud of yourself and your accomplishments. And when going out to eat at a fancier restaurant, order the meal of your choice and ask for a to-go box right away. Store 1/2 the meal for take home and eat what you can of the other 1/2. I'm sorry you are having to go through this, I pray it gets better.

I bet. I had a small decorative pillow as my best friend for the first two weeks. It was there when I got up, turned in sleep, or whatever. Glad to hear it's much improved... it does get easier...

@bettie.blue - How are you doing?

Have you tried an abdominal waist trainer? I've started using that to help "shape" me and it seems to be helping my belly bulge as well. otherwise, I will sometimes (often) buy 1 or 2 size smaller cotton cami's - I think the tighter / smaller sizes do very much the same as spanx and a lot less expensive.

@jultrim18 - I'm just a couple of days shy of you, sleeved 8/20. I understand what you're feeling and my weightloss is very similar to yours. I'll tell you this, I have "cheated" and tried a bite of the so called, no no's and have determined that small single bite is enough. I no longer crave those items as I used to. I'd much rather each a bunch of grapes (which these days equates to about 5-8 at most) than a bowl of pasta. I did try pizza (1/2 slice) and it was not as good as it once was. I don't want that carby bloatedness that follows. As for things you can eat... the options are endless for you now. Everything we eat for the first time is trial and error. Our new pouches will either say, "yeah, this isn't bad" or 'hell no, keep it away' - I love ground turkey and I recently found out that homemade chili with ground turkey my pouch will accept, but a turkey burger... not a chance. I can eat a regular burger no problem. I struggle nearly daily with just my water consumption because I never know how my belly will react "today" to it. Some days it wants ICE COLD, others just cold and then others it wants room temperature. It will take months for us to discover all the wonderful things our belly wants or doesn't want. But isn't that the fun part of this? Learning to eat healthy and reaping the weight loss rewards with it?

The port with pain is where your stomach came out. It will take a good week to two for it to no longer be sore. Try crushing your pills in the first couple of weeks and take with applesauce. It worked great for me. Just remember, walking is good... even when you don't want to, just do it. It will help you heal faster. Good luck, you've got this

Yogurt? Tuna, pureed. chili, cottage cheese or ricotta. There is nothing wrong with having a lunch meal for breakfast.

I can't eat canned soups. There is something in the ingredients that makes me vomit immediately after. It doesn't matter if it's a tsp., Tbsp or the whole can. I had to stop eating canned soups about 10 years ago. So I became a master soup maker so I could enjoy it at home. I can't even use the prepackaged broths.

My original PCP signed off on the paperwork, but both of my PCPs actually approved based on my medical history and failure to consistently lose weight.

What you're experiencing is normal. Your body is reacting to the temperature of the liquid. It will take trial and error multiple times. Gas is also normal, walk, walk and keep walking.

As far as your liquids go, you may have to experiment with temperatures. My new pouch changes its mind almost weekly ss to how hot or cold it wants something. Immediately post surgery it was room temp, then it wanted ice cold, back to room temp... there's a pattern here and my best advice is change it up, your body knows best. Congratulations on a successful recovery, keep up the good work

I did the same thing for variety. When I wasn't cooking soups at home, I shopped for pre made

Not sure if you tried them, but I bought a 4-pack last week and tried the pumpkin spice with my decaf this week.... it's definitely not sweet, but really enjoyed the the taste.

I lost more weight during preop and almost debated on going without the surgery. But honestly, going through with the surgery was the best decision of my life. I am now almost 6 weeks (2 days shy) post op and can begin exploring all regular foods. The positive is definitely that I don't crave or desire junk food. I'm learning every day to trust my body when it says it's full as not to overeat. And despite the weight loss stalls (and they will happen), I'm still very happy with my progress. I don't want to always feel tired, I am enjoying watching my body become shapely vs just a very large blob. While it feels like the motivation is going, remember your journey is just beginning and will get very exciting quickly.

I don't count it towards my fluids, just my protein. I judge my hydration on the color of my urine.