JanineVSG

3 weeks into a bariatric program. Hoping for my sleeve surgery in May. 7 pounds lost in 3 weeks.
 
HW 411
Diet starting wt: 370
CW 362
GW 140
HT 5'3"
Expected surgery May 2018
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Do you use a CPAP or anything? I find that I can't get to sleep unless I put my mask on. Otherwise, I get too restless...
One key thing to consider when you're having issues sleeping is electronics use. Some people recommend not using any electronic devices like your computer or phone in bed, because you need to associate your bed only with sleeping. So, don't sit and read in bed, don't study in bed... just use your bed for when you're tired.

Like a lot of others have said, I retain Water during my cycle! I got the IUD before surgery as recommended by my doctor. Even though I'm on the IUD, I think I still have a cycle of sorts, and I notice I get more hormonal/my body feels differently each month, even though I'm not menstruating.
That being said - I think the most important thing to remember is that a pound is 3500 calories. If you weigh in and you've suddenly gained weight, it's most likely water weight. Why? Well... it's really freaking hard to not only eat back what you burn each day, let alone another 3500 on top of that, when we have such teeny tummies.
That's what helps me get through the wild ride that is weighing in! Haha

Oh soooo much Hair loss. I'm collecting it. I will either make my own hair bump? Or else I will make a tiny little generic voodoo doll that I will use indiscriminately with great whim here and elsewhere on Al Gore's Internet.

I had a fever and high b/p. Everything went to normal levels within two days.

HW: 443
SW: 393
CW: 386
GW: 180

That does stink that it basically adds a stall week per month because of our stupid menstrual cycle. Joys of womanhood I guess!
I remind myself about how many calories equals a pound each time I've stepped on the scale this week. It is super frustrating. I've fluctuated all the way to +4lbs. And then the next morning I will be down 2lbs and so on....
Next month when it is this time, I won't even weigh in. It's too stressful.

With the gastric sleeve, you can expect to lose 75% of your excess body weight. Your profile says you are 5'7", so your ideal weight is 115-155. You have an excess of 289-155, so about 134. So 75% of that is about 100 lbs, which means you could expect to get down to at least 180! That's totally possible
There's other way to calculate ideal body weight, too... here's one from Moose and Doc: http://halls.md/ideal-weight/body.htm

With the gastric sleeve, you can expect to lose 75% of your excess body weight. Your profile says you are 5'7", so your ideal weight is 115-155. You have an excess of 289-155, so about 134. So 75% of that is about 100 lbs, which means you could expect to get down to at least 180! That's totally possible
There's other way to calculate ideal body weight, too... here's one from Moose and Doc: http://halls.md/ideal-weight/body.htm

Sorry to respond to the post.
You have our support. Many of us with sexual abuse/assault issues.
dreamingsmall. Seems that he/she has their own issues to deal with.
Your time is valuable. Evaluate what posts and people you want to resond to. Anyone being a troll and personally attacking is not worth your time or attention.
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@honeyedlife
once in a while you might get a worm in an apple. disregard. throw it on the
ground where it belongs. Most of this orchard is beautiful. - please stay on
the boards.
all of us started like you. Newbies trying to learn more about WLS, ask your
questions - people will usually give good respectful answers. share their
experiences, make suggestions - and tell you where to go!!! (referring to other
board sites) LOL give us another chance - just like you - we're worth it!!!
group hug, group hug!!!!
kathy

@honeyedlife Yes, please stay!

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Please honeyed life, don't leave. Many of us have abuses in our lives, mine were not as rampant as yours but I too have keloid abuse scars in my inner being. I don't trust, especially men and men of my abuser's age range least of all. Yes I know all men are not inherently evil but this was a person of trust in my community and a family member as well. I went through the threats of killing my pets, my parents and the constant reminder no one would believe me anyway. The adult me realizes how empty the threats were, the little child me could not and believed this person of trust was not lying.
You are a Phoenix ,honeyed, you have risen from the ashes of a life few could survive. You are such wonderful person, your now life shines like a beacon forth for me, I need you here and so do the rest of us on Bariatric Pal. And a giant hug and let me give a big box of Kleenex for both our tears. KkN- my real initials
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Hello dreamingsmall, I am sorry if my post offended you. You seem to be very aggressive in this reply to me. I never said it was all about me. This is a place to talk about all of our frustrations. Personally, I am working to be more conscious of how everyone's journeys are different and how our struggles can be just as hard, despite our different starting points. Maybe you can also work on understanding how someone voicing their struggle with self-worth doesn't invalidate your own. Thank you for the reply.

Holy cow, man. "Maybe a bit of self hatred would have done you some good" but then, also, "Well too allow your body to get to 400 you can't love loved yourself that much"
You're right. I didn't love myself.
When I was 3 years old, I was raped. I was raped as an infant, as well. I grew up hating myself and everything about me. I wanted to protect myself, so I ate and ate and ate, finding comfort in food. I wanted to shield myself. I wanted to be disgusting so I couldn't get hurt again.
I hope you are proud of yourself. That was a very hurtful thing to say. Thank you for reminding me how far I have come in how I feel about myself, though. I had value at 456 lbs. I'll have value at my goal weight, too. We all need to be nicer to ourselves, because if we are more understanding of what we're going through and why we eat the way we do, we'll be able to take better care of ourselves.
I am a survivor of child sexual abuse. I will not let that control my life any longer. I have come a long way. I'll go even further once I block you. Have a blessed day.

I didn't think I'd be crying this morning, but here we are. It's been a really tough journey, you guys. Every day I struggle with "defensive obesity," a condition my psychiatrist says results from my childhood sexual abuse. I have to be kind to myself. I have to love myself, because if I don't, how can I continue to work hard? Let's all do better. Please respect my wishes and don't reply to this thread again. Let's let it die.

Holy cow, man. "Maybe a bit of self hatred would have done you some good" but then, also, "Well too allow your body to get to 400 you can't love loved yourself that much"
You're right. I didn't love myself.
When I was 3 years old, I was raped. I was raped as an infant, as well. I grew up hating myself and everything about me. I wanted to protect myself, so I ate and ate and ate, finding comfort in food. I wanted to shield myself. I wanted to be disgusting so I couldn't get hurt again.
I hope you are proud of yourself. That was a very hurtful thing to say. Thank you for reminding me how far I have come in how I feel about myself, though. I had value at 456 lbs. I'll have value at my goal weight, too. We all need to be nicer to ourselves, because if we are more understanding of what we're going through and why we eat the way we do, we'll be able to take better care of ourselves.
I am a survivor of child sexual abuse. I will not let that control my life any longer. I have come a long way. I'll go even further once I block you. Have a blessed day.

Like a lot of others have said, I retain Water during my cycle! I got the IUD before surgery as recommended by my doctor. Even though I'm on the IUD, I think I still have a cycle of sorts, and I notice I get more hormonal/my body feels differently each month, even though I'm not menstruating.
That being said - I think the most important thing to remember is that a pound is 3500 calories. If you weigh in and you've suddenly gained weight, it's most likely water weight. Why? Well... it's really freaking hard to not only eat back what you burn each day, let alone another 3500 on top of that, when we have such teeny tummies.
That's what helps me get through the wild ride that is weighing in! Haha

I didn't think I'd be crying this morning, but here we are. It's been a really tough journey, you guys. Every day I struggle with "defensive obesity," a condition my psychiatrist says results from my childhood sexual abuse. I have to be kind to myself. I have to love myself, because if I don't, how can I continue to work hard? Let's all do better. Please respect my wishes and don't reply to this thread again. Let's let it die.

I didn't think I'd be crying this morning, but here we are. It's been a really tough journey, you guys. Every day I struggle with "defensive obesity," a condition my psychiatrist says results from my childhood sexual abuse. I have to be kind to myself. I have to love myself, because if I don't, how can I continue to work hard? Let's all do better. Please respect my wishes and don't reply to this thread again. Let's let it die.

I didn't think I'd be crying this morning, but here we are. It's been a really tough journey, you guys. Every day I struggle with "defensive obesity," a condition my psychiatrist says results from my childhood sexual abuse. I have to be kind to myself. I have to love myself, because if I don't, how can I continue to work hard? Let's all do better. Please respect my wishes and don't reply to this thread again. Let's let it die.

Holy cow, man. "Maybe a bit of self hatred would have done you some good" but then, also, "Well too allow your body to get to 400 you can't love loved yourself that much"
You're right. I didn't love myself.
When I was 3 years old, I was raped. I was raped as an infant, as well. I grew up hating myself and everything about me. I wanted to protect myself, so I ate and ate and ate, finding comfort in food. I wanted to shield myself. I wanted to be disgusting so I couldn't get hurt again.
I hope you are proud of yourself. That was a very hurtful thing to say. Thank you for reminding me how far I have come in how I feel about myself, though. I had value at 456 lbs. I'll have value at my goal weight, too. We all need to be nicer to ourselves, because if we are more understanding of what we're going through and why we eat the way we do, we'll be able to take better care of ourselves.
I am a survivor of child sexual abuse. I will not let that control my life any longer. I have come a long way. I'll go even further once I block you. Have a blessed day.

I have a lower BMI. My reasons for this surgery are very personal and difficult for me... my mom died of multiple strokes brought on by weight issues. I watched her have stroke after stroke for a year which took her mind and body slowly. After years of losing the same 20 lbs then gaining more I had this surgery out of pure fear for my health. My PCP was in full support.
I have been disgusted in myself for not being able to "just lose" the 50-75 lbs. It shouldn't be that hard! But it is...
I do not have a problem with the original post; this is a place to safely voice our feelings, fears and triumphs. I get the frustration and I would feel the same way. It was not mean nor did you call out anyone specifically. I hope you feel safe to continue to voice your frustrations.
Keep up the good & hard work- I will be cheering you on!!

Some people can lose weight but will always have an ugly personality. What a hypocritical jack hole.

Anyway, to answer your question -- try to order "a la carte" if you're able. Or, get a meal that's Protein based and ask for substitutions. For example, the other day I went out to eat and ordered a citrus chicken breast served over rice with one side. I asked for creamed spinach instead of rice and got a side salad. Ate a few bites of chicken, ate my salad, and boxed the rest up to take home! I got 2 more meals out of it. Just look over the menu carefully and see what can heat up well, like you mentioned.

Great replies everybody. I want to be clear that I don't think that people who started with a low BMI have it easier! What I'm saying is... people need to be cognizant that there a lot of people who start off with really high BMIs. So when you talk about how fat and disgusting you were at a certain weight, you might be talking about someone's goal weight. Does that make sense?? It can just be hard, PERSONALLY, to see someone talking about how disgusting it was to be, say, 50 lbs overweight when you have over 200 lbs to lose. You know?