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Since you have a brand new figure.. why not go buy some sexy lingere (sp?) and put it on over your regular clothes and then give him a little strip tease? If your shy about that just give him a little peek of what's under there and He'll do the rest!!!! The throwing on the bed and taking charge works well too... Heck.. just about anything works! Lol! Molly

Hey Judi and all you tennessee ladies! My Dr. is Dr. Lynch at Baptist WHEN I EVER GET THERE. I did 1 year of LA Weight loss, but my PCP won't sign the six little pieces of paper for 6 months of weight loss. I even have all the documentation from LA for him. We are going to try it without, and just the LA documentation, but I'm doing my second weigh in with him next week. I guess I'll be paying 53.60 for the next 6 months just to get weighed! That just sucks!! (please excuse me). Soooo. I'm waiting on insurance approval, and just in case doing my stupid weigh-ins. Thanks to all of you for support.. I'll also keep needing it. Molly:frown: PS Judi.. I'm out by beech schools.. so we're close.. do you go to curves?

I don't know how old you are, but I have found with age, that the least said the better in some circumstances. If your husband (mine is also skinny and can eat and drink just about anything he wants)has watched you over the years try and fail at "diets" and "weight loss" what ever, and still has that attitude just smack him up side of the head! My husband has watched me fail for 15 years now as my weight has increased with each attempt. He has never criticized me, but also wants me to be healthy. This is about being healthy, not just weight loss. AND this is about you.. not other's opinions. My honest opinion to you is to not talk about this to anyone other than who you know will support you, and tell you dear hubby to love you thru this. This is a great place to keep up a support system too. Just don't talk too much outside here. I'm even telling my work that my Dr. appointments are for "female reasons". That way when I have the surgery I can have some sort of "female surgery". Good luck to you! Molly

Hi Becky! Fellow Tennessean here! For me, I chose this over the other WLS for several reasons.. From what I'm reading and hearing that you end up in the same place in 5 years, without the malabsorption issues. I have portion control issues along with the fact I can eat alot of food in a very short amount of time. The fact that you can just about make your self a new stomach on the gastric bypass along with the dumping issue. I have taken alot of time.. I "lurked" on this site for 6 months just reading. I really feel that it is a very personal decision, but for me I think this is the best one. Good luck to you in your Quest for health! Molly

My Heart really goes out to you. I don't have all the family problems that you have, and that can take so much out of you. I'm at my heaviest weight also. I just did my psych appointment, and the questionaire I had to answer did show mild depression mainly due to my health problems and my weight (duh!) This is a great place to read and get support. It is a nice feeling to know that you are not alone. I've gotten alot of strength and support here. Good luck to you, and remember that this is about you and getting healthy. Molly

What you have posted is the reason that I'm not telling anyone. My husband (who is 100% behind me) and 2 close friends are the only people I've told. Even my doctor appointments I've blown off as "female problems" That way when I have the surgery I can be off for a week without alot of questions. You have to realize there are several reasons that people react negatively to you. Some will be jealous, some just don't understand, and some people are just negative. I'm so sorry that you have to go thru this on top of a very hard decision. None of us here take this decision lightly, and I'm sure that it's hurtful to hear negative thoughts. Just keep strong, quit talking about it and keep your eye on the goal! Remember this is about yourself and getting healthy! Good luck to you! Molly

Way to go!!!! I'm just waiting for approval, so I'm new to the process. I can't wait to be able to do your post!!! I know that you have worked hard to your goal, and you deserve a hugh... YOU GO GIRL!!! Molly

Had my eval last night. I had already done all the question tests.. (do you hear voices, do you have thoughts of suicide, those things + the eating disorder test). My appointment was about 45 minutes. He asked me to describe the surgery and risks to him, describe my diet both pre and post op. What foods would be "risky' or to be avoided, things like that. It actually was informative and once I settled in I wasn't nervous. He went over my personality profile thing.. I'm normal. slightly depressed due to health concerns and my weight (duh). all in all it was good.

Oh wow. I'm going for my appointment in 30 minutes. They didn't say anything about 3 hours! But I've already gone and filled out the questionnaire part. I told my husband if I got committed would he come and get me out! HA! I'm a bit nervous, but I figure it's going to be about how I've gotten like this (weight problems) and what I've done in the past. things like that. I'll let you know how it goes!!!! Molly

Thanks so much for the support. I'm in the Hendersonville/Goodlettsville area. I'm going to Baptist with Dr. Lynch. I've hit a snag, and I'm just having to wade thru it. I assumed (HA) that the office people would be helping me navigate thru all the insurance stuff, and that's not happening. I called the insurance lady 3 weeks ago after my PCP visit to make sure she had gotten the forms. She said she had, and everything was faxed to insurance waiting on approval. I was pumped and excited. Well.. I finally called (not wanting to be a pest or make anyone mad) and she said she must have mistaken me for someone else, and my PCP letter and psych eval are not done. Grrrr. So now I'm in that process. I'll keep in touch with you tennessee ladies! I'll need your help! Thanks! Molly

I had a sleep study done 3 years ago, and it was not the best experience of my life.. with the things taped to you, and the cameras rolling. And I have apnea so I had to go back for the mask part. That night I had 45 mintues of good sleep all night. I kept having panic attacks from the mask. I now slap that sucker on at night and am asleep withing 5 minutes. When I started the process I would throw the thing across the room about 2 AM! Then I started craving the mask and sleep. weird huh? Now I've leveled out, but I can't imagine NOT having the mask on to sleep. I did forget it on an overnight trip and was just misreable.. along with my husband who didn't sleep well either! good luck! Molly

Good luck on the quitting smoking. I was a smoker for 22 years, tried to quit 2 times and the 3rd was the charm! I used the patch just because there wasn't much available then. I dream very vivid anyway, so the patch didn't have that much effect on my dreams. The main thing about quitting (which besides quitting eating) was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I wanted it very badly. The only person who can make the decision to really quit is you, and you have to want it so bad that you are willing to go thru the bad stuff to get it. I've been smoke free for 10 years now, and I can't believe that I ever smoked. In today's time I really would try Chantix. I work for the Health Department, and i went to an all day seminar on Chantix. It does have some side effects, and isn't right for everyone, but a 44% success rate is rocks! Each person has to do it in his/her own way. I had a pack of cigarettes that stayed on my kitchen table for 6 months. I knew they were there, and i had to choose each day not to pick them up. Also.. straws cut to a cig. length and I just chewed the heck out of them!!! Good luck and keep trying! Molly

Thanks Missy. I definately have learned a hugh lesson.

Hi there! I'm just starting the process myself.. with a little setback because of some miscommunications with the surgeons office. I have found from the months of just reading on this site that we are all pretty much in the same boat. I actaully freaked out thinking of all the "food I wouldn't be able to eat".. how bad is that! This has actually made me face just how much of a food addict I am. I'm starting to do some weight loss stuff on my own as I wait for my communication problems to be fixed. I've used this site to help myself and educate myself and also learn that I'm not alone!

Good luck to you!

I finally called my surgeon yesterday afternoon because I had not heard from them. 3 weeks ago I called to see if my PCP had sent the info to her and she said "oh yes! It's been faxed to insurance and now we just wait". Well, I didn't want to be a pest, but I finally called. She apparently "mistook" me for another patient, and I don't have all my stuff ready to send to the insurance.. namely my PCP has not sent the letter, and I haven't had the psych eval. (I thought they would tell me what I needed to do.. yes, I need a little hand holding i guess) I was so mad and I didn't want to say anything that I would regret that I just hung up. She didn't even apologize for her mistake! Grrrr. Anyway, for all you out there, don't just sit back and "wait". I guess you have to check and keep checking that things are being done. Monday I have to .. call PCP office, call surgeon office to find out what the heck to do about the psych eval. (HUGH sigh).. I'm very disappointed, but now I know to keep up with myself:crying:

Hi squirrel from nashville tennessee! My family actually lives close to Knoxville, and grew up there. I'm still waiting for approval from insurance company to get started. congrats with the weightloss and good luck!

Thank you so much for your input. I feel better about it.. especially from dollhouse. thanks for making me feel better. Also to shiny.. you made me laugh! but didn't pee1 thank goodness!

I just got the letter that my PCP sent to the surgeon's office (which was part of the fax to insurance). It said I had been on Jenny Craig (I've been on LA Weightloss for a year) it said I had knee problems I don't have, and said nothing of the pre-diabetic condition. It did include my sleep apnea and my weight loss and the weight gain. I've been with him since 2001 which he included, and he recommended the surgery. I"ve got CIGNA insurance. Should I just sit tight and see what the insurance comes back with, or should I call to correct the problems??? I need help with this one. Anyone out there had an experience like this?:confused2: molly

Hurray for you!!!! Good luck on all things your are doing! What a great year your going to have!

Actually the first thing I did was do do ALOT of reading here! Then I attended a seminar and they started me on what I needed to do, which was see my PCP. I "lurked" on this site for months reading everything! Good luck to you

Hi good luck to you. I'm still waiting on approval.. hope it comes soon!

Good luck to you.. keep posting! I'm not there yet and I'll check to see how your doing!

Wow.. good luck in your journey! I love your very heartfelt sentiments! I too am soooo very tired of being fat. For the very first time I got on a small plane this summer and the seat beat would not fasten! I was in a panic! My husband (who has NEVER said a word about my weight) just looked at me. I had tears in my eyes as I hid the seatbelt so no one would see. The most hurtful was looking at my husband in panic. That did it for me. The happy news was the next plane the seat belt fit.. as did the others, at the very end. but I'll never forget that feeling.. nor the look in his eyes. We all have hugh pains as the "fatty"... that's why we are all here. Just keep up that attitude!! Molly

Good luck to you Mary. I'm waiting for approval from my insurance. I too have found this such a great place to read and learn as well as speak. I'm hoping that I get approved next week .. I may end up waiting until mid July if I don't. I have a hugh family vacation (kids, grandkids and such) in mid june. I look forward to it each year.. it is a highpoint of our year. I just don't want to mess that up, so if I don't get approved this week I may postpone until after the 4th. I just don't want my small grandkids see me not up to par. I only see them twice a year.