Rainbow_Warrior

Not stalking you, Peaches, just getting a chuckle out of all your creative writing:) Enjoyed it. Your links provided further entertainment. (Particularly the comments on your fundraising page)
Best wishes with your liquid diet....its tough. Take it a day at a time.
When you broadcast "for the world to watch" about your last appointment...I would be very careful about accusing your doctor of calling you degrading names. If you're not being 100% truthful, you might find yourself facing a slander suit.

A basic backyard pool is $AUD12000 ... unaffordable for most people.
A three-month pass to the local indoor swimming centre is $AUD123.
No general time limits (other than closing time).
I usually stay three to five hours per visit. That's better value than pool ownership.

Was this a result of a longitudinal study? A sociological study?
Was it a Facebook post?
Was it part of a book? Or a thesis?
Was it in a magazine in a cafe?
What sort of veracity can we expect from the source.

This is uncalled for. Calling a person disgusting on here that has meted out helpful advice to many posters on here is crossing a line and maybe even goes against the terms of service.
The point of the post is valid, elective procedures require us to follow the surgeon’s requirements. We must follow the insurance company ‘s requirements.
Becoming rude and nasty adds nothing of value to the thread and I actually hope they close this thread.

Yes, I do love surgeons and doctors. There are several in my family and friend network. They are human beings, too. They have rights, just like you do:)
Bariatric surgery is an elective procedure. If you screw up and hurt yourself, your doctor pays the price.
The first thing doctors learn is to first do no harm.
Doing surgery on someone who cannot control their eating habits doesn't do any good, and in fact can do a great deal of harm.
Doctors have every right to expect patients to comply with treatment guidelines and to refuse those who don't.

"Why wear the willpower of the patient out before surgery?"
Answer: To prevent death and injury. And to protect yourself against malpractice suits and insurance hikes.
Bariatric surgeons don't owe anyone anything. It is entirely at their discretion who they choose to do surgery on and who they believe will be a safe risk for a procedure they perform. What happens to you...is their butt on the line as much as yours.
They have a right to refuse services to people who are not yet able to follow instructions and keep themselves safe. And they are smart to do so.
As a patient, if you can comply with the requirements of a program, you have a right to be treated.
But you don't get to make the rules. The doctor doing the surgery does.

Your husband is facing a two-edged sword:
1. He may genuinely feel that he will lose you on the operating table and is, therefore, trying to prevent that through whatever crappy reasoning he's using.
2. He may (separately or jointly with # 1) feel that you will improve your body, your life and lifestyle significantly over 18 months to two years if you have WLS. If that occurs, he may (in his confused forward thinking) assume that you will meet and run off with a better quality man.
What to do:
A. Tell him clearly why you are getting the surgery and ask him to give you his support.
B. Tell him that if he refuses # A that you really will still go ahead with your solution to your health/lifestyle for yourself. Add that you are not pleased about his objections but that you have to look after yourself for all the reasons you've outlined.
- - -
If, ultimately, he's not strong enough to support you, LET HIM GO.

If your buoyancy changes anything like "normal", you will mirror my experience.
As I have lost 36kg (80 pounds), my body sits lower in the Water. MY REMAINING BODY IS FAR MORE DENSE.
I have lost some of the less dense visceral fat.
According to my sister and another of my swim buddies, I am 50mm-80mm lower in the water ... i.e. 2" to 3" difference.

A basic backyard pool is $AUD12000 ... unaffordable for most people.
A three-month pass to the local indoor swimming centre is $AUD123.
No general time limits (other than closing time).
I usually stay three to five hours per visit. That's better value than pool ownership.

Here's a reality. You have to prove that you have the self control to not hurt yourself and create a medical emergency. Surgeons fear non-compliant patients....because they have complications and it makes the surgeon look dangerous.
My surgeon was brutal. We had to lose 10% of our total weight...to get approved for surgery.
Took me six months, but I faithfully lost the 27 pounds he required to prove I could stick to a diet.
Surgery isn't a magic cure. If you don't get control of your eating habits and learn to eat the right things, you're dead in the Water. Surgery will not work for you.
Losing 30 pounds before my presurgical liquid diet....was child's play compared to the hell of the starvation diet both before and after surgery.
Don't for a second think that losing weight before surgery is "the hard part"....it's tough, but it's the tip of the ice berg compared to what's next...and if you're not up to it, you might want to reconsider.
Just being honest, folks. Wishing everyone success and good outcomes.

Your husband is facing a two-edged sword:
1. He may genuinely feel that he will lose you on the operating table and is, therefore, trying to prevent that through whatever crappy reasoning he's using.
2. He may (separately or jointly with # 1) feel that you will improve your body, your life and lifestyle significantly over 18 months to two years if you have WLS. If that occurs, he may (in his confused forward thinking) assume that you will meet and run off with a better quality man.
What to do:
A. Tell him clearly why you are getting the surgery and ask him to give you his support.
B. Tell him that if he refuses # A that you really will still go ahead with your solution to your health/lifestyle for yourself. Add that you are not pleased about his objections but that you have to look after yourself for all the reasons you've outlined.
- - -
If, ultimately, he's not strong enough to support you, LET HIM GO.

Just tell him

Ditto.
When I first went back to swimming (170kg or 375 pounds) I could hold my breath for 15-18 seconds.
Now (at 138kg or 304 pounds) I'm good for 45-50 seconds.

I’ll chime in here.
I had RYN Oct 2016 weighing 292. I had a lower body lift Aug 2017 at 197. The lowest I got to after my skin surgery was 184. I’m currently 190....down 5 from a very enjoyable Christmas! Back on track and feeling great. I never really exercised much just some treadmill walking and very active with my son.
I think the key is moderation, but also not letting things get to far off track that it’s hard to pull them back. My goal weight is 185 and I complete feel like these 5lbs will be no problem. Just logging my food again and trying to limit treats. I’m a size L-XL/12-14 and love everything about life right now. Planning a second surgery to have a small revision to the upper tummy and a breast lift/augmentation (maybe arms and thighs too) in April :-)
Hope that helps!
 

My Fitness Pal App and website are easy to integrate.

Do what you and your doctor think is best.
Do NOT seek to satisfy the narrow demands of your wider family or friends.

Bear in mind that once you are through those first two to four days, it becomes relatively easy.
Your body is reacting to change and, as you say, there's an element of WITHDRAWAL SYMPTOMS.
Good luck.

Do what you and your doctor think is best.
Do NOT seek to satisfy the narrow demands of your wider family or friends.

I had my surgery on October 9th after having complications and 2 more surgeries I can say I am doing very well I have lost 65lbs and lots of inches I feel great can do things that I haven't been able to do in a long time I wish all of you the best, this site is great and keeps me going thank you all.

Yes! Go ask your GP's opinion of whether you have trouble or not.
Have you been lifting small children without warming up first?

I take benefiber and I like it it’s very helpful


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My Monday update yesterday ...
Currently 15 weeks & 5 days post op ... a.k.a. 110 days. I do my updates of my progress every Monday at about 10am or 11am.
For those of you who use POUNDS, I have averaged 2.75 pounds per week loss since my SLEEVE OPERATION. Since I met my surgeon in mid-July, I have averaged 2.83 pounds per week overall. My BMI is sliding slowly downward.

I don't know which threads you read but I participate in more than a dozen key topics and about 15-20 topics that come and go.
In my six months here, I have come upon only THREE nasty contributors who have all been dealt with quickly and appropriately by the site's owner or his IT team.
97% of posts are positive or mostly 'on-track'.
I just wish more people were articulate and careful with the writing, spelling and punctuation they use.
Manners (specifically, bad manners) are minimal IN MY EXPERIENCE.
Maybe @Jelly Belly , you just need to filter the types of threads you're in if you are seeing negativity and nastiness. If anything is untoward and hurts your feelings, tell the correspondent. If she/he does not change, report it.

They are greasy and yucky and I don't understand what I saw in them. R.W. it is now Panczi season, pronounced Punch-kee, an Evil Bavarian donut of Polish extraction. Although I resisted the call of the boxed donuts in the supermarket aisle the other day the Panczi display kept trying to get my attention And even said "Hey sweet stuff, I'm over here" considered knocking them on the floor but didn't want to get in trouble with management. So I said "just shut up" and kept moving toward the door.

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Your pics show that you are achieving good loss.
Your chubby 2017 face has shrunk markedly.
I'm impressed.
(And your latest pic is already 4 weeks old ... I imagine that you are getting to feel the wow factor as you approach 'normal' weight.)