I recently started seeing someone and he doesn't know I am in the process of getting the sleeve. How did you tell the people you're dating?

How much detail did you give them? Did you continue to update them on where you were in the process?

Thanks!

Well, I've been married for 23 years so I can't say I remember all that much about dating, but there usually comes a time when you start getting more comfortable talking about personal issues. Granted, with my wife and I that time was about an hour into our first date, when we covered politics, religion and our respective previous marriages. It was more a matter of trying to scare each other off and failing, finding out we were perfect for each other and getting engaged two months later.

You look kind of young and didn't mention anything about previous dating or relationship experience at any weight level, so I don't know what you've got to compare this new guy to. The bottom line is that you'll know when you know. Regrettably, there's the possibility of finding out he's attracted to you because of your size and will not be excited by your plan to lose weight. You should certainly make sure of that before saying anything. Good luck.

15 minutes ago, elforman said:

The bottom line is that you'll know when you know.

So true, and so frustrating at the same time.

Just tell him