So I had surgery on Aug 14th 2017. I started this journey at 279 and had surgery at 269. I currently weigh 208 with a ultimate goal of 190. My problem is my wife and everyone I meet tells me that I shouldn't lose anymore weight as I would look too skinny.. I see all of my body's flaws. I'm not sure how I should proceed...do I keep going knowing that I will probably never be satisfied with my weight loss or just start trying to enter maintenance mode 40 pounds before I originally planned?

2 minutes ago, txsrooster said:

I'm not sure how I should proceed...

Do what you and your doctor think is best.

Do NOT seek to satisfy the narrow demands of your wider family or friends.

You don't decide to enter maintenance mode, your body decides. So just keep going. You should at least be able to drop a hundred from your starting weight.

Part way through my weight loss phase, I did receive some comments that I was getting too skinny. It turns out that it was due to my clothes. When I shrunk in size, part of this reduction took place in my shoulders. So when I put on a coat or jacket, my sleeves hung down over my fingertips. This gave an impression of looking like the Disney character called Droopy in Snow White. The solution for me was to get rid of all my coats and jackets and replace them.

Shoot towards your goal weight and your body will readjust over time.

Also, people may be responding to your thinner face. Fat will reapportion itself over the next year after weight loss stops and then it's probably you won't look drawn or thin. From your avatar here, you do not look emaciated. I'd go for a normal BMI if it were me.

Hey Rooster, and final nice to meet someone with a profile and progress similar to my own. I am going through that now, not just with family, but with people outside my house and I scratch my head like when someone says something stupid in a public transportation system ( like the T-train in Boston). I lost the same amount of weight as you, but only in a 3 month period and the change was so suddenly drastic, I have coping issues, especially the one's who were happy to say "wow, you sure have put weight since you retired" and now they say "I need to slow down". I am pushing to my goal weight and respect their opinion always, but it will not derail me now, my mind set is in cement and nothing will stop me now. I busted my ass off for 21 years in the Marines to conform to the Military's weight standards and today I am getting rewarded for my gym visits and I am absolutely hooked and have full intentions to return my natural body weight, regardless of any one thoughts, other than one who gave me the surgery. Keep pushing Texas brother!!

Thanks everyone ,I think I will continue on with my goal of 170 that the Dr gave me. He said once I get there I will add back some weight and that will put me right where I want to be. I spent 24 years in the Coast Guard and the Coast Guard Reserve. Dreading the weigh ins,. Now I would have no issue with the weigh in as I am below the screening weight!! I need to update my profile picture as that was a while ago..

What's funny is I tell everyone I've lost 200 lbs, only that 130 of it is the same two pounds over and over...cursed stalls.

Texas rooster and Sammy just read and re-read,your storys. First thank you both for serving. Without young men like you 2 I'd be bebopping around in a burkah or worse and since I'm already shaped,like a pup tent.... Rooster if anyone tried to get in your face remind thIem Don't mess with Texas! Sammy" oorah son" proud to know you both on Bariatric Pal.

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