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Oh, yes, stay! We'll all want to know how it goes when you have the bypass, and we'll definitely support you as you take this journey. That won't change. Keep us posted!

Hi Beaglemom, In March I started this process. The medical group I was with told me first that they didn't have anyone in my area who did the lap band surgery, then that they wanted five years proof of attempted weight loss, then that they wanted a psychological evaluation, then office notes from my doctor, then just six months' proof of attempted weight loss. I wrote letters, jumped through hoops, did the cardiology exam and the psych eval. In October, I went to see my primary care physician and found out that the medical group I belonged to was "bought out" so I was switched to another one, which approved my initial consultation with the surgeon within three days. Believe me, I understand what you're going through, and it's probably not over, because after I do all this, maybe the psych eval and the cardiology exam again, I'll still have to wait for approval for the surgery! It feels good, though, when things finally get going, and I won't mind redoing stuff if I have too. Good luck, and hang in there! Debbie

Hello, I'm not from south Carolina, but there is a section for local lap band, and each state has a forum. You might try asking there, and perhaps someone can help. Good luck.

Hi all, It looks like I'll be a 2009 bandster, too. I had my initial consult with the surgeon on October 22nd, and a psych eval scheduled for November 19th. I had been fighting with the medical group I was with since March, and got approval for the initial consult within three days after switching--involuntarily, but I'd done a psych eval and cardiology exam because that's what they said I needed. So I may have to redo both, but I don't care. I'm just glad I'm on my way! Debbie

Good luck, Susan. Let us know how things go. I live in the San Fernando valley, and I fought for six months with the medical group I was with. Only after I got switched did things begin to happen. I hope things happen for you, too. Debbie

Susan, have fun with those lessons. I'm wondering if by progression your teacher means the sequence of chords that usually go together, like an e major to a major to b7, with maybe a 2 or 6 chord thrown in for good measure. (Haha!) Good luck with all the pre op stuff. Are you hoping to find something cheaper, or will you pay for the dietician and the psych eval? I may have to take another one, because the one I did was before I was switched to the medical group I have now, and it may not be enough to satisfy their requirements. But I went to my first support group meeting tonight, and I really liked it. The only drawback is that there seems to be more focus on gastric bypass. I still got a lot out of it, though, so it's all good.

Thank you, Don. I've been an accompanist for a musical theater class at a junior college for the past five or six years. They have always sent checks to me, and I did have to sign a written form, which I suppose was a little different. The past few times they were slower and slower in sending my money, and I finally had to say to my friend, who taught the class, that I wouldn't play any more unless I could be assured of getting paid in a timely manner. With this Christmas gig, I'm just going to have to tell this woman that I want the money the same night, and if she offers transportation for me, it doesn't mean she gets to deduct that from my check. I play for a good three hours, and more if people are enjoying the music, and that's not counting the time when the hostess likes to lead everybody singing. Looks like I'm going to have to tell her what I need. But contracts from now on, I think is a good idea. Debbien

Thank you Froggi and Tapshoes. I live close enough to train tracks to hear the horn and when it's really quiet, I can hear the train itself. Glad you enjoyed this.

Hi all, I have been lurking around this particular forum for quite a while, but I've been on the lap band journey for about six months. I changed medical groups (involuntarily) and got approval to see a surgeon within three days! I had my initial consult on the 22nd of October. I did a psych eval and cardiology exam before but may have to take them again, but I don't care, because now I'm on my way. I've been on the treadmill just about every day since my consultation, and will be going to my first support group meeting this Wednesday. When I got weighed at my doctor's office a few months ago, I was 331 pounds. I didn't ask at the surgeon's office. But I'm so excited, and as so many have said it's wonderful to have others who are losing, and who had a ways to go. Congratulations to all those who have been banded and good luck to us all!

One of the reasons I love this forum is because I can get information from those who have gone before me, and if I have a problem as a black woman I can ask questions and get answers from someone who understands. I had scars from my hysterectomy but they've pretty much disappeared; still it's nice to know that if I need something to help with the scars from my banding, there's something I can use. Thank you all. It is nice to have a place to go where people like me get it. I'm blind, and once in a while I need to get away from the sighted people in my life! :-) lol

I know how you feel. I'm a pianist, and have been lucky enough to have done a bit of performing, some of it as a musical theater director in local theater. I was always conscious of my weight, and felt that others were judging me, too, though no one ever said anything. Truth be told, I learned there were others who were plus sizes too, but like you, I let it get in the way, and haven't actively tried for much lately. I guess for me, the trick is to do what I can (I still perform) and even though I feel like there's not enough room for me, the piano, the singer(s) and the audience, I keep going. It's not always easy, but it works for me. Good luck. Let us know when you decide to take those steps back toward your dream!

Hi all, What a great idea! I've been writing poetry for years, was even in a couple of online poetry workshops, but I haven't written anything for a while. But I'd like to share a poem, and I hope someone enjoys it. My Siren Song A still, dark night in a mountain pass, Wind softly sighing in the trees; It gently caresses the tall, wild grass, Accompanied by the sound of rustling leaves. A mournful sound fills the night, Sad but beautiful in its power; Creatures both great and small take flight, Stillness now by sound devoured. It echos from each mountain peak, Rebounds from every rock and hill; Though its direction you might seek, It proves to be elusive still. In quiet night or early morn, In city streets this sound is heard; 'cross field and meadow, sound is borne, Heart wrenching music without words. I don't know why I feel this way, Sad beauty I can not explain. The only thing that I can say, I love the sound of passing trains!

Welcome, Susan, and thank you, Marie for the suggestion. Susan, do you read music, or are you learning to play by ear, or both? I read braille music, but you can't read and play the piano at the same time, so I learn a lot of things, probably most, by ear, though it's good to have the music to refer to if I have a question about notes or rhythm. There isn't always a sighted musician around for me to ask--my friends are usually working, I work, and when we do get together, a lot of times I've forgotten what I wanted to know.

Maryrose, I grew up in a house with music, too. My father played guitar a little, but mostly he listened to music and my older sisters sang. I have one sister that played piano, but stopped, I don't know why. But she has a gorgeous singing voice. Good for you for taking up piano lessons again. When I was a teenager I wanted to quit because I didn't like my teacher, but my father wouldn't let me, and I'm glad I stayed with it. I hope you do too. Green Sleeves by Christmas? You can do it, I know you can! Debbie

Hi Mary, Thanks for posting. Have you finished all your pre op testing? Good luck, ahd hope you'll come to the musical bandster forum soon.

MISS.SUSAN, it's in the create your own forum, under lap band social groups, or something like that. Hope that helps. It's kind of buried so you have to go past a lot of others. Scraig114, I am a pianist and have performed solo and with groups. I love musical theater, but have played all kinds of music. I was classically trained. I've just had my initial consult with the surgeon after fighting with my medical group for the past six months. The only reason I got the consult was because my medical group was changed, and I was approved for it within three days. Hope it's that easy to get my band Congratulations on your weight loss so far!! Cross your fingers! Debbie

Hi all, There is a not-so-new forum for anyone who is a singer, songwriter, musician, music teacher, anyone involved in music in any way. When I started the forum I got some responses. Please feel free to come by and help keep it going. It's kind of lonely over there! :-(

It may be a little early, but I got a call for a Christmas gig today. I've done this particular one for several years, and it's very nice. the last time I went, however, the hostess arranged for me to have transportation. (Before this, friends drove me there.) Anyway, she didn't pay me afterward, but told me she would send me a check, which she did. But it wasn't for the amount she said it would be. This happened to me at a local theater where I was the music director for several shows. The last one I did, I wasn't paid until several weeks after, which is not what we agreed on. I hate having to ask people for money, but I know I have to, and that I deserve to be paid when they say I should as well as the price agreed on. I'm thinking about telling this woman, who is very nice, that I need to have my money the night of the gig, and no less than what she's always paid me. She said they missed me last year, so we'll see how sincere she is. But what I want to know if anyone else has had this problem, and how you handled it.

Beth, well said! It's really funny how things changed for me as I got older. You rock too, sister!

The physicians group I was with was bought out by someone so I belong to another one now. I learned this when I went to see my primary care physician on October 14. She resubmitted the paperwork and I got an approval at the end of the week. I scheduled my consult with the surgeon for November 17, but they called me at work last Tuesday to say they had a cancellation for the following day at 11 A.M. So I took it. I've already had the cardiology exam and psychological evaluation, so I hope I don't have to do those things over again. I went to a seminar in June. good luck to everyone. Debbie

Thank you, April. There's more to the story. Today, just before I left work, the surgeon's office called to say they had a cancellation for tomorrow morning at 11. Did I want it? What do you think?! I'm either going to ask someone from work to drive me there, or I'll take a cab. Not cheap, but I don't care. I'm going! Debbie

Was it only a little over a week ago that I was sad because I'd been denied? I saw my doctor a week ago, on the 14th. She told me that the medical group I belonged to had been bought out so I now was part of another one. She resubmitted the paperwork, and on Saturday, I got a letter saying that I'd been approved for a consultation with a surgeon! I'm so excited I don't know what to do. But wait! There's more! :-) Just before I left work today I got a call from the surgeon's office saying they had a cancellation tomorrow morning at 11, and did I want it? Well yeah!!!! I really feel like my journey's beginning now!

Oblong, I think that what's going to make this time different is that you have a tool that will help you. I haven't been banded yet, and believe me, I can relate to what you're saying, especially not fitting in airplane seats, or needing extensions, and feeling like you're crowding out the passengers beside you. I know that I'll probably have those same fears, but what helps me is to think about the end result, and then, take it one day at a time. The reason you're doing this is because, as you said, "Zero, here I come!" I also find that it really helps to do just what you've done, come to this board and talk, talk, talk. There are people all around you, those who've gone before, and those, like me, who will follow, who really do know what you're feeling. You can do this!

Hi all, I've been posting on other threads since I joined this site, about how my insurance company's been uncooperative, to say the least. When my doctor first submitted the request for a surgeon, the medical group said I would have to travel at least an hour's distance to their surgeon. I am blind, and, apart from movies, I don't know of any blind folk who drive on a regular basis. (Well, I drove a friend's car when I was in college, and I'm still here!) :-) Anyway, I wrote back and explained that I wasn't willing to have my friends drive that far, and I didn't think it would be a good thing for a post operative patient to risk public transportation. Then they said I didn't have a psychological evaluation. So I had one. Then they said I needed five years' proof of attempted weight loss. So I had my personal trainer, who is also a friend, write a letter. Finally, they said I needed six months proof. And that was the fourth denial. I intended to go to obesity law.com and ask for help; in fact, I'd begun correspondence with them. Last Tuesday, I went to see my doctor. She informed me that the medical group had been "bought out" or words to that effect, and I was now with another one. She resubmitted everything, and on Saturday, I was approved for a consultation with a surgeon. I'm so excited, and I just can't hide it! (Hmm! Sounds like a song!) It's for November 17, and though it's a month away, it gives me a chance to really start exercising again. I haven't posted much here, but I did want to share with my sistas!

Thank you!