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I am the queen of this. I dont tell anyone because i dont care to hear anyones opinions or negativity or judgement or ignorance or play 21 questions with me. Plus i would never broadcast that im fat, or that i take allergy pills every day, it’s like who cares- none of their business. Plus, it’s kind of like if you choose to over share then you can’t really complain about anyone else’s reaction.

And you have every right to feel that way, it is your body after all. So by all means do what works best to you, you do not owe anyone any sort of explanation period.

Now that im now a size 4 instead of a 14 i get asked the obviously expected weight loss questions on a rare occasion. I answer them honestly by saying i watch what i eat (high Protein, low carb, smaller portions) and i workout 5 days per week hard core. That’s truthful. Im not ashamed nor am i hiding anything. I just dont typically volunteer any info about myself.

Plus as you go through the process your circle changes and you meet people who didn’t know you before you had surgery and they won’t care or question it, they will literally just view you as you.

I am the queen of this. I dont tell anyone because i dont care to hear anyones opinions or negativity or judgement or ignorance or play 21 questions with me. Plus i would never broadcast that im fat, or that i take allergy pills every day, it’s like who cares- none of their business. Plus, it’s kind of like if you choose to over share then you can’t really complain about anyone else’s reaction.

And you have every right to feel that way, it is your body after all. So by all means do what works best to you, you do not owe anyone any sort of explanation period.

Now that im now a size 4 instead of a 14 i get asked the obviously expected weight loss questions on a rare occasion. I answer them honestly by saying i watch what i eat (high Protein, low carb, smaller portions) and i workout 5 days per week hard core. That’s truthful. Im not ashamed nor am i hiding anything. I just dont typically volunteer any info about myself.

Plus as you go through the process your circle changes and you meet people who didn’t know you before you had surgery and they won’t care or question it, they will literally just view you as you.

Sooo i realize this is super random, crazy, unconventional and all that, but that’s kind of what i’m known for lol, so here goes nothing! 😊

So i’m in 4 other bariatric related groups online with thousands of members (most of them are women based but i would like to open this up to everyone)
I’m noticing that sooooo many of those posts are not wls related at all but dating/ relationship questions right and people love to answer them and help each other out.

So my thought is to start judgement free thread where you can literally ask whatever you want related to the topic, nothing is off limits and maybe we all can help each other out. No shame.

Nothing should ever feel uncomfortable or embarrassing here. I’ve met plenty of people that just need help finding what their looking for, or translating what the opposite sex actually means, i’ve even seen people ask questions simply because they just don’t have any actual real life experience. All of that is ok, ask away.

My only rule here is that there should be no negativity, or arguing in this thread. We all already have more than enough on our plates, no need to hurt anyone.

Also, if you have a question that you’re not fully comfortable sharing with everyone or you just need someone to listen to you, by all means feel free to send me a private message and i’ll try my best to help you out as well.💖💖💖🤗🤗🤗

-Jay

So if you are like me, often times I buy something and it sits in my closet and by the time I realize it, the expiration for return has passed. I've been doing something a little different lately. I've been buying all my transition clothing from either TJ Maxx or Marshals. They accept all clothing, even without a receipt, as long as the tags are still on. Therefore, I leave the tags on the clothes until I actually wear them. And if I found that I shrunk and they are too big, NO PROBLEM! I just return them for store credit and get something new. I also don't feel hesitant in buying clothes that don't fit yet, because I know that I don't need to worry about the return policy. The best part about it is, they have super cute clothing, especially Marshals. They have 1x-3x (14/16-22/24) in plus size and obviously the standard women's sizes. I find a lot of tops there for around $10, which happens to be cheaper than Walmart most of the time.

Tell them you were born with 3 testicles, only 2 descended, they have to go in and find where it went. Or you got a boil the last time you wore a Speedo and you want it fixed so you can go on a Caribbean cruise. Or tell them you're having a sex change, you're going to keep trying,until you find one b you like. That ought stun them into silence.🎭

I am the queen of this. I dont tell anyone because i dont care to hear anyones opinions or negativity or judgement or ignorance or play 21 questions with me. Plus i would never broadcast that im fat, or that i take allergy pills every day, it’s like who cares- none of their business. Plus, it’s kind of like if you choose to over share then you can’t really complain about anyone else’s reaction.

And you have every right to feel that way, it is your body after all. So by all means do what works best to you, you do not owe anyone any sort of explanation period.

Now that im now a size 4 instead of a 14 i get asked the obviously expected weight loss questions on a rare occasion. I answer them honestly by saying i watch what i eat (high Protein, low carb, smaller portions) and i workout 5 days per week hard core. That’s truthful. Im not ashamed nor am i hiding anything. I just dont typically volunteer any info about myself.

Plus as you go through the process your circle changes and you meet people who didn’t know you before you had surgery and they won’t care or question it, they will literally just view you as you.

Overall i eat really really well, but i definitely had some caramel m&m’s a few days ago because i was craving chocolate and it was amazeballs.

I’ll say this though so it’s clear. Live your life and don’t apologize or feel guilty about it. But at the same time cheats are for occasions, and they tend to work out better for people in the maintenance phase vs still losing phase. If you want to cheat do it, but own it and be accountable so you dont fall off the wagon. It’s easy to do. It’s your journey, have fun with it.

It’s the same before and after surgery. I wouldn’t suggest it other than before bed though for obvious munchie reasons/ regain.

If you can tolerate it before, you’ll be fine after

@Frustr8 @Tealael
This isn’t super new but i still look the same.
As far as new updates to my story goes, i’m officially doing my first 10k this year. I’m training for that now in addition to weight lifting. I’ve never done anything athletic like that before.

NSV: so i randomly went jean shopping and the size 4 actually fit, and really fit. I thought i was going to have to squeeze into them for dear life lol. I've been fat my whole life so this is new to me. The fact that i'm actually a small still blows my mind, but yet the scale still says im overweight smh. I'm still going to view this as a victory.

Overall i eat really really well, but i definitely had some caramel m&m’s a few days ago because i was craving chocolate and it was amazeballs.

I’ll say this though so it’s clear. Live your life and don’t apologize or feel guilty about it. But at the same time cheats are for occasions, and they tend to work out better for people in the maintenance phase vs still losing phase. If you want to cheat do it, but own it and be accountable so you dont fall off the wagon. It’s easy to do. It’s your journey, have fun with it.

Don’t tell.
If someone asks and you guys are close and feel like sharing then that’s up to you but the fewer people in your business the better.


Then there’s also a bunch of people who don’t care one way or another.

Literally nothing. Except maybe an ipad and chapstick.

For most of us it’s literally just overnight and you’ll be butt naked lol, so you won’t need anything really. Your lips will be beyond dry hence the chapstick due to dehydration. And the ipad because you’ll be bored or sleeping or walking off gas pressure. View it as a nap, not packing for a vacation if that makes any sense. Good luck on your surgery- it’s right around the corner!!!

NSV: so i randomly went jean shopping and the size 4 actually fit, and really fit. I thought i was going to have to squeeze into them for dear life lol. I've been fat my whole life so this is new to me. The fact that i'm actually a small still blows my mind, but yet the scale still says im overweight smh. I'm still going to view this as a victory.

Overall i eat really really well, but i definitely had some caramel m&m’s a few days ago because i was craving chocolate and it was amazeballs.

I’ll say this though so it’s clear. Live your life and don’t apologize or feel guilty about it. But at the same time cheats are for occasions, and they tend to work out better for people in the maintenance phase vs still losing phase. If you want to cheat do it, but own it and be accountable so you dont fall off the wagon. It’s easy to do. It’s your journey, have fun with it.

NSV: so i randomly went jean shopping and the size 4 actually fit, and really fit. I thought i was going to have to squeeze into them for dear life lol. I've been fat my whole life so this is new to me. The fact that i'm actually a small still blows my mind, but yet the scale still says im overweight smh. I'm still going to view this as a victory.

@Frustr8 @Tealael
This isn’t super new but i still look the same.
As far as new updates to my story goes, i’m officially doing my first 10k this year. I’m training for that now in addition to weight lifting. I’ve never done anything athletic like that before.

NSV: so i randomly went jean shopping and the size 4 actually fit, and really fit. I thought i was going to have to squeeze into them for dear life lol. I've been fat my whole life so this is new to me. The fact that i'm actually a small still blows my mind, but yet the scale still says im overweight smh. I'm still going to view this as a victory.

NSV: so i randomly went jean shopping and the size 4 actually fit, and really fit. I thought i was going to have to squeeze into them for dear life lol. I've been fat my whole life so this is new to me. The fact that i'm actually a small still blows my mind, but yet the scale still says im overweight smh. I'm still going to view this as a victory.

NSV: so i randomly went jean shopping and the size 4 actually fit, and really fit. I thought i was going to have to squeeze into them for dear life lol. I've been fat my whole life so this is new to me. The fact that i'm actually a small still blows my mind, but yet the scale still says im overweight smh. I'm still going to view this as a victory.

Yeah that's true. I can't stand doing cardio if it's boring lol but the two things I could do every day is swimming and dancing, because to me that's not exercise, that's just having fun. But last time I lost weight by strictly cardio, I had to keep losing weight until I was too skinny to get rid of the excess skin. I wouldn't mind losing fat and gaining muscle at the same time... I can't remember the exact term they use for that. I know it's harder to do that though.
Last time I started weight training, I immediately stopped losing weight because I was putting on so much muscle so quickly. I guess that could be a pro and con of being so short. That's why I'm sure one I start it won't take too long to put on adequate muscle, but the fat burning process always takes so much longer, at least for me.

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1) welcome!!!!
2) congrats on starting your process and your
journey (the starting line may seem overwhelming, but the finish line feels amazing and you all WILL make it to the finish line)
3) wishing each and every one of you continued and long term success!!! You got this, even when you think you don't, you really do.
4) if you ever need anything, don't hesitate to ask

Sleeved 12/20/16

Honestly just ignore him, like who really cares what he thinks anyway.

I despise cardio. The only cardio i will ever do is boxing. I lift heavy weights 5x per week and i love how i look. I’m still very hour glass and feminine but i’m not “bulky” or anything like that. I’m toned. And i prefer it that way. A lot of times when people do cardio only they get smaller but they still look flabby and that’s just not a goal of mine. So keep doing what works for you and you’ll be fine.

How tall are you btw? Your stats are similar to mine.

Literally nothing. Except maybe an ipad and chapstick.

For most of us it’s literally just overnight and you’ll be butt naked lol, so you won’t need anything really. Your lips will be beyond dry hence the chapstick due to dehydration. And the ipad because you’ll be bored or sleeping or walking off gas pressure. View it as a nap, not packing for a vacation if that makes any sense. Good luck on your surgery- it’s right around the corner!!!