even11

I chose not to tell people because they are so judgmental. They think it's the easy way out but it's a lifestyle change. Ur life will never be the same again
Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Good analogy...

I had Dr Hawasli and my surgery went very smooth and I have had zero complications. I had my surgery done at St John so I'm not familiar with Dearborn surgery center.

This made me laugh because it made me think of something I heard back when I was in school. The comment made was I'm fat and you're ugly but at least I can do something about it. I'm not suggesting you say it it just made me laugh thinking about it.

LMAO... good one Dub! And well deserved!!!
Sent from my SM-N920P using the BariatricPal App

I haven't had many negative comments but to the few I did get I simply say if you think it's so easy have it done and in a year we can re visit this conversation and you can tell me what you think is so easy about it...and being that I'm 6"1 no one has been brave enough to comment further... To my face anyway ... Try to not to be affected by other people's opinions it's not their life or their decision you get to decide what works for you no one else has to like it as long as you want to do it then just be ok with not feeling you must explain or justify anything to anyone....

This is why I'm not telling anyone.
I was super heartbroken when my best friend who I told (and swore to secrecy) told me that I was giving up on myself. I think it's just one of those things you can't understand until you've struggled with it. It's like telling someone with depression to just, "cheer up!", or someone with anxiety to "calm down!!" (I've literally had that yelled at me during a panic attack).
food is so weird because it's the one addiction that is supposedly all your fault. If a heroin addict had managed to quit by himself for a few weeks or months or even years but kept going back to it no one would be saying, "no.. you can do this on your own! don't give up on yourself!!" We would be rightfully applauding them for realizing that they had an issue that was effecting their health and acknowledging that they needed more tools to get healthy. Fat people are one of the last groups of people in this country that no one will bother you for shaming or making fun of. Everyone else gets a pat on the back for getting some sort of professional help. Instead it's, "GOD, just put down the fork and start exercising! It's not THAT hard!"
I'd just once like to hear someone say, "GOD just put down the needle and stop shooting up, it's not THAT hard!"
If people haven't experienced something they just don't get it, the decent ones among us REALIZE that they don't understand and try to have sympathy and not judge. After I explained more about the surgery to my friend she got on board with my decision, but I can't have that conversation over and over again so it's just her and my husband who know.
If you're looking for an answer to people saying that, the best you can do is explain what kind of sacrifices really go into this surgery. If you don't want to keep explaining that just nod and smile.

I tell people that the truth is if there was an easy way out we would ALL be fighting each other to get to the front of the line. doh. everyone who has any weight to loose would do it if it was easy. OF COURSE.
when you are not ashamed of getting the tools you need it really takes the wind out of their sails. thankfully I have not encountered that attitude from anyone important to me.

I have learned, especially recently, that I don't have to defend my life choices to anyone. I also try not to join their ignorance by insulting them back. When someone criticizes anything about me, my opinions or my choices, I simply say "It works for me" , I end the discussion and I change the subject. I'm getting better the more I do it and it is amazing how negative people don't know how to handle the lack of emotional response. Best wishes to you.

"Thank you for your concern. You have a blessed day now. Good bye".

My thoughts are that someone is mighty arrogant if they are outside of my inner circle and feel compelled to share their opinion about my medical procedure... My response " I'm not interested in your medical decisions nor am I interested in your opinions on mine. It's irrelevant to your life so bugger off!" And SMILE of course
Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I think a couple of easy responses would be:"Yes I'm taking the easy way out to save my life, thanks for letting me know"
or
"I really appreciate your concern/curiosity about this event however I'm not comfortable discussing it right now. I trust that you can respect my wishes... so how about this crazy weather?"
or
"Your line of questioning is inappropriate; please desist."
I have used variations of these replies for the sassy to salty peeps I know. Some people are curious sincerely and with them I usually give an abbreviated account along with my programs info.
This experience is stressful for everyone. No one decided to do this for fun or without consideration. It's surgery and people can die from that but we each and everyone of us was on a definite path to an early death or risking preventable disease (high bp, heart disease, diabetes, etc) because of obesity. It's proven, there's studies upon studies, and so many facts about the dangers of obesity that the time was now to take of it. WLS was the best option for everyone here too, the data supports that our health will improve. This is a lot of information that can't just be said in a passing comment or single sentence.
Good luck OP.
HW 341 lbs
07/19/16 - 298 lbs
08/09/16 DOS - 286 lbs
CW 270 lbs

The best comeback ever is... lose weight, get healthy, look fabulous and ignore these people.
If they say you are taking the easy way out, simply say.. i am making the right choice for me and my health.
Then do what i do, imagine all the good comebacks in my head lol
Regardless of how good your comebacks are, people will always say something, comment and add their 2 cents worth, unfortunately this is human nature, if you don't react or engage in it, you don't hand over your power to them, they get bored and move on...

Wow his questions are totally an HR issue. You could of easily reported him for harassment I mean what if you were a woman and he was needling you for your bra size I kind of consider it in the same realm. Ha you should of said, "oh hey I'm flattered but I don't date coworkers" that would of shut him up. HW 341 lbs
07/19/16 - 298 lbs
08/09/16 DOS - 286 lbs
CW 270 lbs

To be literal about the figurative - if you're in an elevator and someone asks you why you're taking the "easy way out" ask them why they're in the elevator since it's the easy way up. After all, taking the stairs would be the harder option, and it was the original one before the advent of the technology that made taking the elevator available, safe, and logical. Throughout their daily lives they use a myriad of tools / devices / technology for the sake of efficiency. Taking the "easy way out" is more sensible when it's available to you and delivers superior results to the longer, more cumbersome route. Something being harder doesn't mean it's smarter.

I simply look at people who say stupid things with a blank smile and say, "You probably don't realize how rude and/or offensive you sound, do you?". And then walk away...

I say "I'm sorry, did YOU have the surgery? Oh, no? Then how the hell would you know? " but I'm known for being a rather blunt person...
Sent from my SM-N910V using the BariatricPal App

Don't tell people you are having surgery and you won't have to come up with comebacks.
If people are saying this to you, they don't really care about you. Just cut them loose.

@@even11 Don't even respond - they're not worth it!

"Thank you for your concern."

I would do it again every freaking day to live the life I do now. Yes. Hell yes, I would do it again.
Abso-fu<king-lutley, I'd do it again.

Thank you all, Im just scared I m
ade a mistake
Sent from my XT1080 using the BariatricPal App

Hey there....you had the biggest type of weight loss surgery there is, PLUS you had a hiatal hernia repair done. That's a LOT for you to recover from. These first days are the exception, it's not always going to be like this.
Take your drugs, rest, do your best with your fluids, and relax. We are here with you.
Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

I made my first consultation with the surgeon two years ago and chickened out until I got serious again this year. You'll know when you are ready. Don't be too hard on yourself!
Sent from my iPad using the BariatricPal App

I can have 4 shakes day , 8 oz of skim milk, 1 cup of sugar free pudding with Protein powder mixed in , and a cup of low carb yogurt . And then the usual unlimited Popsicles broth and stock . @@cindyw41 I am going to try the every 2 hrs to eat., that sounds helpful . My husband took me out to dinner and my stomach is in knots because I'm so nervous. But I know I got this !!
Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App