Candygyrl

I cant read all the comments but OP I totally understand where you are coming from. Clearly we want to be a healthy weight but some of us don't want to be saggy skin and bones regardless if it's healthier. I think 185lbs is a reasonable goal. Just remember you may have some regain 1-2 years post op so you want to try and aim 5-10 lbs under goal so you will have some wiggle room to work with in case you do.
You will discover what you are comfortable with once you settle into your body. My goal initially was 135 lbs. But now that I'm in the 160's I feel good here. I just ask myself if I were to gain 10-15 lbs how would I feel at that weight? I felt and looked good 15 lbs ago, but that would be my max weight. I don't ever want to hit my max weight so I'm thinking if I can hit 150-155 if I gain 10-15 lbs that would put me at 160-165lbs kind of close to where I am right now and my goal is to be able to maintain my weight within in the post op years to come. Don't worry about that too much right now. Just focus on being a healthier you. Everything else will fall into place. Enjoy your golden moment!

Sooo Im at like 7 months right now... I'm at a weight that's very comfortable for me so if I can slow my weight loss to about 5 lbs a month I'd be satisfied!!! My goal was 140--- Now I feel like 160 might be it for me... I'm 167 currently. I'm not concerned about slow weight loss. SO... I keep my routine going. I don't count calories AT ALL!!!!!! I'm more focused on food groups. I still have something light for breakfast- a fruit and veggie smoothie, or a Protein shake, or fruit and yogurt or Breakfast meat but I eat something preferably something with Protein but sometimes I just want a smoothie.
Grazing is life!!!!!! I bring or purchase a grazebox at work so my Snacks are already ready to go. My grazebox usually contains 4 items it could be 8 cheese cubes, 10 cucumber slices , 15 grapes, and 1/4 cup of mixed nuts (cashews, almonds, pecans, peanuts) Its in a divided container so it fits perfectly. I have other combinations like cheese, apple slices, hummus and celery, or Nuts, pineapple, carrots and strawberries. Anyways I graze on this ALL DAY at work starting at about noon.
My lunch is usually 1 item. Today it was 4 lemon pepper wing dings, Tomorrow it might be a mini garden salad with grilled chicken. It might be a leftover baked porkchop or lobstertail from last nights dinner. By 3 oclock I'm back snacking on my grazebox and I usually still have food left over by the end of the day. I take it home and add it to my grazebox for the next day. Sometimes I can easily skip lunch because the grazebox keeps me satisfied. Its all about what you are grazing on.
I usually leave work about 430-5pm I have to pick kids up and stop by the store sometimes I snack on what remains of the grazebox or whatever was left from lunch but I don't typically eat after 6pm and I'm not hungry. Now 1-2 times per week I may eat out with the family, or join a friend for drinks but that is the only instance where I may really eat past 6 or 7pm. Sometimes I might just purchase food eat a few bites of salad and carryout the rest.

Find what works for you... I personally see nothing wrong with grazing. Just watch the carbs and make sure your activity levels are where they should be. You know what that is... what works for you may not work for me and vice versa. I was going to the gym 4-5 days a week but I wasn't pushing myself so I started taking kickboxing classes, boot camp and classes that would push me to my physical limits.

Sooo Im at like 7 months right now... I'm at a weight that's very comfortable for me so if I can slow my weight loss to about 5 lbs a month I'd be satisfied!!! My goal was 140--- Now I feel like 160 might be it for me... I'm 167 currently. I'm not concerned about slow weight loss. SO... I keep my routine going. I don't count calories AT ALL!!!!!! I'm more focused on food groups. I still have something light for breakfast- a fruit and veggie smoothie, or a Protein shake, or fruit and yogurt or Breakfast meat but I eat something preferably something with Protein but sometimes I just want a smoothie.
Grazing is life!!!!!! I bring or purchase a grazebox at work so my Snacks are already ready to go. My grazebox usually contains 4 items it could be 8 cheese cubes, 10 cucumber slices , 15 grapes, and 1/4 cup of mixed nuts (cashews, almonds, pecans, peanuts) Its in a divided container so it fits perfectly. I have other combinations like cheese, apple slices, hummus and celery, or Nuts, pineapple, carrots and strawberries. Anyways I graze on this ALL DAY at work starting at about noon.
My lunch is usually 1 item. Today it was 4 lemon pepper wing dings, Tomorrow it might be a mini garden salad with grilled chicken. It might be a leftover baked porkchop or lobstertail from last nights dinner. By 3 oclock I'm back snacking on my grazebox and I usually still have food left over by the end of the day. I take it home and add it to my grazebox for the next day. Sometimes I can easily skip lunch because the grazebox keeps me satisfied. Its all about what you are grazing on.
I usually leave work about 430-5pm I have to pick kids up and stop by the store sometimes I snack on what remains of the grazebox or whatever was left from lunch but I don't typically eat after 6pm and I'm not hungry. Now 1-2 times per week I may eat out with the family, or join a friend for drinks but that is the only instance where I may really eat past 6 or 7pm. Sometimes I might just purchase food eat a few bites of salad and carryout the rest.

Find what works for you... I personally see nothing wrong with grazing. Just watch the carbs and make sure your activity levels are where they should be. You know what that is... what works for you may not work for me and vice versa. I was going to the gym 4-5 days a week but I wasn't pushing myself so I started taking kickboxing classes, boot camp and classes that would push me to my physical limits.

I live in Charlotte and connected with Dr. Timothy Kuwada at Carolinas Weight and Wellness Center. I liked working with him, his PA, and the entire team at the Center. There are other surgeons in the group who I believe would be equally as good, however, each has their own bedside manner "style." The team was great about scheduling the various appointments in combinations to help cut down on a patient's time away from work or the number of trips to the Center, etc. They were very conscientious about helping to manage all of my appointment times, including any tests done elsewhere away from the Center.

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Goal Weight by end of challenge : 155lbs
Current Weight: 167.4lbs
Today's Date: 2/9/2017

I had my surgery on 12/15/16. My surgeon is Dr. Bruce at the Bariatric specialist of North Carolina. He is amazing!

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I was down to a size 10 about a year ago, loved how I looked in clothes and was trying for a size 8. My doctor told me lots of patients regain 10-20 pounds around the two year mark, so I wanted to make sure I gave myself a cushion. Welllllllll...... Fast foward almost another year, I am now a size 14! And it's a real struggle to lose a pound! I would be perfectly content being a size 10.

Yes. I did not have very many physical symptoms of PCOS like facial hair, or acanthosis nigrican it was mostly the irregular or absence of my menstrual cycle, infertility, mood swings, elevated hgb a1c therefore I would get hypoglycemic and of course the weight gain and PCOS belly. I am DELIVERT!!!! at 171.8 My belly is about a 28 inches I'd like it to go down to about a 24, 25. Hgb a1c is like 5.2, No mood swings although I do have periods of restlessness and anxiety that come and go. Cycles are coming like clockwork and they are fairly normal and weight loss remains steady. So yes I would say my PCOS symptoms have most certainly improved. I am 6 months post op.

Carbs for ME are a slippery slope. Nothing wrong with them however they do slow or stall weight loss and increase hunger drive. Since a stall is something that I wanted I added carbs into my eating plan. SInce then even though I am exercising-- boot camp, kick boxing, resistance training, most days of the week. my weight loss is minimal. Right now Im comfortable with 5 lbs a month. If ever I want to speed up my weight loss again I'll just drop back down to less than 20g carbs and increase my Protein intake which I was recently told I have a daily goal of 60g/day which I can hit with ease. Good luck to you.

Yes. I did not have very many physical symptoms of PCOS like facial hair, or acanthosis nigrican it was mostly the irregular or absence of my menstrual cycle, infertility, mood swings, elevated hgb a1c therefore I would get hypoglycemic and of course the weight gain and PCOS belly. I am DELIVERT!!!! at 171.8 My belly is about a 28 inches I'd like it to go down to about a 24, 25. Hgb a1c is like 5.2, No mood swings although I do have periods of restlessness and anxiety that come and go. Cycles are coming like clockwork and they are fairly normal and weight loss remains steady. So yes I would say my PCOS symptoms have most certainly improved. I am 6 months post op.

Congratulations!!! What a great feeling!

Protein: minimum 75 grams per day
Carbs: maximum 60 per day
Calories -- varies depending on how much you weigh and how fast you want to lose. Basically, as a starting point, take your current weight. Multiply it by 10. Then subtract 500. Use that as your resulting calorie limit to lose approximately 1 lb per week. So, if you weigh 180 lbs, try eating 1300 calories per day to lose 1 lb per week. If you want to lose 2 lbs per week, eat 800 calories per day. If you weigh 190, then those numbers would be 1400 and and 900, respectively. Every time you lose 10 lbs, readjust your calorie intake in order to keep losing at the same rate. If these numbers don't work for you, then play around and get them to a place where they do work. These are just rules of thumb to use as a starting point.
A couple more ideas that you may find helpful:
--make sure you are weighing virtually all your food portions, no guessing or estimating
--don't drink liquid calories other than a max of one Protein Shake per day
--focus on eating unprocessed meat and green veggies in order to stay satisfied and keep cravings for junk at bay
--do not attempt to count calories burned or "eat back" exercise calories.
Good luck!

Your life is only just begun. Cheers to new beginnings!
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I know you're asking if those who did not have food funerals regret it. For about 4 of my 6 month pre op period i went into last supper mode and I do not regret having done so. I'm not encouraging others to do so just my experience. At 6 months post op i am officially 80+ lbs lost.
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Do you have the Bariatric Patient card? If not, you should get one and keep it with you whenever you dine out. I've never been told I can't order from the kids menu or pay the kids price at a buffet.

175.2... I did it! 175 was my goal weight by the end of challenge.
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Honestly I'm 6 mos post op. I eat bread... but it's only to slow my weight loss so that my body has time to adjust. Since eating bread even though I workout 4-5 days a week... I have lost maybe 3 lbs this month. That works for me because ir was a choice... you may wonder why you're stalling, slow weight loss etc.
Carbs drive hunger. I am hungrier since eating carbs but I just have a light Protein snack. someone who may not know better may find themselves on a binge. It is a slippery slope.
I personally would not be so quick to incorporate carbs in my diet so early in your journey. I think it's too early in my own honestly but it was the only way to put a halt to my weight loss. I thought long and hard and honestly I am very picky about my carbs. I don't just eat bread. It may mean having fruit juice. It might mean having whole wheat crackers with my tuna, or a bowl of cheerios. I don't eat alot of carbs but it does cause sloooooow weight loss. And there is no significant nutritional value to you. I don't think you want to do that right now. Focus on Protein, protein, protein, Water, Water, water. Wait until maintenance for bread but in the least- talk to your surgical team about it.
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I didn't weigh in last week
This week
178.4
Goal 175
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So... I'm what they call a "new fat". I primarily gained weight in my late 20's I think after I gave up and let myself go LOL!! No seriously I usually lost baby fat after having children within 6 mos. I was very cognizant of maintaining my body and was very vain about my body because it had always been something glorified by others since I was at least 10. I would hear comments "oooh girl you are going to be a force to be reckoned with when you get older", "you have such a cute shape" "your body is sick". I was voted best body in high school, and I wasn't even an athlete!! So I was conditioned to put a lot of worth into my figure. I received lots of attention from men and women alike and my body seemed like a very attractive quality.
When I gained weight after my first child I had a uncle criticize me on the day of my cousin (his granddaughters) wedding saying " LOOK at how FAT you've gotten. I can't believe you let yourself get like this you used to have a BEAUTIFUL figure, you were a knockout, now look at you. You fat just like yo mama!!" I was Mortified!!!!! I went on my first diet (Atkins). I lost about 60lbs within 5 months. Back to my high school weight.
I maintained a body acceptable to society standards until about 28 or 29. I developed PCOS. My gift was also my curse. the problem was, I was married and always found myself in a little trouble. My husband was very insecure and could not handle the fact that I got lots of attention and was very popular with friends. I also got into trouble with the boys quite often and in an effort to protect myself from myself I created a weight barrier. The problem was-- this time-- I went too far!
Over time I became more and more withdrawn from society. I was ashamed to be around family or run into old friends. I was certain they were talking about me behind my back, how fat I'd gotten, how I used to be... I was ashamed to hang out with my friends because I felt guilty for letting myself go. I closed myself off and became a recluse. My life is work and family nothing else. I didn't travel, I didn't attend social events because I was ashamed of myself. I pretended that I was ok with it. I faked confidence but the truth was my super power was gone and I realized at the end of the day... that was what I relied on. That's what got me through life. I had no substance, I mean sure I was a good person but some people only see whats on the outside. OR it could have been me. I shut everyone out.
Anyways... I'm rebuilding. I know who I am now. I hear people change when you lose weight. Well they can keep right on moving the ones in my life right now, are the ones who will be in my life 1 year from now.
No one ever chastised me for being overweight. I think deep down they all knew. No one (family) ever made comments or teased me, that mean uncle died a few years ago. I did however blame my husband for making me fat. He kept feeding me. Never said "hey babe lets lose weight together" at least Not until I was a Goodyear blimp! I was soooo angry!!! I said what does it matter now!!! my life is over!!!! I blamed him so much, that I think he believed it was his fault too. He did admit to being jealous of all the attention I was getting, and my conceited attitude, But the one thing I do have control over, is what I put in my mouth. I MADE ME FAT. I feel guilty about that. (((sigh))))

OMG thank you guys for your words of support. This thing has been weighing heavy on my heart for the last 2 years. There's not a day that passes that I don't think of him, but as time goes on I think of him far less.
@@Christinamo7 I agree. I went into counseling for severe depression for about 4 months. She helped me to let go and identify why I landed here to begin with. She gave me the tools to recover my self esteem and improve myself, my thinking and my responses so that I could be a better partner to and for my husband.
@@sharonintx you couldn't have said it better... coming out the other end of this-- it took me a year to finally say if I had the choice to do it all over again. I would NOT!!!! I had deluded myself into thinking if I had done this differently or said this or wore that then maybe this, and maybe that... NO. It was not worth it AT ALL. It wasn't worth the pain it caused my husband-- he took it so hard he acted very irrational and told our children and anyone who would listen. The energy it took to lie and deceive, the mental anquish, the constant fighting, the embarrassment, the pain, It just wasn't worth it.
@Higher--Thanks but my heart tells me otherwise and I'm at peace with that.
@@OKCPirate You're absolutely right! I was seduced... I made it more than what really was because I was trying to have the things I was missing in my marriage fulfilled through him.
@@CowgirlJane I have deleted all contact and will highly reconsider posting "After" pics to my friends FB page in the hopes that he see's it. WHO cares-- I'm happy, he was a kid, there was never any future with us. He deserves to have fun and share his time and life with someone who is available for HIM whom he can build a life with.
That doesn't mean my marriage is perfect, because it's far from it. I'm working on the issues I have now before the weight loss so that I'm prepared when the changes come about because lets face it they will come and I don't want to be another statistic.

Goal Weight: 170
Current Weight:179.4 I gained
Todays Date: 12/5

If I live through this winter, I might have to move south. I am so cold all the time, and it isn't even cold yet Not for real.

Im officially 5 months post op!! Down 70+ lbs with 40 to gooooooo. But i don't think I want to lose another 40 anymore Maybe another 15 or 20...
Wanted to drop a few pics...Sorry they are sideways!!! I don't know how to fix
SW 253.6
CW 182.4
GW 135-140 (40-45 MORE lbs to go more)
Revised goal weight 160-165 (20-25 more lbs to go)
Pic #1 is me last night before i went out
#2 me last month 4 months post op. At the amusement park with my fam
#3 is me and my puffy face on my bday last year. my aha moment that something had to change
#4 me and another night out pre surgery
#5 me again on my birthday full body

Goal Weight (by end of challenge):170
Current Weight: 178.4
Todays Date: 11/29/16

I'm sorry for the hurt you are experiencing. Sounds like you all separated with the intention of divorcing and not reconciling but it sounds like maybe you may have been open to reconciling if he wanted to fight for you. Women tend to always pick apart a womans appearance when she's in her feelings. No shade, I've done it too. I think it's instinctual. We're looking for obvious reasons as to why this woman has your mans affection, attention whatever. But I think its important to understand that although we think that men are extremely superficial-- they really aren't all that much. When a man cheats, or is on the rebound they don't go there someone because they are far more beautiful, skinnier, than you. It usually has to do with this woman making herself available to him. Stroking his ego, taking his side "oh she doesn't appreciate you, If I were your woman I would...." Men feed on this attention, men want to feel good, want to be told they are desirable.
I've been married almost 16 years... and even we take each other for granted sometimes. We get wrapped up in our needs, and we get resentful toward each other when "our needs" aren't being met. We become complacent and then before you know it you haven't been happy in forever and no one knows how or is willing to fix it. But are 2 willing partners who listen and accommodate each others needs. We communicate and try to get ahead of the problem and we are both willing to meet each other half way.
I'm not sure what happened in your case but it's usually one partner who just doesn't want to play ball. I'm guessing it was him? So you said enough is enough. I don't need this. I'm better off without you.
Then this new girl came along and it seems fun and exciting at first and she doesn't nag him. She doesn't see his flaws, or the mistakes he made 2 days/weeks/months/years ago. She see's only the GOOD in him. She laughed at his jokes, she is agreeable to his ideas so she tells him what he wants to hear because she thinks he's a great guy! She's probably not had a man in forever so she's putting her best foot forward, he's taking it all in, It's a perfect time to hit RESET. It doesn't matter how they look, its about how she made him feel. Pretty soon, he will begin to treat her as awful as he treated you and she will learn sooner than later why he's no longer married. That is a fact.
SO start the process of moving on. He's not your problem anymore and you'll be better off for it. Best wishes!