Christinamo7

foot. the broad definition of "shaming" used around here would include any number of arguments I've seen on the other side, but I don't really feel like going through old threads to dig them up. will try to remember to point them out to you when I see them in the future, because there are some on both sides, really of any hot button issue I see here. but really what goes for shaming is in large measure people who don't know how to frame their disagreement with a topic in a way that is not inflammatory and disparaging to their fellow posters, or they are not people who can easily and unemotionally articulate the reasons they are on whichever side of the fence they are on. and I'll quote them so they can't go back and change it, lol.

yes, this sounds normal for 2 days out, and it does get better - should be some better every day.

yup - most of the battle is in our minds and emotions. but for the first time I am not hungry and feeling the need to eat 3 plates of food. I am full after a small amount. so if I want to eat after that I have to ask myself "why"? in looking that monster straight in the eye we can get the answers we need to make long term changes in our eating habits, so that as we are able to eat more we can choose to eat appropriate amounts.

no. the sleeve makes changes to your body, not just the physical stomach portion being removed - also the hormonal factor. So you shouldn't have any problems loosing weight in the beginning months (time frame varies from patient to patient) and the dietary changes you need to make will be SO MUCH EASIER during that time. If you also use that time to work on any mental and emotional issues that drive your eating (don't we all have those?!?) you will be fine. your weight loss prior, depending on how you managed it, may have altered your metabolism. but hey - there are things you can do to alter it upwards too. Most of us, probably the vast majority have lost, gained, lost, gained in the years leading up to WLS.

feels good doesn't it?!? I rarely have a shake now - but occasionally there will be days when we just can't quite get there - or when I don't have time to fix an egg for Breakfast - you know? the shake is good to keep on hand for those times. but I didn't like having to *rely* on them.

yes! there are and you will just have to try some brands on to see what you like. I have gone places like Dick's Sporting Goods to try things on in the past, and then you can buy there or shop around once you know the style/brand you like.

perhaps it would be a good idea to evaluate how you share these ideas. I have seen the people you speak of. they don't usually stay around very long - but you have been here long enough to not get down on that level. When you say things like labeling a group "tellers" you imply that everyone who tells their story is of that same ilk. rather than saying something like "some who tell" do this or that - where as there are probably a lot of people who do not tell who DO struggle with shame, and embarrassment as reasons to not share (I believe to their own detriment as most of this battle is in our minds and emotions) but I do not assume, and try very hard to come across as not assuming that *everyone* who chooses not to tell is in that group. some people are just very private, and others have their own reasons for not sharing. when you lump a whole group of people together like that what we say in the south : "you were showing your a$$". and no one cares to see that even if you bedazzle it.

you know what, I tell anyone just about anything - and that does not mean I care a fig about what you do or do not tell anyone else. The thing is, my WLS likely saved my life. and I am grateful. I don't feel I have a "duty" to share it with others - but if I can do someone a good turn who may be interested, so be it. what's the point in going through garbage in my life if I can't use it to help someone else out?

my youngest daughter is thin, always has been. she is a real foodie, a food snob - you know in Ratatouille when the critic says if he doesn't love food, he spits it out? that is her. she doesn't justify her food decisions to anyone, not even me! if she is not hungry she doesn't eat. when she eats she eats food that is good tasting to her. I am trying to watch how she does and learn a thing or two from my baby.

I don't tell everyone I know all the details of my life............ but no, my WLS is not a secret. If someone is negative I'd rather know it up front. Nothing anyone says about the surgery can compare with what people have said to me about my son who has a disability so I am pretty immune to it at this point in life. we might be kindred spirits

my husband has to go to Norman often for work training - if I visit him on the next round I'd love to meet up with anyone out that way!

this will vary with different insurance plans. my federal BCBS standard had it so that once I got my approval, it was good for 12 months, which allows easy scheduling without having to resubmit everything.

last summer I was supposed to have some problem lymph nodes in my belly biopsied, but I ended up having an urgently done hysterectomy and then couldn't do the biopsy because they said they needed more time between. when my bariatric surgeon did my VSG, he took a look at the hysterectomy scar and the lymph nodes but didn't feel the lymph nodes needed biopsied at that time, which is good because if he had then they would have closed me up without my sleeve until the results of the biopsy were in. He said everything looked normal.

Hi there! I don't have the stats you're looking for - but I will be looking to see your progress. this is a wild ride!

anything you can eat a lot of and not feel full. however, I only worry about slider foods that are NOT good for you. so, for example - I can eat a lot of salad greens, but they are low calorie and some have trace nutrients so I don't worry about those at ALL.

I would recommend tracking everything to make sure you are not eating too little, as well. Sometimes we go all gung ho when we get serious about changes. Also, choose some work outs where you push yourself, hard and others that are gentle and relaxing to reduce cortisol. and, as always get plenty to drink and be patient with your body. Also, I recommend epsom salts baths and massage as a way to help your body realize you aren't trying to kill it.

constipation could certainly cause your symptoms. I hope you've gotten some help with all of this.

there's a group of gentlemen that regularly sit behind the gas station at the end of my street, who knows why - and they keep 3 dogs with them. they are never on a leash. they always run over and growl at my dog and I have to get physically between my dog and them all the while these men are hollering for their dogs to come back, and dashing over to grab them. last Saturday one of the dogs nipped toward my dog, who is, OF COURSE - on a leash. I got in that mans face and told him he better learn to control his dog or I would teach the dog some manners myself. I shouldn't have to carry pepper spray with me because they can't follow the law like everyone else.

if you call me call me at work, I rarely answer the phone once I get home.

timely post! I am exactly half way between what I have lost since surgery and what I need to get to my personal goal.

that's rough - be sure to offer them feedback as they usually do research to find out when people want a seminar. the center I went through offered evening seminars. I don't know if they also offer day time or only the evening. how much notice do you have to give for time off? 3 weeks seems like a lot.

normal blood sugar all the time, no matter what I eat. weighing less than my husband. my daughter walking right past me at Liz's graduation. (you know the change is profound when your own child doesn't recognize you!) (she's grown, moved out, hadn't seen me in about 6 weeks at that point)

it does NOT violate any of those except FMLA rules. HIPPA would only apply if her boss tried to look at records without permission. ADA only applies where there is a documented disability, which WLS is not in of it's self that.

If only you knew. Just this afternoon........I've done something that I am sure I'll regret hugely.........because I'm stupid that way. I'll regret it, yet let things simmer down and take the course they must. Wisdom comes after the fact for me far too often. as long as she (wisdom) does come, my friend. are you going to spill the Beans? inquiring minds want to know now.......

my doctor's plan for me allowed salad and anything else at 4 weeks. but this is an individual thing based on how you are healing I think. Protein is my focus, but I do like some greens thrown in there.