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There is a substantial percentage of the population who absolutely refuse to listen to anything said to them.
I see it everyday. I saw it in my bariatric introduction seminar... the surgeon says, "Now, after the surgery, your Protein goal is X per day." And literally two minutes later, a hand goes up in the (very small) audience, and their question is "Is there a Protein goal each day after surgery?"
These are the people who refuse to listen to anything unless you clasp their hands in yours, look them in the eyes and repeat everything twenty times and say prettyprettyprettyplease and compliment them on their hair.
And they'll still be clueless even after you do that.
If by some miracle they remember any bit of it, they'll still most likely not remember who told them, or may become convinced that they made the determination themselves.
Average people are still pretty stupid.
"When all is said and done, usually more has been said than done. "

I also have all three of these things and my doctor said that the surgery will not affect them. Although bypass will help with the reflux.

It's the Morning of my Surgery. I'm excited but really nervous now. Showered and packed. My friend is picking me up in a few minutes to drive me to the Hospital. New life here I come!

I just got my date today for June 27th. I cannot WAIT!!!! I'm sooooooo excited. I almost screamed and dropped my phone when they called. I was driving. Lol

June 22!! Can't wait!!

So this is it! I have finally finished my 6 month diet/exercise program. Last weigh in this morning, lost another 5 pounds. Of course the doctor said I should just forget the surgery and continue to lose weight. Really! Not going to happen! I have all of my clearances now and I am now waiting for a call from the surgeons office to schedule surgeon appt and surgery date. This has really kinda crept up on me. I was told by the surgeons insurance person that my six month diet/exercise program would be 180 days long. But now I am being told that my insurance will accept 6 consecutive months of doctor visits. That means that I am a month sooner than expected. Part of me is ecstatic and the other part is full of anxiety. Am I ready for this?? I have so much going on in my life right now. I am studying and training for a new position at work. This is the job of my dreams & I don't want to mess it up. My employer is aware of this surgery and he said that we would work it out and not to stress over it. Hard not to stress though.

My plan is two weeks. I have a desk job but there is still travelling involved. I believe I will be fine. I have been exercising and increasing my Protein intake. Hopefully that will help with the post op.

I think the best thing for me will be to get it done the week of June 20th. I hope that is an option. I will be in St Louis June 13-17 and I will be released to start taking on clients after that. I would prefer to have the surgery first and then take on the clients. My manager has agreed with that.

Congrats! Remember - just because you are done with the 6 months of visits doesn't mean you have to schedule the surgery right away. Talk to the scheduled and see what will work - as long as you won't need to repeat anything. Good luck and Congrats on your new position!!!

At times there can be a lot of stress associated with weight loss (especially when dealing with the health insurance companies or from the comments from co-workers). One way to relieve that stress is grown-up coloring books.
Experts speculate that the rhythmic repetition of coloring helps tune out the outside world, which in fact releases stress. But, they quickly note, the moment of zen is not meant to replace actual therapy when needed, because of the relationship that’s established between a therapist and the patient. The American Art Therapy is behind the craze, too, releasing a statement saying it supports the use of adult-coloring books for “pleasure and self care.”
http://acsh.org/news/2016/04/16/feeling-stressed-out-adult-coloring-books-can-help/

The insecurity I was feeling, the fact I was hating myself mentally and physically, that every pleasure in life was turning into paranoid trips (going to the restaurant, sitting in the train, swimming, travelling, etc).
And also the fact that I am young (23yo) and that I discovered I had sleep apneas. Wow if my health was that terrible at 23yo, how the hell would I manage till my 40's! I wanted to end all these problems for good.

i have a daughter as well, although she is an adult now I have to say I am overwhelmed & at a loss, not to mention humbled by your reason for surgery. Of all of the reasons I have read on this thread, yours has touched me the deepest. You are doing the right thing but you need to make sure that you do it for yourself as well. Please keep us up to date on your progress as well as your daughters.

I'm scheduled for surgery on April 21st. Super excited
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i have a daughter as well, although she is an adult now I have to say I am overwhelmed & at a loss, not to mention humbled by your reason for surgery. Of all of the reasons I have read on this thread, yours has touched me the deepest. You are doing the right thing but you need to make sure that you do it for yourself as well. Please keep us up to date on your progress as well as your daughters.

i have a daughter as well, although she is an adult now I have to say I am overwhelmed & at a loss, not to mention humbled by your reason for surgery. Of all of the reasons I have read on this thread, yours has touched me the deepest. You are doing the right thing but you need to make sure that you do it for yourself as well. Please keep us up to date on your progress as well as your daughters.

I'll be over 49.5 when I have my surgery in July. I have been looking at it as a totally new life for me at 50. Good luck on your liquid diet and surgery. Hope to hear how it goes.

I'll be over 49.5 when I have my surgery in July. I have been looking at it as a totally new life for me at 50. Good luck on your liquid diet and surgery. Hope to hear how it goes.

I just want to thank every one here for there support. As of Thursday evening my story has completely changed. I will post a copy on this topic.
I'm almost afraid to say it, but at the same time I feel like I need to go outside and shout it from the roof tops! I feel amazing! I am an entirely new person. These first two months from surgery have been the most trying time in my entire life. Most days I couldn't get out of bed, and I wanted nothing more than to lay there and die. I struggled for the first month with muscle pain so severe I couldn't move. After that I struggled debilitating nausea. It got so bad that I hadn't eaten in over a month. On the rare occasion I would try the food would come right back up. Early last week it got so bad that I could no longer keep down Water. At this point I had been in the hospital 5 times for dehydration and different tests. I was taking protonix, Zofran, scopolamine Patches, Reglan, and I was wearing sea bands for motion sickness. None of these things could even take the edge off my nausea. My CT and my Upper GI were clear. My surgeons team kept telling me jit was all in my head. I was so severely depressed and felt like I had no where to go. I was beginning my surgeon for an EDG and she was refusing to give me one. After being unable to keep Water down for two days I went back to the ER and finally demanded I get the care I deserved. I was not going to leave there without answers. I was immediately admitted upon arrival where they found that my potassium levels were dangerously low. Lower than they have ever seen. I was given 6 bags of potassium and countless bags of Fluid to clear the dehydration. I also demanded the do the scope. The scope found slight narrowing that was able to be fixed on the spot. I don't know if it's the scope or the fluids, or potassium that cured me, but whatever it was I finally have my life back. I wake up ready to live every single day! I'm taking half the anti depressants I was before. I hated hated hated hated hated hearing people say it gets better. I was so convinced there was no way out for me. I would lay in bed waiting to die. But it got better. It got so much better. I am living breathing proof that it can all change. I encourage anyone struggling the way I did to advocate for themselves, the doctors and surgeons won't do it for you. I still can't say I would do this all over again, currently I am still too traumatized, but I have learned so much from this surgery. I had this surgery for myself and it was like I had forgotten that after surgery. I needed to still be fighting for myself. I know this is long but I just hope my story can help.

I know you are miserable and you think the answer is to get the surgery reversed, but I'd urge you, as others have, to find a psych you can talk to and work on getting your underlying problems worked out. It doesn't sound to me that the surgery was unsuccessful. You have apparently lost weight thus far, the problem is, you are depressed. I don't know if you were depressed before surgery, but sometimes when people are scared of the outcome, they can get depressed when they see they might actually achieve it and they really didn't want to on every level. For some of us, there's that little bit that holds us back....maybe it's from being abused in some way, or for attracting negative attention somehow or maybe we thought the surgery would be a magic bullet to make us feel happy and the aftermath of surgery is that the surgery won't make you happy. It's just a tool to help you lose weight and that's all that it is. You need to get help for the psychological side because at least from where I'm sitting and reading, you are suffering from full blown depression and you might think it's because of the surgery, but it's not. It's more than that.

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This is the key especially the patience part. I'll admit patience was not a virtue bestowed upon me and I'm having to teach myself to slow down on a daily basis.

You are not alone! The first time I "saw myself" was my reflection in a store window. I was in shock! Then there is always the dreaded family affairs and trying to buy clothes... It's an eye opener for sure... I left many clothing stores in tears many times. Tomorrow is my sleeve day and I can't wait to start my life! Good luck to everyone with your journey!
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Every time my kids and I FaceTime with my family out of state I realize how big I am so I try to stay off the screen. I hate looking at my swelled up face and 3 chins!

As many have said before me, there are several straws that have broken my camels back. For me it is just being tired of being tired & feeling like crap all the time. I have three German Shepherds that I would love to walk but there is too much pain in my back and hips to tolerate it. I have recently discovered the restaurant booth issue. I have always been the one to ask for a booth because they are more comfortable. Not anymore!! Not only are they not comfortable but when I look across at my husband and see that he has a huge amount of room between him and the table even after I pushed the table over, is ridiculous. I have also recently discovered Facetime which is awesome because I get to see my daughter while I am talking to her but ugh, why do I have to see myself as well! I despise having my picture taken and for some reason, people who are not obese do not seem to understand that. I have been outright rude sometimes to avoid it & have had to practically beg to not have my picture shared on Facebook. I don't want to be that person anymore. I am tired of having to sit on a stool to fix dinner or do dishes. I am tired of having to take breaks when I am cleaning house. I have been in denial for way too long. I have used food and alcohol to avoid dealing with myself. I am ready to find a way to love myself. I was actually just recently promoted at work. I was completely blown away by this promotion because of my self-image issues, I didn't think I had a chance. I started my WL journey in Dec 2015 and am not looking back. I believe that 2016 will be my year to shine. I am half way through my 6 month diet/exercise program and have the sleep study in May. After that I will hopefully be scheduled for surgery in July. I have read this entire feed and I am so grateful for everyone's input. A lot of what has been said really hits home for me & I wish you all the best of luck in your WL journey.

As many have said before me, there are several straws that have broken my camels back. For me it is just being tired of being tired & feeling like crap all the time. I have three German Shepherds that I would love to walk but there is too much pain in my back and hips to tolerate it. I have recently discovered the restaurant booth issue. I have always been the one to ask for a booth because they are more comfortable. Not anymore!! Not only are they not comfortable but when I look across at my husband and see that he has a huge amount of room between him and the table even after I pushed the table over, is ridiculous. I have also recently discovered Facetime which is awesome because I get to see my daughter while I am talking to her but ugh, why do I have to see myself as well! I despise having my picture taken and for some reason, people who are not obese do not seem to understand that. I have been outright rude sometimes to avoid it & have had to practically beg to not have my picture shared on Facebook. I don't want to be that person anymore. I am tired of having to sit on a stool to fix dinner or do dishes. I am tired of having to take breaks when I am cleaning house. I have been in denial for way too long. I have used food and alcohol to avoid dealing with myself. I am ready to find a way to love myself. I was actually just recently promoted at work. I was completely blown away by this promotion because of my self-image issues, I didn't think I had a chance. I started my WL journey in Dec 2015 and am not looking back. I believe that 2016 will be my year to shine. I am half way through my 6 month diet/exercise program and have the sleep study in May. After that I will hopefully be scheduled for surgery in July. I have read this entire feed and I am so grateful for everyone's input. A lot of what has been said really hits home for me & I wish you all the best of luck in your WL journey.