sassyfrass23

I'm 27 and have received a couple of comments about my age. But my surgeon hit the nail on the head and gave me the assurance I needed:
He prefers patients young. Why? Because when they lay us on those tables, our complication rates are much lower. Our risk is lower. Our secondary or comorbidity issues typically aren't as critical as a patient who is much older with more health problems that have occurred as they aged.
Like James mentioned, we yo yo diet. I have done that for a good solid 8ish years. And each time I gain the weight back, I gain a few more pounds. It adds up over time. If you're fairly healthy and mentally prepared for this, then I say go for it! That way you're not sitting here 7 years later like I am, thinking about all of the opportunities I've missed due to my weight. If I could go back to 20 and do this, I would in a heartbeat. I've lost 8 years of my life that I can never get back.

Argh- I accidentally posted this on your other post!
@@swinglifeaway That's strange. My surgeon literally said the opposite. I'm 27 and am hoping that an added bonus to becoming healthier is finally having thr ability to conceive. Thanks to PCOS, the last 7 years we've been trying...we had ZERO luck. He was very confident in my chances after WLS and when I asked about the safety, he was not concerned at all. Like everything else, how well I do is based on how well I choose to do. Like with losing weight, I have full control over how successful I will be. And with getting/being pregnant, it will be up to me to make sure I continue to eat healthy and put the right nutrients in my body to ensure a healthy baby.
It's crazy to see the difference in the way surgeon's practice across the US alone..

All I'm saying is that if "opinions" were expressed in a more tactful manner, it would be beneficial for everyone. But...I somehow forgot we were surrounded by the WLS police who know all and are entitled to be crude and bich*y because they're now vets or what have you. You have newbies here who ONLY view post and are too intimidated to ask questions or request help because they see responses from people like you. People who immediately feel the need to belittle someone over something simple. Aka...keyboard warriors. I didn't ask if I could cheat and advance my diet without my doctors orders. I didn't ask if I could resume carbonated drinks. I didn't ask if I could pick up smoking again. I didn't ask if I could begin weight training and dismiss my doctors orders to limit myself to 15 lbs for 2 more weeks. I believe my question was valid and for information only.
Now, had I gone out, purchased a waist trainer, tried it for a few days and then hit up BP for opinions, I may have reacted differently to your response. But it was a simple question.
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It's responses like that piss me off and make me strongly consider leaving Bariatric pal. I came here for OPINIONS not snarky responses such as this. I never once said I was going shopping this weekend to purchase one. I was simply fishing for reviews of those who HAVE used them or researched them. That is it. And for the record- I didn't cut out 85% of my stomach, I had my organs rerouted and a pouch created. If I missread your response, I apologize, but your entire response came off as rude and inappropriate for this discussion. Almost motherly if you will...and that's not how I prefer to be spoken to. Sent from my SM-N910V using the BariatricPal App

You're more than welcome @@jenn1 !
I wouldn't mind if my surgeon was that attractive. Maybe then I wouldnt dread the monthly appointments as much. ???? haha!

I'm from Georgia, but I too have UHC through my husband's company. They cover WLS as long as it is determined medically necessary. The 3 requirements they have are:
1- BMI greater than 40 without comorbidities or no less than 35 with at least 1 comorbidity.
2- Six consecutive months of supervised attempted weight loss with a physician. Mine allowed me to use my PCP and did not require it be through my surgeon's office.
3- Psych evaluation
Best of luck to you! The 6 months were a bummer, but I finally finished this month. Hopefully insurance will be cooperative when my paperwork is submitted. It's amazing at the hoops they require we jump through...but on the same token- it makes sense as some folks just aren't willing to comply with pre and post op instructions. So I guess I kinda see why they require these items. Doesn't mean I have to like it though

I don't necessarily view it as an insult to women. My stomach is probably my BIGGEST problem and the one thing I'm most self conscious about. In almost 7 years, I have not been able to wear a shirt to work without a cardigan because of this. Or a baggy thirty on weekends when doing activities. My hopes are that as I lose the weight, my stomach will get to an ideal size that nothing more than Spanx is necessary. Hopefully even that won't be needed. This isn't for me to fit some mold of what society expects of me. This is for me to feel comfortable because I personally do not like to look at myself in the mirror while seeing every roll through my shirts. I want a smooth, yet curvy torso. Not because society tells me that's what's sexy but what I think is sexy. My legs on the other hand, I don't want pencils for legs. I want thick/fit legs. I have an idea of what I want my body to look like. And it's going to take work on my part to get there. Just looking at options. Sent from my SM-N910V using the BariatricPal App

I'm 27 and have received a couple of comments about my age. But my surgeon hit the nail on the head and gave me the assurance I needed:
He prefers patients young. Why? Because when they lay us on those tables, our complication rates are much lower. Our risk is lower. Our secondary or comorbidity issues typically aren't as critical as a patient who is much older with more health problems that have occurred as they aged.
Like James mentioned, we yo yo diet. I have done that for a good solid 8ish years. And each time I gain the weight back, I gain a few more pounds. It adds up over time. If you're fairly healthy and mentally prepared for this, then I say go for it! That way you're not sitting here 7 years later like I am, thinking about all of the opportunities I've missed due to my weight. If I could go back to 20 and do this, I would in a heartbeat. I've lost 8 years of my life that I can never get back.

Ohhh @@Bluesky1 ! His behavior is far from what I would expect my preacher to exemplify. Or my husband. Or best friend. Granted- we're all human and we make mistakes. We hurt each others feelings at some point, but this is overboard. I went through a similar situation with my ex boyfriend for 2 & 1/2 years. That was nearly 10 hears ago and I am still cleaning up the mess I became after enduring the most brutal and demeaning behavior I have ever encountered. I am now happily married and have a husband who has loved me at my smallest and now my largest. And I have promised myself that I will never ALLOW another individual to treat me the way I let Jackass do for so long. We may not be able to control other people, but we can control the boundaries we set and whether we choose to accept what is or do something about it.
I hate to hear that you are stuck with this jackwagon. If there were ANY ways for you to get out, I would strongly encourage you to do so. I am a FIRM believer in the saying "If you can't accept me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best."
Once you lose weight and begin to fit the mold that he expects from you, I can almost guarantee that he will find something new to chastise you about. This isn't about you or your appearance. This is about a man who deliberately goes out of his way to belittle a woman in order to make himself feel superior.
My heart truly hurts for you...
OH! And....tell him that according to The Book he preaches from, his obedience as a Christian is a joke. Pretty sure it touches base on not judging...treating each others with kindness...loving one another?

All I ask is that you let every negative thing he says go thru one ear & out the other. Please don't let him get to you. Small minded people aren't worth beating ourselves up over. You're better than that and deserve only love & encouragement.

That's exactly how my husband is! His mom had RNY 10 years ago. So luckily this isn't his first rodeo. He is my biggest cheerleader and I'm grateful for that...especially after seeing so many sad post on here where people don't have supportive family or significant others.
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Hey! I'm doing really well. Thank you for checking in on me! As of this morning, the scale showed 197.9. That's a total loss of 60 lbs. I'm in awe at my progress but so so grateful to be where I am so far! I hope everything goes well for you and UHC covers thst revision. I've heard/read such horrendous experiences with the band and feel horrible for anyone stuck with it and the complications they have to endure. Sent from my SM-N910V using the BariatricPal App

Hey! I'm doing really well. Thank you for checking in on me! As of this morning, the scale showed 197.9. That's a total loss of 60 lbs. I'm in awe at my progress but so so grateful to be where I am so far! I hope everything goes well for you and UHC covers thst revision. I've heard/read such horrendous experiences with the band and feel horrible for anyone stuck with it and the complications they have to endure. Sent from my SM-N910V using the BariatricPal App

Sassyfrass,I recently read many of your posts since I have UHC also and waiting to hear requirements for revision to RNY from band. I'd be interested to hear about your progress and experiences. Do let us know.

Yesterday marked 8 weeks post op for me and for the most part- I feel great! But I do have one question for all my RNY pals...when did your appetite/hunger return? In these 8 weeks, I have truly felt "hungry" once. And it was because I slept later than usual one morning (11 hours total ) and felt a slight bit of hunger when I awoke.
With that said- I was prepared more to fight the head hunger that everyone talks about. And I never imagined I would have to FORCE myself to eat. It's great for the most part except, there are times when I have to make myself eat and it just makes me nauseous. I rarely struggle with head hunger as well [knocking on wood]. If it were up to me, I wouldn't have to eat at all with how well I feel.
But we all know that's not healthy
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Yesterday marked 8 weeks post op for me and for the most part- I feel great! But I do have one question for all my RNY pals...when did your appetite/hunger return? In these 8 weeks, I have truly felt "hungry" once. And it was because I slept later than usual one morning (11 hours total ) and felt a slight bit of hunger when I awoke.
With that said- I was prepared more to fight the head hunger that everyone talks about. And I never imagined I would have to FORCE myself to eat. It's great for the most part except, there are times when I have to make myself eat and it just makes me nauseous. I rarely struggle with head hunger as well [knocking on wood]. If it were up to me, I wouldn't have to eat at all with how well I feel.
But we all know that's not healthy
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Yesterday marked 3 weeks until my "BIG" day. And I feel like I'm on the verge of a panic attack.
I have always struggled with anxiety, and as I have aged, it has improved significantly unless something major triggers it. But even then, my rebound time is much faster than it was 5+ years ago. My coping skills have improved. Go me!
However, between the surgery being right around the corner, and a VERY stressful job...this little lady is all out of sorts. I tried the whole "retreat" mechanism which is my first instinct when things get tough. I shut down. I shut everyone near and dear to me out. And I process. And while I enjoy this option more, I know that it is unhealthy and what has played a huge role in my weight. Because while I am secluded in my own little world, all I need is me and my food. Gimme that chocolate and some of those potatoes. And I slowly begin to reappear, eventually. So here are my concerns:
-Work (stressful job + unhealthy relationship with a superior)
-Pre op and post op diet
(I've done the research. I have a ton of material from my surgeon's office. I truly am prepared. But I have totally allowed my mind to screw with me and convince me that I'm not. Anxiety, remember? I'm not worried about the length of the specific diets or stages or what I can or CAN'T have. I literally just feel like everything I've learned over the last 9 months has suddenly vanished. My diet starts Tuesday. So I plan to sit and dive right back into my manuals within the next day or so and re-educate/reassure myself that I do know and I do understand what I am to do.......)
-Energy levels after WLS (I've read where it is not uncommon to feel less than par for up to 6 weeks after surgery. Some sooner, some longer. I'm worried that I'm going to tire more easily and am concerned with how this will affect my job performance..if at all? I work as an IT consultant and we have multiple clients which include 3 hospitals + multiple physician and Lawyers offices. I am constantly on the freakin go. Work begins before I leave my house in the morning and continues after I arrive home. I am hands on and regularly crawling on the floor to look at/repair computers, servers, you name it. The one upside to my job is that I am on my feet more so than not. So, I'm always sure to average between 7,000 and 10,000 steps at work alone.)
-There are a few more concerns...but I'll stop there
So, my concerns aren't whether I'm going to lose fast or have excess skin. I mean...those are possibly there...but way way wayyyy down on the list. I'm mostly concerned about my emotional well being after surgery. I know that this is going to be as much mental...if not more...than physical. And I don't know whether to reach for a Xanax or a brown paper bag
I do know that I've got to get out of my head and some of my concerns are probably minute and a waist of energy. Which is why I am here. I know that I need to get these things off my chest and talk them out. Only then will I feel better and become more comfortable with what is about to take place in my life. So here is Megan...in all her glory....vulnerable and transparent. [patting self on back]
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I'm 27 and have received a couple of comments about my age. But my surgeon hit the nail on the head and gave me the assurance I needed:
He prefers patients young. Why? Because when they lay us on those tables, our complication rates are much lower. Our risk is lower. Our secondary or comorbidity issues typically aren't as critical as a patient who is much older with more health problems that have occurred as they aged.
Like James mentioned, we yo yo diet. I have done that for a good solid 8ish years. And each time I gain the weight back, I gain a few more pounds. It adds up over time. If you're fairly healthy and mentally prepared for this, then I say go for it! That way you're not sitting here 7 years later like I am, thinking about all of the opportunities I've missed due to my weight. If I could go back to 20 and do this, I would in a heartbeat. I've lost 8 years of my life that I can never get back.

Yesterday marked 3 weeks until my "BIG" day. And I feel like I'm on the verge of a panic attack.
I have always struggled with anxiety, and as I have aged, it has improved significantly unless something major triggers it. But even then, my rebound time is much faster than it was 5+ years ago. My coping skills have improved. Go me!
However, between the surgery being right around the corner, and a VERY stressful job...this little lady is all out of sorts. I tried the whole "retreat" mechanism which is my first instinct when things get tough. I shut down. I shut everyone near and dear to me out. And I process. And while I enjoy this option more, I know that it is unhealthy and what has played a huge role in my weight. Because while I am secluded in my own little world, all I need is me and my food. Gimme that chocolate and some of those potatoes. And I slowly begin to reappear, eventually. So here are my concerns:
-Work (stressful job + unhealthy relationship with a superior)
-Pre op and post op diet
(I've done the research. I have a ton of material from my surgeon's office. I truly am prepared. But I have totally allowed my mind to screw with me and convince me that I'm not. Anxiety, remember? I'm not worried about the length of the specific diets or stages or what I can or CAN'T have. I literally just feel like everything I've learned over the last 9 months has suddenly vanished. My diet starts Tuesday. So I plan to sit and dive right back into my manuals within the next day or so and re-educate/reassure myself that I do know and I do understand what I am to do.......)
-Energy levels after WLS (I've read where it is not uncommon to feel less than par for up to 6 weeks after surgery. Some sooner, some longer. I'm worried that I'm going to tire more easily and am concerned with how this will affect my job performance..if at all? I work as an IT consultant and we have multiple clients which include 3 hospitals + multiple physician and Lawyers offices. I am constantly on the freakin go. Work begins before I leave my house in the morning and continues after I arrive home. I am hands on and regularly crawling on the floor to look at/repair computers, servers, you name it. The one upside to my job is that I am on my feet more so than not. So, I'm always sure to average between 7,000 and 10,000 steps at work alone.)
-There are a few more concerns...but I'll stop there
So, my concerns aren't whether I'm going to lose fast or have excess skin. I mean...those are possibly there...but way way wayyyy down on the list. I'm mostly concerned about my emotional well being after surgery. I know that this is going to be as much mental...if not more...than physical. And I don't know whether to reach for a Xanax or a brown paper bag
I do know that I've got to get out of my head and some of my concerns are probably minute and a waist of energy. Which is why I am here. I know that I need to get these things off my chest and talk them out. Only then will I feel better and become more comfortable with what is about to take place in my life. So here is Megan...in all her glory....vulnerable and transparent. [patting self on back]
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Yesterday marked 3 weeks until my "BIG" day. And I feel like I'm on the verge of a panic attack.
I have always struggled with anxiety, and as I have aged, it has improved significantly unless something major triggers it. But even then, my rebound time is much faster than it was 5+ years ago. My coping skills have improved. Go me!
However, between the surgery being right around the corner, and a VERY stressful job...this little lady is all out of sorts. I tried the whole "retreat" mechanism which is my first instinct when things get tough. I shut down. I shut everyone near and dear to me out. And I process. And while I enjoy this option more, I know that it is unhealthy and what has played a huge role in my weight. Because while I am secluded in my own little world, all I need is me and my food. Gimme that chocolate and some of those potatoes. And I slowly begin to reappear, eventually. So here are my concerns:
-Work (stressful job + unhealthy relationship with a superior)
-Pre op and post op diet
(I've done the research. I have a ton of material from my surgeon's office. I truly am prepared. But I have totally allowed my mind to screw with me and convince me that I'm not. Anxiety, remember? I'm not worried about the length of the specific diets or stages or what I can or CAN'T have. I literally just feel like everything I've learned over the last 9 months has suddenly vanished. My diet starts Tuesday. So I plan to sit and dive right back into my manuals within the next day or so and re-educate/reassure myself that I do know and I do understand what I am to do.......)
-Energy levels after WLS (I've read where it is not uncommon to feel less than par for up to 6 weeks after surgery. Some sooner, some longer. I'm worried that I'm going to tire more easily and am concerned with how this will affect my job performance..if at all? I work as an IT consultant and we have multiple clients which include 3 hospitals + multiple physician and Lawyers offices. I am constantly on the freakin go. Work begins before I leave my house in the morning and continues after I arrive home. I am hands on and regularly crawling on the floor to look at/repair computers, servers, you name it. The one upside to my job is that I am on my feet more so than not. So, I'm always sure to average between 7,000 and 10,000 steps at work alone.)
-There are a few more concerns...but I'll stop there
So, my concerns aren't whether I'm going to lose fast or have excess skin. I mean...those are possibly there...but way way wayyyy down on the list. I'm mostly concerned about my emotional well being after surgery. I know that this is going to be as much mental...if not more...than physical. And I don't know whether to reach for a Xanax or a brown paper bag
I do know that I've got to get out of my head and some of my concerns are probably minute and a waist of energy. Which is why I am here. I know that I need to get these things off my chest and talk them out. Only then will I feel better and become more comfortable with what is about to take place in my life. So here is Megan...in all her glory....vulnerable and transparent. [patting self on back]
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I "only" lost 14 pounds my first month. I "only" lost 8 pounds my second month. I "only" averaged 6 pounds a month for a long time after that. And I eventually got down to where I was "only" losing 2 pounds a month. You know where all of those "only"s got me? To goal, where I've been maintaining for almost 9 months!
Rate of loss is completely meaningless in the grand scheme of things. Are you following your plan? Are you getting in your Water, Protein, and Vitamins? Are you getting up and moving around? Is the scale generally trending downward? Then the only things you are doing "wrong" are comparing yourself to others and being impatient.

It's been 6 months since my RNY gave me my life and my happiness back! I've still got s loooong way to go, but I am on my way! HW:429lbs SW:386lbs current weight:278lbs.

@@Maggie Journey OMG Maggie! You've got to be kidding.....let me try to help you the best I can. I retired from BCBS of Florida in September......I see you're in GA so I assume it BCBS of GA.....if you'll send me a private message with your group number I'll see if I can get my hands on the medical policy......I need your "group" number not your member number. I'm so sorry this is happening to you!!!

My brother and I making it happen.