Sleevefornellie

I leave at 6am for the hospital tomorrow morning. I don't yet know the time of my surgery but really hope it's early! I am a complete mix of nerves and excitement. I just want to get it over and done with so I can start living the rest of my life! This really is a big week for me as I left my job of 10 years today too, so life really is changing, but certainly for the better!!

Fortunately since my wife is an awesome cook my first "official" pre-op meal was fantastic, although I had been weening myself the last few months it wasn't to this extent, so I had my shake for Breakfast and lunch , and for dinner my wire made a small portion of chicken breast using two drops of olive oil( waiting on grill) with salt, pepper, paprika, and a slice of lime, also baked two stuffed vegetable mushrooms with jalapeño peppers on top, there only two carbs in it, and I am pleasantly full, I guess all the Water really helped, I also had a back up plan since she forgot the sugar free stuff, we had purchased a professional Hawaiian shaved ice machine last year to save on another comes, so I thought I would shave some ice and add some Mio to chew on......well guess that will be a weekend treat. I can do this!

After waiting patiently and nervously for 3 1/2 long weeks, I received a call today from my surgeon's secretary telling me that I've been approved for the Gastric Sleeve surgery yaaaaay!!!!! I'm so excited and nervous at the same!!!! My surgery is scheduled for June 24th!!! Please save a seat for me on the loser's bench!!!!!

I am so excited that my insurance approved me and I'm set for June 11th. However I'm freaking out a little bit because now it's like HOLY CRAP it's REALLY HAPPENING!

Any other June Sleevers around? Any words of encouragement or advice?
xox
Denisse

Hello. I just joined the group. I am happy to see such diversity on here.
Congratulations to everyone and much continued success. I will be sleeved on June 22.

Seat saved!! Congrats!!

Welcome. You have come to the right place.

Welcome Nellie! Congrats on making a life changing decision! I am also so sorry that you have not been supported. People can be so mean and it just means they are unhappy within themselves so they have to bring you down to make themselves feel better.
You will be a huge success and then they will be jealous of that...just know you are doing the right thing and look to where you will be a year from now.
Good luck on your journey!!

Hello everyone!!!! My name is Nellie!!!! Although I'm new here I've been lurking for quite sometime.... I wanna thank everyone here for being so incredibly loving and supportive I truly feel welcomed... I don't have much support from family with my decision to have weightloss surgery... Everyone feels I should just go to the gym and starve myself to see results... I even got embarrassed by one of my co- workers today during a meeting.... She said incredibly loud and in front of everyone: Oh my god Nellie what happened???? You put on even more weight than when I saw u before!!!" Everyone turn around and stared at me as I hurried to take my seat in the back of the room... I didn't answer her I just kept it moving.....But I felt hurt and highly embarrassed... How can people be so mean???? And u no what she's heavy too!!!! I'm like seriously???? What hurt the most is that I'm such a loving caring person who judges no one!!!! I don't care if young, my senior, heavy, slim and I absolutely don't see color!!!! I give respect where respect due... If you love me, I love you too!!! If your kind to me, I'll be kind to you....and if you need me I'll always be there for you!!!!

I am so sorry to hear that you have such insensitive coworkers. But you have made the right decision to come here. Every one is very supportive and always want to know how everyone is doing. It is a journey and we will all be here for you.

You are so inspiring!!!!!! Congrats on your lost!!!! You look absolutely amazing!!!!

1. 18 lbs in a month is amazing. I keep seeing a lot of people post "I've only lost xx lbs since surgery." If you're using the word lost, you're doing great.
2. You're healing. Your stomach is inflamed and tight. It makes it really hard to get anything in, even liquids. My first few weeks I would get so frustrated about not being able to get my liquids in. Now, I'm 7 weeks post op and still I can barely finish a kids portion of Beans from Chipotle. But I take down all the fluids! Anything i ever eat there's either leftovers or i end up throwing something out (or feeding it to my dog).
3. If eating is a struggle for you, then drink your nutrition. If you're on a proper Vitamin regimen, your body can survive on Water, Vitamins and Protein for awhile. Protein and fluids also aid with healing.
If you're feeling restriction in your stomach, that means your surgery is working. If you're not able to pass any food or liquid at all, you need to see your doctor. It doesn't sound like the latter is your problem. You will eventually get more comfortable eating. Some foods work better than others. Try soft foods for longer than what your dr recommends. Add protein to Soup or yogurt etc. I found yogurt to be the easier thing to tolerate in my first few weeks.
You'll get there! Focus on your fluids and protein to maintain your nutrition levels. If your vitamins are too big or are gross, try some other ones. Everything I take is chewable or liquid except for my B complex, which is a very small gel cap I bought from my Dr's office.

My heart completely breaks for you all of you really going through what she's going through. There's not one person who's had the gastric bypass that will tell you this is not normal. I am almost 6 months out and down 100 pounds and I still cannot say I have no regrets. But what I can say is I was taking 11 pills a day and now I take none. I can say that I dropped eight sizes and I can walk anywhere and I can fit in a booth and my health has drastically improved. I know it's hard right now but you have to focus on the reason why you had surgery. Instead of focusing on how you feel right this very second because I tell you the truth three months from now you will feel differently. And you think three months is going to take forever I tell you the truth when I say that I feel like I just had my surgery this morning and I'm already six months out that's how fast time flies. Continue to vent continue to acknowledge what ever you're feeling when you're feeling it that's healthy that's what this forum is for. But I promise that this is temporary you will get through this.

For the first 6 to 8 weeks your insides are swollen making it harder to eat. The reality is, you don't really need to push the food, just make sure you are staying hydrated and drinking as much Protein as possible.
You need the Protein to heal and you will get sick if you don't stay hydrated.
Your body does not actually need food right now but it will when the swelling goes down. I promise, this will get better and you will return to a new normal.
Keep your eye on the prize! Sometimes I wish I could have my first 8 to 12 weeks back so I could refresh.

DONT GIVE UP......and if you fall, get back up and FINISH THE JOB!
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Can I LIKE my own post?!?!?! HA!!!
Snort!!!! I got some "friendly advice" about a wardrobe choice today from a friend who has no clue about how WLS feels yet. I LOL'd (and I don't text talk).

@@Mary Jane T,
Welcome, I really hope you do stick around. This is normally a great site to get and give support. Don't let one person ruin it for you. Hopefully as they go through WLS their attitude will change to a more supportive one.
Good luck and feel free to reach out with questions.

Ok. I am the new kid on the block. I haven't even posted or introduced myself yet. The original message was one of the first I read when I found this site and immediately thought, "jeez this is not the place for me. I do not like how this conversation makes me feel." But for some reason. I came back and read your responses and felt better. Now I know not everyone feels like the original poster does. Thank you for restoring my faith in humanity. I think I'll stick around after all.

@@AvaFern Hugs! No one deserves this much unkindness from other people let alone themselves or the people who claim to love them. That kind of negative self-talk is the biggest lie of all.

This hurts my heart so much.

I LOVE YOU FOR THIS !!! Thank you so much. I cannot wait to get to my post op stage. I have surgery on Monday

Ok, so unlike a lot of people, I don't entirely disagree with the initial poster in the sense that sometimes I think unkind things too, however every single cruel thing I have ever thought (emphasis on thought, I would NEVER say something hurtful about someone's figure), I have said and very likely screamed, far worse things at myself. I think if you want to judge people in your head, go for it, but I tend to really only agree with that if you are 10x more judgmental of yourself. Periodically I look at someone and I think damn babe, spandex is a privilege, not a right, which yes sounds evil, however for 100 of the 110 pounds I lost every time I wanted to wear a pair of cute spandex gym clothes or leggings I looked at my fatness in the mirror and I said, do you want to wear that? Then get your fat rear on a treadmill and earn it. I am now 127 pounds and I am very cognizant of the fact that I can't wear shorts in public and think I look hot. Do I have the right to march my butt around in booty shorts? Oh heck yes, as does everyone else, though I don't get to get upset if someone makes a judgmental comment about me. I'm not going to walk around and think I'm smokin' when in reality there's more cheese on my thighs than in my lunch and as a result, because I am cruel to myself, the few times I happen to have a mean thought in my head about someone else, I'm not overly offended by my rotten core.
Recently I found a photo album where I had taken pictures of myself and put phrases around them then stuck them all over my house. Each picture had a corresponding nasty comment on it meant to motivate me. One year I got stood up on Halloween so there was a picture of me in my cute tutu with the phrase "Why are you leaving your house, fat cows don't get to be ballerinas- go get on the treadmill." That one was on my front door. "Get out of the fridge fatty" with a picture of me looking ugly in a mumu dress was on my fridge. "Fat girls don't get cute shoes" with a picture of me in a pair of shoes that hurt my feet was in my closet. Mean things like that were around my whole house- good thing I live alone or people would know I'm crazy. All of the hateful things I might think about someone else, are all rooted deep inside with a hatred directed toward myself. I get that, I'm cool with it, and if I want to think mean things in my head about someone else, I damn well will.
Now, that being said...people don't post things on social media for us to be mean to them. They are not blind, they know what they look like, and they need the bit of extra kindness to give them the confidence they need in a certain outfit. I was so proud of myself in this cute little pink gym shirt a few months ago and one of my good friends told me I shouldn't wear that shirt in public because you could see the fat oozing around my sports bra line. I was so ashamed that I had somehow missed seeing that and I never wore that shirt, or the vast majority of others like it again, until after I had plastic surgery that semi-fixed the problem. People don't need us to be a**holes, they do a good enough job being cruel to themselves all on their own. So...next time someone posts a picture on Facebook where they look fat, like they need a new bra, or like they have no business being in the size they are wearing...do what your mama taught you...if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all.

Op, i think you may be forgetting that opinions are subjective. While you may think someone looks sloppy or skanky, a different person might see that person as looking well put together or decent.
Personally IMO, if a person loses a significant amount of weight then they should feel free to wear whatever they want. If they wanna rock up looking like Cher in the 'If i could turn back time' vid, then that's fine with me!!!

Sometimes I can throw in a really long response because I have hampsters running around in my head, but this time, I have nothing to say except......Lipstick Lady, I love you like a sister.

@@DreamingAzure
It is good you are recognizing where your motive is coming from. That, in and of itself, is maturity in action. And a person NEEDS to be mature to handle WLS.
I don't know why you have not WLS yet, and I don't need to know. BUT, I may say this: if you aren't IN the canoe, you are NOT able to paddle. Same with WLS. If you haven't had it, you don't know what people who HAVE had it go through, thus you are NOT able to judge the journey OR the outcome.
Many of us have NO IDEA what sizes or types of undergarments or clothing to wear after WLS, we just want to look good. Everyone has different tastes and ideas of what looks good. And there are MANY cultures that have differing styles of clothes. So instead of looking at the CLOTHES, look at the JOY in the FACE of her/him wearing the clothes. THERE you will find the REAL beauty!!!!!