maggie409

Starting weight 203
Goal weight 183

I'm in.... My starting weight is 203 and my goal weight is 183.

Yes, she did receive harsh comments, perhaps unfairly, perhaps not -- it depends on your perspective. A very close friend of mine discovered her husband of 20 years was cheating on her after he underwent a major weight loss (not surgery related). He decided she was "just a roommate"and "no longer attractive" despite the fact that she is still the same slender hot blond she was when they married. (No really! I've seen the pics.)
She didn't change, he did. He got selfish and that's OK. He just should have ended things BEFORE he broke the sanctity of their marriage. That would have been the RIGHT thing to do.

Honesty goes a long way.

Here is the link to the new challenge:
http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/354722-holiday-weight-loss-challenge/?p=3996955
It's called the Holiday challenge.
Based on the people who voted, I chose to do a longer challenge =)

I read the whole post and stick to my original post. The OP is married. Is admittedly been unfaithful and continues to be. She is asking "do I stop and be in a committed relationship or continue." She is seeking opinions. My opinion. Either commit to your marriage and stop screwing around. Or get a divorce and be single and sleep with whomever you choose. If her husband isn't being supportive and doesn't make her feel like she wants, then get a divorce. Don't screw around and then separate continuing to screw around. Married is married whether there is a separation or not. As humans if we only base our self-worth and self-image on our sexuality then there isn't much to us. We as humans are so much more complex and valuable than how often we can get laid. She is not only cheating on her husband but she is cheating on herself and selling herself short. STOP! Infidelity is a destroyer. And stop looking for your self-worth through someone else's eyes. Be proud. Be strong. Be the person YOU would be impressed by. Don't be the piece of ass all the men she is sleeping with are wanting her to be.

I haven't read all of the comments but I just want to say that nothing in this world can devastate a person like someone cheating on them. The pain and heartache you are causing to your husband who has stood beside you is something you couldn't possibly comprehend. At least not yet. I believe in karma and the law of attraction. You will get back what you give out. If you hurt you will be hurt. The fact that you posted this on a public forum with your picture after saying he doesn't know you have cheated does indicate that you don't care if he knows. Be careful. You may not realize it but you are being used by all these other men just like you are using them. I say stop cheating. You are married. Get divorced and then play the field all you want. But don't mislead people. You know what they say.... Karma's a bitch, especially when you're being one.

I don't post that often on here any more because there is a group that will find some way to bash someone's post. Blaming you for men being rude is not right. I think you are having to re-learn what you find attractive in men. If something about then is unattractive move on. And men have different preferences just like women do. When we were big we attracted men that like big women. When we get smaller, we attract men that like small women. What they like doesn't matter. It's what you like that matters. Figure out what you want and don't settle for less.
As for the negative posts from the certain group, don't let them bother you. They are no different than the men who try and make you feel like what they do is your fault: and guess what, someone will bash me for this comment.

204 this week. Thanks!!

I eat one scrambled egg every day. I love eggs

Call someone from BariatricPal. They will skype with you and give you all of the information you need. I went through them and it was only good. They had someone pick me up from the airport and there was someone with me and my husband all of the time. I used Dr Jesus Martin Lopez and he was amazing! I have had no issues at all.

204 this week. Thanks!!

Wearing tall boots that will actually zip up.

Wearing tall boots that will actually zip up.

My brother is an alcoholic and he like you can't resist "just one" drink at the risk of his own health. Everything I have read has said that there should be no alcohol consumed for the first year. Just as your doctor has advised. I think rather than asking "please when can I?" (When you already know). The question you should be asking yourself is "why do I want it even at the risk of my own health?"
I don't say these things from a judgmental perspective. I say these things from a third-party perspective having watched my brother destroy himself. Your need/want for alcohol has nothing to do with VSG. But then you already know that.

Broke my stall!! Onederland............FINALLY!!!!

I just saw your post. I am six pounds from onederland so I will join and start tomorrow!! I will need to go shopping for Protein Shakes.

I don't post that often on here any more because there is a group that will find some way to bash someone's post. Blaming you for men being rude is not right. I think you are having to re-learn what you find attractive in men. If something about then is unattractive move on. And men have different preferences just like women do. When we were big we attracted men that like big women. When we get smaller, we attract men that like small women. What they like doesn't matter. It's what you like that matters. Figure out what you want and don't settle for less.
As for the negative posts from the certain group, don't let them bother you. They are no different than the men who try and make you feel like what they do is your fault: and guess what, someone will bash me for this comment.

I just saw your post. I am six pounds from onederland so I will join and start tomorrow!! I will need to go shopping for Protein Shakes.

I just saw your post. I am six pounds from onederland so I will join and start tomorrow!! I will need to go shopping for Protein Shakes.

I just saw your post. I am six pounds from onederland so I will join and start tomorrow!! I will need to go shopping for Protein Shakes.

I don't post that often on here any more because there is a group that will find some way to bash someone's post. Blaming you for men being rude is not right. I think you are having to re-learn what you find attractive in men. If something about then is unattractive move on. And men have different preferences just like women do. When we were big we attracted men that like big women. When we get smaller, we attract men that like small women. What they like doesn't matter. It's what you like that matters. Figure out what you want and don't settle for less.
As for the negative posts from the certain group, don't let them bother you. They are no different than the men who try and make you feel like what they do is your fault: and guess what, someone will bash me for this comment.

207 this week. Thanks!

I don't post that often on here any more because there is a group that will find some way to bash someone's post. Blaming you for men being rude is not right. I think you are having to re-learn what you find attractive in men. If something about then is unattractive move on. And men have different preferences just like women do. When we were big we attracted men that like big women. When we get smaller, we attract men that like small women. What they like doesn't matter. It's what you like that matters. Figure out what you want and don't settle for less.
As for the negative posts from the certain group, don't let them bother you. They are no different than the men who try and make you feel like what they do is your fault: and guess what, someone will bash me for this comment.

I don't post that often on here any more because there is a group that will find some way to bash someone's post. Blaming you for men being rude is not right. I think you are having to re-learn what you find attractive in men. If something about then is unattractive move on. And men have different preferences just like women do. When we were big we attracted men that like big women. When we get smaller, we attract men that like small women. What they like doesn't matter. It's what you like that matters. Figure out what you want and don't settle for less.
As for the negative posts from the certain group, don't let them bother you. They are no different than the men who try and make you feel like what they do is your fault: and guess what, someone will bash me for this comment.

209 this week. Thanks!