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I'd really like to hear from more people at goal weight. I'm finding it so much harder just to accept and be in maintainence than it was to be losing. Losing happened so quickly for me and before I new it I was at goal. I'm still not even sure if I'm at goal- keep wanting to lose a bit more. I look at my body and think yes I'm very thin but then there are spot areas that I feel like more could come off of. I worry every day about gaining and when I do eat I feel "fat head", just heavy and fat even though I know I'm not. I track my calories every day and I really don't like coming in at maintainence even though it seems even at that I'm still losing. This is a real challenge for me. I'm so worried about weight regain, and even more that mental feeling of having my weight and eating be out of control. At the same time I still struggle with pain when I eat and that gets tiring. This is why this journey is not easy. It's hard to begin it, it can be hard losing, and it's really hard at goal. It's a lifelong thing. I just hope some day to feel safe and comfortable and to find a routine and steady maintainece.

What I am looking for is simple- a level headed man with his feet on the ground and a decent job he likes. Not given to extremes, enjoys life and has a good sense of humor. No heavy drinking, no drugs, no heavy religion, basically moderation in life. Emotionally stable and fortitude for life, an optimistic viewpoint. A man who knows how to treat a woman with respect and admiration- open doors ect is a huge plus. I hate being treated like "one of the boys". Someone with time and the inclination to spend it with me. Is this too much to ask?????? I'm a pretty damn good catch and I deserve it!

One of the worst things about being overweight for me was how hot and sweaty I used to get. While working I would drop sweat all over everyone and get totally flushed. I would break a terrible sweat just getting my kids up and to school!! So now, I welcome the cold. Bundle up and welcome it in!!!

Awwwww thank you everyone!!

Hmmmm. How many calories are you eating every day? Do you track them and measure your food?

That's a real bummer!!! I hope you can get a revision.

He's awesome. It gets easier as you get further out. I still have some issues and have to come up with excuses- I say I eat like a bird and they just believe me because I'm so tiny now. I'm always embarrassed at how much I leave on my plate so I ask for half orders or order just a small salad. As far as telling people goes- I couldn't imagine faking in love with someone and them not knowing such a big part of my history. Plus the lose skin is hard to hide! I figure if I'm serious about someone they need to know and I don't want to be with anyone who wouldn't accept it. Obviously if they can't accept it they don't like me enough.

Every once in awhile I have a day that I feel completely insatiable. I seem to crave sweets? But I'm not sure if that's what I am craving because when I do eat them I don't like them. . No amount of food seems to satisfy me- I can only eat small portions so I have to keep eating throughout the day. I feel this urge, intense craving and I can't pin it down so I just keep trying different things!! I can't figure out why this happens. I am still trying to lose a couple more pounds so I've been keeping my calories about 1000-1200... Today I had 1600 which is the most I've had in weeks. Is this my body trying to tell me not to lose anymore? Am I dehydrated? Anyone else experiencing this?

You could set a clothing size goal instead and focus on that.

I felt when I was larger that Macy's woman had the best plus size clothing. Basically copies of the smaller clothing in larger sizes. They have inc and Calvin Klein...

I don't have much loose skin. What I do have is on my tummy area but I've also had 2 kids so I probably would have had that anyway. My butt is kind of dropping, need to build muscle. My legs and arms have a little tiny bit that is barely noticeable. I wouldn't have barely any at all except I've chosen to be very thin and go under goal weight. I'm 5'6 and 121pounds, size 0-2.

No hubby. single!! ????

The cesarean cut hurts way more, but the gas pain from the rny hurts more. So I'd say about even Steven!!!

Omg. Drop that guy!! No way Jose. He's playing with you and he's not serious. Just be done. Your going to lose all your weight and be a different person anyhow and you'll find someone great for you! That's good! Your better off!!

That's amazing!!! So happy for you

Men are always talking about how there are so many crazy women out there. I've been single a year and it seems like the world is FULL of crazy men!!! Not women!! Or is it just people in general? Geeze I thought I had problems. I go out with a guy twice and he's ready to marry me. I date an alcoholic and fall in love with him. I hear endless stories about crazy exes. What are people willing to settle for these days? Is it my age? (35) Is it that I'm online dating?? I have guys yelling at because I don't text them fast enough. I have guys who are completely emotionally stunted. What the hell????

you look so cute. And you're tiny!!!

I bought this one a couple days ago. Never thought I could pull something like this off!!

so adorable! Love your shoes!!

Wow your looking so great!!

When someone says "did you try diet and exercise first?" Im going to be like- "No way! I don't wanna have to give up my favorite foods! And the gyms wayyyyy to much work. I'd rather just have my stomach chopped off...."

I'm addicted to shopping. not good!!

I'm sorry your going through this. I would say intensive therapy, perhaps inpatient for awhile, may help. I had to do inpatient therapy myself at one point for issues I had- nothing to be embarrassed about. The behavior your describing is very dangerous!!!!! I do hope you have stopped for your own safety. There is nothing wrong with enjoying sex, but these are the wrong reasons. Self worth and intimacy is a long road and growing process. I hope you are okay.

The difference is that to truly be considered medically anorexic, a person has to be underweight. We all have weight to lose, or bodies are using our stored far as fuel. An anorexic no longer had stored far to use and so begins to exhibit physical symptoms of malnutrition. One could definitely transition from a non- anorexic dieter to an anorexic if one continued to restrict calories after reaching the lowest weight for ones height. There are other differences as well. food rituals, extreme behavior, etc.