gentylwind

His behavior is deplorable. I do, however, agree with IM_LORI. There are a lot of things that go along with depression and obesity that have as much to do with personality as physicality. And if we gain an insane amount of weight after marriage and still expect them to feel the same about us when we don't even resemble that person, physically or emotionally, I think we are to a degree refusing to take our own portion of responsibility for what is happening in the relationship and being unfair. I see nothing wrong with holding one's mate to a standard of good health. I DO, however, see EVERYTHING wrong with cruelty and abuse. You need support right now, not to be torn down.

I was told sugar is definitely NOT allowed. Sugar gets converted to glucose, which gets converted into glycogen and is stored in the liver. The whole point is to deplete the liver of glycogen and fat so that it will shrink. I was told anything clear, liquid and sugar free plus the protien shakes. Nothing else.

Probably. There are plenty of people who have lost well over 100 lbs with the lap band. You WILL, however, have to be very disciplined about what you eat for a very long time to do it and that is likely the root of his concern. Lap Band is not as automatic in the weight loss department as gastric bypass nor as fast. But this 50% statistic I keep seeing reported (as in, most people only lose 50% of the weight they need to) has not held true in my experience if you stick to your new way of eating and don't try to eat around the band. If you want the band, find another surgeon.

I don't have a clear liquid phase. I have the pre-op phase which is just like lilmissband and then postop I am full liquid after 24 hours and for the next two weeks. Full liquid is all lilmissband listed and also plain fat free yogurt and fat free yogurt smoothies.

6 protein shakes a day, my choice of which ones. Unlimited clear fat free broth. Unlimited crystal light. Unlimited SF jello. All for two weeks prior to the surgery. One day of clear liquids after the surgery, then two weeks of full liquids, then two more weeks of mushies, then two more weeks of soft foods. Then first fill and back to liquids for a few days.

Recipezaar has recipes for low carb pizza soup in the crock pot.

Don't be scared..if you follow instructions you will be fine. Most doctors tell you to be on a liquid diet only for a minimum of 24 hours after a fill. Most say three to four days.

Hello, Frisco Texas I am in Allen, having my band placed on the 21st of November. I will look forward to hearing how you do! Good luck!

I think you are totally within your rights to tell her that you would love to have her there if she is going to be positive about the experience, but that you yourself are afraid and you don't have it in you to support her fear as well. That you believe this will lead to a healthier, LONGER life for you...those were the words that really konked my own mother over the head. I think you should let your Mom be there but only if she completely understands that she is there to SUPPORT YOU, not to sooth her own anxiety by being present as it happens. And if she says she can't do that or if you think by her past behavior that she can't take her own psychological angst out of the equation, you'd be better off talking to her when you get home.

That is why they are having you go to a heart doctor. You need cardiac clearance to have anesthesia and its nothing to toy with. It is entirely possible to have a normal EKG and still have a serious heart problem. All the EKG does is measure the electrical conduction through the heart. Not the health of the muscle itself. Not the size of the heart, the ejection fraction, not potential blockages etc. You have likely been overweight a long time. A little longer in order to make sure the surgery is safe for you is a wise move. Be thankful you have a thorough doctor who is going to make sure this is the right move for you. I know it is frustrating, but if anesthesia could be fatal for you, far better to find out now.

It would depend on his reason for wanting a second surgeon. Is your case complicated by a high BMI or other health risk factors? Or is he just training a new surgeon?

Locked in on the 21st!

Not even remotely legal. You have grounds to sue (not that I am saying you should). How is it your doctor happened to speak to your mother?

I have only told a few people....my significant other (obviously), my mother (who is supportive), my boss and one friend. Nobody else. I have a very close group of girlfriends whom I adore...we all love one another...but I brought up lap band about a year ago after I attended the seminar and the backlash was outrageous. I am the heaviest one in our group and it was almost like they were threatened at the idea. I have never had them be so UNsupportive about something ever. So they don't get to know now that I am going to pull the trigger and do it. This is a scary enough, intense enough decision without negative people planting ill-founded doubt in your head. If it was as simple as "put the fork down", none of us would be here in the first place.

TLCEdge in Dallas is running a lap band special right now for $9990, all inclusive except the psych eval ($250) and the cost of the pre-op diet (Optifast or Protein shakes). They have four surgeons they use, all of whom have private practices as well in the Dallas area and are very well known names. I personally decided against going to Mexico because of how many people have trouble finding someone to do their fills and because of a long distance problem if there are complications.

You may wish to consult with a psychologist as well. Nobody does this without support. If you keep eating the way you are, you may very well lose your band completely and that would be a shame.

I got my information a lot from this site, but mostly from going to visit the group that I was considering for my surgery. If you check the FAQs here, you will find a lot of answers as to the changes you will have to make in your life to have a successful lap band. There are definitely some sacrifices, but I have seen both in person and on this board some tremendously inspiring success stories.

Read over the requirements and decide if you can keep them. :wub:

Are you eating Protein first, then veggies? Are you having whole foods, not mushies? Are you stopping drinking at least a half hour before meals and not resuming drinking until an hour after you finish eating? Are you taking a full half hour to eat your meals? Have you examined the possibility of head hunger rather than true belly hunger? I am not even banded yet so please don't feel I think I am some sort of expert. These are just the mantras I keep seeing repeated over and over and over, not just here but pretty much on any band support network.

My impression is that part of the point of the band is to help learn to give up or moderate foods that do not lead to a healthy way of life. Chewing and spitting is definitely not normal or okay. I agree that spitting out something you suddenly realize is too big of a bite or not going to go down well is different than trying to get the flavor of a food you have had to give up but not suffer consequences from it. If you would not do it in front of your friends or family, chances are you should not be doing it at all.

I was told yesterday that the number one causes of band failure were refusing to give up carbonated beverages forever and not following the pre and post-op diets. I personally will not risk it. If I want the flavor of beer I will cook with it or something. Not worth it to spend thousands to screw it up just for a beer or a soda.

Another Texas, in the DFW area. Had my consult yesterday, am scheduled for surgery on 11/21. Welcome :redface:

Yeah, it was EVERY BIT as bad. When I went to the doctor's office they had people filing into the room to take a look at me, their mouths hanging open. It was BAD. It does go away, but yeah, its in your blood stream and takes time to get filtered out. You'll start to feel better soon. Don't miss any of your steroids!

I just keep telling myself every pound I put on now is pushing me further back from where I want to be after I get the band. I am extending how long it will take for me to get there. THAT tends to stop me in my tracks.

I was told at my pre-op appt that there are two big indicators of whether the lap band is going to be successful for an individual. One is the ability to give up carbonated beverages. The other is the ability to stick with the pre-op and post-op diet schedules. Those who don't usually end up with band complications or do not reach goal/stop losing. I would follow what your doctor says and just get through it. If someone had told us a year ago that we could have the body we hope for but had to have liquids only for six weeks, we'd have jumped on the chance.