Hello Everyone
About a month ago, I finally decided that I was sick of feeling lousy all the time, tired of always being tired, sick of wearing a mask to bed because of sleep apnea, taking shots for my diabetes and taking a large number of pills daily. With my family Dr's help, I have decided to get all the paperwork together for the lap-band procedure. I'm hopeful to have the surgery in January. I will find out the exact date in a few days.
My problem is my Wife. I don't think that she is being very supportive of my decision to have the lap band procedure. Her first response when I asked her to be supportive is "How do you want me to support you?" I really didn't have an answer to this. I also think that she doesn't think that I can lose and keep the weight off. Like most, I've done the dieting thing many, many, many times. Some diets were successful at first in dropping the pounds, but like many, I've gained it back plus.
I was very disappointed by her response. I think that she even felt bad too especially after I told her that I was disappointed and I would find support from someone else. Just for the record, my Wife is an absolutely wonderful person. And for good or bad, she tells the truth even though the truth may not be the answer that you were hoping for.
Maybe its my fault because I had not given her examples of how she can support me.
I have not taken this decision lightly. I would rather NOT have surgery. I wish that the previous diets worked and that I would be healthy again. This is a drastic decision that I have made (to have the surgery). I've started to exercise and eat much better. I'm not perfect, but I'm much better. I've lost about 12 pounds since the 3rd week of October.
I just hope that she will come around and be as supportive as I hope that she would be.
Anyone have any similar situations? How did yu deal with less than 100% support from your family members?
Howard