DairyFairy42

Hi green eyed girl - stop and take a breath, then another one.
ive read ur posts and uve really thought this procedure thru so this is just something else you will look up and investigate.
I personally need to take starflower oil for hormones and zinc and magnesium for intense periods so I know my diet of the future will need to be high in these.
I know someone who had bypass and she now has B12 injections and various Vitamins and she just gets on with it and shows no sign of malnutrition.
I had a wobble a few days ago so maybe this panic is normal cause I was freaking but now I've moved on and I've stored my cocerns about gerds and put in notes for the future.
This is a great adventure and we have to do our homework but we can do this

Oh my word you look fabulous, well done you

What a special day... and FYI there is nothing sad about it, we'll done

A couple of weeks ago I was driving to an appointment and I saw a really large man walking down the street. Because of his size and the near 100 degree temperature, I knew he had to be extremely uncomfortable. As I pulled into my parking place I glanced in my rear view mirror and watched this man trip with a force that propelled him like a rocket to the concrete. I bolted from my car and ran to him...his arm was already bloody.


"Let me help you up". He had salt and pepper hair and perhaps the kindest sky blue eyes I have ever seen.
With a perfect Texas drawl he said "Little lady you're gonna have to pack a little more lead in the rear to help me up!" My heart was breaking for him. I grabbed him by his good arm and we rocked....1, 2, 3, and I pulled with everything I had. No matter how much I wanted to help this man, I couldn't get him off the ground. He explained he was walking to work and I at first got the impression he was trying to get some exercise. I asked him to stay put and I'd get some help and as I ran into the building, there were just a few tiny women and elderly people that could be of no help. By the time I got back out, a man had stopped to help him up. He was hurt....I told him there was a doctor inside, would he please come in? I know he was both surprised and ashamed that I would help him. He chuckled and said he was alright (he wasn't). As he walked out of my sight he said "It's time to go on that diet".
Of course I knew he'd been on hundreds of diets, just like I had. It was the perfect time to have shared my story but yet it wasn't. I wish I had at least gotten his contact information so that maybe my signature on my email would perhaps spark a conversation.
Maybe he didn't have a car and had to go into work anyway for fear of losing his job because of his size. Maybe he couldn't afford to call for an ambulance. So many "maybes". Every day since then I have considered waiting at that parking space to see if I could locate him again. He felt so much embarrassment and I wanted to tell him that I knew there was a perfectly loving man inside trying to get out. I wanted to tell him so many things but most of all that I didn't see him as just a morbidly obese man....that he was just as valid and worthy as anybody and the shell he lived in did not make him "less than".
I fell a few weeks before that and was in extreme pain so I could only imagine what he was dealing with. Tears ran down my face for the rest of the day. Call me silly for wanting to do this but I'm going back to try to find him. I want him to know why I didn't judge him that day.
And why I cried.
p.s. I just added this because I do want everyone to know that I would NEVER give anyone unsolicited advice because I have seen it happen and someone got the response "I've already had WLS". Much like asking a woman if she's pregnant....not until I see the crowning of the baby's head would I ever ask when someone's baby is due. I just wanted to make sure everyone understood that.
*Note- I wrote this in 2011 and reread it the other day. I decided to share it here because the comments left on this blog post were so memorable and heartfelt. If you'd like to read them you can see them here.
I've been back to that same parking spot every month basically at the same time of the day ever since that day. I have unfortunately never found him again. If I ever do, I hope he'll let me take a picture with him so you can see his beautiful blue eyes and the kindest face you could ever imagine.

All the very best xtina, life is great and after tomorrow its gonna get a whole lot better.

Keep pressing the wrong button lol.
So... my personal challenge is not to compare, I have no idea what losing a stone looks like as ive never done it and maybe if I concentrate on what losing a stone FEELS like I can manage my expectations.
Another thing ive learned recently is that I don't always like what I've read, it might even scare me but nevertheless one I have I gotta process it so whether I agree with a post at least it has given me more ammunition and information to make it work for me xx

Last month I went to my surgeon's support group, and started talking with this woman who asked me if I had had surgery yet? I was taken aback since I have lost 107 lbs, but I am still overweight, and I have to accept that some people will not consider me to be a success unless I am stick thin. It just reminded me that I can't look to others to Celebrate my success, I have to look within. I'm still proud of myself, regardless of what that woman might have thought!

Keep pressing the wrong button lol.
So... my personal challenge is not to compare, I have no idea what losing a stone looks like as ive never done it and maybe if I concentrate on what losing a stone FEELS like I can manage my expectations.
Another thing ive learned recently is that I don't always like what I've read, it might even scare me but nevertheless one I have I gotta process it so whether I agree with a post at least it has given me more ammunition and information to make it work for me xx

Seela I feel the same way, you are making a public observation, thats what these forums are for.
For me im scared about having it done, when uve tried everything else u need this to work so badly that any uncertainty is scary, especially as a fat person you may have spent a lifetime of comparing and what ifs are a daily event.
But for me, my mindset tells me there is no time to relax, the early time is probably easier as its the adventure but I know there is never a good time to take ur eye off the ball.
But I want to weigh this against

Seela I feel the same way, you are making a public observation, thats what these forums are for.
For me im scared about having it done, when uve tried everything else u need this to work so badly that any uncertainty is scary, especially as a fat person you may have spent a lifetime of comparing and what ifs are a daily event.
But for me, my mindset tells me there is no time to relax, the early time is probably easier as its the adventure but I know there is never a good time to take ur eye off the ball.
But I want to weigh this against

You look fantastic, like a different girl really.

Yesterday was my 6 month surgiversary and I cannot be more pleased with this journey. I have so much more energy, have discovered a hidden runner inside me, am more active with my kiddos, and all-around more confident.

Jan

Yesterday

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January face vs last week face

Hi zoumummy some great feeds, op is the English word for surgery, which we tend not to use lol