j_war06

I am doing everything right and lost weight during the liquid stage last week. But when I started on mushy food I feel like I am bloated and cant lose the weight and havent lost a pound since Thursday and its almost Monday. I am eating 3 small small small meals a day and drinking a lot of water on the weekends, and I am not hungry at all, why arent I losing weight? I dont feel like this is all right for some reason.:bored

Hey all I am finally banded. I was banded last Friday August 26 and just now really feel like doing anything. Its not as bad as I thought it would be and I lost 8 pounds since friday and today is tuesday. Just thot I would let yall know

Well, the insurance denied me AGAIN and told us that they can do nothing because of the exclusion in the company policy (which is totally discriminatory) and instead of hiring a lawyer and pushing the surgery down another atleast 2 months we decided to just pay for it. I feel bad that I am having this and getting thin while my family has to stay obese and I am moving out next summer and just feel selfish for having this done, even for a medical reason. I WANT and NEED it so bad, just feel bad for the family income problem. Atleast the insurance will pay for the pre-op and post-op testing and stuff, just not the surgery. I am having the surgery next Friday and have never had surgery (that I can actually remember) and am nervous about that, but I am SOOOOO excited about starting over, and yet mad as hell at Mom's company for the exclusion. Just wanted to let you all know about the surgery.

"No way. I'd say at least 1/2 of your problems are due to your negative attitude. This is just a cop-out. Life does not automatically get better because you lose weight. Trust me. Many of us have lost weight and we still have to deal with bad relationships, depression, stressful jobs, feeling out of control, not making friends easily, etc." I know that, but I wouldnt have a negative attitude if I wasnt fat, therefore the fat causes the negative attitude and the negative attitude will then cause bad things to happen if your theory is correct. And plus my point is that naturally thin, normal people, dont have the problems that overweight ppl do, I am not saying that when I am skinny I will fit in here better, but rather somewhere that no one knows how big I once was.

I do want all of you to realize that just getting your kids away from food as a reward for doing stuff is okay. Activity is EXTREMELY important, but make sure that it is something that they want to do, there are lots of programs that dont involve outside physical activity. I myself just dont like to be outside, I feel like I cant move and that instead of weight 240 I weight 1200lbs and just have NO energy, and have always felt that way. Find a local 4-H program and get involved in that (PSST there is a foods and Nutrition project available in 4-H so they can learn how to eat healthy). Also dont forget that learning to use the computer is a very important skill and dont ALWAYS drag them away, just if they are looking so bored they are desperate to look up anything to do just to be on the computer, or if they have been sitting there for over an hour. Let them make their own decisions, but guide them well and set examples as well as stepping in if anything gets out of control. Remember, they will not always live with you and be under your supervision.

Well, I am an obese teenager and looking back at what my parents could have done, all I can think of is this: tell my grandmother no McDonalds, icecream, or junk food except on very special occasions, dont leave me at my grandparents conveniant store with an unlimited tab, and make me eat three meals a day and give me a healthy snack after school. Feed me healthy foods instead of fatty ones. The problem here is that up until I was oh about 7 or 8 my parents were POOR the very definition. They got married young and neither one had a college education or a well paying job. It was enough to live on. Healthy food is expensive, while free hamburger meat and macaroni and cheese and ranch style Beans are all cheap. That is what we had probably 5 days out of the week. Mom and dad were not bog people at first, now they have become obese (especially mom). I pretty much took over my own eating at age 9 and started making my own choices and destroyed myself in that way. This is when I was staying mostly alone because my babysitter slept ALLLLL day and I refused to go to daycare. I was brought up in a world that said EAT, but if you dont then you will be skinny. So basically I am morbidly obese and I eat very little and am not active at all. I am an only child and never had anyone to play with but adults, and I didnt play pretend, even today playing with babysitting clients I cant "pretend", instead I played cards or board games or did crafts with the adults, so I was treated like an adult all my life. I have always been big, and unless I get this lap-band I will probably stay big. I weakness is McDonalds, I hope the band will tell me psychologically that it will make me sick. Whenever I would get shots at the Doctor's or anything like that I would get a happy meal. Even today I treat myself to one after I go to the Doctor. Frankly, it all relates to pragmatism, the belief that society and enviroment shape a person into who and what they are. If you show them how to eat, show them how to be active, and the results of if you arent, and encourage them to do these things, then I think your kids will be alright. Just set an example and dont scare them into being skinny, because in reality you will make them fat. Just love them and encourage them to be healthy.

Old People Need Cool Evenings LLFTM

"So you might need to let them know that you are feeling able to do those kinds of things again and I betcha they'd lose their fear and invite you out." I already did. That is why me and my bf broke up. He always leaves me at home to go and do stuff. This is the prob. They sneak off so I wont guilt trip them into going. They "dont want any attachments." These are the only people in this town my age that havent screwed me over, and now they are on the list too. I have run out of peers.

I live with my Mom and Dad. Plus, young females do not go anywhere alone around here because it is EXTREMELY dangerous. I try to do something here at home, but my attention just cant stay on it. I dont know how many puzzles, craft, crayola coloring pages, or games I have started and just couldnt stand to finish because it required being still and a lot of time. I cant stand to just work on one thing, I have to work on a thousand things (and be stressed to the max) to feel like I have accomplished something.

Quiety Que My Hero Robbie??? PPDTS (Please Put Down Toilet Seat)

Ever since I let ppl know I am getting the band I have lost atleast 2 friends and a bf. I just dont understand. I thought they would be happy for me. I dont get invited to clubs, parties, to go dancing, to hang out, nothing except to watch dumb ol movies. I just dont get it?? I want to go, and I cant unless someone goes with me and my friends dont want me to go with them, they always sneak off and go. I wanna go have fun, these walls of this house are getting so old!!

It was one of the worst feelings in the entire world. It is going to do me so much good to just get out of this town.

That is great advice, I wish my mom would have done that, maybe I wouldnt have issues right now lol. Mom is great, she just doesnt respond to her own anger very well, and I am a literal person so when she says fine I'll just do it. I let her do it. When I was bad (I dont do anything right now, seriously, Im a good kid) she would threaten me and if she actually went through with it I was fine lol. I knew that I get a replacement eventually, may not be soon, but eventually

I have never had an anti-inflamatory that worked. I was on Vioxx for over a year, then it started giving off really bad side effects like vomitting and weakness. The Cyclobenzaprine is awesome and so is the Hydrocodone. The Welbutrin is great for me though because I can take low doses instead large ones, but I will ask Wednesday about it, and I have to have the Phentermine because it keeps me focused on what I am doing (everyone is pretty sure that I have ADHD) and it works great as an appetite suppressent, I just dont want to have to spend the rest of my life on a diet pill. I cant get rid of an Urinary Tract infection right now, I have had it for almost 4 months and the antibiotics did not work. Oh yeah I tried Zoloft, but it worked against the orthoevra and caused me to have a cycle for about 2 1/2 months. As soon as I took of the patch, it quit. Strange huh?

Hey, that is my Mom's B-Day. My ex's is the 29th and my best friend's baby is due around my b-day too. This is cool

PLEASE DO NOT BASH ANYTHING THAT I HAVE SAID TO YOU, IF YOU DO NOT AGREE FIND A NICER WAY TO PUT IT. No, I agree with you and I appreciate your suggestions and understanding rather than telling me what to do

thanks ya'll, this is what I was looking for. Understanding not necessarily advice (although I do take it sometimes). I do feel bad most of the time, and I dont feel like I have the hardest life because I know that Vinesqueen dealt with a lot growing up and I know that there is an underlying reason why we are all big. I have been through a little of a whole lot if that makes any sense. (explanation: no I havent had constant mental abuse or constant sexual abuse, but I have experienced it). I know that a lot of ya'lls goal weights are even higher than my current weight, and I know it is a big difference, but I dont want to be looked upon like I am healthy and just want to get the band to have the perfect body. I just want to be healthy, I have never just been healthy. I cant remember a time in my life that I wasnt sick. Also, thank Vinesqueen for your encouragement about college and getting scholarships, right now I am fighting with all I have to get them. The only problem is that I have missed so much highschool some colleges and organizations dont want to offer them to me because they dont know why I missed the class time, they just know that I missed it. I am just ready to say "I look hot" (not in a vain way, in a way that makes me feel good about myself). My goal mission (I know it is funny and little superficial) is to goto college and have lost almost 100lbs, then I want to finance myself a cute convertible sportscar when I reach goal weight. When I graduate college I am going to get breast implants (Not well endowed for a big girl) and then get with some guy that is about 15 years older than me to buy me whatever I want so I can pay my own way through law school. In a perfect world, hmmmm. LOL! I have been really crabby lately since I had to dump my bf to move on to bigger (literally) and better (literally) things lol. It just hurts so bad because he has always been my best friend and boyfriend, then he just went stupid and not to mention the fact that he has decided not to goto the college he wants to, but to live with his momma. I know some of you may have done that, but I know I couldnt spend the next 3 years with my parents. I will be an adult and have to learn to live on my own, plus I wanna party! Fuelman, I just love you lol, I know exactly what you went through in HS because I am doing it now, and I want to get a hold on it before it gets any worse. I just want people to understand and listen and empathize with what I am saying because I dont have anyone here that does. My parents and sister and well all my family grew up as smaller beings, althouth they are big now, they lived their younger lives as thin people. Mom gets mad anytime I say something about my weight or about any kind of issue I have and starts yelling at me, I dont really want to talk to my dad about these types of issues, my therapist understands, but all she wants to talk about is weight and family issues, she has yet to ask me about any of my other problems like social life, boyfriend, friends, and whatever. I am just ready to get out of this little town and go to college. Also, yes Kelly there are docs in Beaumont for stuff, but they are not covered by my insurance, I go to Lufkin for my problems but all they tell me is to get Lap-Band and lose weight. That is every doctors' solution to every problem when you are big "lose weight." I mean I dont even want to start school again because I know that everyone will ask about the surgery and tell me I need to lose weight and I could come to school because my knees wouldnt hurt and that I am just fat and lazy and dont want to go and its not fair that I dont have to go and everyone else does. I want to be able to go, I hate lying around this house ALL DAY everyday. It gets old and boring. I used to eat when I got bored, I think that is how I put on this weight, but now eating is boring too. I sit at the computer and read posts on here, check the news, and do college work to keep me entertained, but that gets old too. Just for once I want someone to call and say "hey there is a party tonight at so and sos, wanna come?" I am ready to get as far as possible away from my ex, I feel like I dont even know him anymore. I just want to start-over and be a new person. I am tired of being the Jodie I am, I want to be the one the guys want, but think they cant have because I am too fine, I want to be the girl that everything looks good on, I want to be the girl that guys want to dance with in the club, but respect enough not to try anything with them. I dont want to have a history at whatever college I goto, so I have chosen the one 400 miles from here, that is a good 8 hour trip, same amount of time it takes to get to Arkansas from here and its almost in Oklahoma so... I dont know what is going to go on in my life, I feel guilty for always being sick and my parents having to go into debt for my health, especially over something like weightloss surgery. P.S. Welbutrin, Phentermine, Hydracodone, and Cyclobenzaprine are my friends that make the pain go away. No I dont take large masses of them, I take the correct dosages, that is just what they have me on to last right now. Not even to mention the Mobic and Trazadone and Orthoevra (I dont know why I am on this, I dont get any action) and my Urinary Tract medications that I have to be on almost full-time now because my kidneys are starting to get bad, I think its from taking too much medication.

Negative, Negative, Negative

Its not a negative comment at all. I think that if someone has the audacity to tell me "only 240lbs" then I can say Ching-Chang-Chong okay? It is common term here, and I am not afraid of saying it mainly because I have a right to say whatever I like, just like you do. My negativity is not toxic. If it was then I would have done what you all have suggested. Drop out of school? I dont think so I dont know very many successful corporate attorneys who dropped out of high school. I dont know very many people who got scholarships when they took extra time to finish. I am a powerful and influential individual, and will become more powerful once I am skinny. I hope you people realize that I have not meant anything against anyone here. I was only seeking help and was criticized for being crazy and "only 240lbs."

Fuelman, that is the kind of post I wanted to hear. Everyone has told me "you cant", just as much as I have said it. I said that about Jessica's story because of the fact that it is irrevelent because it is Gastric Bypass and totally invasive. Also, I never said my life was worse than anyone elses, as a matter of fact its pretty okay except for that fact that I have medical conditions that are deteriorating my body. Everything is linked to another in life, no one intetity is alone, there is always a cause and an effect. I guess you people havent read a lot of my other posts or you would realize that I have been sexually molested by people my age and maybe a year or two older and have a hard time attaching myself to anyone. I opened myself up to my ex-bf and he hurt me a lot, and it still hurts, what did I learn? Don't open yourself up to anyone. I am depressed paranoid in this sense. All I have heard is that the band doesnt fix these problems that I have. Then why are all of you giving advice to others who suffer from comorbidities telling them that they'll probably get approved with them and that their pain may subside. I had the confidence that the band would help me, that it would help me not hurt anymore, but you all have ruined it now. You all have been more negative toward me than I have been to myself. Ya'll have not actually read my posts to pay attention to the details and have jumped on me and you havent been paying attention to the fact that you all want me to feel positively about myself, yet you want me to read a story about a lady who had a totally different procedure than I am having and expect me to feel sorry for her. She doesnt want you all to feel sorry for her, she wants you all to respect weight-loss surgery, and especially wants to advise bypass patients of the side-effects and possibilities of complications by providing her own experiences in diary form. You all have been quick to jump on me, yet you have told me cant, wont, dont, more than I have told myself. I will be skinny by the end of my senior year, and I will go to prom if I get skinny enough to wear the dress I want. I will not parade myself about in this "fat-suit" and try to act oblivious to the fact that I am a morbidly-obese, outcasted teenage girl. I will not try to over-do myself as far as crash dieting before the surgery because guess what? If you lose weight before the surgery your liver will enlarge even more than if you gain a pound or two, yes its the truth, I watched them do a full surgery a week ago and the surgeon pointed it out. Now I guess you all have something else to shoot down. Yes you all have great advice and are great to talk to, but sometimes (yes I do it too) if it is something you dont agree to or just cant see humanly possible then you jump on that person for feeling that way.(Once again I am not saying I dont do the same thing, because it is evident that I do.) I just dont have anyone that understands that I am alone, that the weight caused depression, which caused me to withdraw from my peers and society because all they did was laugh at me and shun me. My weight also sent me further into being a hermit by not allowing me to walk or participate in age appropriate activities. I am not afraid of death because it is inevitable, we all have to go sometime and by God I want to go skinny and I want to be healthier. I dont want to wait to get to heaven to be able to walk and run, I want to do it now. There is nothing wrong with wants, and I know, I am being selfish now right? HMMMM seems like there is a whole lot wrong with me to have nothing wrong with me.

Dyscalculia is like dyslexia with numbers. I get them backwards, upside down, wrong, and can not grasp simple mathmatical ideas. I am an ELA (English language arts) wiz, and have no talent whatsoever for math. A calculator wont even help me lol. Isnt that Jessica's story thingy like a one in 150 or so, not to mention the fact that I will do anything to get this band and lose weight even if it kills me. I am not going to be fat anymore. I cant take it, I would rather die thin than fat, if I keep going at this rate it will die fat at a young age. BTW those hemogoblin levels, I have a problem with them already I take a shot once a week to get them up so I will have energy, but the shots do not work at all. Plus didn't she get the very invasive and risky gastric-bypass procedure? Also, whenever I watch Plastic Surgery Before & After they are always showing a boob job or liposuction or something that went wrong, but guess what millions of people still get it done. There is a risk in everything in life and I would rather try to be healthy. What will it hurt, if I was to get sick, then it would only be a heightened condition rather than a risk to my already deteriorating health. I am already in a wheelchair when I goto public places that requires a lot of walking.

I DO goto therapy A LOT! I have posted this several times. Its like you people are not paying attention to what I am actually saying, and only picking out some of the posts. No the band isnt a magic pill, because it isnt a pill lol. I dont think you guys are actually reading the posts I LOVE TO EXERCISE!!!! I LOVE IT! Why does everyone keep telling me what I already know and have stated several times? Besides all this I have seen a nutritionist, she recommended calorie counting. How am I supposed to count calories if I am dyscalculic, I cant even count my own money without it taking atleast 15 minutes. I feel like ya'll are trying to just pelt me because I am little negative, but when all you have been told your entire life, especially since I am not on my own, is that "you have to..." and "You cant do that because....." It is a little hard to be positive. I am morbidly obese, and morbidly obese is morbidly obese no matter to what degree it is unhealthy for anyone. Once again, I dont think you people were paying attention Almost everything I eat is vegetables and fruits, I barely eat meat. I am serious I feel like I am being shot without proper evidence.

lol WOW! Well, my dad tries to use them. I LOVE THE TREADMILL, cant wait to use it after I am light enough. See...I dont like to walk on the road because I am afraid that if I pass out or even go too far and cant walk back. With the treadmill I am just in the office. Now the bike is going to be awesome, once I can use it. Dad bought it because the orthopedic surgeon told him it was a good idea, the next time we spoke to the surgeon he told us we were crazy and that I need to rest my legs as much as possible and just try to do stretches. LOL my luck, I get a crazy specialist

Well I am an only child, I dont have kids I am only 17, but from my point of view when mom wants me to do something and I was already thinking about doing it then it will ruin everything because it makes me feel irresponsible so I just dont do it. Also, sometimes mom doesnt notice my actions, so I just dont do them like picking up around the house. Sometimes she over does it, and that discourages me too because it embarasses me and makes me feel like she is being sarcastic. I also notice that my mom has a butt detector because I can be standing there doing nothing at all, but as soon as my rear-end makes contact with a seat, she needs something. Even if she is in another room she knows. Another thing is that all my life Mom has threatened to take away my stuff like my TV, or games, computer, going places like walmart or whatever, and I honestly never cared because I knew that I would get it back eventually. Another idea is not to use reverse psychology because I ,myself, tend to take it literally and turn it around. Being an only child I was always treated as older than I was around everyone, so when Mom would treat me like my age then it would hurt my feelings and I wouldnt want to do what she wanted me to do. *P.S. Us kids like to be rebelious, especially when we go over to other kids' houses and think that they dont have the same general rules as we do at home.

hmmm.... cant use them but... we have a: Treadmill Bicycle Punching Bag Weight Bench Billy Blanks Taebo Collection Hand Weights Door handle thingy Jump Rope Have had 3 gym memberships I couldnt use because of my knees