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Well, isn't she a b*tch! I'm so sorry you have to deal with her, but it is long past time for your boyfriend to stand up and act like a man and tell his mother to stop her egregious behavior towards you. Now. Permanently.
He needs to tell her (1) he fully supports your decision to have surgery, (2) thinks you are brilliant and strong for taking responsibility for your health and well being, (3) she and her daughter are wrong about it being the easy way out, and (4) he will decide which woman is right for him, not her.
Being an adult means you stand up for yourself and especially for those you love. If he will not put this disrespect by his family to an end, you need to move on because your life will be unbearable if your marry into this family and their attitudes do not change (not just the window dressing either). You will find yourself disrespecting him and resenting the fact that he is not looking out for your best interests and happiness. The mother and personal trainer sister could both stand to be educated about the challenges and rewards of WLS, especially the sister who is in a business impacted by WLS. But the fundamental problem here is not the mother, but her son who is not giving you the respect and support you need (and the love you deserve) by standing up for you--and with you.
All best wishes for you on your journey. You've taken a brave step to secure your future health and happiness. Stay strong and don't let the tiny-minded people dissuade you from your dreams!!
Feel free to print this out and hand it to your BF.

Three cheers for your courage and determination to improve your health and lead a long happy life!
He doesn't want me to have WLS again because it completely disrupts his/our order of things. Gee, hubby, your wife is willing to undergo major surgery and life changes to be healthy and you're upset because it will disrupt your life??? Get a grip, man. How much do you think it will disrupt your family life if she has a heart attack or is disabled or dies years before her time because she doesn't take this step? Ask your doctor what her risks are currently versus surgical risks and I promise you it will bowl you over. Loving someone some times requires you to go above and beyond your normal routine to assure their health and happiness.
Now that said, my friend, you do have some significant challenges ahead given your history. You have to be realistic about some of the reported restrictions of RNY. Only about 30% of people dump and you can overeat and stretch your pouch out over time. It is a tool, but it has to be used wisely. But if you really can commit to the daily, lifelong changes RNY involves, it can be a true gift. A good place to start might be in therapy with someone who specializes in weight loss and food addictions. Cognitive therapy is especially good at turning around distorted thinking patterns. If you can really turn your thoughts and beliefs around, your chances of success will soar. Your husband will be able to clearly see that this time around will be different and you will not only loose most of your excess weight, but be able to maintain your loss. Your therapist may suggest a few sessions with you and your husband so you can be on the same page.
RNY is not a magic bullet. The surgery is just the tip of the iceberg---the 'head work' takes a lot of focus and effort, every day for the rest of your life. It is easier if you can get your head on straight and accept the changes and commit to the process in the very beginning. But when you do the work, the joy of being able to fully participate in life as you grow healthier is amazing! Wishing you all the best on your journey!

my habit prior to surgery was to bring in donuts or Bagels a couple of times a month. i know my department is missing my old habits. You
Donna, just reread your post and that part struck me. Are you buying these things to try to buy friendship and/or approval? You shouldn't have to buy enticements to be liked--give yourself more credit than that. Give them a chance to like you for yourself. And you might like yourself even better if you don't tempt another obese person with high calorie treats. Think of how you've felt when people tried to sabotage your weight loss efforts. Any gain in esteem you make at the expense of others is a false gain that will soon slip away.
Be kind to yourself and others!

Lol I got wasted on NyQuil the other day. It scared me so I didn't try any wine yet...

Truvia is the only natural sweetener made from plant extract. I have been using it for years.

I have been smoker for close to 20 years and quit cold turkey week before surgery. First week was a bit$&, but it is doable, you can do it. As soon as I was 5 days smoke free I thought it would be stupid to go back now...

Someone told me the Isopure ones are good. I thought it tasted like fruit punch barf.

Wrap my flappy boobs around people's necks and squeeze til they give me money!
HW 312, pre-op (RNY) 255, current weight 200.6

Oh my gosh, my box just arrived! Vicki went sooo beyond my expectations, I had to take picture and post! I got meal kit to take lunch and Snacks to work, two very age appropriate coloring books for my twins, some chocolatey goodies, Starbucks gift card and the best thing of all things, she took time to paint for us a picture, gift bag and a card! I love homemade stuff and these are my favorite colors as well! Thank you Vicki, dear I really appreciate the gift! You are awesome and talented!

Yeah, that was one of the reasons I didn't say anything to people I work with. I got couple days off and came back saying nothing My family asks me to eat more, try more salad of grilled "whatever you eat girl". They don't try to make me fail, just don't get concept of small portions and smart meals... Hopeless cases!

Believe it or not, this is the first time I see beef patties made like that. I always thought beef patty is a burger

Oh my gosh, my box just arrived! Vicki went sooo beyond my expectations, I had to take picture and post! I got meal kit to take lunch and Snacks to work, two very age appropriate coloring books for my twins, some chocolatey goodies, Starbucks gift card and the best thing of all things, she took time to paint for us a picture, gift bag and a card! I love homemade stuff and these are my favorite colors as well! Thank you Vicki, dear I really appreciate the gift! You are awesome and talented!

wow, great job!!! It gets easier with time, I promise

Hw 310
Last posted weight 254
Current weight 249, but I am stalling for last 3 days
Sd 8/12/13

Hw 310
Last posted weight 254
Current weight 249, but I am stalling for last 3 days
Sd 8/12/13

My approval took 10 business days, so 2 weeks.. I had different insurance, but friend with Cigna was waiting 2 weeks as well.

My new tag line... I love my scale and get on it everyday... Sometimes twice!!
date of surgery 02/21/12 surgery weight 340 lbs. current weight 146 lbs

I have been smoker for close to 20 years and quit cold turkey week before surgery. First week was a bit$&, but it is doable, you can do it. As soon as I was 5 days smoke free I thought it would be stupid to go back now...

I want to know your secret!!!

Isn't it crazy!?!?!? I've had more comments and noticed the craziest size difference over the last month....where I lost 4. whole pounds....it's crazy!

I just returned home from the hospital thus afternoon, my surgery was on the 11th also. My first day post op after I passed my swallow study they wanted me to get in 300-500ml of liquids in, that was a struggle. Now for the next 3 weeks its 48 oz a day. My surgeons told me the best way to know if your getting in enough fluids us by your output. You should be peeing 4 times a day, any less then your not getting enough. I thought that was good advice. Pretty sore but glad to be home.