Reputation from Ms.Yvette

Ms.Yvette reacted to ahri in Attitude changed after losing weight. February 4, 2014

All my life I was kind of stepped on. I was the fat friend and I accepted that role. I'm not the first invited to parties, I'm not the one guys have the hots for and so that made me take a backseat on life. If something happened, I avoided confrontation and moved on. If I felt like I got the shit end of the deal, I just move on. I dont start drama, because no one like the fat, loud, complaining woman. If people make remarks about me, I dont confront and move on. If I don't get invited, I move on. I'm sick and tired of this!
I don't want this backseat role in life anymore. If I feel happy, I want to show it. If I feel hurt, I want to show it. If I feel angry, I want to show it. Before, I used to not want to draw attention to myself. If I felt like I was slighted, I felt like I couldn't defend myself because they will pull out the "shut up fatty" card. If I got into an argument, they just needed to remind me of how I looked to hit me in on how I feel. This is why I just don't confront and move on. 'Please ignore me. Please don't make fun of my weight. I'll just mind my own business so you dont have a reason to be mean.' This was, sadly, how I felt for a long time. That and I had substantial Hair loss, which did not help my confidence issues.
So I kind of went bitch mode today and it felt good. I was sitting in the library doing schoolwork and I went to get coffee and came back to everything moved to another table or thrown away. I asked the guy sitting in my seat what happened, and he barely looks at me and said he threw away the trash. I decided to take the seat beside him so that he can apologize or acknowledge what he did. Nothing. I told him I had my phone on the table and its gone, even though it was in my pocket. He doesnt look at me and said, nope. I said I can't find it, its hard to tell when all your stuff is moved. Ignored. I said its rude to move other people's belongings. Ignored. He just flips a page nonchalantly and ignores me.
I look like the crazy one, talking in the quiet library to myself. So I asked, "Did you take it? I'll need your student number to report to the university". He grabs his stuff and said we can go to the security together. I followed him 10 steps, turned around and took back my seat. He comes back and I said, "Sorry, guess I found it." Tough. Shit. That was petty, but revenge feels good. I've never done this before and probably take the high route next time but boy....it felt GOOD.
Standing up for myself....who knew I stopped doing that...

Ms.Yvette got a reaction from w8loser in Is there anyone who DIDN'T lose their hair? February 3, 2014

Ms.Yvette reacted to KeeWee in Post Op-ers You're killing me! January 10, 2014

First off, let me say, I love my post op-ers, they are great answering questions, eliminating pre op jitters and have great hints and tips and more BUT when you post answers filled with wisdom, helpful tips, funny responses or comments or even your own personal progress, I look to your page to see your personal details or "Your Story" and some don't fill out all the information and MOST OF ALL......
NOOOO PICS?!?!?!?!?!? and in this order this is how I feel when I want to see post op updates and before and afters and progression pics and there are NONE!! You all know how us Pre Op-ers are...we wanna see!!!
Feel free to share here.....Thanks guys

Ms.Yvette reacted to IndieAllie in First time failure ;-( January 8, 2014

Thank you everyone your words have really been comforting

Ms.Yvette reacted to RJ'S/beginning in First time failure ;-( January 8, 2014

We walk, we stumble, we fall, and then we get right back up!!!!!! So this happened to you sooner then you thought it might. Or you thought you had it beat or that it would never happen to you.....You are facing it head on..And admitting to it right here for us to read and encourage you to go forward....
Two things you need to know: 1 it will happen again, and 2 it is all in your head.
Habits die hard and this is a tool to give you time to fix what goes on in your head.. That is the hardest part of all of this..Changing how we think and finding out why we got here, why we needed this surgery...We turned to food for comfort..That became our normal!
It will take a lifetime of being careful, making mistakes and finding out who you are...That is the nature of the beast...
Dust yourself off and get going. Today is a new day. Yesterday is gone...You got this hun.........

Ms.Yvette got a reaction from IndieAllie in First time failure ;-( January 8, 2014

Don't knock yourself down too much. I believe all of us go through this. Mine actually took a week after surgery lol. I sucked on a chip like there was no tomorrow. I wanted to kick myself, but it was enough in sucking the damn chip to curb my desire. I found a website that you may want to look into for bariatric Snacks. I'm placing an order tomorrow. The key is in moderation. Just a few to curb that appetite we long for. So, now that you've done it. Lets get back on track and forge forward. Good luck. http://www.bariatricfoodsource.com

Ms.Yvette got a reaction from IndieAllie in First time failure ;-( January 8, 2014

Don't knock yourself down too much. I believe all of us go through this. Mine actually took a week after surgery lol. I sucked on a chip like there was no tomorrow. I wanted to kick myself, but it was enough in sucking the damn chip to curb my desire. I found a website that you may want to look into for bariatric Snacks. I'm placing an order tomorrow. The key is in moderation. Just a few to curb that appetite we long for. So, now that you've done it. Lets get back on track and forge forward. Good luck. http://www.bariatricfoodsource.com

Ms.Yvette got a reaction from IndieAllie in First time failure ;-( January 8, 2014

Don't knock yourself down too much. I believe all of us go through this. Mine actually took a week after surgery lol. I sucked on a chip like there was no tomorrow. I wanted to kick myself, but it was enough in sucking the damn chip to curb my desire. I found a website that you may want to look into for bariatric Snacks. I'm placing an order tomorrow. The key is in moderation. Just a few to curb that appetite we long for. So, now that you've done it. Lets get back on track and forge forward. Good luck. http://www.bariatricfoodsource.com

Ms.Yvette got a reaction from IndieAllie in First time failure ;-( January 8, 2014

Don't knock yourself down too much. I believe all of us go through this. Mine actually took a week after surgery lol. I sucked on a chip like there was no tomorrow. I wanted to kick myself, but it was enough in sucking the damn chip to curb my desire. I found a website that you may want to look into for bariatric Snacks. I'm placing an order tomorrow. The key is in moderation. Just a few to curb that appetite we long for. So, now that you've done it. Lets get back on track and forge forward. Good luck. http://www.bariatricfoodsource.com

Ms.Yvette reacted to Jerzygurl in December 2013 Sleevers Come In! December 14, 2013

Post-op appointment went very well today. No issues to report. Doc is very pleased with my progress and food book.
Oh btw, I'm down 15lbs in 10 days!! Whoo hooo!
Hope everyone is doing well, those sleeved and to be sleeved!

Ms.Yvette got a reaction from DeezJeanz in December 2013 Sleevers Come In! December 12, 2013

Its official. I'm 4 days post op. I had surgery on Monday. Thank you for all of the well wishes and prayers. I can honestly say that the pain wasn't too bad. Maybe because the meds right after surgery but when I came to I really tried not to press that heavenly button. I only used it to sleep. The only real pain is from the incision in my belly button. It really hurts and when I try to stand. I also miss the hospital bed. So I'm sleeping on my couch with my back against it. Can't sleep laying down. Trying to get my liquids in but I want some damn food. A grilled cheese, some chicken, something solid. Is this normal? lol. I wonder if they really sleeved me? lol Well I good luck to those going in for surgery, god bless and may your surgery be a success.

Ms.Yvette got a reaction from DeezJeanz in December 2013 Sleevers Come In! December 12, 2013

I'm trying. I can't wait till I'm on mushy foods. LOL. Thank you so much.

Ms.Yvette got a reaction from DeezJeanz in December 2013 Sleevers Come In! December 12, 2013

Its official. I'm 4 days post op. I had surgery on Monday. Thank you for all of the well wishes and prayers. I can honestly say that the pain wasn't too bad. Maybe because the meds right after surgery but when I came to I really tried not to press that heavenly button. I only used it to sleep. The only real pain is from the incision in my belly button. It really hurts and when I try to stand. I also miss the hospital bed. So I'm sleeping on my couch with my back against it. Can't sleep laying down. Trying to get my liquids in but I want some damn food. A grilled cheese, some chicken, something solid. Is this normal? lol. I wonder if they really sleeved me? lol Well I good luck to those going in for surgery, god bless and may your surgery be a success.

Ms.Yvette reacted to DeezJeanz in December 2013 Sleevers Come In! December 12, 2013

Welcome home n grats to u! And yes, ive read others who've asked the same question as u bc they wanted food. Remember, its a tool to help us and according to my surgeon, it doesnt take away the head hunger bc we have grown accustomed to not knowing real hunger, hence, we r overweight. But u hang in there and tell ur lil head to chill n let ur lol tummy heal:)) gl n God bless. U got this

Ms.Yvette got a reaction from DeezJeanz in December 2013 Sleevers Come In! December 12, 2013

Its official. I'm 4 days post op. I had surgery on Monday. Thank you for all of the well wishes and prayers. I can honestly say that the pain wasn't too bad. Maybe because the meds right after surgery but when I came to I really tried not to press that heavenly button. I only used it to sleep. The only real pain is from the incision in my belly button. It really hurts and when I try to stand. I also miss the hospital bed. So I'm sleeping on my couch with my back against it. Can't sleep laying down. Trying to get my liquids in but I want some damn food. A grilled cheese, some chicken, something solid. Is this normal? lol. I wonder if they really sleeved me? lol Well I good luck to those going in for surgery, god bless and may your surgery be a success.

Ms.Yvette got a reaction from DeezJeanz in December 2013 Sleevers Come In! December 12, 2013

Its official. I'm 4 days post op. I had surgery on Monday. Thank you for all of the well wishes and prayers. I can honestly say that the pain wasn't too bad. Maybe because the meds right after surgery but when I came to I really tried not to press that heavenly button. I only used it to sleep. The only real pain is from the incision in my belly button. It really hurts and when I try to stand. I also miss the hospital bed. So I'm sleeping on my couch with my back against it. Can't sleep laying down. Trying to get my liquids in but I want some damn food. A grilled cheese, some chicken, something solid. Is this normal? lol. I wonder if they really sleeved me? lol Well I good luck to those going in for surgery, god bless and may your surgery be a success.