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<p>Karri As stated in the post I just did to Peaches what we need to do - take Phyl's advice - chill - quit working this so hard - we need to make this journey enjoyable - and not so hard that we get tired of the enormous challenge that we put in front of us that we are going to quit and give up. You really don't have to count calories down to the penny - I don't count my calories to the penny - I do google them some time - but since I have dieted so much I know how much things are - I don't count every pat of butter - If you looked at my food diary - it will show 900 calories for the day - but in all reality it's about 1200. I wonder why surgery made you not able to drink milk - that's weird - I am not a big milk drinker so I haven't really tried -but have added skim or 2% to my shakes and didn't have a prob. But if ice cream was a problem in the past for you - I guess that's a good thing < I carry my weight all over - it's pretty evenly distributed. But those excess pounds that I had added in the last year where really showing up thru the middle. I know that you dislike the teaching - I am so tired of my job too and will find myself saying I hate my job - but all that does is reinforce your apathy for it - so like the saying goes - if you are in a bad mood - smile and if you keep smiling your mood will become a smile... I try positive affirmations alot... I try not to use the word hate (operative word try!) cuz if you are negative about something it will just snowball - I try not to dwell on things - I am a great Scarlett - I will worry about that tomorrow... I just read an article in my Self magazine about happiness. It said when you go to bed at night - think of 3 things that were good that day. Some days you may have to really reach to find those good things but they are there it's and it a good way to fall asleep - I do try and thank God every night for my day - truly our lives are so much better than others - we are blessed we have jobs - a roof over our heads - food in our tummies (sometimes too much) - look we all have computer - there are other who aren't as fortunate as us.. We have to look at the positives and less on the negative. Well, today is grocery shopping day - and I do need to clean a bit - so will ck back later

Thanks Peaches !!!! I think that sometimes I just over think/do things - just like exercise a while back I was really pushing to do a 15 min mile - but it was kicking my butt.. I was talking to my Uncle about it and he said relax - don't make this so hard that you are going to quit - a 17 min mile is a good pace - concentrate on your form - listen to your music - don't make it such a chore or you are going to quit - so that's what I did - I quit trying so hard - if a good song comes on my iPod - I will do 4.0 for that song but then put it back down to 3.7 or even 3.5. So this is what we need to do - take Phyl's advice - chill - quit working this so hard - we need to make this journey enjoyable - and not so hard that we get tired of the enormous challenge that we put in front of us that we are going to quit and give up.

Cavegirl - I know that I have been on threads where someone asked "Does it (surgery) hurt" and someone answers No -- I tell them my Elephant analogy - for me it did hurt and I only really questioned my decision that 1st day when I first woke up back in my room - i was in pain - thirsty & hot.. My DIL say i was using the "F" word alot (which I don't remember) but it's just like having a baby - the memory of the pain fades -

Linda - I have a gf who could really use WNTW help - shes 51 and tries to dress like a 20 yr old - 1st shes too old and 2nd she isn't a size 6. It her that I look at every day and say omg doesnt' she look in the mirror - Rolls showing thru her clothes - etc - I am the Style cop at work to - if your new outfit / hair cut passes Janet's opnion then it's officially cute :eek: She is getting better with dressing her age.. She always gets tons of complements when she wears something that I bought her for her bday or xmas... And when she shops she thinks - will this past the Janet test :rolleyes Linda - congrats on getting a DIL - August your goal for your Mother of the Groom outfit

Karri - I still very self consious (sp) about walking in to the regular womens dept - I feel like they are looking at me saying you are in the wrong department - in fact at Macys a sales lady told this lady looking for something that the Big Womens sizes were down stairs (she was a big girl)... I went into express - but looked like 12 was the largest size and I am still in x-large tops - so walked out - its funny about sizes - one xl fits another doesnt - size 12 pants fit and then the next one doesn't - tried on some womens 14 jean - they fit - but were slim legged and my calfs are too big - don't like the way they look on me - I am a BIG WHAT NOT TO WEAR fan - in fact Clinton Kelly was at our Macy's last yr - I got there 3 hrs eartly just to make sure I got a seat... So I go for the trouser style pant or wider leg pants - and i HATE tight tops - I still have a roll & 1/2 on my back that I am very self aware of... I have a few of those very high wasted support garments that help smooth them out.. Now adays everything is made out of such thin material that shows your back fat.. I am very critical - I have to look just so.. I love camp style shirts made of a good weight cotton/rayon Caribean Joes - but since it's winter i can't find any and all the ones i had (which was tons) are too big... I did walk thru the bbw section but didn't see anything I likes and then went to layne bryant - but didn't see anything that caught my eye... I have don't copy before - sometimes when my spelling is really bad I will copy into word and spell ck then paste back - so when the site is slow like it has been lately I will do that.. Karri - What would you do if you rested?? You are so tight I don't think you could do much damage ::eek: unless it's ice creams or something that goes down to easy.. what do you want to eat - have a little - I don't worry too much about what I am eating cuz 98% of the time it's healthy so the other 2% is normal imho - I do enjoy my healthy food just as much as I did my unhealthy food and if I want a taco I will have one - I haven't eaten out for about 2 or 3 weeks now (my xmas cookies & tamales instead of eating out) but I do go to lunch w/my gf about once every 2 week - I have had chinese - mexican - I just don't go to the sandwich places cuz I don't think I can eat a sandwich that we use to alway go eat (jalapone bread salami cheese) - I don't eat healthy all the time in fact last friday night I has scallops & shrimp in a cream sauce over rice - had 1 1/2 cups - with the cream it wasn't low fat - but it was great comfort food and i needed it - before I would have eaten the whole thing in one night - I had 2 - 1 1/2 c containers leftovers - ate the other 1 Sat - and had to throw one out Friday when I cleaned out the fridge. You do eat out don't you ... or cuz you are so tight you haven't been We had pizza last week at work for a going away lunch for someone - it was thin crust - but I got stuck too after a couple bites - and I have had pizza before with no problems - This will become less of a struggle as we go thru the year - I bet at our 1 yr anniversary it will be more comfortable for us - I bet none (or not very many) of us have been on any program for 1 yr. I know I haven't done it for more than 6 months... Ok BF issue -I really don't know what to say about this = I know that being single helps me with this whole band/eating issue - cuz I know my xdh wasn't a fish eater and I don't know how I would have done this with someone else to cook for - it would be so much harder. So I can understand why you are tired.. I do have my gs but I make him hamburger helper which I hate - he does eat fish with me - and he does fend for his self alot - especially now that he drives and isn't at home as much.. who cooks?? do you eat separate meals?? It would bug me to watching him eat unhealty and just for the fact that it's unhealthy - a girl at work (big girl) had fish for lunch on friday - but it was fried and she had home made italiain bread - the day before 2 cups of pasta - I hate watching her eat - plus she is diabetic You are like me when you are doing healthy you want everyone else to too... Men - what can I say - can't live with them can't live without them.. You have us ...

I use the unjury unflavor in my coffee - you gotta let it cool a bit (can't be over 130 degrees) 1 scoop 20 grms of pt.. Also - I like these clear protien drinks - they taste like crystal lite or kool aide Bari Wise Bariatric Health & Diet Protein Fruit Drinks 15 grms of pt for 70 calories

I told my doc I drink 2 cups of coffee in the morning - he said that was ok - as long as i didn't drink it all day long - I do have ice tea in the summer - maybe one a day... So I am not a caffine addict..

Carol - Your doc or nutristionst should be giving you a list of all the vitatmins that he wants you to take after surgery - it's was about a week after mine that i had to start taking them - Chewable mulit Vitatmins - Chewable Calicum Citra - sublingual vit b complex for the b-12- I am very lucky my doc office is great I see the nutritionst & the doc every time i go in - also at bariatic advantage they sell chewable vitatmins for banders - it's calledd Vitaband... the are pretty good.

Linda - 1 pair of pants are jean trouser pants ralph lauren dark indigo - they were to much $$$ but they looked so good on (except for the little muffin on top but with the correct undergarment & blouse should be ok) Didn't find a blouse for the concert but got 2 tops from pennys. I have that velvet jacket in my colleage (sp) pic - I haven't tried it on together yet - and I have one of those empire blouse that might work - Still have tomorrow or next Sat to shop if need be - but gotta tell you this - While shopping today I thought about your insturctions - tried on some boots- but my calfs are too big :cry. I have some out in the garage that I haven't worn in yrs they are scrunched so they aren't the kind that zip - but high heels - will see if they will work and they don't kill my feet - I use to wear 4 & 5 inch heels - now i try and stick to 2 1/2 - 3 max... I have always been comfort before beauty - i remember my mom telling me as i got dressed for my 8th grade Xmas dance - beauty before comfort (i must have been complaining about something hurting) - that has stuck with me all my life - she's been dead for 38 yrs... I am drinking coffee now and not decaf - it was 7:30 and I was ready for bed and it's way too early - am trying to watch the debates - they are talking about medical insurance now... I am recording so I can go back and really pay attention - I gotta be prepared to vote in november and til now haven't been paying too much attention - just like christmas they have started way too early... Jeanie - 1st thing you need to do - is take the word diet it out of your vocabulary... Diets are only for a short time and what happens when you quit your diet - you go right back to your old eating habits which made you fat in the 1st place so diets don't work - We are not dieting we are eating healthy and exercising.. this is a lifetime lifestyle change in our eating habits not a diet... This is why I love WW - it is a well rounded balanced eating plan - and that's what i follow - I have meat, starch, veggies and mostly sf sweets - at the new little market around the corner they sell these little mini loafs of french bread - about 6 inchs - I buy these and slice a little slice add a little butter and am happy - I will not be deprived - I end up throwing half away - cuz it get stale - I don't have the urge to eat the whole thing like I did in the past when I want choc i have 1 or 2 sf double choc pudding or a fudgecicle. If i am extra hungry at dinner or lunch - i eat extra veggies - for lunch yesterday 3 oz salmon and 1 3/4 c squash... Throw the junk out - no more - I refuse to even have one piece of candy - I don't need it and the calories are just too much for such little amount of food - i didn't eat one candy bar in the past I would buy the giant ones (hersey w/nut) or bags and eat them til they were gone (1 day) ... I really do just stay away from sweets - and high fat foods. So you were down my way - Pandra wasn't open last time I was over that way - my gf & I went to lunch at chipolets next door - had the burrito in a bowl (no tortilla) but they give too much rice - i just at the top and threw most of it away - i was full all afternoon... Blueyedbaby For xmas we had a 20 day (out of 31) exercise challenge - we have extended it - no one is keeping track - we have just added to our signature so that we are accountable to the group (that's why i did it) So the challenge is that you exercise 20 days this month. Are you in

Coffee is ok... Per my doc - each is diff - what did your doc say... When you are out to eat - order your food and when it comes - ask for a box - and box what you aren't going to eat right then and there . I too find myself picking if there is food in front of me even when I am full..

OMG MY POST DIDN'T POST!!!! This site must be very busy cuz it sure takes a long time to load.... OK Here i go again Thanks Jackie & Kirjah - I am glad I'm not the only one who has these thoughts... K - I still smoke about 1/2 pack a day - I quit for 10 days before surgery but it was just too hard to give up food and cigs at the same time - heck you gotta have at least one vice in life and cigs are mine... J- Night eating this is my fav time to eat too - This is why I budget my calories to allow for healthy snacks at night.. My whole family are night eaters. I always say "our Mother never weaned us from the bottle" :eek: Great NSV - bought 2 size 12 pants today.... The are a little tight around the waist but the do button & zip with out having to lay on the bed. while changing clothes - i looked at my thighs in the mirror - OMG they look like they belong on an 80 yr old women - between them - my dog ear boobs and bat wings - When did I get so old.... Here is a real kicker - a new walgreens open just around the corner from my house - so when to transfer my prescription - the kid (oriental I can't tell how old he was) is looking at my insurance card and says "IS THIS PART D" OMG I am only 52 (well 53 at the end of the month) but heck I don't look 65 So between the whole saggy baggy body issues - some kid saying I'm 65 I should be depressed - but I'm not - I have 2 size 12 pairs of paints hanging in my closet... This is a tad shorter than my 1st post - but i'm tired :nervous going to go see what i can scrounge up to eat... I will ck back in a few..

Yes - white cross :eek: http://www.lapbandtalk.com/f5/ticker-tutorial-pictures-41782/

NMsunshine I our fickled bands - it's funny how one day you can eat something that you don't think will go down - and the next day you have soup and get tight.. I had pizza at work last week (it was lunch provided by the office) i had 2 bite and stuck - had to quit... but i have eaten pizza before.. OMG 16 pills thats alot - I guess i am really lucky i only have 1 :eek: Benny's that's what they were called - diet pills Well, I am off to the shower - I walked 3 miles at the gym and i sweat like a pig - my head is soaking wet - i wonder why i sweat so bad - i do anything phyical and my hair looks like I just got out of the shower.. I get hot easliy and they didn't have the fans on cuz its like 58 dgrs here..

Darling can you call your doctor??? I guess I am lucky cuz I have my doc's cell and he would meet me at the hospital if I were in your spot cuz the ER doesn't always know how to unfill you... I think you need medical attention - so yes go to the er -- have them call your doc if you can't or they don't know how to unfill. Good luck

Rainday - the only surgery I ever had was gallbadder surgery 20 days before I turned 30 - it wasnt traumatic - scary cuz it was my 1st and only surgery before my lapband Your prior surgery was diff than this one - they put you asleep prior to any cutting you aren't awake. with a ceasrean - don't they just numb you from the waist down - with this surgery they put to totally asleep Talk to your doc they should calm your fears.... My best to you on this journey.

Texas Congrats on being banded- you are doing great - I gotta say for me that the day of surgery i was in pain! - 2nd day had bad gas pain in shoulder but by the 2nd night i was good.. How cool to have doc davis (son or dad?) are they as nice as they seem on tv?? did you have to see that shrink lady that they have - I don't like her too much.. This site is my anchor - I love it - it's my transfer addiction...

Lisa You are doing all the right things and the HEAD work is the most important part imho - that's where most of our problems lies :eek: As to not feeling a whole lot diff - I think we all want that first fill so badly and that we think we are going to physically feel it I felt my first fill for about 2 - 3 weeks (9/5) but was back to doc's on 10/24 for a 2nd and than one had me at my sweet spot - but i feel it loosing up a bit - I like being able to eat about 1 1/2 cup of food per meal - imho anything less than that isn't very healthy and it also spurs more head hunger issues (OMG i only ate 1/2 cup of food - yes I feel full but - I need more you can't live on that) Even skinny people eat more than 1/4 cup of food per meal - i go back to the dr on the 23rd and think I can use a tad - but will see he wouldnt give me one when I went in Dec cuz i was loosing so well. But with the holidays I have only lost 1 lb in 2 weeks - but I guess thats a whole lot better than gaining - and i did have a few (5 Cookies & 4 tamales) and didn't get much exercise in.. We just get so impatient sometime... :biggrin1: Keep up the good work :clap2: - We are here for each other...

Nope - I am lucky the only pill I take in my antentol (sp) and it looks like a "whites" remeber those.. They were called something else back in the day - So I can take it without water it's so small - I would ck w/your doc are the non crushable ones too big to swallow - are you that tight??

Welcome Teresa... You should now get a email notification or it will show up on your usercp when someone post here Below - is shows additional options you can turn on or off the email notification - but it will still show up in your usercp. I love LBT - it is my support group - you can come here day or night and find someone who with listen - understand - help...

Michelle Just wanted to wish you a very Happy Birthday - Hope you have a Great Day- xoxo Janet

Ivansmom Have you tried drinking something warm before you eat - when the doc filled you was it a blind fill or under floru (sp)?? Have you discussed this problem with your doctor. Frosties ??? are these shakes??? Chili is a good choice but ice cream isn't. What is your daily menu - how many calories are you eating are you exercising. As you know the band purpose is to control your portion and not allow you to over eat - You control what you eat and the band helps you to feel full faster. But to be sucessful you need to make healthy food choice low fat sugar free 60 grms Protein 64 oz Water & exercise... IMHO you need to do 2 things - call your doc and explain your problem and review what you are eating - Good Luck

Karri You have me crying this morning... Good crying - I knew that you would would be able to translate what i was feeling that made more sense. The highlighted above is exactly what I have been thinking. Like I have said a million times before - no one understands a fat person like another fat person.. We all have the same feelings of insecurities. My freinds here in the desert would never think of me as being insecure but I am - I just bluff alot - that has always been my defense mechanisam... i am with you on the if i don't lose any more weight i would be happy - but I think this is what really scares me... I don't want to get comfortable where I am at.. I want to get to 160 if not 150.. You don't ramble - and I don't know why everyone (on other threads) are always say sorry for long post - Heck it takes words to explain things. You can't always put your feelings or questions in 20 words or less.. You are so right about the tool - I love the driving one mile to work - that was a great analogy.. I drive to the gym and it's maybe a little more than 1/4 of a mile.... Between you and Phyl I am feeling better.. I guess I just wanted the reassurance that I am not crazy in my thoughts and wondered if anyone else had these doubts - and I knew you my band daughter would be able to figure out what I was trying to say... You here are my only real support - most of you have dh or bf - who you can talk to about things and even though I love my singlehood it does have it's draw back - but even if i had a dh or bf they truely wouldn't understand what I am going thru - but you guys do... Hugs & Love to all of you.... Thank you for all your support... I am off to the gym.... Will ck back in when I get back...

Cavegirl You are normal - I said when I woke up from surgery it felt like an elephant had kicked me in the stomach and still had his foot on me... and i thought WTF have you done - this hurts... I am not a nice person when I am in pain... Just ask my family & the nurses....:mad: My doc required and overnight stay in the hospital - which i am very glad of - cuz i was still getting pain shots that night - It sounds like you let your pain get to advanced before you took your meds (Pills???) i had liquid vicoden which I still have cuz never needed after I got home. Take some more of your meds - Crush your pill - take it with some pudding or Jello - The first day is the hardest - you will feel a little better by tomorrow - by day 3 i was feeling pretty good - walked a little bend over when i first got up but was find. The gas pain was in my shoulder and it can hurt just as bad as the surgery - but the gas x strips helped me - other suggested heating pad. If your meds are touching your pain - the call your doctor - maybe he can call you in something stronger.. Just know that each day it does get better :confused:

Hannah You are talking to the QUEEN of hating exercise - i guess that's the reason I weighed 250 - i was a slug bug - I work all day desk job and come home and sit - between that and my eating - i packed on the pounds... But now - i come home - change and go to the gym - I usually walk 3 miles in like 50 minutes (started out 1 mile 20 minutes) 4 to 5 times a week - i just do it - do i like it not really - do I hate it - Not like I use too as the weight comes off I am liking it even more. My doc say I am losing the weight faster than most his banders - that I am up there with a bypass person - My explaination is that I am eating very healthy and exercise- Another good idea is keeping a food diary - I have a little spiral note book 3X4 that i use - it's easy to throw in your purse and carry with you.. I write down what i eat 4oz fish 175 calories 22 pt grms - and like i said I keep my calories around 1000 a day - but if you want - there are internet site - like fitday.com or dailyplate or sparkspeople (?) that you can put in your food they will give you the calorie and keep a log and they are free.. I have always found in all previous weight loss programs - I always did better when I kept a food diary.. I will be 6 months on the 17th of this month and this is the longest I have ever kept a diary and this is the most weight I have ever lost.. Good Luck - If you need help - just ask we are here for you...

Oh Phyl thank you so much for your reply - this part really had me laughing out loud as I sit here in front of the computer.... Thanks for your kind words.... I guess it's that I have never been this close to a goal weight before - I see the finish line - but am afraid i won't have enought steam to get there... In all reality I know I will but even me the great rah rah girl has a low moment too and over analizes things .... My Son just stopped by to say Hi... It was a shock... Today must be a good day... . Again - Thanks for the laugh - and I won't have the wine too many calories but I will finish my dinner.