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OK, Call me stupid,superficial hypocritical or anything else you want to call me... I'm NOT attracted to fat men. There are many women who ARE attracted to fatter men, but I'm not. I've never dated a fat man and I have no desire to do so. I'm also not fond of blondes, red heads, or facial hair.
Furthermore, I don't expect men to overlook their preferences when choosing to date me. Many men are not attracted to fat women, and I invite them to walk on by and find a woman who suits their preferences.
What you look like does not dictate what you're attracted to. I'm fat with very pale skin. I'm crazy for thin to average/athletic Arab/Mediterranean/Desi men... and trust me, there are plenty of men who fit this description who find me attractive in return. I fail to see the hypocrisy here.
We like what we like.. I simply can't FORCE myself to be attracted to a larger man. Now why these women were dating you in the first place if they weren't attracted to you, that's a different story. They should have been honest with themselves and with you and not wasted your time when there were indeed many other women who would have found you wildly attractive.
Course now it all might be a moot point since you'll be the skinny guy before you know it.

oooooh, I'm late to the party but I'm in!
I just got a new bike so I'll be logging my biking miles with an aggressive goal for me of 300 miles for the month.
I started on the 3rd so far I'm up to 34 miles so I've got some catching up to do if I'm going to make it to 300!

<--- Not this girl! Woo hoo. Woke up to a 39 BMI this morning! At my highest weight My BMI was 60 and I was considered to be SUPER morbidly obese.. seriously who comes up with these terms??? Next stop, a demure "overweight".

oooooh, I'm late to the party but I'm in!
I just got a new bike so I'll be logging my biking miles with an aggressive goal for me of 300 miles for the month.
I started on the 3rd so far I'm up to 34 miles so I've got some catching up to do if I'm going to make it to 300!

If you're talking about Quest bars.. most of them have 17-20 grams of Fiber. Most of us don't count fiber in our carb counts. Quest bars are one of the least carby bars out there.

If you're talking about Quest bars.. most of them have 17-20 grams of Fiber. Most of us don't count fiber in our carb counts. Quest bars are one of the least carby bars out there.

Almost 7 months out.
1. worst week...Breaking up with my boyfriend week. Not sleeve related. It just wasn't working. There was no sleeve related worst week for me.. The surgery itself was a cake walk.
2. I knew that the surgery wouldn't help with emotional or boredom eating..... and yes it continues to be a struggle.. MORE than I thought it might.
3. I had read soooo much pre-sleeve that I arrived with a laundry list of questions all of which were answered to my satisfaction prior to getting sleeved!

Almost 7 months out.
1. worst week...Breaking up with my boyfriend week. Not sleeve related. It just wasn't working. There was no sleeve related worst week for me.. The surgery itself was a cake walk.
2. I knew that the surgery wouldn't help with emotional or boredom eating..... and yes it continues to be a struggle.. MORE than I thought it might.
3. I had read soooo much pre-sleeve that I arrived with a laundry list of questions all of which were answered to my satisfaction prior to getting sleeved!

oooooh, I'm late to the party but I'm in!
I just got a new bike so I'll be logging my biking miles with an aggressive goal for me of 300 miles for the month.
I started on the 3rd so far I'm up to 34 miles so I've got some catching up to do if I'm going to make it to 300!

Pixie... Buy from the thrift store.. Seal the clothes in a plastic bag.. Drive straight to the laundromat, Launder the clothes and dry on high (don't worry about the jeans shrinking cuz you're getting skinny anyway!!!) put clothes into a new plastic bag.. Go home.. Enjoy your new clothes that don't have to be pulled up every five seconds!

I still have to spray trashed food with windex when I'm in a "weak moment".

Pixie... Buy from the thrift store.. Seal the clothes in a plastic bag.. Drive straight to the laundromat, Launder the clothes and dry on high (don't worry about the jeans shrinking cuz you're getting skinny anyway!!!) put clothes into a new plastic bag.. Go home.. Enjoy your new clothes that don't have to be pulled up every five seconds!

I LOVE your NSV.. I relate. I love to shop at the second hand stores and find too small clothes to shrink into. I NEVER would have dared do that in the past because deep down I knew I would fail :-(
My NSV that made me happy that USED to make me sad was walking my bike up a hill today. Last time I had a bike many years ago, I felt so defeated every time I had to walk it up a hill, but now it doesn't bother me at all, I just make a mental note of the point where I had to get off and try to get a little further next time. I'm happy even though I can't climb many hills on my bike.... that there isn't a hill out there I can't WALK up!

I LOVE your NSV.. I relate. I love to shop at the second hand stores and find too small clothes to shrink into. I NEVER would have dared do that in the past because deep down I knew I would fail :-(
My NSV that made me happy that USED to make me sad was walking my bike up a hill today. Last time I had a bike many years ago, I felt so defeated every time I had to walk it up a hill, but now it doesn't bother me at all, I just make a mental note of the point where I had to get off and try to get a little further next time. I'm happy even though I can't climb many hills on my bike.... that there isn't a hill out there I can't WALK up!

Only say you're getting your gallbladder removed if you actually ARE.. otherwise, if you ever have to get it removed for real, then that's another cover story you'll have to invent... If you really feel you need a cover story, you could say you're having a hiatal hernia repair...And it's something in the digestive system, so it would require the liquid diet and all that.
Personally, I just didn't say ANYTHING. That left my options open so that when I was ready to, I could tell people. I waited until I had lost 100 pounds and then just casually told people about it... kind of like in an "I can't believe you didn't know" kind of way.

Only say you're getting your gallbladder removed if you actually ARE.. otherwise, if you ever have to get it removed for real, then that's another cover story you'll have to invent... If you really feel you need a cover story, you could say you're having a hiatal hernia repair...And it's something in the digestive system, so it would require the liquid diet and all that.
Personally, I just didn't say ANYTHING. That left my options open so that when I was ready to, I could tell people. I waited until I had lost 100 pounds and then just casually told people about it... kind of like in an "I can't believe you didn't know" kind of way.

Only say you're getting your gallbladder removed if you actually ARE.. otherwise, if you ever have to get it removed for real, then that's another cover story you'll have to invent... If you really feel you need a cover story, you could say you're having a hiatal hernia repair...And it's something in the digestive system, so it would require the liquid diet and all that.
Personally, I just didn't say ANYTHING. That left my options open so that when I was ready to, I could tell people. I waited until I had lost 100 pounds and then just casually told people about it... kind of like in an "I can't believe you didn't know" kind of way.

I met and married my exhusband at 360 pounds. I met my most recent exboyfriend at 340 pounds and we broke up two months ago. I went back on the dating sites at 240 pounds and 41 years old. It's maybe a little different... now I get men who tell me that I'm too small to be in the BBW category. I also get messages now from men who are not necessarily "chubby chasers" I live in a small city (harrisburg, pa) and I received about 5 contacts a day.. maybe ONE of those is from someone I might be even remotely interested in. After two weeks on the site I met a great man and we've been dating exclusively for over a month.. He's 8 years younger than me, kind, funny, athletic, and extremely handsome.. oh and he's single, straight and employed. SCORE! He thinks it's great that I've had the surgery and that I'm still working toward my goal. He says that I'd be fine if I stayed as I am, but that it's good I'm working to meet my own goals.
In order to have success on a dating site, here is my strategy:
Be VERY clear about my bodytype and size without being self deprecating. Post many pics at realistic angles including a few full body shots.
Put yourself in the correct bodytype category.. If you are more than 30-40 pounds overweight you belong in the BBW category.. if you are 20-40 pounds overweight you can use the "little extra" category and if you're less than 20 pounds above ideal weight you can get away with "average" if you want OR "a little extra"
Meet lots of people! I can't even count the "coffee dates" I've been on over the years. Unless you're totally turned off or creeped out by someone, then meet up for coffee in a SAFE PLACE without giving him any of your information. If you hit it off you can have a longer date later.. or turn it into coffee plus something else. If you don't hit it off then you've only spent a half hour of your time and you can move on.. I'll tell you this new guy I'm dating had horrible pictures online.. His profile was nearly empty and he didn't have great grammar during online messaging (he's not a native english speaker) BUT I didn't have anything to do that night so I decided to meet him at the local pizza place for a quick bite (well he ate, I just had some diet tea)WOW! I'm so glad I did, We hit it off right away personality wise and we have fantastic physical chemistry.
Don't waste your time becoming attached to people you haven't met yet. Seriously, MEET as soon as you can. Otherwise you spend time building him up in your mind and he builds you up too.. It's better to just meet in person right away.
Good luck to you!

I met and married my exhusband at 360 pounds. I met my most recent exboyfriend at 340 pounds and we broke up two months ago. I went back on the dating sites at 240 pounds and 41 years old. It's maybe a little different... now I get men who tell me that I'm too small to be in the BBW category. I also get messages now from men who are not necessarily "chubby chasers" I live in a small city (harrisburg, pa) and I received about 5 contacts a day.. maybe ONE of those is from someone I might be even remotely interested in. After two weeks on the site I met a great man and we've been dating exclusively for over a month.. He's 8 years younger than me, kind, funny, athletic, and extremely handsome.. oh and he's single, straight and employed. SCORE! He thinks it's great that I've had the surgery and that I'm still working toward my goal. He says that I'd be fine if I stayed as I am, but that it's good I'm working to meet my own goals.
In order to have success on a dating site, here is my strategy:
Be VERY clear about my bodytype and size without being self deprecating. Post many pics at realistic angles including a few full body shots.
Put yourself in the correct bodytype category.. If you are more than 30-40 pounds overweight you belong in the BBW category.. if you are 20-40 pounds overweight you can use the "little extra" category and if you're less than 20 pounds above ideal weight you can get away with "average" if you want OR "a little extra"
Meet lots of people! I can't even count the "coffee dates" I've been on over the years. Unless you're totally turned off or creeped out by someone, then meet up for coffee in a SAFE PLACE without giving him any of your information. If you hit it off you can have a longer date later.. or turn it into coffee plus something else. If you don't hit it off then you've only spent a half hour of your time and you can move on.. I'll tell you this new guy I'm dating had horrible pictures online.. His profile was nearly empty and he didn't have great grammar during online messaging (he's not a native english speaker) BUT I didn't have anything to do that night so I decided to meet him at the local pizza place for a quick bite (well he ate, I just had some diet tea)WOW! I'm so glad I did, We hit it off right away personality wise and we have fantastic physical chemistry.
Don't waste your time becoming attached to people you haven't met yet. Seriously, MEET as soon as you can. Otherwise you spend time building him up in your mind and he builds you up too.. It's better to just meet in person right away.
Good luck to you!

I am almost a year post op and down 113lbs. Before surgery I was on dating sites and didn't really meet anyone. Got rejected alot. So I took myself off the sites when I got surgery last Nov. In April I decided to try again...I was upfront about my surgery in my profile, didn't want to hide it..I got replies, talked to some guys, met some weird creepy guys too. Then one day in May I got a message from a guy. He was a little bit older, like 7 years, but he seemed nice. I replied and we went back and forth for a couple of emails then he asked if we could meet for a drink. We did a week later and things clicked. I didn't analyze it I just lived in the now with him. We took things slow. Seeing each other, texting. To make a long story short we are still dating and I can honestly say that I really care for him. He knows about the surgery. He told me not to be ashamed about my excess tummy skin, he told me I was perfect. I have showed him old photos and he told me I was always beautiful. Still living in the now with him but I can see a future with him.

I am just in shock at everything you have said in both of your comments. YOU are attracted to thin people. Not everyone finds the same types of people attractive. "Good looking" does not equal "in shape" I personally prefer chubby men and women. Thin people are not attractive to me. But that does not mean that I would ever say as a matter of fact that everyone else shares this view. I'm not even sure you realize that everything you have written is insulting to almost everyone on this forum.

I've been taking the Bariatric Advantage capsules since the start and never had any issue! It's a six capsule dose but I only take four capsules since I get a lot of nutrition from my foods and they are originally for RNY patients so they're quite strong. My Vitamin levels are fantastic so my GP is fine with my dosage. They're not very large at all and easy to swallow. If taking a high concentration of vitamin makes you sick, you can divide them to smaller doses of course, which is better for absorption anyway. I bought the 540 dose bottle and it's enough to last 90 days at the six capsule dosage but for me it last just over four months at the 4 capsule dosage. The cost is just over $40.00 a bottle. Hope this helps!

<--- Not this girl! Woo hoo. Woke up to a 39 BMI this morning! At my highest weight My BMI was 60 and I was considered to be SUPER morbidly obese.. seriously who comes up with these terms??? Next stop, a demure "overweight".

OK, Call me stupid,superficial hypocritical or anything else you want to call me... I'm NOT attracted to fat men. There are many women who ARE attracted to fatter men, but I'm not. I've never dated a fat man and I have no desire to do so. I'm also not fond of blondes, red heads, or facial hair.
Furthermore, I don't expect men to overlook their preferences when choosing to date me. Many men are not attracted to fat women, and I invite them to walk on by and find a woman who suits their preferences.
What you look like does not dictate what you're attracted to. I'm fat with very pale skin. I'm crazy for thin to average/athletic Arab/Mediterranean/Desi men... and trust me, there are plenty of men who fit this description who find me attractive in return. I fail to see the hypocrisy here.
We like what we like.. I simply can't FORCE myself to be attracted to a larger man. Now why these women were dating you in the first place if they weren't attracted to you, that's a different story. They should have been honest with themselves and with you and not wasted your time when there were indeed many other women who would have found you wildly attractive.
Course now it all might be a moot point since you'll be the skinny guy before you know it.

My doctor told me as soon as I wanted it.. but that I should bear in mind that I shouldn't lift anything heavier than 15 pounds... I spent far too long speculating exactly WHAT type of sex he though I'd be having where I was lifting more than 15 pounds.... Anyway I resumed my activity after 2 weeks.. but that was just because I didn't return home to my bf until two weeks after surgery because I was staying with my sister.... If he had been around.. I would have felt great to resume relations after three or four days.