TwinsMama

Absolutely normal to feel this way. Thus the many spouses who don't want their husbands/wives to have this surgery. It is especially hard if you've never been thin before. Be honest but not cruel. What you don't say...now that I've got my sexy back, I want options including those that may look better than you. What you do say...you are not ready to be in a committed relationship (if that's the truth) but that you wouldn't mind still seeing her (also if the truth). Do not, continue to be the same, saying you want something different. This is only going to confuse her and cause drama down the line. Give her the opportunity to make a choice to be with or without you. She may be fending off offers too. Now I do have to say, give real thought to what Cami said above. If she was willing and even found you attractive before the weight loss, you know she is really into you. I've seen this happen with myself and a few friends, we lost the weight everyone wanted us, then over time, we realized it was mostly about how we looked and not who we were. Waste of time and relationships. Take your time and enjoy your new life. Be honest and things will work themselves out one way or another.

Congrats!

Last night I went for my Surgeon Seminar. There the surgeon discussed all things WLS. He also, made a few points that I think I knew deep down (I'll get to that in a bit). However, what had me really worried and upset was the wait times. He mentioned he is one of only 2 Kaiser surgeons in my area. Yes the DC Metro Area. So that means, a really long wait. In fact, one guy there last night mentioned he was not only approved, but also met with the surgeon 3 months ago and was still waiting on his date. What..A...Bummer! 6 months pre-qualification only to find out you have to wait 6 more months!?!? This guy (on tap for a Feb surgery) will have waited a full year from his initial meeting. That is horrible. I realize you don't want your surgeon to rush, but I mean 1 year. That is a long time especially given that 6 months of that was AFTER you qualified. So after getting over that. I was happy that my husband seemed a lot more at ease and learned a lot about the WLS. Much of the pre and post-op diet "stuff" I knew from stalking reading this site. But I was glad he had a chance to hear the risks and other information so he wouldn't be worried about me. Now, the interesting part...the surgeon totally disagreed with the diet the Nuts have been promoting for post-op. He mentioned that there was absolutely no way anyone would lose weight following their diet. He said in fact it would lead to gains. The reason he didn't agree is that he said the amount of carbs (via fruits and veggies) the Nuts want us to eat, would be too high. (I totally knew this but thought I must be wrong). He said, he wants us to stick to 30g of carbs a day (if possible for life). He mentioned that 1 small banana would overshoot the 30g alone. So he said, throw out the idea that we need these pretty meals that have...a protein, veggie, fruit, grain, etc. and especially the idea of 6 meals. Sure a snack perhaps but 6 small meals...no way. I'm so glad he mentioned that because I know for a fact, even though I love berries, I have to eat them sparingly if I am going to lose weight. He also mentioned what we all know already about walking and other exercise daily. But...and this is a big BUT... I had NO clue that I'd have to give myself shots twice a day for 2 weeks post-op. This is to prevent blood clots which is certainly important. BUT I am the biggest punk when it comes to needles and didn't even have to do this after my very painful c-section. I mean I'm a cry, roll around on the ground, really low threshold type of punk person. This surprised me. I thought I'd take something orally. His response, no, the shots or no surgery. I didn't expect to have to inject myself twice a day. So, all in all I guess it is a good thing that I have a few months longer before surgery. I'll use that to build up enough courage to do those darn shots.

Congrats ladies!

Congrats on the scale moving!

This is so true. When I moved I missed my former workout buddies and eventually fell off.

I am so a dog person too. I grew up with labs and a retriever so I know how playful and loving labs are. I had a roommate that had (over the course of my living there) 3 cats. One was named Bandit. He sounds like your cat Hunter, he loved nothing more than to scratch people. Though he never got me...thank God! Bandit (not sure if Hunter is this way) didn't want to be held. He was more independent. The only time he ever tried to cuddle was the day I moved out. I guess he knew we wouldn't see each other again for a while.

Good idea to eat a meal at lunch and shake for dinner. There are about 34 carbs in the shake. That could be high. I normally do peaches (keep me full longer than strawberries my fave). I'll play around with not adding the fruit and see what happens. My Nut told me to eat at least 3 servings of fruit a day so I've been trying to add them to something so I don't get bored.

I'm sure you're glad to be back home. Hope things work out so you're better soon.

My prayers are with you, hoping everything turns out okay.

Congrats...you are doing great!

I literally almost spit out my Water when I read this...love it! For me: yup, the skinny sex would be nice paying less for clothes being able to fit more clothes in a suitcase when I travel my flexibility back - I was more flexible at a smaller size (see #1) more energy people not recognizing me (I'm really social so it would be fun to spark up a conversation with friends I haven't seen in a while and them not realize its me at first)

Congrats!

Congrats ladies!!!

Congrats! Ummmm, does she know it is WLS? She does understand you won't be able to eat those meals right? In a way that's kind of funny. Let her plan to her hearts content...just lest everyone else know you'd prefer privacy and not meals at this time.

Good for you for going. Maybe the next time will be better. Congrats on over 40 lbs down! You're doing great!

I've noticed something and I can't quite figure it out. Every AM (usually around 7) for breakfast I have a protein shake (Syntrax Nectar) in which I add - Greek yogurt, 1 c. almond milk, 1 Del-Monte fruit cup. I blend and then sip (yes still this is a challenge). This keeps me full all AM (even through my commute where I walk and stand a lot). Usually by the time I feel hungry it is between 12:15 - 12:30 PM. However, I've tried having the same thing for lunch and it is a no go. If I have the shake for lunch (12:30 PM) I am literally starving by 3 PM. I'm not sure why this doesn't keep me full in the afternoon. I'd like to get to the point where I can do 2 shakes and a small dinner. I like the feeling after the shake (feel satisfied but not weighed down) but it is such a no go twice in one day. Anyone experience this? Any suggestions? I'm not trying to do this every day, but on my busy days I just don't always have time for a full sit down lunch.

Good idea. High protein foods are a good option. I haven't had jerky in forever. I'm going to check that out.

Great idea, didn't think about that!

Congrats on the weight loss!

I think it depends. Normally when I eat well I lose fast (more you weigh the faster it comes off I've heard). However in my 4 months pre-surgery I've only lost 6 lbs. Slowest ever for me. So yes, you are doing fantastic!

I haven't had surgery but I've found that if I deny myself I always do bad long term. Maybe instead of NO sweets you do a sensible/small desert once every two weeks. Then phase to once every month, then eventually only at certain events.

Congrats to both of you!

Hope you feel better soon.

Best wishes for a successful surgery!