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I really wish I could work with people who have been abused and are overweight or obese, and help them get their power and self esteem back.

You are with an abusive person. You don't deserve this. No human being should be treated this way.
If you don't get things for him he will have to get them himself. You aren't his servant.
I hope you are talking to your counselor about the abuse you are enduring.
I was in an abusive marriage too. He is a heartless soulless person and I can't tell you how much better my life is without him.

I've been thinking about writing a book after I hit goal. I was raised in an abusive family and had an abusive marriage unfortunately. I just don't know if a book is enough! I don't know if I'm willing to put myself out there, you know?

I really wish I could work with people who have been abused and are overweight or obese, and help them get their power and self esteem back.

I've been thinking about writing a book after I hit goal. I was raised in an abusive family and had an abusive marriage unfortunately. I just don't know if a book is enough! I don't know if I'm willing to put myself out there, you know?

I really wish I could work with people who have been abused and are overweight or obese, and help them get their power and self esteem back.

I really wish I could work with people who have been abused and are overweight or obese, and help them get their power and self esteem back.

I really wish I could work with people who have been abused and are overweight or obese, and help them get their power and self esteem back.

I really wish I could work with people who have been abused and are overweight or obese, and help them get their power and self esteem back.

I'll be there!

This isn't really a rant, but does anyone else watch the WLS videos of people on you tube?
Some are so inspirational and some I just want to cheer for the person.
But I have noticed that a lot of the people talk the same. They don't start out that way, but by the time they get to losing a good bit of weight, it's like they all watch each others videos and end up imitating each other.
It's kind of funny!

I think we all know people, even ourselves, who ate right and exercised and could never keep the weight off.
I don't think that obese people should be discriminated against. I think that everyone should be treated the same.
But to say that its wrong for people to try to lose weight is just crazy. I was surfing through a lot of fat acceptance and HAES blogs, and there's a lot of crazy there. There's also a lot of people who are just tired of fighting and tired of not losing and have given up.
Hey surgery isn't for everyone. We all have choices to make. If someone prefers to stay obese and just accept it rather than have surgery who am I to judge?
It's the black and white thinkers who I think are stuck in Cray Cray.

I always said I would have photos of me and my daughter together, because I have very few of my own mother. My mom HATED her picture taken. She would very rarely be in them, and mostly only candid shots taken before she could object. When she died I scrambled to find all the pictures I could of her, and there wasn't many. Therefore I always said I would do better by my own daughter, because once we are gone that is one of the only thing left for our survivors. I know I don't care how my mom looked in pictures, all I see is the mom I love and miss. Yet I have found that I too have problems being in the picture. I am hyper critical of my appearance, especially being morbidly obese. In the past five years we have had our pictures taken together twice. Well this weekend we had another round of pictures done. So far I have only received one sneak peek, but I am super thrilled with it. I am only half way to goal right now, but the pictures show such a difference. I love this shot and can only hope the rest are as good! Thought I would share...

That's amazing! If you don't mind me asking what was your surgery weight?
Good work! You have really worked hard.

Part of the issue is they only hire people who have lost weight and maintained on weight watchers which usually means leaders that have only lost about 20-30lbs. It makes sense of course business wise.
Also the system is constantly changing. The support part does help but when it comes down to it is still is about will power and the spend your points on what you like mentality doesn't really encourage balanced eating

Before and After - surgery 3/18. Had my 3 month with my pc today. All Vitamins levels are excellent, blood pressure was 120/70 and my A1C is 5.6. I'm down 50 lbs and loving life. By far the best thing I've ever done for myself in a long time.

Today I am down 100lbs with my pre op and post op loss so here is a pic!
Pre op

Post op

Here's some updated pics. Before was Christmas Eve 2013 at the hospital when my nephew decided to make his early debut and after were yesterday at a Braves game.

I'm sorry. They always find a way to lie without regret to get people on their side.

Even though my surgery was only 3 months ago. I feel like my journey really started 5 years ago. I was struggling with an anxiety, depression, and most of all ADD but I'd always been too scared to ask for help. 5 years ago I finally did. I got put on medicine to cope with my ADD and that helped relieve the anxiety too. It also helped me start loosing weight. I lost 20ish lbs from the medicine in the first year and eventually started trying to diet and exercise. I don't know what my weight was at that first doctors appointment. I could never face it, but at 22, I was already having health issues and was put on BP meds. I do know, several years later after I had been dieting, I hit 299 on the scale at my doctors office and she was impressed because she said "you've lost almost 40lbs." I was horrified and happy. I thought I'd lost 20lbs from the medicine, gained some back, and then lost 20lbs from dieting. I'm glad I never had to confront that number while I was at that weight.
So, I honestly don't know exactly what my high weight was, but I know it was near 340. I have it listed as 320 on here because that's what it was when I finally started trying to get in shape. This is something to this day I haven't told anyone. Not even my BFF who had surgery knows what it was. But I'm telling you guys now because today when I woke up the scale said 237, which means I've officially lost about 100lbs! I'm embarrassed and elated. It's a weird goal to have. So in other threads and with other people I'll probably still note my weight loss from my presurgery/preop diet weight but I wanted to take a minute to mark this bittersweet milestone.
For those of you just starting your journey, I hope you know it's hard as hell but it will be so worth it if it takes 5 months or 5 years.

I do not think it is jealousy. This person has built up a world view where being fat is alright and perfectly healthy. I agree it is alright, However, it is not healthy. She is seeing your choice to improve your health and quality of life as a criticism of her choice to remain fat. It threatens her. It challenges her happy bubble.
It looks like there is nothing you can do but remain fat with her or move on.

I hope you find the good doctor you deserve......that connection is so important. You may have been spoiled by the previous relationship but you can at least get some one better than this one who may not be empathetic enough or may have issues with WLS as a solution. Any medical professional who doesn't get how amazing this is, how you have recovered your potential for a really healthy happy life, is not worth your co-pay.

That is my ex to a T. Luckily she can just drop her as a friend and she doesn't have to ever see her again. It's incredibly difficult when you have to share your child with such a person.

You have NO idea. You are very lucky. I don't regret my daughter but I regret having a child with him.
I think some of the same traits that make us targets for sociopaths are the same traits that lead to us becoming fat.

Can we name celebrities who suddenly lost weight after being overweight for decades and claim it was due to magic supplements? Hello Kirstie Alley....