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Saul, before this thread gets too old, It's bugged me-to-death that I needed to acknowledge your post and Thank you for sharing your story with me and everyone else. It takes a strong person (but most esp. a man!) to admit they have a problem -and- and even stronger one to seek help. You are an extraordinary MAN for doing this. My husband isnt as willing.. Diane & Bettina, Thanks for the diet suggestion. Unfortunately the foods you suggested that he omit from his diet are the only ones he eats! *BiG sigh* Very likely the reason he has problems - but a diet change is something HE will have to decide on. Ive tried in the past and he actually chose to starve then eat other things! Pat, effexor? Im going google it to see what this is. He's tried other things in the past, but Paxil has seemed to help the most - until now. And I cracked up about your idea of me ~ Boy, do I have you fooled :biggrin1: Leatha, as always - you are awesome! Im going to books a Million today and search for the book you recommened. But.. should I be the one to read it? Or Asshole Mike? oh - think Alanon has a babysitting service for those that attend? dotofoz, I like that idea - A mood disorder clinic? I wonder if its on the same line as the 12 step programs? anyone else heard of this? Kathy,...helped me to realize how controlling I was being under the guise of Love. I'd have never thought I was being so manipulative, Ive been pondering this line since yesterday. making me think..

ooohhhhhhh - so this is an old injury, 3 years ago? I just responded to your other thread. Gosh, these pics make my stomach hurt. glad you are recovered!

Donna, My husband doesnt say anything about color or decorating. My taste is more neutral/warm tones - definately generic when it comes to gender. So.. since Im not one for the "girly-girl" kinda decoratoring (for example: pink/lavander/white lacey-frilly-flower stuff all over) I guess he feels safe?

Sherry, Im like the others - I have NO idea what caused this. Those legs look horrible ~ are you in much pain? Please be careful! ((hugs))

((((RYAN)))) you are having an enormous amount of prayers lifted in your name... God bless. Greg - please keep us updated on his recovery, thanks ole' Friend!

are you sure its not a stomach bug causing the nausea this time? Hey, I know its kinda early, but can I sign up for your book An Opaque Crystal ? :biggrin1: :biggrin1:

Youve done an amazing job - big Congrat's!

Michelle, the paxil helped relax him - at first. When he first started it he wasnt as sensitive or quick to anger - it calmed him down, just took the edge off. Happy days were here cause I would hear him laughing - I thought the paxil was a miracle drug for him. His headaches were better and he slept much better. But if he missed his dosage (10mg at the time) even HE noticed his anger. As time went on the headaches came back, trouble sleeping started again along with the anger issues. So his internist increased his dosage to 20mg - this was around March? Again - he started sleeping better, less headaches, but not like the major change from when he first started taking it. And yes - he has a serious mood disorder. Always has - even his mom told me that.

Hey Guys, y'all gave SO many great responses and recommendations - I thank you for each one. Without giving too many more details, Im going to send pm's to those that I need additional info from. ((hugs)) back to all of you... You are all true friends!

As always - LBT to the rescue. You guys are awesome! Im going look up the CODA site you mentioned Barb. - Thanks! Jane, is you're hubby's name Mike? LOL - I -honestly- believe that this behavoir isnt their fault. Something in their chemical structure is'nt right! Pray for me - and I'll pray for you, k? And with sharing knowledge we're gonna get these men on the right track! Donna, *big sigh* just know that when I come to LBT and post something like this its cause Im in desperate need of advice. Im to the point that I literally HATE going anywhere with him - he is too embarrassing to be around (being loud, impatient, fussing at me & the kids). Sat night we went with friends to a resturant - Mike had SO many flare-ups that my girlfriend kept looking at me with concern and finally asked, "Is he still taking his paxil?". These are our best friends - so there was no offesnse taken. But his behavoir is SO obvious to everyone around. I need help - HE needs help. So like I said, LBT to the rescue! ((hugs)) sister - we're all on this merry-go-round called LIFE - together! Thanks again everyone. Im going check my pm's now.

My husband has a problem with anger. He's very pessimistic, seems to always be SO unhappy, never smiles and seldom laughs, gripes/hollers at the kids for the smallest things, keyed up all the time, plus the tension is causing him trouble sleeping, headaches AND HBP. If only he could relax, mellow out, loosen up. Beer helps, he becomes jolly and light, but then he dives down and becomes a bear! He's had these issues for ever, but a couple of years ago he became much worst and his doctor put him on paxil (after several attemps of other meds). It helped... for awhile it was better, but slowly faded in effectivness. Back to the doctor and an increase in paxil. The med increase doesnt seem to be helping much. He's even tried the herbals - St johns wort, hops, flax seed oil, cal-mag..... the list goes on. Some things help for a while - some do nothing. Im coming here for advice on what/how to encourage him to handle this. He has problems but is scared to be labeled a freak. And everytime he/we've been to a professional counselor we usually walk away knowing more then they do and have tried eveything suggested. So - What is Anger Management classes? Anyone have any experiences with this? And is there anything else that I could recommend to him that would help? I am very humbled to submit thread this for the world to read - Im usually way more private then this. But maybe there is someone out there with the right suggestion... please give me some feedback - even if you pm me. Thanks y'all.

I had to laugh. If ANYONE knows how you feel - its me! In 2003 we bought another home. I 'special ordered' (cant return special orders) a sofa with matching chair and ottoman. Waited and waited for it to come in... When they delivered it my mouth dropped open. The sofa was enormous! Didnt even fit in the space I had been planning for it to live in. So I can totally relate! Your new furniture IS beautiful, but I agree with everyone else. What I first noticed in your pix were the white walls and very dark wood. Bringing the tone of the walls down a little will soften the room. And YES! Change the furniture around (had to do this with my sofa). You may need to grab all the extra men in the neighborhood to do this - cause that wood aint light! Thanks for sharing.

Hi Schel, Sorry to hear you are feeling yucky. Ive had a stomach bug a couple of times during my banded career. Like you, I had diarrhea - no vomiting (extreme nausea though). The only thing I could tolerate was warm/hot chicken broth * sip sip away * and pop sickles. ...Oh, and lots of rest and sleep. Hope you feel better soon.

A BIG Amen to this. Cant wait to see you on the before and after thread - you are going to be an awesome success story! Here's to a happy and healthy healing!

walked! Its the best exercise until your surgeon clears you.

Hey Trash mouth! What's up with this... 179.0current? oh geez. You gonna start this crap up again and make me break out the diet pills. :biggrin1: You CANT weigh less then me. Im really happy for you... I think. :nervous

Guess what??? (Im about to pee my pants - cant wait to tell all of you about this) I started my Christmas shopping today. :clap2: no lie! Our Target store had a load of toys 75% off. The My Bling Bling barbie doll was $3.74..... how could I pass this up? So I bought 4. (I bought other things too, but this was the most exciting one) Christmas is ONLY 150 days :biggrin1: Merry Christmas to all my Freak-a-zoid friends!

Im glad I did something when I did. When I had my surgery the thought of having an RnY scared me. So even though I dont regret getting the band, I WILL convert to something else if anything goes awry. If anything, the band made me less fearful of having something more aggressive done later.

Donna, My MIL had 3 boys - all 3 enlisted in the Army before they graduated high school (gee, this may say something bad about their homelife :phanvan although it really was a good one). I totally support our military AND what it teaches our young people. Self discipline, respect for authority, responsibility, independance, order - and - Pride in being an American! Im proud of you Momma. Youve raised a good boy - one that makes wise decisions!

Youre awesome girl ~ Wish I had what you've got! Tell us... hows your tummy feeling? any discomfort or weird feelings since being de-banded?

Donna - that was an awesome montage! I cant imagine the pride, fear, worry, hope - that a mother goes through during this transition. God bless him. ...and yes, my eyes were full of tears.

:wave: Hi Michelle, Always good to see you. I sure miss your wise words around here. Hows unbanded life going? Dylansmom just lurks these days - no posting. Big fiasco happened a few months ago regarding deleted threads and she decided to stop posting for a while. I havent seen DeLarla around in a while either. What about Penni? She's gone too. :confused: I have Penni's private email addy that I can pm you. Im sure she can locate our DeLarla for us. Missing Members, where are you?? ((Anyone else missing??)) Dylansmom (Kelly) Jonathon Whippledaddy JanetC StraWartS DeLarla Penni

I laughed out loud at this post!!!!! NEVER thought about getting the names of MY 3. I may be too scared to know their names :biggrin1:

Cindy - you are just as special to us! ((hugs)) You said some very thought provoking things, like... "turning down a browie today cause there'll be another later." Have you lost your mind?? I want a bownie NOW and LATER! hehe Youve done an awesome job! Happy Band-anniversay!

Happy Birthday you two Skinny Mini's!!! Hope you are having a fantastic day!