Kitt3000

For a few of us, our moms were children of the Great Depression, food= love.
Cut her some slack, take a silicon ice cube tray to dinner with you, or a muffin pan. Tell her it's the best Soup ever and you would love to have some to eat as your new tummy will allow. I bet she will be happy to help you freeze up individual meals you can thaw out/ microwave on those late nights home from work.

Wow,moms are demanding, critical, and never think their job of raising you is over. but the one thing I can promise you, she loves you more than anyone else will ever love you in this world.

You look marvelous !!

Once I slowed down, I noticed how fast my spouse ate. I think part of my speed eating prior to banding, was to finish as quickly as he did. Since being banded, I actually bought a minute timer hour glass to keep turning over between bites. It's been fun and funny. We joke and laugh about it- but he is eating less now that his brain is making the time connection!

You look marvelous !!

Completely normal. In fact some on this board would say aggressive. No one knows how YOU will react - or not , to the fill, so they do what is average and customize you along the way. It gives you a chance to change your habits and behaviors along the way, it is after all, an adjustable band. Be patient, we. All have been there done that, and.. The weight will come off. This is a lifestyle change.. Not an instant fix. Your gonna do fine.... Trust it.

@@Kitt3000, I lost my mom in 1986 and as I was reading this thread, I started wondering just how she would react to my having WLS.You hit it on the head with the "food=love". It very much did with my mom. Four months before she died, when I was about three months pregnant, the doctor told me that if I didn't gain weight in next two weeks, I'd be hospitalized until I did (I had severe morning sickness). My mom and dad showed up the next day with an ice chest full of my favorite foods including seven T-Bone steaks (there was supposed to be eight steaks but their elderly dog helped herself to one)
I don't know how she'd react to the surgery ,but I do know that she would have filled my freezer with tiny meals!

I have an idea about "food with mom" this works for pea Soup or anything else
When visiting mom bring a 1/2 cup measuring cup and explain to her, after having weight loss surgery, your doctor said, it is very important to eat in portions that size every time you eat because everything is healing inside of you (not busting your stitches). Later you will be able to eat more (later, hopefully will never come)
The visual removes the:
1. "Have a bit more soup" suggestion that we all know is coming or "is that all you are going to eat?" to follow. She doesn't have to know that's all you eat 3 times per day. It is open ended in the sense there is the potential that you will have several more meals that size through out the day. We know you don't.
2. Tell mom her soup is delish and you would love to take some home to freeze for later. Tell her how her soup is the best thing ever and you are the luckiest person alive to have a mom who makes the best soup.
Good luck

This thread is making me feel better about how I feel about my mother -- she makes me crazy sometimes. And the aging is so narrowing, so for some one who wasn't a very expansive thinker in the first place and who was already self-absorbed -- boy oh boy. I love her but don't like her very much most of the time -- then she surprises me and I have those glimpses of another part of her that she seems to have lost along the way. It's fear-based living and I'm hoping that I will not be like that as I age. I want to be free from those worries that consume a person and make them petty and self-involved. Choosing WLS has helped free me from feelings of hopelessness and low self-esteem that would probably have contributed to that. Here's to healthy bodies that can help us think in healthy ways, too -- here's to expansive thinking and being inclusive, being open to life. I have a feeling that gratitude is a catalyst for the kind of grace and dignity that will bring peace in the elder years.

I know it's this ever smaller circle of interest and inward looking that gets to me in watching my parents age. It's so hard to watch

We are all doing this for better health and hopefully better quality of life and with that we can give better care to our aging parents my mother passed away from complications of diabetes brought on by eating too much bad food when she was only 10 years older than I am now I don't want to end up that way I know none of us do the last few years were horrible and didn't have to happen as they get older they can drive us nuts it's true I try to remember that I don't need or require anyone's approval or permission to improve my quality of life and just tune out the negative comments and arguments and just keep moving forward

You look marvelous !!

Hi Wendy,
I just wanted to let you know, you are not alone.
I have been my biggest obstacle . What I mean is, I was so mentally programmed into eating the old way, that I really fought with the band. I was so stuck mentally into telling it what I thought I needed, instead of listening. I've caused myself much mental angst, that alone could have been part of the band feeling tight. Most of my over eating pre band was due to trying to stuff my feelings, feeling anxious? Eat, sad? Eat, angry?, eat, happy? Eat, bored? Eat.
My mental habits didn't change. I've recently had an aha! Moment, but, it's taken 1 yr and 6 mo, to realize one simple thing. Listen to the band tell me what it wants and needs. Not my head.
I hope you find not only your green zone, but your own aha moment as well.
Hugs!

For a few of us, our moms were children of the Great Depression, food= love.
Cut her some slack, take a silicon ice cube tray to dinner with you, or a muffin pan. Tell her it's the best Soup ever and you would love to have some to eat as your new tummy will allow. I bet she will be happy to help you freeze up individual meals you can thaw out/ microwave on those late nights home from work.

Wow,moms are demanding, critical, and never think their job of raising you is over. but the one thing I can promise you, she loves you more than anyone else will ever love you in this world.

For a few of us, our moms were children of the Great Depression, food= love.
Cut her some slack, take a silicon ice cube tray to dinner with you, or a muffin pan. Tell her it's the best Soup ever and you would love to have some to eat as your new tummy will allow. I bet she will be happy to help you freeze up individual meals you can thaw out/ microwave on those late nights home from work.

Wow,moms are demanding, critical, and never think their job of raising you is over. but the one thing I can promise you, she loves you more than anyone else will ever love you in this world.

@@JustWatchMe thank you so much for your heartfelt reassurance, i cant tell you how much that means to me. And I am so sorry to hear about the traumatic experience your mother had, which obviously had its impact on you too. You are absolutely right, we have all survived things and its wonderful to draw strength and learn from each others experiences. Thanks again :-)

@@F_it don't apologize. I learn about a lot of things from fellow BPal members and I appreciate the info. My mother almost died in 1990 from oral Voltaren that she took for arthritis. It burned an ulcer in her stomach. She dropped on the bathroom floor and was rushed to the ER. They tried and failed to cauterize it laproscopically. She had emergency open surgery. She can't take another nsaid for the rest of her life. She had no symptoms except for fatigue the day she fell. So I for one appreciate first hand information.

My mom is still alive but has dementia really bad. So if I were to tell her my surgery she wouldn't remember sure wish I had my mom back.

@@shmily, @@Babbs, i'm very sorry for your losses. i lost my dad and i miss him every day. i'm totally not wishing my mom gone, i'm crazy about her and mostly we have a great relationship. however, i did need to rant and rave, and now i have, and now i move on.

I lost my mom in 2011. Take it in stride. Believe it or not, you will miss her when she's gone, and laugh about the drama. I know I do.

My mom has been gone since 2006.....I wish she was here to worry

I'd guess being tense and edgy would be normal for anyone who is going to have major surgery. Just tell your mom that you are under a lot of stress, and for her not take it personally.

Since you first started looking into weight loss surgery, you’ve probably been hearing a lot about the importance of Protein. You need at least 60 to 80 grams a day for the following reasons:
It’s a filling nutrient that helps you lose weight by decreasing hunger. It’s an essential nutrient for healthy skin, hair, nails, hormones, and enzymes. It helps stop you from losing too much muscle while you lose body fat.

Almost everyone needs protein supplements right after weight loss surgery. Protein Shakes and powders give you the protein you need when you’re not allowed to eat solid foods. But which types should you choose? And should you keep using them when you’re eating solid foods and surgery is long behind you?
Protein for the liquid Phase of the Post Weight Loss Surgery Diet Progression
After a day or two of sticking to Clear Liquids, you progress to a full liquid diet. You can be on this diet for a few days, if you’re a lap-band patient, or a couple of weeks, if you have the gastric sleeve or gastric bypass. Protein sources include the following. Non-fat milk, with 90 calories and 8 grams of protein per 8 ounces. Non-fat milk powder, with 100 calories and 10 grams of protein per ounce. Low-sugar Protein Powder, with 110 calories and 25 grams of protein per ounce. Low-sugar protein shakes, with 100 or more calories and 15 or more grams of protein per 8 ounces. Without supplementing your diet with protein shakes and powders, you’re not going to be able to hit your 60 to 80 grams of protein.
Protein Powders and Shakes in the pureed Foods Phase
This phase is really a transition phase. You’re adding foods back into your diet, but aren’t yet ready to eat chewy, sticky, crunchy, or other solid foods. Protein foods include the following.
Non-fat cottage cheese, with 12 grams of protein per half-cup. Non-fat ricotta cheese, with 5 grams of protein per half-cup. Egg whites, with 4 grams of protein per extra-large white. Non-fat Greek or regular yogurt, with 8 to 14 grams of protein per container. During this phase, your surgeon will probably have you start to decrease your use of protein shakes and powders, but will probably recommend keeping them in your diet to help you get to 60 to 80 grams of protein per day. You might need one or two shakes a day, plus powder in foods such as oatmeal, yogurt, or pureed potatoes.
Be Wary of Protein Supplements in the Long-Term
Protein shakes and powders can be convenient, but they’re not your best bet for long-term weight loss. As you progress from pureed foods to semi-solid and then solid foods, your surgeon will probably recommend that you stop drinking shakes and focus instead on solid sources of protein.
They’re more substantial and satisfying than liquid shakes. They take longer to eat than drinking shakes. They’re easier to fit into a real-life eating plan. You won’t be “drinking your calories.” They have more natural nutrients than processed shakes and powders. Most weight loss surgery patients can get enough protein just by choosing one or two high-protein foods for each meal. You’ll get 60 to 80 grams with the following foods.
Breakfast: 2 scrambled egg whites with ½ light English muffin and some fruit. Lunch: ½ cup fat-free cottage cheese and a green salad with 3 ounces of canned light tuna. Dinner: 3 ounces of chicken breast and steamed spinach. snack 1: 1 low-fat cheese stick. Snack 2: 1 6-ounce container of plain low-fat yogurt and ½ cup carrot sticks. When Protein Supplements Are Okay
Still, some weight loss surgery patients may still need protein shakes and powders in the long term. That’s often the case for vertical sleeve patients if your sleeve fills up too quickly to allow you to eat enough solid protein throughout the day. Talk to your surgeon to find out whether you should still use shakes and powders. Your surgeon might suggest that you include one or two protein shakes a day as Snacks or mix protein powder into your yogurt, cereal or other foods.
Protein supplements can still come in handy even if you’re able to meet your protein requirements on your daily weight loss surgery diet. If your routine gets interrupted, you might come up short. Consider the protein you can miss if you need to change your regular plans for a meal or snack.
10 grams of protein if you run out the door without grabbing your yogurt in the morning. 22 grams of protein if you forget to pack your tuna for lunch. 26 grams of protein if you’re stuck in a meeting instead of cooking your chicken dinner at home. When you’re stuck in the car or too busy to plan ahead, protein shakes can be lifesavers. On vacation, you can take protein powder with you so you’re always sure to have a source when you need it. You could also try Unjury Protein’d Cheese Sauce on steamed vegetables for an extra 21 grams of protein.
Read the Nutrition Facts Panel to Find Protein Content
The food and Drug Administration lets food manufacturers call a food “a good source of” protein if it has at least 5 grams of protein. If a serving has at least 10 grams of protein, a food can be labeled “high,” “rich in,” or “an excellent source of” protein. That doesn’t do you much good if you’re trying to find a shake or powder with at least 15 to 20 grams of protein per serving.
Don’t rely on a claim on the front of the label when you’re looking for a protein supplement. You could end up with a “high-protein” shake with only 10 grams of protein! Instead, check the nutrition facts panel to see how many grams of protein the food or shake has per serving.
Check the Label for Calories and Sugar
Protein shakes and powders can be high in calories and sugar. A bottle of Special K Protein has only 10 grams of protein, but 190 calories and 18 grams of sugar. A Pure Protein Frosty chocolate Shake has 15 grams of protein, but 190 calories and 25 grams of sugar. A can of Boost High Protein Drink has 15 grams of protein, 240 calories and 27 grams of sugars.
No matter which stage of your weight loss surgery diet you’re on, you can’t afford to eat too many calories or too much sugar. The only way to protect yourself is to read the labels.
Protein supplements can be great choices for boosting your intake to 60 to 80 grams a day. Shakes and powders can get you through the liquid and pureed foods stages of the post-surgery diet progression, and they can have a place in your diet even when you reach your long-term weight loss surgery diet plan. Just make sure not to overuse them if your surgeon is concerned, and to choose low-sugar options.